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Title: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: peteinportland on May 13, 2006, 06:19:11 AM
This is the thread for new members to introduce themselves.

Welcome to our wonderful community! We are glad you found us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: nova on May 14, 2006, 04:36:50 PM
Greetings!

Wow!† Am I the first new member to post to this thread?† I hardly feel like a new member, as Iíve been visiting this website for months.† Iíve gone to some of those ďotherĒ sites where trolls have been spewing their hate, but still it was hard to break the habit.† I donít know why I didnít register here sooner.† Perhaps I didnít feel I had the time to dedicate to this forum as many of you have.

Hereís a little of my BBM history.† I first saw BBM in DC on Dec. 9.† My second time was 2 days later, and as I walked down the street after the seeing the film, I suddenly broke down into tears, and felt like punching a wall the way Ennis did after leaving Jack after that first summer up on Brokeback Mountain.† I wasnít sure why I felt that way, but I knew there was something special about this film.† I saw it 5 more times in the theater over the next few months, and then on March 5, the day of the Academy Awards, I was devastated.† For the next few days, I couldnít believe the way I was affected by this.† Then I saw the way the Ultimate Brokeback Forum was responding to the ďOscar snubĒ, and I was given hope.† I contacted Daily Variety about getting a copy of the March 10 edition, but didnít know what to expect.† I requested 2 copies, but didnít hear anything, so I thought that was the end of that.† About 5-6 weeks later, I received one copy with no explanation, but I was glad that they responded.† Iíve since recovered from the Academy Awards, but I suspect that MY own personal† Oscar snub will live on.

Iíve come to realize that Iíve had my own Brokeback Mountain experience in my own life.† Although it was over 25 years ago when I was in college, it is nonetheless relevant.† Iíd like to share it with the members of this forum as soon as I can put it down into words.† I feel comfortable here, and I know it will be well-received.

To all members of the Ultimate Brokeback ForumÖÖI have been consistently impressed by the honesty, hope, and dedication of the participants in this forum, particularly by those who have found the time to actively support its causes.† Know that youíre all a credit to humanity.† I hope my compliments donít seem overboard, but I truly believe that the results of your efforts could be more than you might ever imagine.† There have been other great films, but has there ever been one that has affected so many people in such a positive way?† I appreciate all of your efforts, Iíd like to be a part of it, and I hope to support the Ultimate Brokeback Forum in any way that I can.†

nova20194
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on May 14, 2006, 05:32:33 PM
nova...

welcome to the forum, and especially thank you for the positive feedback.  sometimes when you have lived with this forum as part of your daily life for a long time, you can forget just how extraordinary its efforts and results are.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: AlPerthUk on May 14, 2006, 05:48:13 PM
Hello All

My Brokeback affair started on the 10th of April 2006. I didn't go to the cinema to see the movie because I was too scared to be seen going to see the "gay cowboy movie". So I borrowed the DVD from a friend who had bought it whilst in NYC at the beginning of April.
I had not herd a lot about the film and had not read the story. To be honest I wasn't expecting a lot from the film. I had seen some of Ang Lee's films and couldn't quite understand why he was making a gay romance. Anyway I was home alone and there was nothing exciting on TV so I decided to watch BBM. I put the DVD on and opened a nice bottle of red wine.

This is where I get stuck for words. The film blew me away completely. From when Ennis broke down in the alley until the end there was almost constantly a tear in my eye. It was if I knew him or I related to how he felt. It was like I was some how feeling what he felt. At the end of the film I was in floods of uncontrollable tears. I was not able to stop crying. I cried myself to sleep.

The next morning I awoke with this immense feeling of loss. A feeling to this day I still feel, although not as intense as it was for the first few weeks after seeing the film. I watched the film again as I thought that I missed bits the night before due to the unstopable sobbing. Again the the tears almost the whole way through. Over the next few days I watched clips as I couldn't bring myself to watch the whole thing again as I couldn't deal with the raw unexplainable emotion caused by the film.

I pre-ordered a copy of the DVD which was delivered to my door on the day of release(UK-April 24th). I have not been able to watch it. I'm too scared. I do not know how to describe the feelings that I have felt and I cannot explain them as much as I try. I'm struggling to understand and put some meaning to them as I would say that my life reflects Jack's situation more than Ennis' yet I have thought more about how Ennis felt and what he must of went through. About how he would of lived alone for the rest of his life. About how much he would of missed Jack and hated himself for not allowing their life together.

I'm so glad that I have found this site as none of my friends understand how I have been feeling. I must also say that I'm a 28yo  gay man who has been in a relationship for almost 3 years and I can't even talk about these feelings with my partner. This is very strange as I normally find it so easy to talk to him about anything. BBM has changed me, it has changed my life and the way I look at it. I am so appreciative of the days I am with my partner as I now see how important each day is as you never now if it is going to be your last.

I'm hoping that chatting on here will help me get over this thing that I'm going through, help me to be able to watch the film again and I'm hoping that I'll meet some friends along the way. That's my story and how I have gotten to writting on here. I hope I don't sound like a psychotic freak. I'm not! I'm just very confussed about these feelings/emotions and loss that I'm feeling and from reading the other posts I'm not alone.

Thanks to Annie and Ang,

Al
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on May 14, 2006, 07:07:47 PM
al...

i think you have found your oasis of understanding.  you can endulge in all the self examination and movie disection you want to in here, and we will understand.  or, you can spend days and hours reading our musings.  you can even read all the postings of a given writer with whom you particularly identify if you wish.  it will just tkae you a little time to figure out how to make the forum work for you.

relax and enjoy...
jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: peteinportland on May 14, 2006, 09:03:46 PM
Nova and Al,

Welcome opt our forum. Or should I say, welcome home!

Pete
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: magnumman06 on May 15, 2006, 08:17:38 PM
Hello all members,
   I first saw THE movie in January and then again in February before viewing it a few times once i got the DVD. The movie is always on my mind. I am emotionally connected to it, because of someone I fell for while  in college 30 years ago and the parallels of never being able to have a complete relationship with this person. Just hearing the Gustavo Santaoalla's musical masterpiece on the soundtrack brings a tear to my eye.
   Reading all the threads about the movie particularly the scene-by-scene section is most interesting. Every time I see a scene from the movie, I notice something new. The beauty of Ang Lee's film making is amazing. with the duality throughout the movie as has been mentioned in previous threads such as paper sacks in the beginning and end, the dead sheep and Earl, Jack Twists Mom blue sweater and plaid shirt similar to Jack and Ennis shirts in the closet, and tonight I noticed in the 2 Thanksgiving scenes, Jack Twist is wearing a blue shirt with a bolo tie and a 1000 miles away Ennis is wearing a plaid shirt with a bolo tie.
   Also I guess it has been mentioned that the scene with Jack Twist by the brook is very important since he is washing Ennis's shirt that he keeps. Clever of Ang Lee to have Jack be naked in that scene so that you don't really notice what he is doing at first (or second) glance.
   Thanks for having this forum. I've truly enjoyed it and learned a lot in the process.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: stookslady on May 15, 2006, 10:36:49 PM
I love it here, and I thank you for creating this safe place for those of us who have found passion on the screen, in the characters of Jack Twist and Ennis Del Mar. I'm a bit out of the ordinary, I suppose...an African American lesbian from the south, in a committed relationship of 16 years. But seeing this movie changed my day to day living completely.

I connected with this beautifully crafted film almost immediately, and remained mesmerized until the end credits. As the last image began to fade to black on the screen, that of the closet door closing, the two shirts suspended from their crudely affixed nail, I found myself sobbing uncontrollably. (Both my wife and a friend attended with me...they had to stay with me in the theatre until I composed myself enough to leave.)

What followed were many, many days of thinking of Ennis and Jack constantly...abrupt outbreaks of tears while at work, as well as on the commute to and from... on my mind when I got up in the morning, wrapped around my brain when I went to bed at night, and haunting my dreams for weeks.

I had never, in my 40+ years, written a fan letter before...to anyone...but I wrote one to Heath Ledger. On the first Tuesday in April, I was at my local Walmart Supercenter at 12:30am to purchase BBM on DVD. I watched it as soon as I got home, even though I had to be up at 5:30am for work. Prior to the purchase, I saw the movie in the theatre 4 times. I bought the book on CD, dubbed it on cassette, and listened to it in my car constantly. I purchased the soundtrack and played it non-stop at work. Even now, I need only to hear the first guitar chord of the Opening to feel hot liquid well up in my eyes.

I could go on and on, but it would be the same as I've read from so many of those with which I share this mystical bond on this fabulous site. This movie changed my life. To help matters along, it coincided with another major life change that had just begun for me at the time (a substantial weight loss after bypass surgery). Because of both these factors, I was able to renew, not only the spirit in my weathered love relationship of many years, but also the love and knowledge of myself that I'd missplaced a long time ago. "My boys" (as I always refer to Jack and Ennis) taught me to appreciate this lovely, loving, luscious bond that my wife and I have, because we never know when these blessings will end...and to appreciate who I was, a living, breathing, fleshy woman, capable of experiencing the most wrenching torrent of love, and heartbreak, and raw delight imaginable.

I can actually go several hours, sometimes days now, without thinking of my boys or the film. But not much more than that. I mean, here I am, giving my words to you, because today BBM was solidly on my mind again. But being here is necessary. Being honest and letting others know how this film has affected me may help someone else that, like me, stumbles upon this forum, believing they're crazy or losing their grip on reality because they're unable to shake BBM loose from their gut or their heart. Coming here made me know that i wasn't alone...that I had a safe place to anchor when my boys would come around and "have a sit down". - KLJ

"There ain't no reigns on this one..." - E. Del Mar, BBM
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: peteinportland on May 16, 2006, 06:50:22 AM
Welcome Magnumman06 and Stookslady. Thanks for sharing your stories and your observations with us. It is amazing to know that people like yourselves so touched by our movie are still out there waiting to find this Internet home. We are very glad you found us! Welcome again.

Pete
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Casper on May 16, 2006, 07:26:54 AM
nova, I know the feeling you espouse about feeling comfortable with this forum.  Welcome!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Casper on May 16, 2006, 07:30:23 AM
Al, I read your confessions about viewing "Brokeback Mountain" and I can relate to the overwhelming sympathy that pours out uncontrollably.  Welcome!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Casper on May 16, 2006, 07:32:37 AM
magnum, as you stated, just listening to that musical score can bring a tear to the eye.  Welcome!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Casper on May 16, 2006, 07:37:57 AM
StooksLady, that's good therapy to always rely on "my boys" whenever the going gets tough.  This movie affects many so deeply and individually. Welcome!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on May 16, 2006, 07:34:35 PM
Welcome to the forum!!!!

nova20194, AlPerthUk, magnumman06, StooksLady,  glad that you have joined us here on the forum!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: renforde on May 16, 2006, 09:11:05 PM
Hello all,

Well, firstly, this is the first forum I've ever joined after 7 years on the 'net - I'm not American, and therefore not perhaps as "Oprah-fied" as some Americans, when it comes to putting their lives out-there in the public domain, but we'll see..†

What, exactly has compelled me on this occasion? - well, I guess that will be part of the process that seems to be unfoldling, since I saw BBM - the first time, a bit over a week ago.† Reading through the myriad posts here, I feel that this is a "safe place" to explore this marvellous film - and all that it invokes in so many people. I wholeheartedly agree with all the praise on these pages of the film itself, the performances & most of the analyses I guess. So, "hi".† †

There are so many overlaps in this movie that directly (and in some cases, literally) coincide with my own life, that it's difficult to know quite which thread to follow here.† I have been an out gay man for over 20 years - quite comfortable with my own sexuality, no cowboy though, just a mechanic.†

I was reminded, several times by a neighbour about this film - he, a gay man in his late 60's.† Repeatedly, over about two months, if we passed in the hall - he wanted me to see this film: almost to the point of insisting.† Theatre, DVD - whatever - but "must see".† Now, I like to keep up with "gay" films - so, OK.† A film about gay cowboys - I'll get to it.† (actually wondering if there wasn't an errant member of the Village People striking out into movies....well, hey, a gay guy in his late 60's raving about a cowboy film like this....)† So, despite work, customers, a dying cat, and a very large hole outside our apartment building I finally accepted his invitation to go & see the film at his place on DVD.

Brick after brick came out of the screen at me - it got to the point where I realised I was pushing myself back in the chair - my host chose an appropriate "half-time" break so I could go for a smoke.† Where I stared at the huge hole in the road, some six floors below until the taste of burning filter signalled the smoke was finished.†

The reunion scene was where I guess I began to unravel.† Alma seeing something she wasn't meant to....Ennis'† black pick-up (mid-50's Ford) nearly identical to Jack's mid 40's GMC (black, shabby & squeaky) when they first met, four years earlier.† Copy-cat cars.† That rang a bell - so I filed it & kept taking more bricks.† I guess if you're hit by enough of them, you become somewhat numb - which was the state in which I left my neighbour's apartment.† Numb, tears half-there that wouldn't come - no way that I could put any thoughts into gear.†

I can't recount every reaction or response that I've had to BBM in the week since I first saw it - I'm still trying to accommodate Ennis, Jack & their love, the music & beauty of this film into my already overcrowded mind.† But so far, yes, it crashes in on my thoughts constantly.† Again last night I watched the film for the 3rd time - but came unstuck at different places from when first I saw it.† †The layers, symbolism, the seriously-unnerving co-incidences with my own life....

My "own" Ennis had been, I thought, at a 'safe' distance of about 10,000 miles for the last four (!) years - only tracking down my number after dogged persistence about a month ago...† ("I had to ask 10 people just to find out where you'd moved to"...)† We too, sat under big skies, silent, smoking.....

Then I saw BBM.† †

So, I called "my" Ennis & said "see this film"...(almost to the point of insistence).† He knows of it, but hasn't seen it yet.† We talked a lot of "shop" (similar profession) - so I guessed that the kids were in the house.† Then, I could hear him slowly exhale the smoke & lower his voice to ask me: "when are you coming home?".† †This was, perhaps, not the best question to ask me only days after seeing BBM....and especially not when his voice is uncannily similar to Heath Ledger's....

Being "haunted" by a film just hasn't happened to me before - I have no real reference points (yet).... only a vague, creeping sensation that Ennises may be Jacks sometimes....†

I Amazoned the book - now they're putting bricks in books as well: thoughts and smells don't reproduce on DVDs.† And as for the soundtrack CD - like I need any more "triggers" just now, in Week Two of BBMA (Brokeback Mountain Aftermath).

So shall see where this goes - try not to get too un-hinged, but BBM just keeps tugging on the reins.


RFD







 







Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Casper on May 16, 2006, 09:37:05 PM
renforde, "Brokeback Mountain" haunts many.  There has never been a movie like it.  Welcome!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on May 17, 2006, 12:34:06 AM
RENFORDE...

this is essentially a private message, which i have posted in case you don't know how to pick up your private messages.

i hope we will see you on your journey through the pages and pages of this website.  there are many many threads with which you will find things and people to relate.

i hope you will stop in at a couple of my favorites  gay and gray~over 50 after brokeback, and auntie's 24 hour diner   
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8753.0

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8830.0

for different reasons and the same, i have been on your journey.  i hope to hear from you.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on May 18, 2006, 07:05:42 AM
Renford,

I'm still clearing away the bricks.  And my story has a happy ending!  But your retelling of the parallels between your life and the movie have me crying into my coffee.  Your story needs to be here too:

BBM Changed My Life - Or It Will (http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8579.msg224464#msg224464)
How Brokeback affected me (http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.msg1028#msg1028)

Or at least I encourage you to go here and read what others have said in outpouring and in encouragement to others.

You will find catharsis and healing.
Welcome to the forum.  This is a safe place to talk about what others around you might not understand.  I hope you'll join in with us and continue the BBM experience.

Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: renforde on May 18, 2006, 07:36:53 AM
Hi Guys, thanks indeed for the warm welcome - I'll try to figure out how to transfer it to "changed my life or it will" - but to be honest, it's not the story - it's only what I have identified as the background, to the story.  I have no idea yet how this film (4th time last night...) will make the changes:  right now I feel like a cat in a washing-machine - on "Spin"....

RFD
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on May 18, 2006, 08:29:13 AM
that's hair raising  :o ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on May 18, 2006, 08:39:52 AM
that's hair raising† :o ;D

Good thing he didn't put a rabbit in there!  :D

(Can't resist!)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ForeverTao on May 18, 2006, 01:17:40 PM
Hello everyone,

What a good place this is! Glad to have found it. I haven't been in a forum or posted anything personal in almost 8 years, ever since I left Compuserve back in the 90's! Although the net has always been an integral part of my life since the early 90's.

I happened to see Brokeback Mountain yesterday morning when I was alone at home. I didn't expect anything, heard some acclaims about it and such but didn't give it too much attention. I don't lead a "gay life" any more and I feel no compunction in keeping up with gay things as I used to do when I was younger. Not that I'm old (mid 40's).

The film left me empty though, bringing me back to a place I thought I had done and dealt with years ago. I guess not! I didn't break down or anything, too jaded, perhaps, but instead felt this great silent place in my heart, and I had to get on line to see what was being said about it.

The official site was good with many messages there, I must have read hundreds, before I decided I wanted to say something about it too. Like I said, I don't get into forums and chats any more. Eventually I found this site. I've been reading through it since last night and, before I knew it, I had written 'my story'. I had never written it down before. Talked about it, thought about it but never written it down. Finally I posted a version that I hope isn't too long! Once you get going, you just keep going. Sorry about that. 

I tend to be fairly level-headed, at least, that is my reputation, but this touches too deep to gloss over.

Thanks everyone,
ForeverTao
(Victor)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on May 18, 2006, 01:49:16 PM
Welcome to the Dave Cullen forum, and thanks for posting your story!

Hope you stick around, and post more!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Casper on May 18, 2006, 10:28:33 PM
ForeverTao, I can sense your re-awakening when you saw "Brokeback Mountain."  Welcome!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: LSky94 on May 19, 2006, 03:09:02 PM
ForeverTao,

Thanks for sharing your story with us.† The film is so well made and the story so powerful that it touches people on so many levels.† It brought forth a lot regrets unhealed in many; things never completed, people we can never have back, opportunities missed, and on and on.† There is nothing we can do about the past "there are places we can never return" but that doesn't mean we can never heal from where we've been either.† †I suspect, as you say yourself in not the same words, that maybe you didn't really heal when you thought you had "moved on."† That isn't to say that one can totally forget where he or she has been; no, healing isn't about forgetting or erasing the past, it is about being at peace with it.† I hope the friendships you develop here will help you to do that.† I relate to what you say about leading a "gay life" but at some point I realized that by leading "my" life, I am leading a gay life too because it is part of who I am.† I encourage you to participate here more, there are many here who "get' what you feel.† Thanks again for sharing, and best wishes to you.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on May 22, 2006, 09:15:11 AM
Boy this is a strange one, why should a book and film affect me in such a way that I need to find a forum to express it?  I knew when I read the book that I didn't want to see the film, but my partner bought the DVD and we sat down to watch, it's a very happy relationship of 24 years and I have no reason to align myself with Jack or Ennis other than empathy.  I can't get this film out of my head (a tribute to Ang & Annie). All the loves that "could have been" not me but for others, that's the sadness. I don't think I want to see it again, at least not for a while. But I'll be back here.... at least to try to exorcise this feeling of loss.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on May 22, 2006, 09:48:12 AM
Welcome, naxman!

Glad you found us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on May 22, 2006, 11:32:49 AM
Boy this is a strange one, why should a book and film affect me in such a way that I need to find a forum to express it? I knew when I read the book that I didn't want to see the film, but my partner bought the DVD and we sat down to watch, it's a very happy relationship of 24 years and I have no reason to align myself with Jack or Ennis other than empathy. I can't get this film out of my head (a tribute to Ang & Annie). All the loves that "could have been" not me but for others, that's the sadness. I don't think I want to see it again, at least not for a while. But I'll be back here.... at least to try to exorcise this feeling of loss.

Well,well....hello there my friend...no need to explain how silly you feel....'cuz you're not. Glad you found us...please do lurk around we won't bite....(well,maybe a couple will)...ha ha ha.....join us for a bite to eat at Auntie's Diner and all the wonderful threads available....enjoy many new friendships hon.....

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: DKG on May 22, 2006, 04:35:25 PM
I've been lurking on these threads after finding the forum (thank God!) when I saw BBM for the first time in mid-January and knew I needed help desperately.† I have enjoyed reading everyone's input immensely.† They have certainly helped me to cope.† I finally registered, then after a while, decided to share my thoughts and feelings.† I saw BBM 30 times in the theatre before it left NYC for good in early April.† Since I don't have a DVD player at home, I knew my last viewing would be just that -- the last time I would see it on the big screen -- and I kept reminding myself of this with every scene.† I remember when the last two words on the screen, and I might add, two of the most magical words in the English language (when used together) -- BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN -- scrolled up at the very end, then stopped mid-screen and stayed there as Rufus Wainwright held on to the last note of his haunting song.† Then simultaneously, his voice was no more and those two beautiful words disappeared, the screen went black, the house lights came on, and I was the last audience member to leave.† Back to reality.† This movie has devastated me.† I thought I would eventually heal, then move on.† Life does, but I haven't.† I think about BBM constantly.† Where ever I am, I often tear -- even in public in broad daylight.† Sometimes I've cried softly and briefly at my desk, catching myself in time before my co-workers do.† I've often thought that owning a DVD player might not be a good idea for me.† Imagine, retreating to the privacy of your home to watch BBM, crying afterward, shutting out the world.† Not very healthy.† Not a wise thing to do.† I'm very happy to read that "feverites" who live in the same city, town, or geographical area are getting together and doing things.† That's great!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on May 22, 2006, 04:47:34 PM
I've been lurking on these threads after finding the forum (thank God!) when I saw BBM for the first time in mid-January and knew I needed help desperately.† I have enjoyed reading everyone's input immensely.† They have certainly helped me to cope.† I finally registered, then after a while, decided to share my thoughts and feelings.† I saw BBM 30 times in the theatre before it left NYC for good in early April.† Since I don't have a DVD player at home, I knew my last viewing would be just that -- the last time I would see it on the big screen -- and I kept reminding myself of this with every scene.† I remember when the last two words on the screen, and I might add, two of the most magical words in the English language (when used together) -- BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN -- scrolled up at the very end, then stopped mid-screen and stayed there as Rufus Wainwright held on to the last note of his haunting song.† Then simultaneously, his voice was no more and those two beautiful words disappeared, the screen went black, the house lights came on, and I was the last audience member to leave.† Back to reality.† This movie has devastated me.† I thought I would eventually heal, then move on.† Life does, but I haven't.† I think about BBM constantly.† Where ever I am, I often tear -- even in public in broad daylight.† Sometimes I've cried softly and briefly at my desk, catching myself in time before my co-workers do.† I've often thought that owning a DVD player might not be a good idea for me.† Imagine, retreating to the privacy of your home to watch BBM, crying afterward, shutting out the world.† Not very healthy.† Not a wise thing to do.† I'm very happy to read that "feverites" who live in the same city, town, or geographical area are getting together and doing things.† That's great!

Hello New Yorkan...I'm from Chicago...and welcome to our family,

I saw the movie 8 times in the big screen. Played hooky from work and all. Shameful I thought at first. Cried at my desk too. One time I got busted and I actually scared the person away. Rumors went around the whole floor that something was wrong with Nellie..God how embarrassing. Everyone was so nice to me for a couple of days...ha ha ha...was great.!! To this day,I can not watch the whole movie at home. I stop half way . Don't know why. The last time I saw the movie completely ,it put me in such a weird mood that I didn't want to feel like that right now...but I'll tell you something...speaking from experience as you can see the number of posts I have...it really really helps by talking....never enough . I'll watch the whole movie eventually...it'll pass and it will get better...I promise you that.

HUGS

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: calgaryactor on May 22, 2006, 09:44:55 PM
I can't get this film out of my head (a tribute to Ang & Annie). All the loves that "could have been" not me but for others, that's the sadness. I don't think I want to see it again, at least not for a while. But I'll be back here.... at least to try to exorcise this feeling of loss.

Welcome to the forum, Naxman - you've fallen in with a motley crew, but I think you'll enjoy us.

I have an idea where you're coming from.† Though I am totally happy in my relationship of 11 years, the film brought back aching memories of a relationship I experienced that was very similar to Jack and Ennis'.† It was a relationship that could have been magnificent, if only he'd been able to come out.† In the end though, he wasn't, and I moved on.† I'll always carry a spot in my heart for him; I'll always be thankful for all that the experience taught me, and will always wish him well.

On another note - it was cool to see your signature / avatar photo of Andy Warhol.† I'm a serious Warhol-o-phile myself, having written and performed a one man play about Warhol for a travelling exhibit for The NY Museum of Modern Art, and remounting it for The Vancouver Art Gallery.† Any stories to tell about your interest in The Pope of Pop?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on May 23, 2006, 01:44:53 AM
Hi and thanks for the warm welcome, reading the posts I see a lot of similarities about, loss, the yearning for what might have been, even though some of us can't quite put our finger on the cause.  I think it boils down to the sadness of missed opportunities whatever and wherever they are or were.  One can be in a happy and stable relationship with the love of your life and still be affected.  Emotion is a strange thing, it can tug at you for no reason or many,  I see many posts about healing, opening up the whole can of worms, self realisation, admission and facing up to reality.  This is a good place to drop whatever it is we are carrying, examine it and move on hopefully stronger. I think most of us understand that when people say time is a great healer they are wrong - the pains we have are just as strong, we just learn to live with them and cope.  The truth is most of us don't want to give up that pain as with it comes the pleasure of remembrance, bittersweet isn't it. Part of the learning to cope with it means facing it - so here we all are!  There is strength in laying someting to rest.

As for my avatar I like Warhol, he was very much an individual and looks better than I do ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ChrisW on May 23, 2006, 01:53:18 AM
This was written in 1992. The only time in my life I got poetic. The events referred to happened before 1969.
The quotation was a poem I saw on the train going to work every day at that time.

"on a beach in Crete
I found a smooth stone
Which in every respect
resembled my heart.."

Today my heart is like the sea
Always gently moving
not very often at peace.

I gave you my heart
When I was too young
To know what I was doing
And so I never told you.
And now, I think you did something similar
And so you never told me.

My heart is not a smooth stone.

It is soft and vulnerable.
It cannot be totally broken
It can be mended
And it will not hurt you.

What I gave to you
I cannot give to anyone else
Nor can I take it back.

I suppose you can give it back:
- but you would have to do that.

I would like you to keep it.

*********************
Like everyone else, this film has got me good. I went to see it to help me understand my gay son, but you won't be surprised to hear that the person I understand better is myself.

I want to thank everyone involved with the film, book and forum for all their amazing insights.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on May 23, 2006, 02:09:48 AM
montezumae

I loved your poem it took me back not just to Crete but to another place too! I hope you publish it.  As for understanding those close to us - just love them, with love comes understanding.

NAX
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: DKG on May 23, 2006, 10:40:04 AM
Thanks, Nellie, for welcoming to the family.† I feel better already!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Lyle (Mooska) on May 23, 2006, 02:39:18 PM
The only time in my life I got poetic.

I think you should "get poetic" again!
Very nice.

I've read a few amazing pieces of poetry on various forums here.
I see another forum book in the future:
"Brokeback Poetry"

...and someone also suggested a cookbook from the recipes thread:
"No More Beans".

Again, thanks for sharing that.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on May 23, 2006, 05:10:39 PM
Thanks, Nellie, for welcoming to the family.  I feel better already!

Sweetheart...come on and visit us around at Auntie's Diner...did you post a picture of yourself?..Have you gone to the "How Brokeback Affected Me" threads..I hope you are finding everything okay.

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nikki on May 23, 2006, 05:57:11 PM
Hi Everyone,
I am a brand new member, but i have been lurking for months because just when i thought i had something to add, discuss, introduce, etc.,  i found that others had said it better, briefer, funnier, more serious, let's face it better, so.....i lurked and lurked!

That being said, i have so enjoyed everyone's input that i couldn't restrain myself any longer, especially when you all started the book club. I am a voracious reader and ..."here i am."

Don't have to add how BBM has affected me -- i have the DVD, book to sceenplay, and the sound track on CD. Can't tell you how much i have watched, played, read it all. Love, love, love it and all of the members' comments which had me chuckling outloud late at night.  Feel like i know you guys personally.

Kind of afraid about formatting the replys, quotes, boxes, etc.. though.

Pleased to meet you!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: belgianboy on May 23, 2006, 05:59:32 PM
Hi all--

Finally getting around to introducing myself here. The mods keep clamoring for me to jump in, so now you get my life story! Have been too busy writing fanfic (and occasionally doing my job too), so don't get over here a lot. But I've visited Dave Cullen's wonderful forums since September, when I first became aware of BBM. Didnít even know what slash was until October, but I scoured the forums for whatever I could find, and the rest is history.

Once I saw the preview for BBM last August (shocked the hell out of me--I had never heard of it, didn't know who Jake and Heath were, etc., and didnít that change in a hurry! pant, pant Ö), I read the story and was just devastated. I'm in a real long-term relationship, and BBM brought back those early days of discovery and obsessive love that he and I experiencedóand that we will never experience again. While he was touched by the sadness of it all (saw it a second time only because I made him), I was caught up in the romanceóhow it all began, just the fact that whenever they were together over the next twenty years, they had a passionately good time.

Nonetheless, I wanted to ditch my man, my job, my life and move to Wyoming. I was feeling very much trapped (mid-life crisis, maybe), and the oddest thing is that ultimately BBM empowered me to deal with that. In observing what happened to Jack and Ennis because of their decisions, especially Ennis, who thought his course in life was set in stone, I started to view my life more objectively, especially concerning my partner. This was rather disconcerting, because suddenly I felt that if I wanted to walk out, I could. If I thought it would be the best thing to do, I could actually do it. No one was stopping me. Not the sort of thing you talk to your lover about, is it? But it meant that if I was trapped, it was my own doing and so I could undo it.

In addition, writing offers me a great emotional release, but Iíve had no real incentive to do it until becoming part of the BBM community. Iíd never even looked at blogs or forums before, and Iíve found many online interactions to be so rewarding!

Despite all this empowerment, however, the movie had me worried. I was so concerned about my response to it that I made sure I knew as much as possible before seeing it the first time. It didnít matteróit was a beautiful, well-crafted movie, and while I thought I would be sobbing in the aisle, it wasnít like that at all. I did remember every line, however, and played the scenes out in my head day after day after day. The second time I saw it, I nearly burst into tears every time Ennis was feeling or showing emotion. The third time, it was the music that did me in. Of course I had to download the score ASAP and then buy the soundtrack, and that first chord still paralyzes me. The fourth time, I was worried that the key lines in the movie might actually be too melodramatic and laughable. But then I remembered ďGone With The Wind,Ē and I thought, so what?

A major benefit has been learning about the actorsí and directorís craft and interactions, just coming to realize what goes on between casting and the screen. For some reason, Jake just seems like a pro in real life, so I can imagine him doing the incredible things he does in BBM. The range he has to play is astounding, in my opinion. To this day, however, I have a hell of a time placing Heath up on that screen as Ennis. As Annie Proulx herself said, he got it down better than she did. I still find his transformation amazing, although I know that was his job. I am so impressed by both of them, by the women as well, and of course Ang Lee.

Anyway, as an option to watching the movie over and over, Iíve resorted to writing. That first scene in the tent inspired me to write a fanfic with the urgency of that action. It was meant to be just another story, but a reader requested the second night, and how could I resist? That second night is so open-ended, so romantic compared to the first, that I had to try it. Appropriately, it turned out to be a longer story, giving me the chance to refine the interior, psychological approach to Jack and Ennis that I thrive on. After that, I had fun more or less ďcatalogingĒ their sexual education that summer, with the stories largely playing Ennisí reservations against Jackís confidence. It's a challenge to play the field between hormonal sex and emotional sex/love, and try to sneak in a little humor too. I enjoy reading the other fics that do that in addition to having good plots.

Iím now into another significant period, the four-year reunion, which has got several chapters churning in my head (three of which have been disgorged, thankfully). Fortunately, I believe the menís emotions would run the gamut from passionate love to hostility as they try to reconcile their intentions and circumstances, so Iíve got plenty of food for thought.

Finally, Iíll say this, since I mentioned wanting to run away: being Belgianboy has brought stability to my life and is well worth the effort. For one thing, sex is getting more Ö um, fulfilling, shall we say, as I find it increasingly difficult to separate reality from my stories. The husband donít mind neither.

I love being part of all this!

Belgianboy
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on May 23, 2006, 06:00:31 PM
Hi Everyone,
I am a brand new member, but i have been lurking for months because just when i thought i had something to add, discuss, introduce, etc., i found that others had said it better, briefer, funnier, more serious, let's face it better, so.....i lurked and lurked!

That being said, i have so enjoyed everyone's input that i couldn't restrain myself any longer, especially when you all started the book club. I am a voracious reader and ..."here i am."

Don't have to add how BBM has affected me -- i have the DVD, book to sceenplay, and the sound track on CD. Can't tell you how much i have watched, played, read it all. Love, love, love it and all of the members' comments which had me chuckling outloud late at night. Feel like i know you guys personally.

Kind of afraid about formatting the replys, quotes, boxes, etc.. though.

Pleased to meet you!

Nikki hon...don't be shy...we are so friendly...as you know I'm sure. Just post all over and get to know us...So glad you decided to post.

Take care,

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on May 23, 2006, 06:08:48 PM
Welcome Nikki & BelgianBoy!

It's good to have you both here!
Title: BROKEBACK TRAILER vs CRASH TRAILER
Post by: broketrailer on May 23, 2006, 06:17:39 PM
Hey all- I'm a vigin to this site but I already love it!

Wanted to let you know that within the movie trailer industry-- there is a big award show happening next month.  In the category of Best Drama Trailer- Brokeback Mountain and Crash are both nominated again.  MSN is doing a "public" voting competition. 
Here's the website:
http://movies.msn.com/beacon/editorial10.aspx?ptid=20068f06-a376-4b82-b065-86be62fbe7ba#anc_MSN_KeyArts_Drama3

please post this link- and ask EVERYONE to vote for the Brokeback Mountain trailer!!! I'm pretty sure it's between Brokeback and Crash again-- and I don't want Crash to win again!!! Thanks a lot! It would be so great if we could get a campaign going for this.  These awards "Key Art Awards"- are a big deal in the Hollywood Movie Marketing arena- and we want to have more movies like Brokeback Mountain made!! Also- it was very brave of Focus Features to market the trailer so directly.  A lot of movies like it are "hidden" in the marketing campaigns. 
Thanks!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on May 23, 2006, 06:50:22 PM
The only time in my life I got poetic.

I think you should "get poetic" again!
Very nice.

I've read a few amazing pieces of poetry on various forums here.
I see another forum book in the future:
"Brokeback Poetry"

...and someone also suggested a cookbook from the recipes thread:
"No More Beans".

If you have more work you'd like to post, or just want to read the work of other members, we have a place to post poetry, called "Deep Thougths and Poems".

Here is a link to the thread:

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=3482.0
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nikki on May 23, 2006, 07:13:41 PM
thanks Cellerdweller and Nellie for your warm welcome.

There was some instruction sheet from Dave somewhere w/instructions about formatting, etc.  Is it still around for downloading?

Look forward to getting to "talking" to y'all.

Nikki
Title: Thanks ... and thanks
Post by: belgianboy on May 23, 2006, 09:04:54 PM
Yes, thank you, non-virgins, for the welcome!

And a thank you to Broketrailer above for the link to the movie marketing contest. I always find these peripheral aspects of moviemaking to be fascinating, things I otherwise might not think about.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ChrisW on May 24, 2006, 01:40:34 AM
montezumae

I loved your poem it took me back not just to Crete but to another place too! I hope you publish it.  As for understanding those close to us - just love them, with love comes understanding.

NAX

Thanks Nax. 'Friend, that is the most poetry I've written in 15 years'. When I wrote that I had reached the 'Jack, I swear..' stage, though I was never asked to swear anything and am myself not really the poetic kind. But I will have a look in my old notebooks. The person involved is alive and well and we keep in touch. I thought it might help people to know that it is quite possible to see what happened all those years ago, recognise it, and be happy. Much more than '..got to stand it'. What a life-affirming film! Every day since I saw it, several months now, I have been feeling how lucky I am to be alive and well, and as you so rightly say, just loving people, and increasing my understanding.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ChrisW on May 25, 2006, 01:44:36 AM
Thank you for highlighting my peom in the Daily Sheet, I never expected that. I read yesterday's posting of Annie's interview, and particularly how long it took her to write the story. I remember how long it took me to write those few short words! The story reads, to me, as if Annie had patiently uncoved something that was there all along. I think it is sculpture that is usually described in those sort of words, Rodin's 'The kiss' for example, just waiting to be revealed by the patient hewing away of stone.

I posted a picture in the Sandbox about NS. Could some kind person move that to the symbolism thread? I don't know how to move stuff around to the right places. And if anyone could point me to any discussion between the mothers of gay men of about Jake and Heaths'a ages (another reason this film got me good), I'd be interested to join that discussion.

Thanks to all the kind people who commented on my poem. When I get time I will follow that one up. Thanks again. M.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on May 25, 2006, 06:54:24 AM
I posted a picture in the Sandbox about NS. Could some kind person move that to the symbolism thread? I don't know how to move stuff around to the right places. And if anyone could point me to any discussion between the mothers of gay men of about Jake and Heaths'a ages (another reason this film got me good), I'd be interested to join that discussion.

Thanks to all the kind people who commented on my poem. When I get time I will follow that one up. Thanks again. M.
I don't know how to rederect a post what I'd do is re-post it in the proper thread.
The "Parents with Gay Children is in the "Support Group and Connections" section.
You can consult the Site Map to find everything you're looking for. It's in the news box.
I printed it, it's very practicle :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ChrisW on May 26, 2006, 02:18:45 AM
The only time in my life I got poetic.

I think you should "get poetic" again!
Very nice.

I've read a few amazing pieces of poetry on various forums here.
I see another forum book in the future:
"Brokeback Poetry"

...and someone also suggested a cookbook from the recipes thread:
"No More Beans".

If you have more work you'd like to post, or just want to read the work of other members, we have a place to post poetry, called "Deep Thougths and Poems".

Here is a link to the thread:

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=3482.0

Thank you, kind people. I am going to try posting another one there. I an finding this difficult but seem to be driven to do it.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: phare-bzh on June 01, 2006, 06:45:40 AM
hallo to everybody, i'm Alex from Italy, i've seen the film last february and get intoxicated by the magic of the story. I've often visited the fiction sites for the pleasure of reading the works, and now i'm tying to come up with my own work, only problem is the lenguage. i hope i can finish . for now thanks to everybody here for the commitment dedicated to this forum. regardss
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 01, 2006, 07:11:58 AM
hallo to everybody, i'm Alex from Italy, i've seen the film last february and get intoxicated by the magic of the story. I've often visited the fiction sites for the pleasure of reading the works, and now i'm tying to come up with my own work, only problem is the lenguage. i hope i can finish . for now thanks to everybody here for the commitment dedicated to this forum. regardss

Welcome Alex!  It's good to have you here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on June 01, 2006, 07:26:15 AM
hallo to everybody, i'm Alex from Italy, i've seen the film last february and get intoxicated by the magic of the story. I've often visited the fiction sites for the pleasure of reading the works, and now i'm tying to come up with my own work, only problem is the lenguage. i hope i can finish . for now thanks to everybody here for the commitment dedicated to this forum. regardss

Alex. welcome.

You can also visit the slash thread http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=98.19785 where there are people dedicated to fan fiction. From them you will get feedback and support.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on June 01, 2006, 01:13:03 PM
I started posting here a few days ago before I noticed this thread.

I saw BBM for the first time on DVD last week and have been haunted by it ever since.  The third day after I got the DVD I'd seen it three times but none of my PHOBE-ASS people would watch it with me, no way.  So I did a search on the Internet for a BBM discussion group, and I hit pay dirt.  To know I'm not alone in perceiving this movie as an epiphany, a life-changing experience, like a religious conversion.  I feel as though I've seen the face of God, and God is much more beautiful than I had ever imagined.  (Sorry for the hyperbole, but hyperbole is about the only way I can describe how I feel about BBM at this point)

Thanks to all of you for this forum.  It is a life-saver and brings me much happiness. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 01, 2006, 01:49:19 PM
B73!   Welcome to the forum!!!

You are amongst many BBM fans here.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 01, 2006, 01:50:39 PM
For any new members who may want this information....here is a link to the site map.


http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8878.msg236697#msg236697


It can show you exactly what the site has to offer!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: DKG on June 02, 2006, 09:18:04 AM
I started posting here a few days ago before I noticed this thread.

I saw BBM for the first time on DVD last week and have been haunted by it ever since.† The third day after I got the DVD I'd seen it three times but none of my PHOBE-ASS people would watch it with me, no way.† So I did a search on the Internet for a BBM discussion group, and I hit pay dirt.† To know I'm not alone in perceiving this movie as an epiphany, a life-changing experience, like a religious conversion.† I feel as though I've seen the face of God, and God is much more beautiful than I had ever imagined.† (Sorry for the hyperbole, but hyperbole is about the only way I can describe how I feel about BBM at this point)

Thanks to all of you for this forum.† It is a life-saver and brings me much happiness.†

Welcome to the Brokeback family, B73.† I am a newcomer myself and have been made to feel very welcomed and comfortable.† I first saw "the epiphany" in mid-January; it is still haunting me to this day.† You are going to love it here, interacting with all these wonderful people who have the fever, too; sharing your thoughts, feelings, ideas with them; responding to theirs.† And you will be delighted in the variety and scope of the vast number of threads.† Simply an amazing group of people.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on June 02, 2006, 10:19:15 AM


Welcome to the Brokeback family, B73.† I am a newcomer myself and have been made to feel very welcomed and comfortable.† I first saw "the epiphany" in mid-January; it is still haunting me to this day.† You are going to love it here, interacting with all these wonderful people who have the fever, too; sharing your thoughts, feelings, ideas with them; responding to theirs.† And you will be delighted in the variety and scope of the vast number of threads.† Simply an amazing group of people.

Thanks, DKG!  And thanks to you, CellarDweller115, and everyone else who has made me feel welcome.  An amazing group of people indeed!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Bobbie on June 05, 2006, 08:46:31 AM
IN SEARCH OF...

DC, VA, MD, WV locals....where are you?  There are many forum members who live near our Nation's Capitol and some of us gathered this past Winter to view BBM.  We'd like to continue the fellowship by getting together for brunch or dinner or drinks or whatever over the Summer.

Please check out our local area thread here: http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=9035.15 or PM me.

The more the merrier!  And of course, ALL are welcomed to join us!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jimspain on June 05, 2006, 10:14:13 AM
God Almighty!!!

Listen to you all!!! You're all beautiful and wise and raging with empathy and humanity!!! If you all got together and stormtrooped your various Govt buildings, this world would be such a fabulous place!!!!

God! I can't believe how raw and cheesy this film is making me!!! Why is this happening to me!!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on June 05, 2006, 10:26:45 AM
not quite sure jim, but by and large we all got here in some state of confusion, and usually raw.  it gets better... eventually,

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ChrisW on June 05, 2006, 11:40:15 AM
God Almighty!!!

Listen to you all!!! You're all beautiful and wise and raging with empathy and humanity!!! If you all got together and stormtrooped your various Govt buildings, this world would be such a fabulous place!!!!

God! I can't believe how raw and cheesy this film is making me!!! Why is this happening to me!!!!
Hi Jim, exactly. I was questioning my sanity until I found this forum. Such kind people, such support, you will feel better in no time. I have disentangled so many of those old experiences, seeing this film was a kind of epiphany for me, and that was back last January!
Follow the road it leads you on, it is a safe one. I found this unnerving at first, treating my most private feelings this way, but it works.  So good luck for your own journey.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nick_F on June 07, 2006, 04:40:50 AM
God Almighty!!!

Listen to you all!!! You're all beautiful and wise and raging with empathy and humanity!!! If you all got together and stormtrooped your various Govt buildings, this world would be such a fabulous place!!!!

God! I can't believe how raw and cheesy this film is making me!!! Why is this happening to me!!!!
Hi Jim, exactly. I was questioning my sanity until I found this forum. Such kind people, such support, you will feel better in no time. I have disentangled so many of those old experiences, seeing this film was a kind of epiphany for me, and that was back last January!
Follow the road it leads you on, it is a safe one. I found this unnerving at first, treating my most private feelings this way, but it works.† So good luck for your own journey.

Hi guys. it sounds like you are both suffering from Brokeback Fever

you may want to check out this thread and offload some of what you are feeling

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=174.0

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 07, 2006, 10:37:42 AM
I feel as though I've seen the face of God, and God is much more beautiful than I had ever imagined.† (Sorry for the hyperbole, but hyperbole is about the only way I can describe how I feel about BBM at this point)

Thanks to all of you for this forum.† It is a life-saver and brings me much happiness.†

Hyperole?!?!  Not!!  I have used the expression "I felt as if I had looked into the face of God and seen the beauty of the universe."
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on June 07, 2006, 01:59:52 PM
I feel as though I've seen the face of God, and God is much more beautiful than I had ever imagined.† (Sorry for the hyperbole, but hyperbole is about the only way I can describe how I feel about BBM at this point)

Thanks to all of you for this forum.† It is a life-saver and brings me much happiness.†

Hyperole?!?!† Not!!† I have used the expression "I felt as if I had looked into the face of God and seen the beauty of the universe."

God bless ya then, man!† Glad to see I'm in good company.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on June 07, 2006, 02:17:29 PM
Well, my friend whom I sahred my first viewing of Brokeback said: "It wasn't heaven, but damn close" referring to the scenes on mountain.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mountainkicker53 on June 07, 2006, 09:21:41 PM
This is the thread for new members to introduce themselves.

Welcome to our wonderful community! We are glad you found us!
Well, I reckon I should just jump in and start and start being a torchbearer for this incredibly powerful cinematic performance.   Mountainkicker53 is the handle.   My first post, so bear with me. I've watched this movie dozens of times, bought 10 copies of the DVD, handed them out to people I know to pass out to people they know.  Those DVDs have made the circuit back to me,(ready to go around in another circle) and have changed hearts and minds, challenged beliefs, and have shown what is really in the hearts and minds of everyday people, both pro and con.  A Masterpiece performance, this movie, hands down.  No debate.  Period.  I gave my heart, right down to the bottom of it, to this movie, and a lot of salt water from the peepers, too....  I keep constant reminder of how this work of art has affected me in the stills, posters, and memorabilia proudly on display in my little corner of the world.  I was even fortunate enough to get to know someone who actually worked on this project during its production in Calgary.  Brokeback Mountain is never far from my heart, my thoughts, my daily existence.  And folks, that says a  mighty powerful lot about 2.25 hours of film!!!  So thanks for reading my little "intro" here!  Haven't even scratched the surface!!!  Got a whole lot more to say, if anyone wants to say hi....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on June 07, 2006, 09:32:49 PM
This is the thread for new members to introduce themselves.

Welcome to our wonderful community! We are glad you found us!
Well, I reckon I should just jump in and start and start being a torchbearer for this incredibly powerful cinematic performance.† †Mountainkicker53 is the handle.† †My first post, so bear with me. I've watched this movie dozens of times, bought 10 copies of the DVD, handed them out to people I know to pass out to people they know.† Those DVDs have made the circuit back to me,(ready to go around in another circle) and have changed hearts and minds, challenged beliefs, and have shown what is really in the hearts and minds of everyday people, both pro and con.† A Masterpiece performance, this movie, hands down.† No debate.† Period.† I gave my heart, right down to the bottom of it, to this movie, and a lot of salt water from the peepers, too....† I keep constant reminder of how this work of art has affected me in the stills, posters, and memorabilia proudly on display in my little corner of the world.† I was even fortunate enough to get to know someone who actually worked on this project during its production in Calgary.† Brokeback Mountain is never far from my heart, my thoughts, my daily existence.† And folks, that says a† mighty powerful lot about 2.25 hours of film!!!† So thanks for reading my little "intro" here!† Haven't even scratched the surface!!!† Got a whole lot more to say, if anyone wants to say hi....

Welcome, mountainkicker53! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: louisestrange on June 08, 2006, 08:51:58 AM
*Waves* Hello!

I can't quite believe it's taken me sooo long to join this forum, but here I am, better late than never.

I'm Louisestrange and, like everyone here, ol' Brokeback sure got me good. I'm 25 years old and live in the UK. I'm addicted to BBM fanfic and even write one of my own - 'Go Fish' - which you can find through the slashlinks thread elsewhere on this forum (much to my amazement as a newb!), if you feel so inclined.
 
I'm looking forward to joining in the BBM-related fun with y'all :)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on June 08, 2006, 08:56:43 AM
*Waves* Hello!

I can't quite believe it's taken me sooo long to join this forum, but here I am, better late than never.

I'm Louisestrange and, like everyone here, ol' Brokeback sure got me good. I'm 25 years old and live in the UK. I'm addicted to BBM fanfic and even write one of my own - 'Go Fish' - which you can find through the slashlinks thread elsewhere on this forum (much to my amazement as a newb!), if you feel so inclined.
 
I'm looking forward to joining in the BBM-related fun with y'all :)



louisestrange: Welcome!† Be sure to check out the "photo captioning fun" thread for some good laffs (if you haven't already)!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 08, 2006, 09:05:36 AM
Welcome Louise!

there are a ton of threads here for you to explore.

Here is a link to the site map!

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8878.msg236697#msg236697

Of course, you can post in any thread, but there is a UK thread you may want to check out, and see your fellow UK Brokeback fans.

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8629.1545
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on June 08, 2006, 12:11:49 PM
well spoken MK.  there's enough backlog here to keep you reading and nodding your head for a year, and that's not counting ongoing material.  you will find you are far from alone here.  you have found the crowd that gets it, whatever IT is.  welcome.

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: KeithOBny on June 08, 2006, 12:41:17 PM
Just foiund this thread today. I never introduced myself. I saw BBM about 10 days ago...and the next day found this board. Was so glad I found it. I also was an emotional wreak after seeing the movie. I rented it and the next day went out and bought the dvd,cd and book. Read the book 4x's, saw the dvd 8 times and constintly listen to the cd. The enitre experince has been soul touching and a deep connection to the characters and the story. I have never seen a more beaituful love story that haunts you and floows you wherever you go. I also foundmyself at the least oppurtune time :-) begining to cry. I am more emotionally stable right now and love the movie even more. Someone posted that there was something so sexy about two furry chested guys falling in love. Definitly!..but without all the steriotypes that hollywood usually pusts on man to man love. I know this will effect gay and lesbian persons but It would be a shame  if it was simply reduced to a "gay" film..it is so much more then that and can without a doubt speak to all people who have ever loved and lost or was agreaid to take the chance on love.
It is timeless in its message and so refreahing in its execution. Truly I believe this movie  will pass the test of time and take its place with some of the great movies that leave you with so many unanswered questions, questions you need to ask yourself about life...the one that comes to my mind is "Gone With the Wind"
Thanks to David for this forum and for all the beautful people who have dared to share thier thoughts, ideas, hopes, dreams and vision of life...they have been a great help and a joy.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: KeithOBny on June 08, 2006, 12:43:31 PM
oh man..just saw all my spelling mistakes...sorry! ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 08, 2006, 02:28:46 PM
Welcome to our forum, MountainKicker and Keith!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 08, 2006, 03:23:14 PM
oh man..just saw all my spelling mistakes...sorry! ;D

Just tell people you were crying too hard to type.  We all do.   ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: KeithOBny on June 08, 2006, 04:07:12 PM
LOL...Twistedboy
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: littledarlin on June 08, 2006, 08:51:24 PM
I too am just finding all the many wonderful things this site has to offer.  All the love I feel is just overwhelming (giving and receiving).   

 I watched BBM on DVD the last night before it was due back at the video store and wound up keeping it 2 more weeks.  The day I returned it I bought it.  I couldn't go a day without watching (it's been 3 days now, I'm getting jittery).  Before BBM I used the computer maybe 2-3 times per week, for mail and a little google.  Then I googled BBM just to see what was out there and I haven't left this site or my laptop since.  Both have changed many things in my life, all for the good.  Crying harder (often at inappropriate times), laughing harder (those photo captions!), and enjoying this new found awareness. 

My kids think it's hysterical to see their mom dragging her laptop all over the house, they know I'm obsessed, we all laugh a lot more now about everything (it's great!).  I'm divorced recently, 40, white straight female and  I am so in love with Brokeback Mountain!!!  It has taken me back to the days when I was a naive young girl and read all those romance novels, thinking true love existed.  After 2 failed marriages (both ended by me, I knew something was missing) it was highly unlikely. (stupid prince charming making me set my hopes so high!)  Then along comes BBM.  All of the warmth, happiness and hope of my youth has returned with such a force!  I guess you could compare it to being reborn and I'm old and wise enough to realize this is my chance to take my life and live it like there's no tomorrow.  What a great feeling!! 

I have posted all over the place, please forgive any faux pas on my part.  I am very new to this and not up on all the etiquette.  Everyone here has a special place in my heart, my great big giant BB heart.  Life is so cool right now, what a great place to be!  ;D  I love that it has had the same effect on so many diverse cultures and countries!!

Peace and Love to all, thanks for listening!

PS the audio version is excellent for the car.  I have picked up so many more little details than I did in several readings of the book and it really enriches the movie for me, filling in some blank spots emotionally. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on June 08, 2006, 09:29:49 PM
welcome, and however did you get that member name?  how could that have not been picked already?  it must have been waiting just for you.  if all the posters quit tomorrow, you would still have years of reading here, so enjoy, past present and future.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ruby on June 09, 2006, 03:23:40 AM
Hi there

this is my first post anywhere ever, so please be gentle!

I've been lurking for weeks (read 'months') all over the internet checking whatever interviews/ videos I could find since first seeing BBM in February.† Then I found you guys and 'hurrah'!† I don't think I need to state the emotional impact BBM's had on me here - 'cos I know you're all in the same place right - I probably couldn't anyway if I tried.† The only movie that has driven me back to the cinema for a 2nd viewing (then a few more times on DVD)

the movie was eagerly anticipated in our house, my husband and I both having read and loved the short story years ago, and hearing that Ang Lee was doing the movie version made us very keen to see it.† I wonder if any other women have been introduced to Brokeback by their husbands?† †He read the story first, before insisting I read it then found out about the movie and booked up tickets for the first weekend showing.† Poor guy had no idea what an obsession it would become for me!† He's being very indulgent with me though and seems to find my crush on Jake amusing (I'm 38 and I think I'm having a second adolescence, oh well)

BTW can I just say -† †2nd night in tent - most beautiful love scene on screen ever!†

I supposed to be studying, I have an exam on Monday but have been neglectful of late (no prizes for guessing why).† If I fail my exam I'm gonna blame our blue-eyed boy and all you guys for being so cool and interesting I can't stay away!

'Guess I'll see you around huh'

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bbmbliss on June 09, 2006, 06:02:08 AM
Hi Ruby - welcome to the forum. 

I'm a fellow Brit too - nice to see another one!  There are quite a few of us knocking about here and there..  I'm sure I'll see you around.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on June 09, 2006, 07:48:06 AM
Wecome Ruby, your husband is way cool!
and I agree, 2nd night in tent - incredible!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 09, 2006, 08:43:05 AM
Wecome Ruby, your husband is way cool!
and I agree, 2nd night in tent - incredible!!!

SNIT, rocks!  *heavy panting, drool on keyboard* 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ruby on June 09, 2006, 09:06:47 AM
Thank you all for the warm welcome.  Yeah he's a great guy.  I got lucky.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on June 09, 2006, 01:05:35 PM
'Guess I'll see you around huh'



Darn right you will.....ha ha ha...Welcome to our family hon. AND your husband ROCKS !!!

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Fricky on June 09, 2006, 01:16:39 PM
am sorry saw this to late...

So what can i say...uhm..im from Germany so excuse my bad english.
Im Glad that someone gives us the chance to talk bout Ennis n Jack.

If someone wants to know more bout me ..pleez visit my profil.
You all seems to be very nice and tolerant..so please forgive my (sometimes very) euphoric Postings... *g

Im sure well have a nice time:)

Greetz,

Fricky
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on June 09, 2006, 02:04:23 PM
am sorry saw this to late...

So what can i say...uhm..im from Germany so excuse my bad english.
Im Glad that someone gives us the chance to talk bout Ennis n Jack.

If someone wants to know more bout me ..pleez visit my profil.
You all seems to be very nice and tolerant..so please forgive my (sometimes very) euphoric Postings... *g

Im sure well have a nice time:)

Greetz,

Fricky

Fricky, not that you are not welcome here but I'm sure you know that there is a german thread in this forum!
Incredible put true,

It's here
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8638.285
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Fricky on June 09, 2006, 02:07:09 PM
Thank you very much. ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: hpv on June 10, 2006, 09:42:48 AM
am sorry saw this to late...

So what can i say...uhm..im from Germany so excuse my bad english.
Im Glad that someone gives us the chance to talk bout Ennis n Jack.

If someone wants to know more bout me ..pleez visit my profil.
You all seems to be very nice and tolerant..so please forgive my (sometimes very) euphoric Postings... *g

Im sure well have a nice time:)

Greetz,

Fricky

Better late then...etc :D

Wow,what a beautiful avator you have!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Fricky on June 10, 2006, 04:25:11 PM
Thank you. My first one...inspired by Jack and Ennis ;)
Title: Re: New Members-- the spirit of love in BBM
Post by: prayerofthanks on June 12, 2006, 09:49:36 AM
I said "hello" a couple months ago, but didn't find an easy "introduce yourself" area. Glad to see this New Member area now. I'm like an earlier writer ... never used the computer for anything like this before (that is before January when I saw Brokeback and have been reading and visiting this website several times a week ever since), and reluctant when it comes to baring my soul. But I have to say that the dialogues have been so caring, the stories so heartfelt, the shared experience of Brokeback so powerful that I just can't *not* say a bit about how I come to this.

I am a person of faith, touched by the spirit of love as well as content of the Christians Who Love Brokeback thread. This spirit of love is evident on many other threads as well (yes, yes, as well as wonderful content!). To me, this spirit is at the core of the film: a magnificent, palpable portrayal of love.  Amazingly, a love that welcomes us to live in it, not just observe passively as a viewer. Incredible!!
 
One reason it speaks to me is because of the parallel with my own life experience. My beloved and I are in our 40s. We met at 19 and 21. A deep and enduring friendship grew between us. Sheltered by the denial (like Jack and Ennis "ain't queer", we weren't "lesbians"), we fell completely in love with one another. We too had a time of being apart (3 years), yet then we were able to envision a life together -- and choose it. And thrive and grow and find God and the Spirit of Love in and through that shared life.

Our experience is made even more poignant by the vicious attacks perpetrated by the rightwing religious extremists dominating American politics today. They manipulate those who sincerely feel fear of the unknown and are vulnerable to the hate-speech of James Dobson and the like that preys on that fear.

Meanwhile, our lives are a quiet testimony to the blessings of commitment and love between 2 whole persons who are of the same gender.

So I hear Jack's "how about you and me, we get a cow and calf operation" as a proposal of marriage: marriage understood as the uniting of two souls, not a list of legally dictated priviledges and responsibilities. Jack saw that their love called them to build a life together, to flourish and grow together in and through their love to bring more love into the world; love that I know as God's Love, but for those for whom "God" language is alienating, put in the idea of being brought forward into the world in order to share the best of yourself to contibute to the creation of a world of love, kindness, generousity, gentleness, awe and wonder. (I'm borrowing that list of uplifting adjectives from Rabbi Michael Lerner)

Thanks for reading this far. I'm at a time when I feel led to try to articulate big ideas. My experence of Broakback feeds me and gives me the courage to keep trying. I appreciate your giving these thoughts a read.

Best to each of you,
Heather

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tcolors on June 12, 2006, 09:53:57 AM
Hi all,

† I'm not really neeeew but, I'd like to say hello to all!

First off I found out about BBM through googleing Heath Ledger. I love him as an actor. After finding out about BBM I drove my co-workers crazy until I got to see it. Which was in Jan. 29th/06. I bought the first ticket! I went back twice after that. Which includes the last showing the theater had. I actually got into trouble with my boss for having a pic of Jake in my desk. He told me to get rid of it. I did.........and replaced it with a stick figure wearing a cowboy hat! He was annoyed, I loved it! He went to a company convention and the comedian they hired was Jay Leno......well, he joked about BBM. When my boss returned to work he made a statement at our meeting saying "No more talk about BBM"! I was laughing.

Anywho, I'm 40 and single at this point. I was in a 12yr relationship that my partner ended (I can't blame him). Since then I have been on my own. I started dating a married guy. I know, I know, but his wife knows he's gay. She will not give him a divorce. After meeting me and dating for a few months he filed for one. She was gonna take everything. ( I had the whole story here but thought I'd better take it out. We live in small Townes and I'd hate for anything to happen to him due to me.) We only talk and go to lunch every now and again since. His child has about 2 more years of school. My friend has gotten to the point that after his child graduates he doesn't care what his wife does to him, he needs out. I don't know if we'll be together after his divorce. I'd be willing to date, but who knows? I haven't sat around waiting for him, and he asked me not to, said it would be unfair of him. He could've asked, but I wasn't just gonna sit around waiting, and I would have told him that. I have told him of every guy I dated and told every guy I dated of him. I'm not one to just jump in the sack, so, unfortunately (perhaps) my relationships with these gentlemen didn't last long. Which is fine by me. I just think there's more to a relationship than sex. Sex is an important part but not a defining factor.

† My friends have called me naive. I tell them I'm 40........I think the word is stupid now! lol. They say my relationships (for lack of a better term) don't last because I don't put out. If that's the case so be it. I'm fine, and I can wait ( I think?). Although,† not to many shopping days left till Christmas lol. Hopeless romantic?, you bet! I'm not mushy though!

I gave a copy of BBM to the friend I spoke of above. Knowing he'd never go see it. I wanted to see if it would move him in any way. When I asked him what he thought. He didn't say much. Which tells me (because I know him so well) he was touched. I'm sure he saw alot of him in those characters. Again, he doesn't necessarily have to be with me. Just be happy, that's all I want for him. So if he finds happiness in me great. If he finds it in someone else, I'll be disappointed but very happy for him.

When I watch BBM I don't cry. The movie fills me with strength. It stirs a longing in me that I know I'll complete. Even if I don't, I'll know I didn't settle and remained true to myself. So I can be happy in whatever life throws my way. I was stagnant in life before watching BBM. Since my BBM experience I've busied myself with making changes to move forward with life. I don't plan on missing a thing. Everything that happened to me in life to this point has made me the person I am. So I treasure every past experience good or bad. They complete me.

Thanks for reading!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on June 12, 2006, 10:32:17 AM
nice writeup tcolors...

perhaps you might like to peek in the gay and gray thread where we are discussing much the same thing, perhaps from a perspective 10 years further down the road.  and you used my most important personal insight, which many have "heard" me say.  it has taken every experience in my life to make me the man i am today.  without learning from them i would be less.

welcome,

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on June 12, 2006, 10:34:17 AM
ennisdaughter...

welcome, and thank you for sharing a bio many of us are hoping to emulate, and your joy of "living in love".

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: glassrobot on June 12, 2006, 01:34:56 PM

Well apparently i never bothered to scroll down to the bottom half of the page with all the forum listings.  Ooops.

A little late, but here I am.

I'm from Queens, NY. Graduated last May a degree in anthropology but am now doing freelance web production/graphic design.   I'm saving up so I can go on a few excavations experience under my belt before I apply to grad school (want to get a masters). 

In my spare time....which is a lot since I'm still trying to find full-time work, I play computer games and watch those forensic FBI shows on the Discovery network.  And read fanfiction (anime, mainly and some LoTR).   I drink too much coffee and iced tea and not enough healthy things like water or orange juice.   I have 2 cats, 1 sister, and a boyfriend.  The boyfriend may be up for adoption.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on June 12, 2006, 02:07:34 PM

Well apparently i never bothered to scroll down to the bottom half of the page with all the forum listings.† Ooops.

A little late, but here I am.

I'm from Queens, NY. Graduated last May a degree in anthropology but am now doing freelance web production/graphic design.† †I'm saving up so I can go on a few excavations experience under my belt before I apply to grad school (want to get a masters).†

In my spare time....which is a lot since I'm still trying to find full-time work, I play computer games and watch those forensic FBI shows on the Discovery network.† And read fanfiction (anime, mainly and some LoTR).† †I drink too much coffee and iced tea and not enough healthy things like water or orange juice.† †I have 2 cats, 1 sister, and a boyfriend.† The boyfriend may be up for adoption.

Welcome home!

Is the boyfriend neutered ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 12, 2006, 02:22:34 PM
The boyfriend may be up for adoption.

Welcome home!

Is the boyfriend neutered ;D

Great come back.   ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on June 12, 2006, 02:37:43 PM
Great come back.† †;D ;D

Thanks TB, I couldn't resist!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: glassrobot on June 12, 2006, 02:48:59 PM

Is the boyfriend neutered ;D

Errm. Hmmm, well not physically. Philosophically ......?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on June 12, 2006, 07:54:33 PM

Is the boyfriend neutered ;D

Errm. Hmmm, well not physically. Philosophically ......?

Oh!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ellemeno on June 13, 2006, 01:26:28 AM
Hi Everyone, I live in Seattle, I've seen BBM a mess o' times, and I've been obsessed since October when I first read the story and got on IMDb.†

Since the IMDb troll wars, I've been living cozily at BetterMost.net, which is wonderful, but so enjoyed the exuberant people I met tonight from this board at the Castro BBM screening in San Francisco, that I am visiting here too.†

Ellemeno
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: LSky94 on June 13, 2006, 02:10:02 AM
Welcome, Ellemeno.  Amazing how a film can bring so many people together isn't it. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on June 13, 2006, 08:40:58 AM
Ellemeno:  Welcome to the Dave Cullen board!  I prolly saw ya sometime yesterday but don't recognize you by your handle.  Yeah, it's a good board, no? 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 13, 2006, 08:49:00 AM
What does ellemeno do first thing in the morning???


pee   ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: littledarlin on June 13, 2006, 11:00:50 AM
Hello ellemeno!!  I am so jealous you went to the Castro screening :D!!  I live too far away and don't know if it will ever play in my area again :'(.  Welcome to the board!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jen_i on June 13, 2006, 11:07:55 AM
At last I feel brave enough to register.  I am a long-time lurker.  Since early February, I have been spending hours here each day, reading thoughtful and insightful posts that have added tremendous depth and richness to my experience of the Brokeback Mountain film and story and related topics.
Having no experience with this sort of thing and a long-time reticence about internet chat-rooms, I am surprised to find myself drawn repeatedly to this vibrant forum.  It is irresistible to me to find people who freely discuss very complex ideas that are frequently of little interest or simply off-limits to most people I know.
I have recently read some outstanding books (The Charioteer, On Becoming a Man) and seen outstanding films (Maurice, Burnt Money, Before Night Falls, among others) based on recommendations I found here, and I am working my way through many more.

I am a 45 year old straight woman, wife, mother of two fantastic teenage daughters, and I have everything I ever wanted: a nice home in a safe suburban neighborhood with parks, a library, good schools, friendly neighbors, in the SF bay area where I grew up.  I have been working in biotech research for over 20 years in order to support myself and my family.  My husband is the best imaginable--his sister has said he is in "in touch with his feminine side".

Yet still I find something missing in my life.  I am currently  dealing with recurrent depression that's been bad enough to keep me home from work, a classic case of burn-out and mid-life crisis.  The discussions here are helping me feel part of something larger than myself, to feel a part of the greater human condition.  Perhaps it sounds corny but I don't know how else to explain it.  I send sincere thanks to all who have created this place and been part of its growing community.  I'm working on composing a few posts to start out with.  Hopefully I, too, can become a part of this community.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: graylockV on June 13, 2006, 11:32:52 AM
Welcome jen_i - thanks for joining this forum. 

I can tell from your initial posting that your insights will add to the overall richness of this forum.

Again, welcome aboard!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: LSky94 on June 13, 2006, 12:03:21 PM
Hopefully I, too, can become a part of this community.

And now you are :)  Welcome jen_i
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: littledarlin on June 13, 2006, 12:40:43 PM

Having no experience with this sort of thing and a long-time reticence about internet chat-rooms, I am surprised to find myself drawn repeatedly to this vibrant forum. It is irresistible to me to find people who freely discuss very complex ideas that are frequently of little interest or simply off-limits to most people I know.
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Me too!!

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Yet still I find something missing in my life. I am currently dealing with recurrent depression that's been bad enough to keep me home from work, a classic case of burn-out and mid-life crisis. The discussions here are helping me feel part of something larger than myself, to feel a part of the greater human condition. Perhaps it sounds corny but I don't know how else to explain it. I send sincere thanks to all who have created this place and been part of its growing community. I'm working on composing a few posts to start out with. Hopefully I, too, can become a part of this community.


Not corny at all.  Many of us have "found" something within ourselves, good or bad, as a result of this beautiful movie, the outstanding book,  and the people on this site.  Keep searching your soul, (praying helps me a lot) and you'll find what you're missing.  Some need a professional to pull it out of them, not a bad thing at all, but not very beneficial to me.  I find  freedom here that I lack in my day to day life, because nobody I know wants to talk about BB as much as me :D!!

Welcome to the neighborhood Jen_i !!  It's good to have you here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: foothills on June 13, 2006, 03:03:36 PM
This movie was wonderful.† (I am a married, middle-aged woman who is a minister and mother of two.)† I need some advice on how early to watch this film with my 13 year-old son.† I believe he is probably gay and have attempted to give him every opportunity to talk with me about anything, but I am wary of "labeling" a child. Also, there is the one slightly graphic scene.† Any guidance?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 13, 2006, 03:14:35 PM
This movie was wonderful.† (I am a married, middle-aged woman who is a minister and mother of two.)† I need some advice on how early to watch this film with my 13 year-old son.† I believe he is probably gay and have attempted to give him every opportunity to talk with me about anything, but I am wary of "labeling" a child. Also, there is the one slightly graphic scene.† Any guidance?

It is very possible that he "knows" what is going on.  In 7th grade I thought I was bi, by 9th grade I knew I was gay.  Give him a couple of years.  Really you know best.  What I would've liked was to hear positive things from my parents.  I remember a conversation my father was a part of that I only listened to.  Somebody asked him if he thought homosexuality was a sickness and he said yes.  This was 1970's so cut him some slack.  But if the opportunity ever comes up, just say positive things.  This will be an invitation for him.  He will know that you are okay with it.  You and your husband, if possible, might stage a conversation.  That sounds manipulative but direct questioning might seem confrontational and he will clam up.  In short, just let him have the knowledge that it is okay with you, that way he will feel like he can tell you when he is ready.  Also, professional advice might be best.  Not counseling for him, but professional advice for you.  Good luck.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 13, 2006, 03:19:03 PM
This movie was wonderful.† (I am a married, middle-aged woman who is a minister and mother of two.)† I need some advice on how early to watch this film with my 13 year-old son.† I believe he is probably gay and have attempted to give him every opportunity to talk with me about anything, but I am wary of "labeling" a child. Also, there is the one slightly graphic scene.† Any guidance?

It is very possible that he "knows" what is going on.† In 7th grade I thought I was bi, by 9th grade I knew I was gay.† Give him a couple of years.† Really you know best.† What I would've liked was to hear positive things from my parents.† I remember a conversation my father was a part of that I only listened to.† Somebody asked him if he thought homosexuality was a sickness and he said yes.† This was 1970's so cut him some slack.† But if the opportunity ever comes up, just say positive things.† This will be an invitation for him.† He will know that you are okay with it.† You and your husband, if possible, might stage a conversation.† That sounds manipulative but direct questioning might seem confrontational and he will clam up.† In short, just let him have the knowledge that it is okay with you, that way he will feel like he can tell you when he is ready.† Also, professional advice might be best.† Not counseling for him, but professional advice for you.† Good luck.

Sorry, I just realized, I answered the wrong question.  He may be able to see it right now, but maybe in a year or two for sure.  You're his mom.  Remember, mom knows best.   :) :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 13, 2006, 03:24:02 PM
By the way, foothills, thanks.  I wish I had a mom like you.  That may bide you over until he realizes he should thank you himself.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on June 13, 2006, 03:28:37 PM
By the way, foothills, thanks.† I wish I had a mom like you.† That may bide you over until he realizes he should thank you himself.

TB this is sooo sweet :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Aussie Bloke on June 14, 2006, 02:34:28 AM
Hi Foothills
Welcome to the post. Gee I wish I had a mum like you when I was thirteen, I've got a pretty good mum now but when I was thirteen theres no way I could have gone to her with the fear and hurt that was deep in my soul.
Now Mum and I talk about how much our Aussie govt sucks about blocking same-sex unions (but we still dont talk about "us" !!! :-\) and mum now has two grandchildren from my sister and her girlfriend so I guess she's come a long way.
Good luck to you and I'm sure you'll figure out the right thing to do. You might track down the UK film "Beautiful Thing " and have a look at it. It has younger fellahs in it.
Bye for now
Aussie Bloke
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: foxart on June 15, 2006, 10:37:02 AM
This is my first post, although I've been visiting the forum regularly since the week following the Oscars, where unfortunately the greatest movie...EVER was jilted for Best Picture. My obsession with BBM began in early January after seeing the trailer on TV. I went to the official BBM website and was hooked. I purchased the soundtrack, story to screenplay book, and later 2 copies of the DVD. The closest theater was in Wichita, Kansas a 200 mile round-trip from my small town, a journey I made 4 times and worth every single mile driven. My fellow movie-goers were obviously spellbound, and I was lucky to visit briefly with several of them, since none of my friends/acquaintances were remotely interested when I told them about this wonderful film. I took my 17 year old daughter on the third viewing, she thought it was a "really good movie" but was thankfully not obsessed like her mother! I don't have the words to describe the extreme emotional impact this beautiful story has had on my life, but reading this forum has proven I'm not alone in these feelings, which I now keep totally private. I've attempted to analyze why BBM affected me so deeply but have no clear answers. Ennis & Jack are permanently etched in my heart and mind.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 15, 2006, 10:55:31 AM
foxart,

Wielkommen, bien venue, welcome.  I thought I had it bad with 100 mile round trip to see the movie.  It is an amazing thing!  None of us is really sure why it happened or what even happened.  I think, for me at least, it gave offers the opportunity to love something.  I don't have a great view of the world or of humankind.  It's getting better, thanks to this place and the people I've met here.  People I can share something really unique with who really do understand.  Now that you found your voice you can tell us more, in time.  It's odd that a movie that shows the great harm that the world can inflict on individuals should almost restore my faith in that very world, but it has.  Well, enough.  Since you've been lurking, you probably know your way around the place, but, if you get lost just speak up and, mysteriously, someone will hear it and come to help.   :-* :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on June 15, 2006, 02:48:09 PM
This movie was wonderful.† (I am a married, middle-aged woman who is a minister and mother of two.)† I need some advice on how early to watch this film with my 13 year-old son.† I believe he is probably gay and have attempted to give him every opportunity to talk with me about anything, but I am wary of "labeling" a child. Also, there is the one slightly graphic scene.† Any guidance?

The coming out process is different for everyone, although there are some common stages.  It's a very scary process for someone who isn't emotionally mature, and hasn't had a lot of "romantic" experiences.  Some people just know right off the bat, make the decision, and bam, they're out.  Others tell someone they know they can trust to not reject them, then they tell someone they aren't sure about being rejected. It happens in stages as the person grows up.  Some men I know in their adulthood have never come out to thier parents, it just remains unsaid, but understood. 

I would just tell you to follow your heart.  It will be your best guide in the process.  Thank God for your son that you have a big one!

In my opinion, this movie might be lost on your son.  He doesn't have the life experiences to relate to the lost opportunities, regrets, love unfulfilled, etc that are the most poignant messages of the movie.  I just don't know if he would have anything in his life thus far to relate to the story.  Hopefully he won't have to live in the closet, another main point of the film.  I think the less emotionally developed don't get the same effect from the movie as those whose life has brought them some pain and rejection, regret, dreams left unfulfilled, opportunities lost.

I've said this on the imdb threads many times.  You get from the movie what you bring to it. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on June 15, 2006, 07:13:28 PM
and i like the suggestion from earlier to check out a "beautiful thing" which is much closer in age and experience.  more suggestions can be found on the parents of gays thread.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: nova on June 16, 2006, 05:13:12 AM

I'm proud to announce that today I got my "Feet Wet".

I am no longer a "Virgin".
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on June 16, 2006, 05:20:15 AM

I'm proud to announce that today I got my "Feet Wet".

I am no longer a "Virgin".


YEAH !!!....congrats....ha ha ha

(http://i50.photobucket.com/albums/f314/lari_brasil/thhappyNY_12.png)

Nice to meet you by the way...

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: nova on June 16, 2006, 06:26:21 AM

Thanks Nellie!  It's very nice to meet you too.  And I'm glad to be here.



Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on June 19, 2006, 02:07:56 AM
This movie was wonderful.† (I am a married, middle-aged woman who is a minister and mother of two.)† I need some advice on how early to watch this film with my 13 year-old son.† I believe he is probably gay and have attempted to give him every opportunity to talk with me about anything, but I am wary of "labeling" a child. Also, there is the one slightly graphic scene.† Any guidance?

I would concur with what has gone before, Jack's advice is very sound.  Your son is lucky to have a mom like you.  It's only in later life that a boy/man discovers that his best friend is his mom.  All that you can do, whatever the outcome is be supportive and loving.  Seeing Brokeback, well, I can think it can give the wrong message that gay relationships are painful and futile - which is not the case - this movie deals with relationships the fact that it has a "gay" theme is immaterial. It wouldn't do your son any harm to see it, but you might give a throwaway comment to him after seeing it along the lines of "wasn't it a shame Jack and Ennis couldn't get their lives together - what a waste", a comment like this asks no questions but shows where you stand. I'm sure you'll cope and so will he.

Neil.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on June 19, 2006, 02:09:48 AM

Thanks Nellie!† It's very nice to meet you too.† And I'm glad to be here.


Hello Nova welcome to the forum drop by Aunties 24 hour Diner for a virtual coffee and chat.

Nax
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: nova on June 19, 2006, 10:22:26 AM

Thanks Nax!  I haven't been there yet, but I'll drop by the Diner one of these days.  I've heard good things about it.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: claudew on June 20, 2006, 03:49:10 PM
Hi everyone. My name is Claude Wynne. I have been coming to the forum for months but have made only one (somewhat controversial) post so far. I am 50 years old and was active in the gay movement in New York and San Francisco in the 70s and 80s.

My activism began at the age of 15 in 1971 when I ran away from my home in Queens to Greenwich Village, inspired equally by the counter-culture and gay liberation. I had been subject to bullying in school from an early age for being a ďfaggotĒ. When I discovered that I was gay at 13 (the same year of Stonewall, which I was aware of thanks to a gay program on WBAI, the left-wing radio station of the Pacifica Foundation) I told everyone. I figured I didnít have much to lose. When the harassment became too much I ran away. I immediately joined the Gay Activists Alliance (GAA) and their Speakersí Bureau (known internally as the Agit-Prop Committee) and spoke to high school students about being gay, hoping to spare other kids from some of what I had endured. I moved to San Francisco in 1974 at the age of 18. I was one of the founding members of Bay Area Gay Liberation (BAGL) later that year.

Improving media images of gays has always been one of my passions. While in GAA I had the pleasure of knowing the late Vito Russo, the author of The Celluloid Closet. One of my first actions in San Francisco was to protest an anti-gay episode of Marcus Welby, MD on ABC. I was a member of the San Francisco committee protesting the movie Cruising (some scenes were filmed here). I am a member of Frameline (http://www.frameline.org/), sponsor of the San Francisco LGBT Film Festival (http://www.frameline.org/festival/30th/index.html), which is going on now. This is my favorite time of the year. I also have a  website - claudesplace.com (http://www.claudesplace.com) - together with my friend David Lamble, who is a film critic whose work appears in the B.A.R. (Bay Area Reporter), the leading gay newspaper in San Francisco. The site is devoted to independent films from a queer perspective and features movie reviews and streaming video interviews by David of filmmakers and actors. I also occasionally contribute political and social commentary, which I hope to increase this year.

I have seen Brokeback ten times in the theater. I have been waiting my whole life for a movie like this. I wish Vito was still here to see it. It shows how far weíve come. On the other hand, some of the reactions to it including the Oscar snub show how much work there still is to be done.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on June 21, 2006, 12:46:26 AM
Welcome, Claude!

I remember you and remember that post of yours. Actually it was right on the money even I didn't agree with all in it, but you brought up themes that need to be discussed.

And I agree, it is sad that Vito never could see this movie. I have read "Celluloid closet" several times, sought out the movies Vito talked about. His book has been one of my guiding lights when "reading the movies". Have you ever read "Seduced and Abandoned" by Paul Burrows?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: youngdoe on June 22, 2006, 10:55:38 AM
Hello, I'm Young Doe.   I have been lurking here since early March, and I have posted a few times on the Women's thread.   I am a straight, 52 year-old woman, married for almost twenty years to a wonderful, very open-minded man who also loves BBM.   He is not as obsessed as I am.  I am certified as an OCD person.  So, you see I feel right at home on the uBBMforum.  I am so impressed with the comments I have read all over the forum.  It seems that every day I find some new thread to explore.   There is so much kindness and support here, as well as very insightful thinking.   I recently viewed the entire film again on DVD.   I was so overwhelmed by sadness at the end, that I was gratefull to have the forum to go, just for solace.  I am also a mother of two boys, one is 18 years and he has just graduated high school.  He is a great guy, and he is wonderful with his younger brother who is ten years old and  also autistic.  Which brings me to another topic.  I feel that I have gained more empathy and understanding for what gay people experience everyday from the movie and also the forum.  Also I think I have become even more accepting of "differentness" in general, as it applies to my own family and beyond.  In the long journey of caring for my son ever since his diagnosis, we have all grown and changed greatly.   I love my son the way he is,  he is a wonderful little boy the way he is.  I no longer feel that I have to change him or make him better'. I want to help him to learn to be as independent as he can be and to enjoy life.  He as a wonderful quality of enjoying the 'here and now'.  I feel that that's is something we can all learn from. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: graylockV on June 22, 2006, 03:38:36 PM
   
I love my son the way he is,  he is a wonderful little boy the way he is.  I no longer feel that I have to change him or make him better'.

He as a wonderful quality of enjoying the 'here and now'.  I feel that that's is something we can all learn from. 

Hello youngdoe.

Welcome.  Thank you for your beautiful post.  It just made my day.

It's folks like you who keep the rest of us coming back for more.  Your kids sound great - they are lucky to have a mom so insightful and compassionate.

I look forward to reading your postings.

Again, welcome!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: clearwoodlouishill on June 22, 2006, 04:11:31 PM
I noticed that when I registered for this website that I did not introduce myself. I became obsessed with BBM when I was first shown newspaper features on the topic in fall 2005. I first bought the audio book, the first thing available at the book store I went to. I listened to it at least three times before I finally got the booklet of the short story. That I read 7 or 8 times. This was all before the film came out. I was counting the days until the film came out in mid December. I only saw the film in the movie theaters twice, or maybe three times. BBM has had a major impact on my emotional life in an even greater way than the E.M. Forster "Maurice" film of 1988 or the 1982 "Making Love" had. I was one of the first in the store I went to to get the DVD on that wonderful day it came out. I received a free copy of "From Short Story to Screenplay" at the store I bought the DVD from. I have watched the film now maybe 10 times from the DVD. I have to say that the film is my all time favorite.

I was so devastated and disgusted by the enormous snub the Academy gave it by choosing "Trash"--I mean, "Crash"--over BBM. I am like that person who text messaged to the New York Times: I will never watch another Academy Awards show ever again. They have nothing to say to me about films or the art of film. I now despise Tony Curtis and Gene Shallit, whom I used to think were pretty good guys. I liked Roger Ebert's review of BBM, which helped me cope with its snub from the Oscars. Ebert was an instigator in promoting "Trash"--I mean, "Crash", though. His review of BBM I think exonerates him. Gene Shallit's son should see that in his father's review of BBM may reside a latent bitterness at his son's being gay no matter how accepting he may protest he is.

I have nothing but love for Annie Proulx, Diana Osana, Larry McMurtry, Ang Lee, Jake Gyllenhaal, Heath Ledger, Anne Hathaway, and Michelle Williams. Ang's beautiful smile personifies love, and Jake Gyllenhaal's on screen persona rivals even the alluring James Dean, who was killed on the last day of the month in which I was born, September, 1955. I think that our lives and the world is a better place because of BBM, because love is a force of nature.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on June 23, 2006, 05:24:27 AM

I have nothing but love for Annie Proulx, Diana Osana, Larry McMurtry, Ang Lee, Jake Gyllenhaal, Heath Ledger, Anne Hathaway, and Michelle Williams. Ang's beautiful smile personifies love, and Jake Gyllenhaal's on screen persona rivals even the alluring James Dean, who was killed on the last day of the month in which I was born, September, 1955. I think that our lives and the world is a better place because of BBM, because love is a force of nature.

Hello Louis, thanks for posting that, you're not alone in these feelings bout BBM  (and by the way I loved "Maurice" the juxtaposition between him and Alex Scudder was raw thrills for me).  BBM continues to win awards and the Academy are entitle to their view - but as I'm sure you are aware, people then start to have a view of them!!!

Pop by aunties 24 Diner which is also in the "Meet the neighbors section" some of us are on line at any time of the day or night - pop in for a virtual coffee and some chat with the like minded.

Cheers

Neil
Title: Brokeback Research - How did it affect you?
Post by: craig1974 on June 26, 2006, 06:06:29 AM
Hi All

Itís good see so many other people interested in Brokeback Mountain.  I am currently currently conducting academic research at the University of Sussex UK and would really like to hear from you all to get audience feedback about the film and in particular the portrayal of the Jack Twist and Ennis Del Mar characters.  If you are happy to take part in this short piece of research, please email firstly with any thoughts you have on these characters and in particular the way they represented homosexuality and masculinity.  I will also forward you a short questionnaire once I have received your email.   

Please send email responses to cdh22@sussex.ac.uk



Many thanks in advance

Craig Haslop
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Edmund Paul on June 26, 2006, 04:51:57 PM
Hello. I'd be happy to take part in this research. I'll mail you directly.

Edmund Paul M.Phil
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on June 27, 2006, 02:49:11 AM


"There ain't no reigns on this one..." - E. Del Mar, BBM
Stookslady honey you are not alone! Our experiences and the those of many here are the same.  Even though we are in long term relationships that are fulfilling, this film just hits a soft spot and we fall to pieces (all credit to Annie Proulx, Ang Lee and the cast).  It is a watershed, it leaves you venerable but hopefully lets you move on stronger.  If you haven't read the short story Brokeback Mountain I would recommend that you do.  Stop by Aunties 24hour diner sometime for some "virtual" coffee and a chat with a nice crowd.

Kindest regards

Neil
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on June 28, 2006, 06:22:09 PM
hi everyone
my name is melissa. i am a 26 year old divorced single mom and ft student from indiana in the good ol usa.
i almost feel stupid for how i've been feeling and reacting for the last month or so since seeing brokeback for the first time.
let me explain: i never watch tv/movies as i have no time to do anything when school is in session but work, papers, and time with alisha, my daughter.
as soon as i heard about brokeback, i wanted to see it, and i'm still cursing myself for not finding the time to see it on the big screen.
well, school let out in mid may, and the next weekend, i got my copy of brokeback and watched it with a friend.
i don't know what i'd been expecting, i guess i'd thought the love scenes would be hot and i was hoping the plot would be good.
i'd never read the short story, and although i was never prejudiced about whoever someone loved, i'd never really thought that much about it either, y'know.
well goddamn was i blown away. i felt like someone had poured liquid fire into my heart as i sat like a stone with tears dripping through my first viewing.
when it was over i sent my friend home, my only rational thought being i need to be alone to see this again by myself.
when i saw ennis holding on to and feeling jack in the second tent scene, i just lost it. it was like his whole life he never knew how to breathe, and then here it was jack ewas his air. he could finally let go ... and the way jack held him like he would save his ennis from his own damn self... i just lost it, damn i'm getting teary just typing this.
i've never felt that way... i've been divorced for 3 years from a man who phsically abused me and worse while i was pregnant with our child and when i left him it was like there is that part of me that is closed off. i stopped knowing how to be around people, if that makes sense. I mean i'm an honors student, i coach alisha's soccer league, i love sports, and all... but there was and still is this huge part of me that is closed. no admittance cuz i can't afford to make another mistake.
when i saw ennis all alone in that shitty little trailer mourning the love of his life and deeply regretting how he let his fear destory their lives, i died inside a little.
you see, i looked at ennis and i saw me.
i meam i'm a girl and i'm strait, but that's just semantics because regret and lonliness knows no demographics.
i'm still heartbroken now. i can't let this go
damn i went out and bought a new damn computer just so i could go online and get every little piece of brokeback mountain i could find.
i'm so glad i found this too you truly have no idea.
i just don't feel ok anymore but alternately all i want to do is bring ennis and jack into my home and take care of them and keep them and their love safe.
there is no one i can talk to about this and no one who understands..
brokeback was the best most phenomenal movie i've evr seen, and its not letting me go
i loved it
i love ennis and jack
i read madlori's human interest story and i swear i smiled for the first time in weeks.
i can't count the number of times i've read the book, seen the dvd, or trolled the web looking for something, anything about my boys.
now this is going to sound stupid, but the other day after reading human interest, i sat outside my house after dark, smoking and rereading and for the first time since my divorce, i wasn't scared to be outside in the dark alone. i figyuired if my boys ennis and jack could be brave, then goddammit i wasn't gonna shake in my shoes like a jerk waiting for my ex husband to come and get me.
for the first time i felt a little bit freer
for the first time i got a taste of that sweet life
what it would feel like to live without fear all the time.
thanks and sorry to spew my life out like this, just can't help it
melissa
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: graylockV on June 28, 2006, 06:46:34 PM
Wow, Melissa.  Let me be the first to welcome you to a place where you belong - where people understand every word you have said and appreciate all the feelings you are experiencing.  There is a lot on this website for you to delve into, but I suggest you start with the support thread:  How Brokeback Affected Me.   And there are threads for straight people, parents, etc. 

We are a cornucopia.

Welcome, friend.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on June 28, 2006, 06:58:21 PM

there is no one i can talk to about this and no one who understands..
brokeback was the best most phenomenal movie i've evr seen, and its not letting me go
i loved it
i love ennis and jack

Well, there are hundreds of people here who understand exactly what's happening.  We are all at different stages but we all know.  Cuz it happened to us.  I bought a brand new computer and got online just because of this movie.  I swore that I would never have a computer in my house.  Well, now I do.  Because I too love Jack and Ennis.  So speak up.  Check the place out and feel free to say anything you want to. ;) ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: littledarlin on June 28, 2006, 07:56:08 PM
as soon as i heard about brokeback, i wanted to see it, and i'm still cursing myself for not finding the time to see it on the big screen.

i don't know what i'd been expecting, i guess i'd thought the love scenes would be hot and i was hoping the plot would be good.
i'd never read the short story, and although i was never prejudiced about whoever someone loved, i'd never really thought that much about it either, y'know.
well goddamn was i blown away. i felt like someone had poured liquid fire into my heart as i sat like a stone with tears dripping through my first viewing.

i've never felt that way...
when i saw ennis all alone in that shitty little trailer mourning the love of his life and deeply regretting how he let his fear destory their lives, i died inside a little.
you see, i looked at ennis and i saw me.
i meam i'm a girl and i'm strait, but that's just semantics because regret and lonliness knows no demographics.
i'm still heartbroken now. i can't let this go
i just don't feel ok anymore but alternately all i want to do is bring ennis and jack into my home and take care of them and keep them and their love safe.
there is no one i can talk to about this and no one who understands..
brokeback was the best most phenomenal movie i've evr seen, and its not letting me go
i loved it
i love ennis and jack
i read madlori's human interest story and i swear i smiled for the first time in weeks.
i can't count the number of times i've read the book, seen the dvd, or trolled the web looking for something, anything about my boys.

for the first time i got a taste of that sweet life
what it would feel like to live without fear all the time.

Hi melissasjack

I quoted almost all of your beautiful post because it mirrors my own first month of Brokeback.  You are definitely NOT alone, you can always talk to us and we will always understand!!  I am amazed every day at the people who feel the same because of this movie.  The first few weeks were very dark and sad (the fan fic helps a lot) and the light in my heart is shining brighter everyday. Thanks to Ennis and Jack and their incredible love story.  Ennis lost Jack but he has given us the chance to learn from and not repeat his mistakes.  Life is too short for it not to be sweet!

It will always break my heart but it has renewed my spirit for finding love and happiness in this lifetime. 


Thank you for the lovely post, I'm glad you're here!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on June 28, 2006, 08:19:44 PM
thanks guys
i've never poured out my heart and soul like this before
it feels so good to know that i am not the only one
that i am not alone
melissa
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on June 28, 2006, 09:51:42 PM
melissa...

i hope you take the time to both go back to the beginnings of threads as well as find some to be current in.  you will likely feel much relieved to see the arc of feelings play out time and again.  i am a 62 year old gay man, andi got the same wakeup call you did.  i had made my quiet nest and decided to settle for just enough of life to be comfortable, giving up the quest for a compion or love.  follow me around for a bit, and you will see i have put the resigned semi hermit away and begun to vigorously look for what i want and what i want to be.  if i can do this, and others can do this, so can you.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: johnk on June 30, 2006, 10:14:56 PM
Hey friends,

Been on here for six months but never properly introduced myself.† Johnk here from Philly.† My s.o.* of 25 years took me to see BBM for my birthday in late December.† I love movies alot , but frankly I haven't ever had quite such an experience -† my doors were blown off.† Even s. o. cried at the end.† I went seven more times.† Then the DVD came out...and is it possible to wear out a CD?

Hope you are all well and all is cool.

Peace.

johnk

...for what it's worth.

*significant other (footnotes!)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on June 30, 2006, 11:26:35 PM
jack ,
just wanted to tell you thanks so much
after all, what is sweeter than hope, y'know.
so glas i found you guys
melissa


also, welcome, johnk
i can't think of anyplace i'd rather be than here
well, unless i got a one way ticket to 1963 wyoming
:)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on June 30, 2006, 11:28:25 PM
john..

i figured out s.o. all by myself  ;D

welcome to officially being "a part of" rather than a spectator, and thanks for taking the time to do an intro.  now i hope you will check out the more conversational threads, and even check out the directions for posting a photo of yourself, or other things you would like to share with us,

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: trubrokeback on July 03, 2006, 01:52:51 PM
Hi Folks,
First of all, I so glad to have found this site.  I thought I was the only one who was so preoccupied/obsessed/overwhelmed/disturbed or whatever word you want to insert by this movie.  No film has ever affected me so much, and I'm glad to see that there are others who seem to have had a similar experience.  I've never participated in one of these discussion boards before, so please bear with me while I learned how to work it, and the etiquette, and so on.  Thanks to those of you who run this site and all who contribute.  I've read some wonderful things and have learned so much already. 

Dan  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on July 03, 2006, 02:01:32 PM
Hi Trubrokeback! Welcome to our obssession!
You'll find all you need in the "Using the board" thread. There's a site map up there in that box on your right.
Feel free to ask any questions!

Enjoy and don't be shy, we never bite!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on July 03, 2006, 02:01:36 PM
Hi Folks,
First of all, I so glad to have found this site.† I thought I was the only one who was so preoccupied/obsessed/overwhelmed/disturbed or whatever word you want to insert by this movie.† No film has ever affected me so much, and I'm glad to see that there are others who seem to have had a similar experience.† I've never participated in one of these discussion boards before, so please bear with me while I learned how to work it, and the etiquette, and so on.† Thanks to those of you who run this site and all who contribute.† I've read some wonderful things and have learned so much already.†

Dan† :)

Dan!  Welcome, welcome, welcome!  Congratulations for having found the Forum!  You will find this place to be the friendliest bunch of brokies this side of the Bighorn Mountains, so enjoy your stay and have a look around!   :) :) :)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on July 03, 2006, 02:03:04 PM
"This side of the Bighorn Mountains" hyperbole, of course, fellow international brokies!   ;) ;) ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on July 03, 2006, 02:22:01 PM
Hi Folks,
First of all, I so glad to have found this site. I thought I was the only one who was so preoccupied/obsessed/overwhelmed/disturbed or whatever word you want to insert by this movie. No film has ever affected me so much, and I'm glad to see that there are others who seem to have had a similar experience. I've never participated in one of these discussion boards before, so please bear with me while I learned how to work it, and the etiquette, and so on. Thanks to those of you who run this site and all who contribute. I've read some wonderful things and have learned so much already.

Dan :)

Hi Dan and welcome hon,

You're in the right place,I'll tell ya. So glad you found us and please continue to post and join in all these wonderful threads.

Hugs

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: rickpouch on July 04, 2006, 11:03:38 AM
It's great to see that so many of us that have been here since December are still around ( and welcoming the newcomers!)

And I'll add my, "Welcome" to the new folks. This is a great site and although I don't post a lot, it has been a major daily destination for me since I first arrived here in December.

Welcome!

Rich (Chicago)
"rickpouch".
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on July 05, 2006, 08:08:24 AM
Rich (Chicago)
"rickpouch".

Boy......you're from Chicago?...me too..we may have chatted before,can't remember...(alzheimers)....just moved to Niles though...lived in Chicago all my life...around North/Damen area...where abouts do you live if you don't mind me asking?

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on July 05, 2006, 10:27:25 AM
Hi, thought I'd pop in with a welcome of my own, since y'all had been so kind... and then I saw the word, CHICAGO!!!!!
what... I thought I was the only person out this way to be a complete emotional wreck over this movie...
Nellie, your from out here, too?
That rocks...I live right over state line, in good ol Indiana, up by the lake...
Hey, are there more of us?
It's gets pretty lonely out this way.
Just wonderin and again, nice to meet y'all.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on July 05, 2006, 10:37:31 AM
Hi, thought I'd pop in with a welcome of my own, since y'all had been so kind... and then I saw the word, CHICAGO!!!!!
what... I thought I was the only person out this way to be a complete emotional wreck over this movie...
Nellie, your from out here, too?
That rocks...I live right over state line, in good ol Indiana, up by the lake...
Hey, are there more of us?
It's gets pretty lonely out this way.
Just wonderin and again, nice to meet y'all.

Hey there....you're way down there?...I know Imjackshesennis(Heidi) is living in Indiana...your're only a couple hours away from me....

Nice to meet y'all too ;D ;D ;D

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on July 05, 2006, 10:50:38 AM
Hey,
s'now I'm starting to entertain some crazy thoughts of a good 'ol MIDWEST BBM BASH!!!!!!!!
I, however, am planning on makin' my way down to Texas cuz the thought of 3 whole days w/people who understand is so overwhelmingly wonderful that I've just gotta do it...
Credit Card Debt: Many Dollars
Airfare: Even More
Hotels: $$$$$$$
Meeting BBm lovers: Pricelass
Cheesy, but y'all bring it outta me
 ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on July 05, 2006, 11:07:25 AM
Hey,
s'now I'm starting to entertain some crazy thoughts of a good 'ol MIDWEST BBM BASH!!!!!!!!
I, however, am planning on makin' my way down to Texas cuz the thought of 3 whole days w/people who understand is so overwhelmingly wonderful that I've just gotta do it...
Credit Card Debt: Many Dollars
Airfare: Even More
Hotels: $$$$$$$
Meeting BBm lovers: Pricelass
Cheesy, but y'all bring it outta me
 ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Lady jane...we're in this together than...I'm going to Texas too...getting there on Thursday the 10th...get your cowboy hat ready,girlfriend........yeee hawww!!!!

BTW...it is PRICELESS hon...

Nellie   ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on July 05, 2006, 12:28:15 PM
Hi, thought I'd pop in with a welcome of my own, since y'all had been so kind... and then I saw the word, CHICAGO!!!!!
what... I thought I was the only person out this way to be a complete emotional wreck over this movie...
Nellie, your from out here, too?
That rocks...I live right over state line, in good ol Indiana, up by the lake...
Hey, are there more of us?
It's gets pretty lonely out this way.
Just wonderin and again, nice to meet y'all.

Hey! What town on the lake, Michigan City or another one? I get to that part of Indiana frequently, to South Bend, since I went to a rather well known school there for college (back in the 60's)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on July 05, 2006, 12:35:00 PM
Hi, thought I'd pop in with a welcome of my own, since y'all had been so kind... and then I saw the word, CHICAGO!!!!!
what... I thought I was the only person out this way to be a complete emotional wreck over this movie...
Nellie, your from out here, too?
That rocks...I live right over state line, in good ol Indiana, up by the lake...
Hey, are there more of us?
It's gets pretty lonely out this way.
Just wonderin and again, nice to meet y'all.

Hey! What town on the lake, Michigan City or another one? I get to that part of Indiana frequently, to South Bend, since I went to a rather well known school there for college (back in the 60's)



Hey
nice to meet you, too.
It's Munster, Indiana... we're about 5 minutes from the Il border... Lansing and Cal City, Illinois are my neighbors...and on a good day it takes 30 minutes to get downtown.. (damn construction) >:(
I'm probably about 25 minutes or so from Michigan City..
but we get out that way a lot for the Lake, y'know.
Lake Michigan is better than any ol ocean.. no sharks!
 ::)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: aliceathome on July 05, 2006, 05:27:23 PM
Hi all. I'm a latecomer to the film here but am so glad to have found you all.  I missed Brokeback at the cinema (busy with new job, new house blah blah) and so didn't see it until travelling to the US 12 days ago. Yep, saw it on the plane on a tiny seatback screen and it made me cry (the man next to me was slightly disturbed - got more disturbed when I watched it all over again on the next cycle and blubbed all the way through). By the time I arrived in Chicago I was obsessed - found a wifi place and downloaded the audiobook plus the soundtrack before making my next plane and bought the dvd the next day. I don't know why this wonderful film has effected me more deeply than any other I've seen. I feel bizarrely cheated that I wasn't involved 6 months ago so have missed many of the interviews etc I've seen mentioned here - but then am having enough trouble doing anything but watching my favourite bits in slow motion without even more things to distract me!

Anyway, just wanted to say hi and thanks for being here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: B73 on July 05, 2006, 05:35:42 PM
Hi all. I'm a latecomer to the film here but am so glad to have found you all.† I missed Brokeback at the cinema (busy with new job, new house blah blah) and so didn't see it until travelling to the US 12 days ago. Yep, saw it on the plane on a tiny seatback screen and it made me cry (the man next to me was slightly disturbed - got more disturbed when I watched it all over again on the next cycle and blubbed all the way through). By the time I arrived in Chicago I was obsessed - found a wifi place and downloaded the audiobook plus the soundtrack before making my next plane and bought the dvd the next day. I don't know why this wonderful film has effected me more deeply than any other I've seen. I feel bizarrely cheated that I wasn't involved 6 months ago so have missed many of the interviews etc I've seen mentioned here - but then am having enough trouble doing anything but watching my favourite bits in slow motion without even more things to distract me!

Anyway, just wanted to say hi and thanks for being here.

aliceathome, welcome to the Forum!† You've definitely come to the right place!†

I can't believe you saw BBM for the first time on a plane!† Wowzers.† And I know what you mean: I missed out on the theater experience b/c I saw it first on DVD (though I had been inexplicably obsessed with it even before I saw it).† Tell you what: a lot of places have been playing the movie in theaters again, so if you can, catch it if they play it near your home.† I did in the Castro, SF last month, and I'll tell you, it's something to see the film with other Brokeback buddies!

Cheers!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on July 05, 2006, 09:05:23 PM
Hi all. I'm a latecomer to the film here but am so glad to have found you all.† I missed Brokeback at the cinema (busy with new job, new house blah blah) and so didn't see it until travelling to the US 12 days ago. Yep, saw it on the plane on a tiny seatback screen and it made me cry (the man next to me was slightly disturbed - got more disturbed when I watched it all over again on the next cycle and blubbed all the way through). By the time I arrived in Chicago I was obsessed - found a wifi place and downloaded the audiobook plus the soundtrack before making my next plane and bought the dvd the next day. I don't know why this wonderful film has effected me more deeply than any other I've seen. I feel bizarrely cheated that I wasn't involved 6 months ago so have missed many of the interviews etc I've seen mentioned here - but then am having enough trouble doing anything but watching my favourite bits in slow motion without even more things to distract me!

Anyway, just wanted to say hi and thanks for being here.


Hi aliceathome and many many welcomes.
This here is my new favorite place in the world.
Can't believe you had to see it on a plane, either.
I saw it with a friend and the minute it was over I promptly sent him home (he didn't get it) so I could watch it all by myself...
I too feel cheated as my first time was back in May...I'd waited for school to let out, grrrr...should've said screw school.
Prepare yourself for the emotional rollercoaster but know that you have friends here who will help you through it...
It's been 6 weeks and I'm still a wreck half the time...
although I've heard it gets easier.
Take care and glad you found us.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: aliceathome on July 06, 2006, 01:53:41 AM
Thanks for the welcome - am somewhat relieved that I'm not the only obsessed person in the world.  B73 - thanks for the tip. After a brief search I've discovered a lunchtime showing at a cinema in London next week so am going to bunk off work and catch it on the big screen. Can't wait!  Take lots of tissues and hope nobody catches me!  Still, the DVD is a lifesaver - don't know what I'd have done if there wasn't the option to replay my favourite bits whenever I want.

Cheers!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CactusGal on July 07, 2006, 06:03:56 AM
Welcome, Melissa and Alice,

I have enjoyed reading your enthusiastic posts -- it reminds me so much of when I first found the Forum -- for me it was a mix of devastation, wondering what was wrong with me that a film could affect me in this way, and yet a sense of determination to live life more fully.   After watching BBM, I had to know if I was really crazy or if others felt like me -- and, of course, that's how I sought out the Forum (Feb) and never looked back.   You will find a wonderful family here -- I've made so many really good friendships here and I think it is because we are a group that wants to share our emotions and feelings -- very unlike any group I've ever been associated with.  Then too we've bonded together with our outstanding projects, Ad Campaign, DVD to Library Campaign and now our Book Campaign -- with more projects to come.

I too wouldn't miss the BBQ for the world -- a chance to finally put faces to people that I've really gotten to know.  I have been lucky enough to meet a few members while traveling and that has been very fun and rewarding.   

So join in the fun and welcome to your new BBM Family!   Jan
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 07, 2006, 02:45:45 PM
Hey-- not really a new member, but I've been lurking for a while and haven't had the guts to post until today, so when it rains it pours I guess. I'm a citizen of the state of Minnesota, an astronomer by trade (and always willing to be your technical expert on things astronomical). I do a lot fo things int he Brokeback fandom over on livejournal. I saw Brokeback in February, and it's an understatement to say it changed my life. But in addition, I'm getting a lot of pleasure of the fandom-- amazing works of art, especially fiction, and even more amazing people. Hello!

Jessica
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on July 07, 2006, 03:00:04 PM
An astronomer, wow! I'm sure that full moon on our boys first night of love had that perfect power of attraction!

Welcome and have a seat in our angst ridden group ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on July 08, 2006, 06:19:57 AM
Hey
nice to meet you, too.
It's Munster, Indiana... we're about 5 minutes from the Il border... Lansing and Cal City, Illinois are my neighbors...and on a good day it takes 30 minutes to get downtown.. (damn construction) >:(
I'm probably about 25 minutes or so from Michigan City..
but we get out that way a lot for the Lake, y'know.
Lake Michigan is better than any ol ocean.. no sharks!
 ::)

Well heck.  You're right off Rte. 30 just there at Hammond!  (Lived in Valparaiso for 10 years)
Made drives back and forth through there all the time!

Small world gets smaller, Melissa.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on July 08, 2006, 08:27:28 AM
Hey
nice to meet you, too.
It's Munster, Indiana... we're about 5 minutes from the Il border... Lansing and Cal City, Illinois are my neighbors...and on a good day it takes 30 minutes to get downtown.. (damn construction) >:(
I'm probably about 25 minutes or so from Michigan City..
but we get out that way a lot for the Lake, y'know.
Lake Michigan is better than any ol ocean.. no sharks!
 ::)

Well heck.† You're right off Rte. 30 just there at Hammond!† (Lived in Valparaiso for 10 years)
Made drives back and forth through there all the time!

Small world gets smaller, Melissa.


Gotta love it, huh?  I'm tellin' you, after this BBQ, we've gotta have a nice ol midwest bash too.....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on July 12, 2006, 03:34:00 PM
Hey Planetgal,

I'm loving your newest fic, Human Voices.  Thanks, and welcome!!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 12, 2006, 05:27:34 PM
Hey Planetgal,

I'm loving your newest fic, Human Voices.  Thanks, and welcome!!

*hugs* Yay always glad to meet readers. What is a writer without readers? Nothing, I tell ya!  ;D Sorry, am a goober.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 13, 2006, 11:48:09 PM
Hi Planetgal!

Here's a pic i took back in May with my LX-90:

Holy fxx that rocks. Asteroid! That is just amazing. Plus, the Ring Nebula is literally my favorite telescope object. I actually study exploded stars now just because I was totally fascinated with the Ring Nebula in undergrad. Here's mine of the Ring, from undergrad, red is Hydrogen, blue is Oxygen:
(http://www.astro.umd.edu/~veilleux/ASTR310/ManualX_files/image002.jpg)

No asteroids though. I was just looking at the Ring Saturday night through my 8-inch. Tell me about your scope!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CactusGal on July 14, 2006, 08:41:42 AM
WOW -- BayCityJohn and PlanetGal - Fabulous photos!    Thanks for sharing them!  Jan
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 14, 2006, 12:37:52 PM
Planetgal:

It wasn't an asteroid.

It was Comet 73P/Schwassmann-Wachmann 3
That is so cool. I've never even seen a comet through a telescope, just a spotting scope. I had no idea they moved so fast! What's the time between frames?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 14, 2006, 12:41:42 PM
Planetgal:

My scope is a Meade LX-90, 8" Schmidt-Cassegrain.

I have it set up on an tripod with an equatorial wedge. Hope to build a permanent pier to mount the scope before the end of the year. I have a nice garden shed that I want to convert into a backyard observatory.

yeah, alright, we have a couple old Celestron SC-8s and a couple Nexstar-8s, so it sounds liek we basically have the same telescope. Only I have NO IDEA how to set up the 8-inch for astrophotography. My husband's played around a bit with that on my 4.5 inch. I have known people that converted backyward sheds to have rolling roofs. You could try something like that. Would be fun! Astronomy is fun :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on July 14, 2006, 12:42:55 PM
Hey guys,

I hate to ruin the party and I am a great offender of this, but...watching those comets go by has made y'all stray a bit off topic.  You know you can start your own thread.  It's easy to do.  You might even get some people looking just for this topic.   :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 14, 2006, 12:49:49 PM
Hey guys,

I hate to ruin the party and I am a great offender of this, but...watching those comets go by has made y'all stray a bit off topic.  You know you can start your own thread.  It's easy to do.  You might even get some people looking just for this topic.   :-*

 :-X Swry. I do that some times when it comes to astronomy. Get carried away, I mean.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: puzzledmonkey on July 17, 2006, 07:43:45 AM
Hello Everyone† :D

I am from London and I am new to DC although not new to BBM. I first read AP's short story about 2 years ago. When I heard that they were making a movie I couldn't believe that Hollywood would be able to do justice to the power of APs language.† I read the short story one last time before I went to see the film because I knew that I would never again be able to imagine Jack & Ennis in the same way again. I was right about that but wrong about the film. Like most people I was bowled over by it. Saw it 4 times in the cinema. Downloaded the music and listened to it incessently. Got the screenplay and then the DVD. Nothing seemed to assauge the feeling of desolation and loss that the story created and the film reinforced and multiplied a thousand† times.

It wasn't until I started reading BBMfanfiction, mainly, Never taking no + When the snow didn't come (Ladymoluk), Human Interest (madlori), Somebody New (Jenna), Dreaming( Caithlin) and more lately If I asked (Amy, midwestgirl) that I began to settle down. It was like putting bandage onto a wound....† Actually many different bandages each of a different material with a different flavour medicine. There is a lot of mediocre stuff out there that does justice to neither the film nor the book.† But the ones I mentioned are among some of the best fiction I have read anywhere. I am astounded that these writers haven't been taken up by publishers... they are so good.

Over the few months that I've been reading BBNFiction I've been faciniated by how the best writers have ferreted out themes, events, and relationships that are in the short story or the film, and often created whole new universes that are true to the original but discover new things about the characters.† I have normally avoided stories that paraphrase or expand on the original for two reasons; because they always fall short of the power of the orginal; and because if I wanted to know more I prefer to re read AP or watch the film again.† AU treatments are much more interesting and innovative as well as rewarding for my soppy soul.

Anyway, so much for introducing myself... I''m off to explore DC ...you'll hear from me again.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on July 17, 2006, 08:38:16 AM
Hello Monkey....ha ha ha...love your name by the way....

Welcome and don't be too shy to keep on posting hon....

Your friend,

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on July 17, 2006, 08:43:15 AM
Hi Monkey,
Welcome to this wonderplace, know you have founds friends who understand, and hey...Feel fee to visit us on the slash thread if you love fan fic....It's my home away from home...
Good to have you!
Melissa
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on July 17, 2006, 12:07:28 PM
Planetgal is a great fic writer.† I've traded in my obsession with the movie to one with fics :-\

Melissa, where is the slash thread you mentioned?  Which category does it fall under?
I am a fic reading demon! :o

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 17, 2006, 02:17:17 PM
Planetgal is a great fic writer.  I've traded in my obsession with the movie to one with fics :-\

Melissa, where is the slash thread you mentioned?  Which category does it fall under?
I am a fic reading demon! :o

*blush*

The slash thread is under "The Juicy Bits". You have to be signed in to see it.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 17, 2006, 02:18:31 PM
Welcome, monkey! You have great taste in fics in my opinion. Your list reads just like my list of favorites. Looking forward to getting to know you.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on July 18, 2006, 01:03:29 AM
Welcome indeed, monkey, and a warm welcome to the wonderful world of fiction! We poor writers probably find it's cheaper than a shrink. I do anyway. It's a good way of workshopping arguments - and people don't argue back!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: littledarlin on July 18, 2006, 10:45:39 PM

I've traded in my obsession with the movie to one with fics :-\

I am a fic reading demon! :o



Me too.  All hail the fic writers!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Melisande on July 18, 2006, 10:55:48 PM
The slash discussion thread is here

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=10935.msg359707#msg359707

There's also a bar, a slash poetry thread, and a casting couch. It's a very lively little area.  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: kymz86 on July 21, 2006, 08:18:58 AM
Hey all! Im Kymberly and im from UK. I have been lurking for the past few months or so and now ive decided to out from lurksville and actually introduce myself!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: aliceathome on July 21, 2006, 08:29:57 AM
Welcome Kym!† You'll enjoy yourself here!  Come over to the Little Brits thread sometime.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on July 21, 2006, 08:48:46 AM
Hey all! Im Kymberly and im from UK. I have been lurking for the past few months or so and now ive decided to out from lurksville and actually introduce myself!

Hi Kym,

Welcome to our family hon and so glad you decided to join us. Let's not be shy now  ::) ;D 8)

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: kymz86 on July 21, 2006, 08:50:37 AM
Welcome Kym!  You'll enjoy yourself here! Come over to the Little Brits thread sometime.

Hey thanx Alice!! I shall come and visit sometime {if i can find the thread} lol
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: kymz86 on July 21, 2006, 08:52:41 AM
Hey all! Im Kymberly and im from UK. I have been lurking for the past few months or so and now ive decided to out from lurksville and actually introduce myself!

Hi Kym,

Welcome to our family hon and so glad you decided to join us. Let's not be shy now ::) ;D 8)

Nellie

Hey Nellie, Thanx for welcome im happy to have joined here too - I shall post more now i think coz i have introduced myself!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on July 21, 2006, 08:56:01 AM
Welcome, Kym! Make yourself at home here! If you would like to chat with other people from Britain, you can find the Brits thread at this location:

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8629.msg21695#msg21695

(This is the first page of the thread, you might want to go to the last page, which is the present, and work your way backwards a bit)

Enjoy and have fun!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: kymz86 on July 21, 2006, 08:57:49 AM
Welcome, Kym! Make yourself at home here! If you would like to chat with other people from Britain, you can find the Brits thread at this location:

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8629.msg21695#msg21695

(This is the first page of the thread, you might want to go to the last page, which is the present, and work your way backwards a bit)

Enjoy and have fun!



Thanx 4 welcome!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Amber on July 21, 2006, 10:52:14 AM
Hello everyone -

I've visited this site a few times but finally decided to join today.  I am a member of other BBM forums, but I can't get enough of this movie, or enough of sharing, learning and growing.  I first viewed BBM in June.  I missed it entirely in the theater which I'm very disappointed about, but I've seen it MANY times on DVD.  Like many others I can't pinpoint exactly what it is about this movie that creates such an emotional hold on me, it's a combination of so many things.

I had the privilege of visiting Alberta and visiting some of the filming sites for this movie and that only increased the emotional hold the movie has on me.  It was an incredible experience.  Knowing that I was standing where Jack and Ennis stood was incredible, but more than that - the scenery, the spirituality, the serenity of the area was something I'll never be able to put into words.  It moved me more than I could have ever expected.

As for myself - I'm married to my wonderful husband Dave.  I live in Spokane, Washington and am the proud "mother" of two cats - Peyton and Petunia.  I'm looking forward to delving into many threads here and checking out what everyone has to say.

Looking forward to getting to know you all :)
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Post by: BayCityJohn on July 21, 2006, 10:55:57 AM
Welcome Amber!
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Post by: kymz86 on July 21, 2006, 01:26:51 PM
hey Welcome Amber!! I just started posting today too!
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Post by: bigdave on July 22, 2006, 11:18:14 AM
Hi I'm Alison from the UK and I have just joined your forum.  Cannot begin to say how much I love BBM.  My story goes like this (hope it's not too boring!!)  My mum wanted a copy on DVD for her B'day.  Having never seen it before I decided to watch it before giving it to her (bad I know!).  Well I 'm so glad I did as it is just about the best film I have ever seen.  I am keeping the DVD and buying mum a new one.  Have watched it twice now and I have cried my eyes out each time.  The scene that particularly gets me is when Jack has a flashback to the mountain where he is standing by the fire and Ennis comes up behind him, holds him and hums.  In the short story this is Jack's warmest memory from the mountain.  I think this is also because Jack is killed shortly after this.  I also love the reunion scene.  There is such passion between the two of them it is unbelievable.  There is also a scene in the tent after they have had sex where Ennis is sitting beside the fire and he suddenly goes into the tent and he and Jack are kissing and holding each other.  I just cannot seem to get enough!  It is such a beautiful love story.  It also makes me feel sad to think about the fact the Ennis could have had such a great life with Jask if he had just been brave enough.  Anyone that says it is a gay cowboy movie is wrong.  It is a very moving love story.  Hope I haven't gone on too much.  Looking forward to posting regularly. 
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Post by: Gonzo on July 22, 2006, 11:58:06 AM
Hi I'm Alison from the UK and I have just joined your forum.† Cannot begin to say how much I love BBM.† My story goes like this (hope it's not too boring!!)† My mum wanted a copy on DVD for her B'day.† Having never seen it before I decided to watch it before giving it to her (bad I know!).† Well I 'm so glad I did as it is just about the best film I have ever seen.† I am keeping the DVD and buying mum a new one.† Have watched it twice now and I have cried my eyes out each time.† The scene that particularly gets me is when Jack has a flashback to the mountain where he is standing by the fire and Ennis comes up behind him, holds him and hums.† In the short story this is Jack's warmest memory from the mountain.† I think this is also because Jack is killed shortly after this.† I also love the reunion scene.† There is such passion between the two of them it is unbelievable.† There is also a scene in the tent after they have had sex where Ennis is sitting beside the fire and he suddenly goes into the tent and he and Jack are kissing and holding each other.† I just cannot seem to get enough!† It is such a beautiful love story.† It also makes me feel sad to think about the fact the Ennis could have had such a great life with Jask if he had just been brave enough.† Anyone that says it is a gay cowboy movie is wrong.† It is a very moving love story.† Hope I haven't gone on too much.† Looking forward to posting regularly.†

There is no such thing as going on "too much".  We all love the movie and story and music and actors and writers and director.  Welcome to the best BBM forum in the universe!!  The flashback scene is usually referred to as the Dozy Embrace and is many people's favorite here in BBMland.  The scene by the campfire just before Ennis goes into the tent is called SNIT (Second Night In Tent) and is probably my personal favorite.  There're plenty of places here to talk about every aspect of this experience.  Many of us have been here for some time and all of us understand how you feel.  Don't feel embarassed or timid.  Explore and post your comments wherever you feel like doing so.  Ask anything you want.  But most of all, feel welcomed because you are.   :) 
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Post by: aliceathome on July 22, 2006, 03:01:06 PM
Hey Alison - welcome. Plenty of us newbies here (I only saw it myself a month ago). You've found the best place to be - enjoy!
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Post by: melissasjack on July 22, 2006, 05:28:33 PM
Amber and Alison,
Many welcomes, and I'm so glad you found this place.
For me, it's been a huge part of my healing process, and I've made some wonderful friends.
It is very safe here to pour out your heart...you pour, and these wonderful people will respond, cuz we've all been there.
This is like BBM disneyland! There's no happier place on Earth. ;)
I'm sending you both a hug.
Melissa
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Post by: andy/Claude on July 23, 2006, 10:47:49 AM
howdy all
I'm Andy from the UK and have been a member a while now but these last months have done not much more than lurk. Have been blessed by the many varied imputs here and like many who had noone to share with, have greatly appreciated the comments and well wishes of so many.
I thought that my initial heart ache was truly receding as time allowed me to understand the story/movie better and welcome it as a friend untill....I discovered the fan fic section of this amazing site. Having read a good few of these fascinating works I find myself a jibbering wreck as all the 'might have beens' and 'fill ins' have caught me up in their various continuations of our beloved story.
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Post by: andy/Claude on July 23, 2006, 10:49:57 AM
Didn't mean to post that yet........

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Post by: aliceathome on July 23, 2006, 11:39:14 AM
Hey Andy. Tell me about it - I've been caught up in slash for the past week and can't get out (hell, don't want to get out). Work's going all to hell though, hah.
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Post by: andy/Claude on July 23, 2006, 11:43:39 AM
what does slash mean?
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Post by: fritzkep on July 23, 2006, 11:53:13 AM
Hi Andy and welcome!

Slash is a type of fiction written by fans, also called, appropriately enough, fanfiction, involving two characters from a work of fiction or from real life, such as Jack/Ennis or Jake/Heath. The word "slash" comes from the slash punctuation between the two names. The type of fiction either exclusively or overwhelmingly involves characters of the same sex. The genre started in the early 70's when, with fans mourning over the lost of the original Star Trek series, started writing about Kirk/Spock getting involved in various romantic encounters.

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Post by: andy/Claude on July 23, 2006, 12:23:06 PM
OK, thanx for that. :)
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Post by: melissasjack on July 23, 2006, 07:17:01 PM
Hi Andy, many many welcomes!
I live over in Slash land myself, its a joyous, sometimes heartbreaking but always rewarding place to be...please come visit us, and post...I promise you'll have a lovely warm welcome!!
Melissa
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Post by: PatSinnott on July 23, 2006, 09:55:56 PM
One of my interests that I can't find on a thread (like slash).....† BBM ART!

(http://i94.photobucket.com/albums/l113/PatSinnott/Dozy-Embrace-Cutout.jpg)

(http://i94.photobucket.com/albums/l113/PatSinnott/Redlined-It-All-The-Way.jpg)
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Post by: planetgal471 on July 24, 2006, 01:08:38 PM
Welcome, Andy! I also live in the slash thread. It's odd how we don't tend to leave it much. Fanfiction is highly addictive. As is the slash thread.
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Post by: Ellen (tellyouwhat) on July 25, 2006, 02:09:03 PM
One of my interests that I can't find on a thread (like slash).....† BBM ART!


Pat - someone - I think Nick F - tried to start a "Fan art" thread a while back but it didn't stick (not enough posts)  maybe it's time to start that again?
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Post by: PatSinnott on July 25, 2006, 03:23:43 PM
Yeah, I think it's time.  I have seen a lot of images, for example cover art for fan fics, and there is one live journal site for bbm artists.  It's somewhat recent and not much posted on it.  There would have to be parameters about file sizes, etc.  I need more info, as I'm not as much a computer tech as an artist.  ;)
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Post by: Melisande on July 25, 2006, 10:19:08 PM
Hi.  ;D

A fanart thread is a great idea! You can start your own threads here

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?board=4.0

then, if people are interested, I'll move it somewhere - probably Laughs.

I suggest that you specify that it should be artists posting their own work, because lots of artists don't like their work to be posted without specific permission.
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Post by: AHappyMan on July 30, 2006, 12:12:07 PM
Hey All,
I guess I'm coming late to the BBM party! Story of my life: always a late bloomer.
My name's Rick, I've posted a little here and there, mostly on the scene threads.
I'm getting my "How Brokeback Affected Me" post together, but wanted to stop
in here and say hi.
I'm a digital artist working in the film business, but I live outside Phoenix. I've
always loved movies and art, and BBM proves that those two things aren't mutually
exclusive!

Here's a shot of one of our boys running away from one of my digital paintings (!)
from "Day After Tomorrow".  ;D

Rick

(http://img163.imageshack.us/img163/5223/friggincoldom1.jpg) (http://imageshack.us)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on July 30, 2006, 12:20:44 PM
A fanart thread is a great idea! You can start your own threads here

Done!
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=11891.0
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Post by: planetgal471 on July 30, 2006, 12:22:18 PM
Rick! Nice to meet you! That is hilarious. I love it.
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Post by: AHappyMan on July 30, 2006, 12:25:40 PM
Rick! Nice to meet you! That is hilarious. I love it.

Thanks! Nice to be here. ;)
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Post by: Nikki6 on July 30, 2006, 08:07:03 PM
Hi all,

I'm here because one of my LJ communities has a member here who keeps talking it up and I thought I'd come over and see what all the excitement is about.

I went to Brokeback the first night it was out here with my friends and though they liked it, they weren't as crazy about it as I was by a long shot. I read the book that week too and was blown away by the imagery it created. I saw it 3 more times in the theatre, and of course bought the DVD. I watch it often.

I am a Gyllenhaalic, so of course am a fan of Jack Nasty, more than Ennis, but I do believe that this was Heath Ledger's greatest role to date. He was awesome!

I just wrote my first Brokeback fic on LJ, and it went over quite well, but love reading other people's fics, and do so on a daily basis. I also have done some Brokeback music vids on youtube.

Anyhow, hoping to meet some new friends and let the fun begin!
Cheers!
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Post by: planetgal471 on July 31, 2006, 12:13:27 AM
Welcome, Nikki66. You sound like perfect fodder for our Slash thread, "The Juicy Bits", where we discuss fanfic, share fanfic links, and frantically dish out e-drinks along with friendship. Hope to see you there. As an LJ-er, myself, I think coming here was one of the best things I've done with myself on the internet. I hope you grow to feel the same.
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Post by: Curley on August 01, 2006, 12:32:32 PM
Hi.  I go by Curley which is my family nickname.  I was born and raised on the family Texas ranch.  I have been a member for a little while and after reading postings for this time, I decided it was finally time to jump in.  I have been posting on the "How Brokeback Affected Me" thread. 

This forum has some really fantastic people.  I am still trying to read and figure out some of the other threads.  The fanfic sounds like one I will definitely be checking out.

Thanks to all of you for allowing this country boy to be a part of this.

Curley
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Post by: Gonzo on August 01, 2006, 12:50:50 PM
Thanks to all of you for allowing this country boy to be a part of this.

Curley

We's all here 'cuz a couple a country boys.† You sure is welcum.† †;)
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Post by: planetgal471 on August 01, 2006, 04:05:37 PM
I am still trying to read and figure out some of the other threads.  The fanfic sounds like one I will definitely be checking out.

Welcome, Curley!~ I recommenf the fanfic thread, personally, especially if you read it. We love chattering, and we're a friendly bunch! Come on by!
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Post by: jack on August 02, 2006, 03:06:01 AM
welcome curley.. never enough country boys, never enough  :D
jack
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Post by: biteme on August 08, 2006, 01:44:00 PM
Hello All

I have just checked back and discovered I actually found and registered on this site at the beginning of March, yet this is my first post. I have visited often and find every post I have read to be intelligent and welcoming and so I have finally decided to jump in and join the rest of you dear obsessed BBM fans.

I am a mid 40's straight female from the North East of England who is completely and utterly devoted to the story of Jack and Ennis. I first saw the movie on January 6th in the cinema with my daughter and went back again twice with a different group of friends each time to relive the most extraordinary film experience I have ever had.
This movie tears me apart every time I see it ( now into double figures after the purchase of the DVD in April) and I so desperately need to talk about it with other like minded souls. No one else I know has been affected by this movie as I have.
All of my friends family and workmates know of my fixation but none of them can respond to me in the way that I need them too. It is now August and this story is not going to let me go any time soon so here I am.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on August 08, 2006, 01:45:31 PM
No one else I know has been affected by this movie as I have.

Biteme! I'm pleased to tell you you're wrong! Welcome home  :)
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Post by: aliceathome on August 08, 2006, 01:48:07 PM
Welcome biteme - lots of us Brits here on the board (go to the International Zone and introduce yourself over on the Brits thread - they'll make you welcome) then dive straight in.
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Post by: biteme on August 08, 2006, 01:54:23 PM
No one else I know has been affected by this movie as I have.

Biteme! I'm pleased to tell you you're wrong! Welcome home† :)

Thank you so much for this ....I have tears in my eyes


Alice thank you for your welcome too.... I will certainly come over there and introduce myself ....†

 †
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Post by: Gonzo on August 08, 2006, 02:28:39 PM
biteme,

There is actually a BBM gettogether in London.  Click on the link below and if you can make it, you will be able to actually meet and hug a bunch of people who are in the same place you are.  Good luck know that you are not alone.


http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=10629.msg308339#msg308339
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: biteme on August 08, 2006, 03:11:48 PM
biteme,

There is actually a BBM gettogether in London.† Click on the link below and if you can make it, you will be able to actually meet and hug a bunch of people who are in the same place you are.† Good luck know that you are not alone.


http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=10629.msg308339#msg308339

Hello twistedboy and thank you for pointing this out to me however I have checked out the date and unfortunately cannot make it as I am going to Glasgow to celebrate a good friends 30th birthday that weekend....would have loved the chance to meet other fans and have a good long talk about Jack and Ennis ....maybe next time


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Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on August 09, 2006, 07:02:07 AM
biteme,

There is actually a BBM gettogether in London.† Click on the link below and if you can make it, you will be able to actually meet and hug a bunch of people who are in the same place you are.† Good luck know that you are not alone.


http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=10629.msg308339#msg308339

dang it.  Gonzo beat me to it.

Welcome Biteme!  Love your username - it's one of my favorite sayings. ;D
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Post by: jack on August 09, 2006, 03:24:29 PM
Welcome Biteme!† Love your username - it's one of my favorite sayings. ;D
it is you know.. ;D 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: biteme on August 10, 2006, 08:47:58 AM
Welcome Biteme!† Love your username - it's one of my favorite sayings. ;D
it is you know.. ;D†

 ;D ;D mine too..... also can be used as an invitation if I should chance upon any sexy vampires ( is it possible that to much Buffy can rot the brain)† †

Hello to both of you† :) and thank you for the welcome
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Post by: chapeaugris on August 10, 2006, 09:11:00 AM
Biteme, you'll soon discover that there are an awful lot of us 40-something straight married women of all nationalities on this forum. Wonder why that is?  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Elventwilight on August 15, 2006, 01:08:08 AM
Hello, I'm David and I have been hearing about this place for a long time from Sheera... Anyway, I went to the BBQ in Texas as her guest, discovered how† discustingly beautiful inside and out you all are, and am now trying swim through the threads (I think I might be drowning, can anyone give me CPR ? ;) )†

The reason why I'm interested in BBM is because I've done a lot of work around LGBT issues and have been involved with a queer comunity since I was 17 and all the positive public attention that BBM received astonished me and brought a tear to my eye, and after seeing all of the people at the BBQ, I'm still at a loss of words.† This tiny little move has changed so many lives.

 I know this movie is horribly real, and I want a better ending in real life, and I want to help make better endings happen.† This thread reminds me that its not just the people who have lived a hard life and are talking about it publicly, nor is it just the outspoken activist who struggles with these issues.† It's you and me, and baby makes 3...
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Post by: Zudos on August 15, 2006, 01:38:53 AM
Hello, I'm David and I have been hearing about this place for a long time from Sheera... Anyway, I went to the BBQ in Texas as her guest, discovered how† discustingly beautiful inside and out you all are, and am now trying swim through the threads (I think I might be drowning, can anyone give me CPR ? ;) )†

The reason why I'm interested in BBM is because I've done a lot of work around LGBT issues and have been involved with a queer comunity since I was 17 and all the positive public attention that BBM received astonished me and brought a tear to my eye, and after seeing all of the people at the BBQ, I'm still at a loss of words.† This tiny little move has changed so many lives.

 I know this movie is horribly real, and I want a better ending in real life, and I want to help make better endings happen.† This thread reminds me that its not just the people who have lived a hard life and are talking about it publicly, nor is it just the outspoken activist who struggles with these issues.† It's you and me, and baby makes 3...

Hey David... Welcome to the board... I am first in line with the CPR  :'(, and should have been on Saturday...!!!!

Make sure you come and say hi in the diner thread, where lots of the BBQ'ers hang out and do not let Sheera drag you into all the slash - hahahahahaha!!!!!!

Call me cutie...

Zed
XXX
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on August 15, 2006, 01:38:55 AM
Welcome David,  there are plenty of discussion areas in this forum to cover every mood and interest, pop into Auntie's diner in the Meet your Neighbours area, most of the Texas mob hang out there at some stage - relax and join us for a coffee.

Neil
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Post by: trascendenza on August 15, 2006, 02:53:03 AM
...do not let Sheera drag you into all the slash - hahahahahaha!!!!!!

Good to see you posting David :)  Hope you can figure out how to "casually" use the forums so you can stop by more often!

And too late, Zed, we've already had him reading fics aloud for us and discussing plotlines on the drive home. :D
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Post by: jack on August 15, 2006, 06:17:50 AM
...do not let Sheera drag you into all the slash - hahahahahaha!!!!!!

Good to see you posting David :)† Hope you can figure out how to "casually" use the forums so you can stop by more often!

And too late, Zed, we've already had him reading fics aloud for us and discussing plotlines on the drive home. :D
hey princess...

nice meeting you at the BBQ.† one of the pleasures was realizing i could find common ground with people with other interests.

OTOH...don't you be hogging that lad.† the gray ones need to learn from the young ones just as much as they need to learn from us.† i want to see happy endings in REAL life, not just on the screen or in books.

and DAVID... i told you i would be looking for you here, and i think i may have even predicted the results ::) ::) ;D

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on August 15, 2006, 07:20:01 AM
Hello, I'm David and I have been hearing about this place for a long time from Sheera... Anyway, I went to the BBQ in Texas as her guest, discovered how† discustingly beautiful inside and out you all are, and am now trying swim through the threads (I think I might be drowning, can anyone give me CPR ? ;) )†

The reason why I'm interested in BBM is because I've done a lot of work around LGBT issues and have been involved with a queer comunity since I was 17 and all the positive public attention that BBM received astonished me and brought a tear to my eye, and after seeing all of the people at the BBQ, I'm still at a loss of words.† This tiny little move has changed so many lives.

 I know this movie is horribly real, and I want a better ending in real life, and I want to help make better endings happen.† This thread reminds me that its not just the people who have lived a hard life and are talking about it publicly, nor is it just the outspoken activist who struggles with these issues.† It's you and me, and baby makes 3...

David!!!!

You were a joy and a delight to meet at the BBQ and it is wonderful to have you here on the forum.  THere are all kinds of places here - I'm sure SHeera has told you about the slash bits, but there are areas of political discussions, gay health issues, gay legal issues, gay parenting etc...  Jump on in with both feet and feel free to add your $.02. 

You have made a huge step by realizing that you want more from life than Jack and Ennis were allowed...Welcome!

Hugs,
Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Zudos on August 15, 2006, 09:02:13 AM
And too late, Zed, we've already had him reading fics aloud for us and discussing plotlines on the drive home. :D

Hmmmm... Stop abusing the poor boy...!!! That should be my job...!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on August 15, 2006, 11:21:13 AM
Hi, David! I'm tired of hearing about you without getting to talk to you, so I'm glad you're changing that. Chicago-bound at all?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: NickInIdaho on August 15, 2006, 11:41:25 AM
And too late, Zed, we've already had him reading fics aloud for us and discussing plotlines on the drive home. :D

Hmmmm... Stop abusing the poor boy...!!! That should be my job...!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Now, Zed, we talked about this - - you said it could be MY job!!† †:D :D

Hi David, nice to meet you. I'm sorry we did not officially meet at the BBQ but I remember seeing you. Hopefully you'll feel at home here. There are some very interesting convos to be a part of!

Talk to you soon!

Nick

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on August 15, 2006, 01:09:15 PM
Hello, I'm David and I have been hearing about this place for a long time from Sheera... Anyway, I went to the BBQ in Texas as her guest, discovered how† discustingly beautiful inside and out you all are, and am now trying swim through the threads (I think I might be drowning, can anyone give me CPR ? ;) )†
David: Welcome! It was great to see you at the bbq.
Wish you would have asked for that CPR at the party ;D

You remind me a lot of my b/f EnnisKeith. He's 40 now but I met him when he was 17 and you guys could almost pass as twins.

But Keith could never do a cartwheel.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: estefue on August 15, 2006, 07:38:53 PM
John, I think there would have been a line to administer CPR in this case! ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: rayz_55 on August 15, 2006, 08:33:47 PM
Hi All!!!   I guess I am late on getting here, but believe it or not I just saw the movie for the first time 2 weeks ago.  Of course it has already caused me sleepless nights and that haunting music, The Wings, has not  left my head.   So I bought the movie, read the short story, and now own the soundtrack.  To say I am obsessed is the understatement of the year.   As soon as I saw the movie, I just knew that Jack wasn't really dead.  When Ennis says he can't take it anymore, in their last scene together,  and Jack watches him drive away,  you can see in Jack's eyes he is saying goodbye, but not in death.  It is for Ennis sake that the "death" occurs.   See how obsessed I am?  lol.   There just has to be a sequel made with a fairy tale ending.   Has anyone heard if they are planning a sequel?  Anyway, didn't mean to babble on so, I have never had a movie grab hold of me like this one.  Thanks for listening and glad you here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: estefue on August 15, 2006, 08:59:21 PM
rayz, welcome to our little community of fellow obsessed fans!  Look around - check out the stories that others have posted.  You'll find many others just like you.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Elventwilight on August 15, 2006, 09:53:20 PM
Hi, David! I'm tired of hearing about you without getting to talk to you, so I'm glad you're changing that. Chicago-bound at all?

I wish, however I work for a nonprofit and can't afford it, and even if I could, I'm starting classes on the 21.  I know I heard about you, but I don't really know anything about you... I think.  Its confusing placesing names with screen names with personalties with people  ??? .  I hope to be able to get to know the famous planetgal471   ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Kirsten on August 15, 2006, 11:55:06 PM
HI

My name is Kirsten and I am married with 2 young children and a husband of course.  The film BBM absolutely blew me away from the first showing on screen in the theater.  I have seen it 8 times in the theater and countless times on DVD.  It has been a really interesting journey for me as a straight woman.  I fell in love with the characters of Jack and Ennis.  I cried for them.   The actors etc. were so great that these characters now after all this time are more like real people to me.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: estefue on August 16, 2006, 12:22:02 AM
Wecome Kirsten!  Wander about, there's a lot to discover here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sarannah on August 16, 2006, 05:17:10 AM
Hi everyone! I'm actually really glad I've found this community, it was recommended to me by a friend off the Wranglers community-heya Lola Ray if you're reading this! Not much to say really except that I am equally blown away by this legendary story and film as much as the rest of you, and I'm happy I've found so many like-minded people with strong views and even stronger love towards everything that is Brokeback Mountain. Those involved in the movie (e.g. Ang, Jake, Heath) have often said that they realise how the film has affected so many people and their lives in a positive way, but from looking at the wonderful, insightful, and profound things people have said and are still saying on this community, and on other BBM related communities, they will never truly know the full extent, it would blow them away.
I hope you guys can show me some serious fun here! I'm looking forward to it!
Stay sexorgeous!

Sarannah aka Jacob-Cliff Rydeme (my cowboy name)
xxx
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on August 16, 2006, 06:28:55 AM
Welcome Sarannah this is a great place to be, ask Lola ;D  You'll find a whole host of topics to interest you I'm sure from the lighthearted to the very serious.  Pop into  the diner sometime when you're on-line - Auntie's 24 hour Diner in the meet your Neighbours section, it friendly and easy going - a great place to start.

Cheers

Nax.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on August 16, 2006, 06:34:11 AM
John, I think there would have been a line to administer CPR in this case! ;D

And not just the men!

 ;) **fishes around for my CPR certificate**
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Kirsten on August 16, 2006, 07:34:18 AM
I did not know where to put this.   So feel free to delete or move or whatever.

Someone remarked that my name was interesting so I thought maybe I should post this and give a bit more info to start off right.

When I came here to join I thought perhaps I should have a different nick than I use in all the Jake forums and the BBM forums. Now on thinking about it that was not necessary.

In the OFF. fan site and Ennis/jack.com Brokeback Mountain my name is Silk and that is my nickname since I was a kid. 

I am rather uninhibited when it comes to topics of a certain sort.  I have a lifestyle that is somewhat different I have found at least most places I go.   I am a surgical RN who has taken awhile off because of burn out.  I have two children 7 and 5 years of age and a gorgeous husband who is very into team roping, barrel racing and etc.  I barrel race and trail ride.  We live in the midwest where our entire family runs several thousand acres of farm ground and raise Black Angus cattle and all are into horses from birth.

I am honest and rarely afraid to express myself on anything.  I have had a long journey of discovery trying to figure out why I found the film BBM so intensely erotic.  After tons of discsussion etc. it came down to both Jake and Heath are so gorgeous all I wanted to be was the mayonaise in a jack/ennis sandwich.

I found the film instensly erotic and that frankly freaked me out.  My husband Rick teases me but is fine with it.  He has no problem with gay men and if they like to have a beer he would sit down with a gay man and have a beer and talk about horses or sports or whatever.  He did take me to my first viewing in the theater and then his younger brother took me a couple of times.

I am 36 years old and believe it or not I lost 19 lbs since last December 2005 so I credit BBM with my getting down to 110 lbs and into a size 4 plus going back to the gym to get into shape.

What the heck kind of power does this film have?  It crosses all boundaries and seems to have some kind of magic in it.

Jake Gyllenhaal is delicious and right now I am listening to Bathwater by No Doubt and that song as far as I am concerned is Jake's song for me.  I could drink his bathwater.

We leave for Calgary in a little over 2 weeks.  We have been to Calgary a few years ago with our horses to the big horse show there.  We are not taking the horses this time.

Thought I should warn you.  If I get out of hand just wop me up side of my head.


Silk
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on August 16, 2006, 07:39:35 AM
Silk,

Welcome.  And thank you for your post.  Try the Impact threads here to talk about WHY this movie has grasped us all so deeply.  For many of us, the initial draw of the Jake/Heath sangwich has broadened into much more than that.

Of course there are the Jake and Heath threads (I think you might enjoy the Slash fiction threads....greatly).

There's more of course...and I warn you, once you start to open up and share with these womderful forumites, you might just find that you have made lifelong friendships and deep connections with like-minded people - as those of us who just got back from the BBM BBQ have found out.

There is room in here for everyone with all kinds of outlooks and belief systems.  You are bound to find the level you seek.

:)
H.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on August 16, 2006, 07:41:02 AM
I did not know where to put this.† †So feel free to delete or move or whatever.
<-------------------------------------->
Thought I should warn you.† If I get out of hand just wop me up side of my head.
Silk

uhhh... oh boy, i think you may have found your match in this place.† you may want to check out the eyelashes thread(s). they get pretty estrogen driven.† heath has his spaces too.† knock yerself out, silk. there's plenty to see and talk about, and if ever you pass a boundary, hard to do, but it happens sometimes, our sweet and dedicated mods will give you a heads up...

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Panos on August 17, 2006, 11:10:25 AM
Hi there! :) 8) ::)
Dare say I feel quite embarrassed ' cause this is the first time time I ever become a member to a forum like this, where my only common thing at first (I say only at first because I'm sure I'm gonna discover a lot more things I'll be able to share with you not only related to the movie but beyond it as well...) is the fact that for the very first time in my life, I feel truly haunted by a movie which is not just a movie...Its a source of power..!!!

I'm a 16-year-old boy from Greece and (I'm not trying to seem arrogant, that;s the general impression I make) I'm much more mature than the others of my age, and responsible as well, and I'm really grateful for that. However, I cannot deny I'm a sensitive dreamer, just like Jack. My first contact with BBM was 2 weeks after it was released in Greek theaters, on March 3rd.I watched it along with my older brother. It was a dull Friday evening and we have gone to an after-midnight showtime.Except of us, there were many others in the theater, including many young couples. From the very first moment, the movie caught my full attention with its imaging perfection (the scenery up on the unspoilt highlands of Wyoming where the two heroes fall in love was OH MY GOD!!!!) and the realism, the simplicity it portrayed the North American countryside of the '60s and its people. Later, the film just overcame every expectation: the love affair between Ennis and Jack wasn't just a silly summer flirt or a purely sexual contact without any depth. It was pure love, ready to last for a lifetime, haunting, passionate, breathtaking. Although at first the two heros have a rather typical relationship, its impossible to avoid coming closer while they remain isolated up there and, as a result, discover their "other half" to each other's eyes...!When the magic summer they spend together ends and they get back in real world, the conservative society they live in brings them back in order. Within the next 20 years they get married, have children, lead "normal" lives but their minds and hearts are captured by the memory of that wonderful season up on the mountain, when for the first time in their lives they experienced feelings they had never had before. They try, so, to revitalise their affair by going on secret weekend trips, allegedly for fishing, which however begin to fray as well.....Its a fat that time and society are finally the winners, but thats what makes this love a legend: that it was from the beginning sentenced. Thats why there was SO much passion....and thats why it is so haunting not only for them but also for us...

Although im young, i've already experienced some things that make me identify myself to Ennis and Jack in a way ive never done before with other favorite movie heroes.Ive fallen in love with a boy, i havent been able to confess it, ive hesitated like Ennis, ive lost him not because of that, and have felt the loss for the rest of my life being unable to overcome it for a looooong time. Now I can say that BBM is a real tribute of what is called "love" and what love is:a flowing force of nature...!For many months after i watched it there wasnt a day without bringing it in mind, without thinking at least once some scenes and quotes of it which broke my heart, like the scene where Jack leaves after meeting Ennis after his divorce with his heart torn in pieces, crying like a child...or that unbelievable quote "I wish i knew how to quit you...". In front of such words, to say "I love you" means absolutely NOTHING!God ive burst in tears again! Forgive me........

Im so glad this forum exists with all of you, because thats how we can keep Jack and Ennis's legacy alive...!Thats what a good piece of cinema like BBM does:unites people around the world.
Can hardly wait to meet you!Wait for your answers!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Lance on August 17, 2006, 02:35:43 PM
Panos, much as I appreciate your post, the rules of this message board [adopted for reasons of legal liability] require you to be 18 to be a member. I am about to suspend you temporarily pending final judgement by our chief moderator. I'm sorry.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 18, 2006, 05:52:55 AM
Hello, I'm David and I have been hearing about this place for a long time from Sheera... Anyway, I went to the BBQ in Texas as her guest, discovered how  discustingly beautiful inside and out you all are, and am now trying swim through the threads (I think I might be drowning, can anyone give me CPR ? ;) ) 

The reason why I'm interested in BBM is because I've done a lot of work around LGBT issues and have been involved with a queer comunity since I was 17 and all the positive public attention that BBM received astonished me and brought a tear to my eye, and after seeing all of the people at the BBQ, I'm still at a loss of words.  This tiny little move has changed so many lives.

 I know this movie is horribly real, and I want a better ending in real life, and I want to help make better endings happen.  This thread reminds me that its not just the people who have lived a hard life and are talking about it publicly, nor is it just the outspoken activist who struggles with these issues.  It's you and me, and baby makes 3...

ohhh...I have one person in mind that can give you CPR sweetie.....I was watching you at the BBQ...you are a doll, a little shy, but I know deep down,you're a trip in a half...ha ha ha...you and Melissa seemed to click and that was nice to see. A lot of people thought you were cute...but welcome to our family and thank you Sheera for bringing yet another sweet soul to our family.....

See you around David...

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 18, 2006, 05:55:25 AM
Welcome all newbies...I'm so happy our family is growing and growing...I hope to see you all around these threads...and please keep posting ...so looking forward to chatting with all of you...!!!!

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on August 18, 2006, 06:40:13 AM
at the request of the management...

Pete just put up a poll at http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=12326.0 so we can find out approximately how many books we need to have printed in the first run. I don't know a single soul who gets around these threads better or more than you do. So I wondered if you would help us spread the word and get a bunch of folks to fill out the poll for us. Could you point them in that direction as you move from thread to thread (like a ministering angel)?

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: GreekBrokebackLove on August 18, 2006, 11:51:56 AM
Hi there again!

This is Panos from Greece. Introduced myself yesterday, had a very warm welcome by you(my deepest thanks for it) but my account was deleted because of the age limit.So...

Changed my e-mail account o that I can join your company. Hope you will not misunderstand me or consider this as a "bad" initiative, cause I know that each of us has been forced at least once in his life to sacrifice something or say "white lies" in order not to lose something he craves...Like me now. Its beyond my emotional strentgh to stay out of this forum.Just beyond it.Really I dont think there should be limits of age and stuff like that in order to have access in forums like this...I firmly believe that anyone who' d like to keep Ennis and Jack's LEGEND  alive should be given the opportunity to do that, regardless of his age or gender or no matter what else. I just cant accept not to be able to come in contact with you because of silly rules of legal liability!

Hope you will give me a welcome as warm as it was yesterday.
Cant wait to meet you!
Jack, TwistedBoy, received your e-mails and was moved by them. They were one of the main reasons I tried to register again....and I made it as I can see!I cant let myself go on without meeting you!Twistedboy except of here Ill contact you through your e-mail as well!Was soooo happy after i read your message!

LOVE, Panos :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Lance on August 18, 2006, 01:03:00 PM
Sorry, but your presence here creates a legal problem for the owner of the site. Since the site contains links to adult material, the owner could be held legally responsible for breaking the American laws relating to minors. You should do the responsible adult thing and not put him in danger by rejoining the forums. Your new membership has been banned and all future memberships by name or email or net domain will likewise be banned. Sorry about that, but those are the laws we must operate under.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 22, 2006, 04:55:04 PM
*  Well, look what the wind blew in...  *


A warm and heartfelt "hello" to you all!
I can't stand it any longer so I had to fix it. Here's another statistic coming out of 'lurk' mode to join ya'll, if I may. (I'll bet there are thousands more). I've spent months trying to catch up but I still have 854,523,366 posts to go so I says, feck it, join up and jump in at the deep end of the pool.

First off, thank you Founder for this experience, and thanks to all the mods and participants who keep this forum vibrant, you know who you are. And Auntie, you are another whole story unto yourself...
Reading all the stories on the official BBM site found me craving more. Googling brought me here since May. I thought BBM was my life story plastered on the big screen then I stared at this monitor for hours untold reading your stories. I will share mine on the appropriate thread.
 
Second, thanks for the opprotunity to finally share with like-minded people what I've felt my whole life, this thing, but never found a place to be comfortable in RL. What makes this so special, really, in a word, is honesty. Honesty allows the love to flow without boundaries set upon us by others and ourselves.

OK let's see, (knees shaking slightly, cracking a little perspiration)...Never have I joined another forum like this. I'll be honest and say I've had some trepidation for quite some time in doing this but now it's time to materialize in cyber-world (!)and since I feel close to a lot of you and you guys don't even know I exist. Well, now I do.

Lastly a quick comment regarding my noticing the metamorphosis in many of you these past months, especially those who attended the BBQ. You all deserve congratulations.

Alright, enough for Post No.1, see ya' around?

Lenny
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 22, 2006, 05:00:05 PM
Oh, and how do you make the avatar not make one look like a pinhead?

< Nick, oh, photomaster help!>

Lenny
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 22, 2006, 06:07:54 PM
Thanks, BayCityJohn for the fix!

Lenny
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on August 22, 2006, 06:08:35 PM
Anytime Lenny.

Looks good!

And Welcome!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on August 22, 2006, 06:28:35 PM
*† Well, look what the wind blew in...† *

And lookey here, it says he's a virgin!
A warm and heartfelt "hello" to you all!
Lenny D.
lenny...

welcome, really and truly.  its been a bit since a new guy jumped in so heartily in the "deep end" and we love having you.  i know an awful lot how you feel, and i am neither new here nor particularly shy.  there is something about this event, even back on the old blog comment thread that demanded a raw honesty.  justthe reverse ow what you would expect with all this anonymity.  the covers are off the masks come down, and we are free to be real.  most take a long time to take the risk of showing there face, but you appear to have caught the spirit of the BBQ and really join in. 

we thank you for your trust, and hope it proves well founded.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 22, 2006, 07:08:04 PM
Thanks, Jack, for your greeting.

Man, I must say, you are one who I've noticed making some of the most stunning changes. You look GREAT sans beard and close-cropped hair! The BBQ pics and videos are SO moving. I grinned and cried with ya'll all weekend. I wanted to go so bad, but figured it inappropriate since I wasn't 'here'. SA is but a 10 hr. drive from NO, and I had to work Sunday night. (Is this the right place to discuss?) Anyway, thanks again for your welcome!
I'm preparing another more in depth 'get to know me' and will post on the "How BBM affected me" thread. More pics on the Pics thread, too.
See ya 'round?

Lenny
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on August 22, 2006, 08:14:41 PM
Thanks, Jack, for your greeting.

Man, I must say, you are one who I've noticed making some of the most stunning changes. You look GREAT sans beard and close-cropped hair! The BBQ pics and videos are SO moving. I grinned and cried with ya'll all weekend. I wanted to go so bad, but figured it inappropriate since I wasn't 'here'. SA is but a 10 hr. drive from NO, and I had to work Sunday night. (Is this the right place to discuss?) Anyway, thanks again for your welcome!
I'm preparing another more in depth 'get to know me' and will post on the "How BBM affected me" thread. More pics on the Pics thread, too.
See ya 'round?
lenny.. you missed a great bunch of folks, and especially a great bunch of men, of all ages and many walks of life.  never fear though, because you can start your journey of acquaintance online.  tell they guys whos posts have moved you that you have been listening. it means more than you know that what you share to lighten your own load moves someone else, someone you never knew was listening.  and apparently even the progression of avatars is a journey.

you can count on seeing many of us around.  and if you lose us in the maze of threads, you can always track our posts through the profiles....

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on August 22, 2006, 09:28:41 PM
Wecome Bass51, pull up a chair and make yourself comfortable,we've been waiting for you. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on August 23, 2006, 02:21:18 AM

A warm and heartfelt "hello" to you all!

Lenny D.

Lenny a warm welcome to you to, I look forward to reading your posts.  I always like to invite new people into Auntie's Diner, a light hearted lounge and speakeasy (best way I can describe it) hope to see you there; it's under Our Community, Meet your Neighbors, Auntie's 24 Hour Diner - you've met her already, got your feet wet? come take the plunge.

Kindest regards


Neil
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 23, 2006, 05:57:04 AM
Lenny....hello amigo !!

So glad you decided to post and even more glad you decided to put your gorgeous picture in your avatar !!!
I'm delighted to meet you and hope you introduce yourself all over the threads....it's great to have you in our family!!

WELCOME !!

Nellie :)
 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 23, 2006, 10:42:41 AM
i know an awful lot how you feel, and i am neither new here nor particularly shy. 

Umm, yeah, Jack, I've noticed that... ;)

we thank you for your trust, and hope it proves well founded.

Thanks, I already know it will be.

Lenny D.

you can count on seeing many of us around.  and if you lose us in the maze of threads, you can always track our posts through the profiles....

jack

Yeah, I've already figured that out, now trying out this quoting thing..

Lenny D.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 23, 2006, 10:47:30 AM
Welcome Bass51, pull up a chair and make yourself comfortable,we've been waiting for you. :)

<sounds of chair dragging on floor>
Well, thanks, John John, what're ya'll clairvoyant or sumthin'? <look of bewilderment on Ennis's face!>  :)

Lenny
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 23, 2006, 10:54:35 AM
Lenny a warm welcome to you to, I look forward to reading your posts.  I always like to invite new people into Auntie's Diner, a light hearted lounge and speakeasy (best way I can describe it) hope to see you there; it's under Our Community, Meet your Neighbors, Auntie's 24 Hour Diner - you've met her already, got your feet wet? come take the plunge.

Kindest regards


Neil

Thanks, Neil, cheers to you. Although I've been looking through the glass from the outside for awhile now, (so that's who's face we couldn't make out!) I've not 'officially' met Auntie but look forward to it.

Lenny
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 23, 2006, 11:11:55 AM
Lenny....hello amigo !!

Nellie, que paso...'!

So glad you decided to post and even more glad you decided to put your gorgeous picture in your avatar !!!

<blushes>

I'm delighted to meet you and hope you introduce yourself all over the threads....it's great to have you in our family!!

WELCOME !!

Nellie


Thanks, Nell, I'll be getting around now that I'm no longer a phantom!
I must say, your beautiful smile is quite compelling. I can hear that hearty laughter loud and clear.
The pics of you at the BBQ are beautiful. You go girl.

Lenny
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 23, 2006, 11:41:28 AM

Thanks, Nell, I'll be getting around now that I'm no longer a phantom!
I must say, your beautiful smile is quite compelling. I can hear that hearty laughter loud and clear.
The pics of you at the BBQ are beautiful. You go girl.

Lenny D.



 :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[...uhhh...thank you hon....very nice of you..was never good at receiving compliments...but you put a smile to my face..I do have a loud laugh...bwahaha....

See you around then...okay?

Nellie  :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 23, 2006, 12:25:30 PM
mmmn :-* Back at cha, sweetie, now just smile that big smile and say 'thank you' when someone compliments you!
Lord knows there's never enough, never enough...
 :)

I'll be moseyin'...

Lenny

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on August 23, 2006, 05:33:16 PM
may i call your attention to a hurting newbie in the affected thread...

thanks for attending

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Roxy on August 23, 2006, 09:49:18 PM
Hello All

I am a bit embarrassed to say that I have only seen the movie once....a few months ago at home with my husband.  But reading your comments I have this huge urge to rent it again and then maybe I will feel more comfortable getting involved in the conversations more so I don't feel so lame.  The reason I chose to be a member on this site is because I really did enjoy the movie!  Chow for now...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on August 23, 2006, 10:35:05 PM
Hello All

I am a bit embarrassed to say that I have only seen the movie once....a few months ago at home with my husband.† But reading your comments I have this huge urge to rent it again and then maybe I will feel more comfortable getting involved in the conversations more so I don't feel so lame.† The reason I chose to be a member on this site is because I really did enjoy the movie!† Chow for now...

Make it fast we'll wait for you! You're welcome to share this great movie with all of us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: estefue on August 24, 2006, 12:44:14 AM
And some of us know other reasons you joined! ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 24, 2006, 05:34:52 AM
Hello All

I am a bit embarrassed to say that I have only seen the movie once....a few months ago at home with my husband. But reading your comments I have this huge urge to rent it again and then maybe I will feel more comfortable getting involved in the conversations more so I don't feel so lame. The reason I chose to be a member on this site is because I really did enjoy the movie! Chow for now...

Hi Roxy...don't feel lame girl....you'll be fine....read the short story as well....looking forward to your return.

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on August 24, 2006, 08:19:14 PM
ALERT!!!!
ALL MEMBERS PLEASE NOTE THE NEWSBOX ALERT
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: drifting_elfie on August 25, 2006, 09:49:29 AM
Well, I kinda got a false start on one of the slashfic threads when I saw someone link my Brokeback RPS fic, but I think it would be good form to introduce myself here.

My name is Eva, but everyone calls me ~elfie. I am a very active member in the Lord of the Rings fandom, but got terribly distracted when I saw Brokeback Mountain in November of last year. The story blew me away. I have seen it five times in the theater - yesterday being the last time (they showed it as part of a series of most successful films of this season) and I still choke up, wondering at the incredible bleakness of it all, every single character in it being powerless to change anything about their lives. I have never seen (or read, for that matter) anything so haunting. Maybe Wuthering Heights, that *other* intense love story, comes close.

When a fandom grabs me, I usually contribute to it by writing slash fiction (I really wonder if that says something wonky about me† ;D ) and in this case it shall be no different. This forum seems like a really great place to hang out, and in between writing chapters, I shall definitely come in here and participate. That is,of course, if you'll have me. I really only bite when you want me to.  ;)

~elfie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: graylockV on August 26, 2006, 05:13:52 PM
Welcome ~elfie.

I am not a slash devotee myself, but it looks to me like you will fit in just fine around here.  There is so much to choose from when you review all the available threads.  I am sure you will find plenty to enjoy.

Again, welcome aboard.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bklynj on August 27, 2006, 10:34:18 AM
Hello, my name is Julie and I am a brokaholic.† I first became addicted early last September (wow, almost a year now!) when I read a NY Times article about a movie about '2 cowboys in love with each other' being shown at the Venice film festival.† I was hooked.† I found Annie Proulx's story online and never has a story affected me lilke this one.

I spent $30 to see the movie at the end of November (with a friend) at Lincoln Center, with Larry McMurtry and Diana Ossana answering questions afterwards.† I watched the movie 2 more times in the theater, once alone and once with my husband, and I usually don't watch movies more than once.† I only watched the dvd once since I borrowed it from the library.† I was able to keep the dvd for 3 weeks but I couldn't watch it anymore, it was too difficult.† I've read the story over and over.† †I also read Close Range and Shipping News to see if AP's other work would affect me as much, but nothing like BBM.

I read a lot of IMDB posts and found some other BBM forums, and then I found this one and have been lurking since April.† You guys are amazing!† It feels like home.† My RL home isn't so great now.† My husband thinks I need therapy to deal with this obsession and also, he is a *rash fan (saw it multiple times), so we have are having difficulties.† I'm not paying enough attention to my son and my elderly mom needs assistance and I haven't been giving it so I'm also feeling guilty.† On the positive side, I work in a great place with a great group of people who are very supportive, except when it comes to BBM, so I'm in the closet about it.

I'm looking forward to meeting the NYC contingent and visitors on 9/16, although I'm feeling shy and scared, and I hope that nobody thinks that I'm a snob, which I've been called before because it's hard for me to speak up and say hello.† It takes me a while to open up, I'm a real 'Ennis'.† It's been very hard for me to write, I've always thought I would sound stupid.† Twistedboy was very kind on the NYC get together thread, so I feel encouraged.

Whew!

Julie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on August 27, 2006, 11:33:06 AM
<sounds of chair dragging on floor>
Well, thanks, John John, what're ya'll clairvoyant or sumthin'? <look of bewilderment on Ennis's face!>† :)

Clairwhutant?  Oh!  That's over by the ketchup!

;)

Welcome Lenny.
We're all here for the same reasons.  You are free to be who you need to be here without harsh judgement.  We don't cast stones, we lend an ear or a shoulder and offer support.  We're all working through this "force of nature" that is BBM....together.

Can't wait to see your face in the pic thread and to read your impact story soon.

xoxo
Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mary on August 27, 2006, 12:36:14 PM
Hello, my name is Julie and I am a brokaholic.† ...

Welcome Julie!
We're glad you found us.  I can understand your struggle to have someone to share this with.  My family has tolerated my obsession but I they still don't really understand it.  (though I'm not sure I how I would handle a spouse who loved *rash.) I found that meeting others and seeing the film with others from this forum was a great experience.  Everyone understands and there is always someone here to chat

So go to the NYC get together, I'm sure you will enjoy it.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bass51 on August 28, 2006, 01:13:10 AM
Welcome Lenny.
We're all here for the same reasons.  You are free to be who you need to be here without harsh judgement.  We don't cast stones, we lend an ear or a shoulder and offer support.  We're all working through this "force of nature" that is BBM....together.

Can't wait to see your face in the pic thread and to read your impact story soon.

xoxo
Heidi

Thanks, Heidi, I've followed your story last few months, congrats on it working out, keep working on it, practice makes, well, more practice!.  :)  Look in the 'affected' thread for the story.

 :-* back at ya!

Lenny
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bklynj on August 28, 2006, 05:22:26 PM
Hello, my name is Julie and I am a brokaholic.† ...

Welcome Julie!
We're glad you found us.† I can understand your struggle to have someone to share this with.† My family has tolerated my obsession but I they still don't really understand it.† (though I'm not sure I how I would handle a spouse who loved *rash.) I found that meeting others and seeing the film with others from this forum was a great experience.† Everyone understands and there is always someone here to chat

So go to the NYC get together, I'm sure you will enjoy it.


Hi Mary,

Thanks for your friendly welcome.† Yes, my husband is constantly emailing me with attachments, either making fun of BBM or saying something 'positive' about that other movie.† It bums me out sometimes.† Luckily, there are some things that we agree on.

I am looking forward to the NYC get together.† It will be a relief to talk to folks who don't think I'm nuts when I talk about BBM.

I tried my first 'quote' and it worked.† Wooeee!† (Sorry if I spelled that wrong)

Julie


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Luke-1 on August 30, 2006, 01:59:49 PM
Hi to all!

I'm a little nervous at writing this first "post" - I hardly know where or how to begin!
It's certainly been a godsend to discover this wonderful forum only a few days ago - you all seem or sound like such a wonderful group of people. From the few hours of reading I've done thus far, I know that I've found the "right site"! Wish I'd found it months ago when I first saw Brokeback Mountain. I'm sure it would have helped my almost "broken-hearted feelings" somewhat!

After my first viewing of BBM, I couldn't express within myself how or what I felt - I know that I was in a type of emotional shock. In some ways this has not subsided because I listen to the soundtrack every day - and I know that that just maintains those initial feelings I experienced from that first viewing! Also, I recently bought the DVD which I have watched several times.

I'm trying to analyse how and why I'm feeling this way about BBM - I still get choked-up at the first bars of the soundtrack and a couple of the songs. The haunting music also keeps me in that BBM "space"!

I empathise with both Jack and Ennis all the way through - I identify with them both and have had in my life "my Ennis period" and "my Jack period". There are so many corelations to the BBM story in my experience that I feel and resonate to, and this causes waves of grief to not just engulf me, but to stay for prolonged periods. I've noticed that when my grief is subsiding, I play the soundtrack again - as if I want to maintain this whole experience (which I still struggle to understand).

The part of Ennis that I have experienced so strongly and I still live to this day is the loneliness and inability to communicate this level of my identity truthfully to anyone - I feel the awful feeling of living a lie, expecially to my children - I become tearful just remembering the scene where Ennis agrees to go to his daughters wedding - it was similar for me. The scene in BBM at Thanksgiving were Alma confronts Ennis and Ennis's reaction was almost an exact scene from my own life. When I first saw that scene in the movie I remember my cheeks flushed - I was glad for the fact that nobody could see my face. There were too many resonances with my life experience in this story - especially Ennis.

This forum has been so good for me to read - and now, to contribute to. Whether or not I feel brave enough to continue contributing remains to be seen, but I most certainly will continue to visit this forum - you are lovely and loving people.

This is the first time I have shared such thoughts - thank you for the opportunity

Love, Luke


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on August 30, 2006, 02:18:36 PM
luke...

so glad you could be here, and we can be here for you.  most if not all of us have had some form of similar reaction, as you will be able to read, for years, if you wish to.  hell, it moved so many of us so much, we are publishing a book that will trace our journeys. 

if there is something you can't find, or some discussion you think ought to be going on, just ask.  several thousand people have walked this path before you, and we are glad to help, as those who walked before us helped us.

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on August 30, 2006, 02:49:56 PM
Welcome, Luke!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on August 30, 2006, 03:06:08 PM
Luke, welcome, no pressure here. Post or no post it's all fine.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 30, 2006, 03:18:01 PM
Hello Luke,

I'm so glad you found us..better late than never,huh?....I want to welcome you to our family. I can't say enough how great it is to have you here and experience it's wonders and these great people. Please continue to post and I sure hope to chat with you soon.

Take care,

Your friend,

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on August 30, 2006, 03:21:08 PM
Luke,

From what I could gather, you are male, either married or were married and have children.† There a couple of men in similar circumstances that you might want to talk with.† One even has his own thread reporting on his "makeover".† Click below and it will lead you to his thread.† If I've got it wrong, my apologies.† Again, no pressure, just a suggestion of where you might start.

Brokeback Mountain Lovesick Diet (http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=7712.0)

It's amazing how many new posts I read that sound just like I did when I first showed up here.† All of our experiences are so similar even though we are all unique human beings.† I recognized early on that what I was feeling was an overwhelming sense of grief that I could not control.† It was real and still is although time does heal.† It was grief for the death of Jack, for the fate that Ennis seems to face and grief for my own life.† You can see by the responses to your post what you already knew.† This is a special place with wells of understanding.† Dip your cup into them and drink.† You'll feel better.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Luke-1 on August 31, 2006, 05:40:26 AM
Dear TwistedBoy, Nellie, JohnJohn, PlanetGirl and Jack,
Many thanks for the welcome you have all extended to me.
Very much appreciated - I'm sure I will enjoy this forum, especially when I learn how to drive it!
Thanks again
Love - Luke
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: WyomingBoy on August 31, 2006, 05:58:50 AM
Hey guys,

Another newbie...fresh meat...whatever.  Didn't know a place like this existed till the other day.  It's great.  Not sure how or what I can contribute.  Know I got a lot to say jusy not sure how to say it yet.  Read some really intense stuff here.  Never thought about witing my story down.  You just kind of live it and sometimes you forget the details.  Maybe I should write it down.  Make a helluva movie...kidding.  So you guys know, yeah I am a cowboy, and gay, but haven't really come out to anyone yet cept a few close female friends.  Maybe that could change if I hang here a while
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on August 31, 2006, 07:35:37 AM
Hey guys,

Another newbie...fresh meat...whatever.† Didn't know a place like this existed till the other day.† It's great.† Not sure how or what I can contribute.† Know I got a lot to say jusy not sure how to say it yet.† Read some really intense stuff here.† Never thought about witing my story down.† You just kind of live it and sometimes you forget the details.† Maybe I should write it down.† Make a helluva movie...kidding.† So you guys know, yeah I am a cowboy, and gay, but haven't really come out to anyone yet cept a few close female friends.† Maybe that could change if I hang here a while
Welcome WyomingBoy, make yourself at home there's plent to go at here from the serious to the lighthearted to the plain insane.  If you're passing in real time (RT) try Auntie's 24 hour diner in the Our community, Meet your neighbors section.  There are usually a few of us cheing the fat and drinking coffee in there.

See you around

Nax.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on August 31, 2006, 07:43:32 AM
Hi WyomingBoy,
Gees, you must be the only actual Wyoming cowboy here! I'm sure you know how we all feel about two other Wyoming cowboys! You'll be  so welcomed here like you won't believe!
Pull up a log and join us around the campfire.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: WyomingBoy on August 31, 2006, 07:52:00 AM
Hi WyomingBoy,
Gees, you must be the only actual Wyoming cowboy here! I'm sure you know how we all feel about two other Wyoming cowboys! You'll be† so welcomed here like you won't believe!
Pull up a log and join us around the campfire.

Yeah thought about sayin I was from somewhere else
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on August 31, 2006, 07:52:23 AM
Hey guys,

Another newbie...fresh meat...whatever.  Didn't know a place like this existed till the other day.  It's great.  Not sure how or what I can contribute.  Know I got a lot to say jusy not sure how to say it yet.  Read some really intense stuff here.  Never thought about witing my story down.  You just kind of live it and sometimes you forget the details.  Maybe I should write it down.  Make a helluva movie...kidding.  So you guys know, yeah I am a cowboy, and gay, but haven't really come out to anyone yet cept a few close female friends.  Maybe that could change if I hang here a while

Sounds like you have a boatload and then some to contribute to me. And I love that you already think this forum has the ability to change your life in some way, because I really think it does. It has mine, in meeting so many truly beautiful and amazing people. It really makes me feel like we're doing something here and changing the world. Welcome!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on August 31, 2006, 08:26:03 AM
Hi WyomingBoy,
Gees, you must be the only actual Wyoming cowboy here! I'm sure you know how we all feel about two other Wyoming cowboys! You'll be† so welcomed here like you won't believe!
Pull up a log and join us around the campfire.

Yeah thought about sayin I was from somewhere else

I'm from Montreal, how boring is that!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 31, 2006, 11:25:40 AM
Hey guys,

Another newbie...fresh meat...whatever. Didn't know a place like this existed till the other day. It's great. Not sure how or what I can contribute. Know I got a lot to say jusy not sure how to say it yet. Read some really intense stuff here. Never thought about witing my story down. You just kind of live it and sometimes you forget the details. Maybe I should write it down. Make a helluva movie...kidding. So you guys know, yeah I am a cowboy, and gay, but haven't really come out to anyone yet cept a few close female friends. Maybe that could change if I hang here a while

Sweetheart,

I met you in the Diner first, but I want you to know how glad to have met you...you sound like such a sweet soul and know that we are here for you...take your time...lurk around and join all over the threads...love having you at the Diner...to get away from all the serious stuff....

Your friend,

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on August 31, 2006, 11:34:24 AM
although I'm pretty low profile around here I would still like to welcome all newcomers. The wealth of ministry outa this place will meet just about everyone's various needs 'n all. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on August 31, 2006, 12:03:33 PM
Welcome again WyomingBoy and so very glad you have found us as well.

Luke-1 thank you for joinin us here as well.

I know that you both will be sharing a lot more once you learn to manuever the streets here!
If you have any questions, do not hesitate to ask anyone, and don't be shy, we were all new here once!!
So very glad that you have joined the forum family here and once again welcome!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: wyomen on August 31, 2006, 06:52:38 PM
Well hello there WyomingBoy! I am Wyomen! Nax from the diner Pm's me to have me say hi. I live down in Rawlins and have been around these parts since February! Lots of ups and downs! I have been at some of the Wyoming get togethers and we are planning some more. So maybe sometime we can meet. Nothing too formal, it is just nice to talk to someone with the same BBM interests. On one campout we watched the movie under the stars up in the Big Horn Mountains and went up to Brokenback Mountain the next day where I have put a little cache of memorabilia.

Well, don't want to be too pushy so if you would like then write me back when you have the chance. The thing about the boards is you can decide how much of yourself you want to put out there and who you want to contact. Remember to have fun, there are some really good people here!

Good to meet you!

Wyomen
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on September 01, 2006, 01:44:28 AM

I'm from Montreal, how boring is that!!!
Nothing wrong with Montreal! Place I really want to visit!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on September 01, 2006, 05:06:54 AM
although I'm pretty low profile around here I would still like to welcome all newcomers. The wealth of ministry outa this place will meet just about everyone's various needs 'n all. :)

You're not low profile baby...I love your new avatar...nice to see your handsome face.

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on September 01, 2006, 05:10:13 AM
why, thankew m'am :-[ :-[
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on September 01, 2006, 05:11:32 AM
I've been wanting to get my pic up for ages but have only just gotten round to doin it...thanx to bbmbliss. I don't handle computers too well. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on September 01, 2006, 05:34:25 AM
well, andy, a mighty fine pic it is too.  spectacular head of hair you have there (as observed from the viewpoint of the follicularly challenged).

nice to see you.

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on September 01, 2006, 11:11:13 AM

I'm from Montreal, how boring is that!!!
Nothing wrong with Montreal! Place I really want to visit!

I might have been a bit harsh on my town, but you know how it is, it got to be too familiar after a lifetime of living here.
Tourists seem to love it. It's a really safe town.
You'd be very well greeted here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on September 01, 2006, 11:16:17 AM
I've been wanting to get my pic up for ages but have only just gotten round to doin it...thanx to bbmbliss. I don't handle computers too well. :)

Geez, that hair color looks familiar! Mine started greying at age 14!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on September 02, 2006, 01:06:06 PM
Hi to all!

I'm a little nervous at writing this first "post" - I hardly know where or how to begin!
It's certainly been a godsend to discover this wonderful forum only a few days ago - you all seem or sound like such a wonderful group of people. From the few hours of reading I've done thus far, I know that I've found the "right site"! Wish I'd found it months ago when I first saw Brokeback Mountain. I'm sure it would have helped my almost "broken-hearted feelings" somewhat!

After my first viewing of BBM, I couldn't express within myself how or what I felt - I know that I was in a type of emotional shock. In some ways this has not subsided because I listen to the soundtrack every day - and I know that that just maintains those initial feelings I experienced from that first viewing! Also, I recently bought the DVD which I have watched several times.

I'm trying to analyse how and why I'm feeling this way about BBM - I still get choked-up at the first bars of the soundtrack and a couple of the songs. The haunting music also keeps me in that BBM "space"!

I empathise with both Jack and Ennis all the way through - I identify with them both and have had in my life "my Ennis period" and "my Jack period". There are so many corelations to the BBM story in my experience that I feel and resonate to, and this causes waves of grief to not just engulf me, but to stay for prolonged periods. I've noticed that when my grief is subsiding, I play the soundtrack again - as if I want to maintain this whole experience (which I still struggle to understand).

The part of Ennis that I have experienced so strongly and I still live to this day is the loneliness and inability to communicate this level of my identity truthfully to anyone - I feel the awful feeling of living a lie, expecially to my children - I become tearful just remembering the scene where Ennis agrees to go to his daughters wedding - it was similar for me. The scene in BBM at Thanksgiving were Alma confronts Ennis and Ennis's reaction was almost an exact scene from my own life. When I first saw that scene in the movie I remember my cheeks flushed - I was glad for the fact that nobody could see my face. There were too many resonances with my life experience in this story - especially Ennis.

This forum has been so good for me to read - and now, to contribute to. Whether or not I feel brave enough to continue contributing remains to be seen, but I most certainly will continue to visit this forum - you are lovely and loving people.

This is the first time I have shared such thoughts - thank you for the opportunity

Love, Luke

Luke,

It is good to have you here amongst us.  Do not be shy, but don't be pressured either.  We're all just here in whatever capacity we need to be or feel as the forum strikes us.  THere are lots of questions that this movie stirred up in us all - and don't expect the answers to come swiftly!  I still tear up with the music, and after 10x in the theatre and a handful at home, I still have trouble sitting through the whole movie.  It's changed me and my life profoundly.  And it continues to do so even nearly a year later.  We're all working through this wonderful movie's messages to us.

Join us.

Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on September 02, 2006, 02:31:38 PM
I've been wanting to get my pic up for ages but have only just gotten round to doin it...thanx to bbmbliss. I don't handle computers too well. :)

Geez, that hair color looks familiar! Mine started greying at age 14!

I'd say we belong to a very special group eh John? I started going salt n pepper in my thirties but now there aint nothin but white! If I could live long enough, I quite fancy growing it Gandalf style. LOL
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on September 02, 2006, 02:39:47 PM
Well Luke, now that you're officially a Brokaholic, just regard yourself as a new work in progress cos the longer you hang around here and mix in with everybody or just lurk, you'll be amazed at how things start falling into place and making some kinda sense where it wasn't before.And the wonderful things is that you dont have to conform to anybody's idea of right n wrong, black or white or whatever. Here you have the freedom and opportunity to come to terms with the effects of this fabulous story/film and apply it as only you'll know how, as and when. Please hang around and enjoy the company of so many like minded people and see what comes out of it. I wish you well mate
Andy.†
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: LSky94 on September 02, 2006, 02:54:17 PM
Welcome, Luke.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Luke-1 on September 03, 2006, 07:36:10 PM
Well Luke, now that you're officially a Brokaholic, just regard yourself as a new work in progress cos the longer you hang around here and mix in with everybody or just lurk, you'll be amazed at how things start falling into place and making some kinda sense where it wasn't before.And the wonderful things is that you dont have to conform to anybody's idea of right n wrong, black or white or whatever. Here you have the freedom and opportunity to come to terms with the effects of this fabulous story/film and apply it as only you'll know how, as and when. Please hang around and enjoy the company of so many like minded people and see what comes out of it. I wish you well mate
Andy.†
Thanks so much for your welcoming/encouraging comments Andy. Yes, I certainly feel like a Brokaholic - and most certainly a "new work in progress" as you said! I will hang around - just "reading" the threads makes me feel part of this great community and not so isolated with regard to BBM-type feelings. I wish you well also
...Luke
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: WyomingBoy on September 04, 2006, 05:55:09 AM
Hey Luke welcome.  I'm new here to, but feel like I've been around forever thanks to the great people that have welcomed me here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Luke-1 on September 04, 2006, 05:52:30 PM
Hey Luke welcome.† I'm new here to, but feel like I've been around forever thanks to the great people that have welcomed me here.

Hey Dan, Thanks and welcome to you too. You beat me to it - I had you lined-up for a welcome note when I read a post of yours yesterday. I feel pretty much the same Dan - its a great forum. I'm so glad I found it. Nice "mug shot" buddy.
...Luke
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: WyomingBoy on September 05, 2006, 07:45:07 AM
Hey Luke welcome.† I'm new here to, but feel like I've been around forever thanks to the great people that have welcomed me here.

Hey Dan, Thanks and welcome to you too. You beat me to it - I had you lined-up for a welcome note when I read a post of yours yesterday. I feel pretty much the same Dan - its a great forum. I'm so glad I found it. Nice "mug shot" buddy.
...Luke

Aw shucks thanks there Luke
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rayne on September 09, 2006, 06:40:39 AM
Hello.  I'm new to this forum.  My name is Rayne, and I currently (I am probably moving at the beginning of next year) live in Boston.  I am a professional musician, who works throughout the US primarily, but have performed in several European countries.  I'm glad to have found this forum, and look forward to reading the posts and interacting with others who were so affected by this wonderfull film.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on September 09, 2006, 06:51:39 AM
Hello.† I'm new to this forum.† My name is Rayne, and I currently (I am probably moving at the beginning of next year) live in Boston.† I am a professional musician, who works throughout the US primarily, but have performed in several European countries.† I'm glad to have found this forum, and look forward to reading the posts and interacting with others who were so affected by this wonderfull film.

Hi Rayne! Welcome to our campsite! Hope you like beans.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rayne on September 09, 2006, 06:54:26 AM
Hi Rayne! Welcome to our campsite! Hope you like beans.

I'm afraid not.  But one can always acquire a taste for most anything, given enough time.  Thank you for your welcome.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: gnash on September 09, 2006, 02:59:23 PM

Yeah thought about sayin I was from somewhere else

LOL.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: gnash on September 09, 2006, 03:00:40 PM
Hi Rayne! Welcome to our campsite! Hope you like beans.

I'm afraid not.† But one can always acquire a taste for most anything, given enough time.† Thank you for your welcome.

from boston and you don't like beans?? oh my! ;) ;D

welcome rayne!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rayne on September 10, 2006, 04:54:41 AM
from boston and you don't like beans?? oh my! ;) ;D

welcome rayne!

I live in Boston now, but am originally from Sherbrooke PQ.  We moved when I was small child to the states, but not to Boston.  Baked Beans?  Detestable!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on September 10, 2006, 06:02:03 AM

Sherbrooke PQ.† Baked Beans?† Detestable!

PQ??  Province Quebecois??  BTW, Not much of a baked beans fan myself.  Way to sweet.  It's like beans as candy.  Yuk!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: AHappyMan on September 10, 2006, 06:05:19 AM
I love baked beans. Unfortunately, the feeling isn't mutual... :( :D

Rick
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: gnash on September 10, 2006, 06:28:36 AM
... Not much of a baked beans fan myself.† Way to sweet.† It's like beans as candy.† Yuk!

gee gonzo, i always took you for an ennis...  you done burst my bubble...    :-\ :-\ ;) ;D ;D

hey there, rick..!  :D ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: AHappyMan on September 10, 2006, 06:30:46 AM
Hay gnash, you talented l'il devil, you!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on September 10, 2006, 06:49:28 AM
gee gonzo, i always took you for an ennis...† you done burst my bubble...† † :-\ :-\ ;) ;D ;D

hey there, rick..!† :D ;)


80% Jack, 20% Ennis.  I love beans, just not sweet beans.  Unlike my gnash, I love 'im sweet as can be.   ;) ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rayne on September 10, 2006, 02:23:51 PM

Sherbrooke PQ.† Baked Beans?† Detestable!

PQ??† Province Quebecois??† BTW, Not much of a baked beans fan myself.† Way to sweet.† It's like beans as candy.† Yuk!

Yes indeed I am Quebecois, and I vote for cessation!  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on September 10, 2006, 02:32:48 PM

Sherbrooke PQ.† Baked Beans?† Detestable!

PQ??† Province Quebecois??† BTW, Not much of a baked beans fan myself.† Way to sweet.† It's like beans as candy.† Yuk!

Yes indeed I am Quebecois, and I vote for cessation!† ;D

Hey le Quťbťcois! Qu'est c'tu fais ŗ Boston!!! On a besoin de toi ici, si on veut que Charest dťbarque!
C'est pas parce que t'aimes pas les binnes que tu dois quitter le pays.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chapeaugris on September 11, 2006, 03:45:56 AM
Anyone who doesn't like beans just hasn't tried cassoulet.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on September 11, 2006, 04:08:30 AM
In the name of full disclosure.  I love beans and have had cassoulet.  I could eat beans all summer.  I just don't like baked beans.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chapeaugris on September 11, 2006, 06:28:21 AM
Cassoulet is baked beans -- just baked with yummier extras. But I agree, the canned baked beans -- American or English -- are awful.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Gonzo on September 11, 2006, 08:34:07 AM
Cassoulet is baked beans -- just baked with yummier extras. But I agree, the canned baked beans -- American or English -- are awful.

Well maybe I've not had genuine cassoulet, although, I was told it was cassoulet (that lying, conniving cook!!)  Maybe I should've specified Boston Baked Beans.  Ugh, just too sweet.  Like I said "beans as candy".  Yuk!   ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CANSTANDIT on September 17, 2006, 09:48:46 AM
I have to ring in for Boston Baked beans; my mother converted us as kids, and I acquired the taste.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: gnash on September 17, 2006, 12:10:49 PM
i'm with CSI.. boston baked beans are delish...

beans beans beans, baked or boston or sweet... with bacon or not (tho i won't eat that WHITE thing in canned beans :P)

the japanese eat a sweet bean dessert made with tiny azuki beans, and it's packed into a gooey rice cake thing, omanju i think it's called. and they make frozen bean pops too. so... yeah! beans. it's what's for dessert.

AHappyMan --- wow, you're the matte painter, talk about talent, jezelle!! gorgeous stuff!!   but thanks, and howdy :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Cyprian on September 17, 2006, 01:22:15 PM
Hello, my name is 'Cyprian" and I am from New Zealand and this is the first time I have ever joined a forum. I new that this forum existed but never came here. A very good friend of mine raved aboput this site and finally got me to join it. My friend has recently died, I was too late. I had hoped, finally, to meet up with him here and join in the fun. that is not to be.
I have seen Brokeback three times and each time it has reduced me to tears. I can relate to  both Ennis and Jack, leaning more on the 'Jack' side. I have been suffering from unrequited love, so i get where he was at.
I have a lot of exploring to do so here i go ........ C
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on September 17, 2006, 02:13:25 PM
Hello, my name is 'Cyprian" and I am from New Zealand and this is the first time I have ever joined a forum. I new that this forum existed but never came here. A very good friend of mine raved aboput this site and finally got me to join it. My friend has recently died, I was too late. I had hoped, finally, to meet up with him here and join in the fun. that is not to be.
I have seen Brokeback three times and each time it has reduced me to tears. I can relate to† both Ennis and Jack, leaning more on the 'Jack' side. I have been suffering from unrequited love, so i get where he was at.
I have a lot of exploring to do so here i go ........ C

Hi Cyprian, welcome to the BBM love fest! Make yourself comfortable and type away! :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: LSky94 on September 17, 2006, 04:32:36 PM
Welcome, Cyprian. You will find many like minded people here who know where you are coming from.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on September 17, 2006, 04:56:47 PM
welcome cyprian... and don't despair if you find getting started difficult.  it does get easier, and there are plenty of folks who will be delighted to guide you and remember your friend with affection.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on September 17, 2006, 05:26:33 PM
Welcome, Cyprian, and I hope you find a new family as I have!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on September 20, 2006, 06:17:25 AM
I love baked beans. Unfortunately, the feeling isn't mutual... :( :D

Rick

Rick? 

(http://i33.photobucket.com/albums/d95/leppard_mom/beano.jpg)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: AHappyMan on September 24, 2006, 02:14:25 AM
I love baked beans. Unfortunately, the feeling isn't mutual... :( :D

Rick

Rick? 

(http://i33.photobucket.com/albums/d95/leppard_mom/beano.jpg)

THANKS HEIDI!!
I KNEW I could count on you for something like that... ::) ;D

Rick
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mel08 on September 24, 2006, 12:10:14 PM
I'd like to say hello. Finally I found the courage to register here. I discovered this community months ago in march 2006. At this time I was terribly suffering from the film BBM I saw a few days ago. But I was too insecure about my English skills. But within the last two or three months I improved my English by reading lots of English written fan fictions - and now I think I can manage to deal with all the postings here. I surely won't understand every single
word, but I will try my very best to communicate as clear as I can. So I ask you for some understanding if some sentences may not be as clear
as you are used to ;-).

My history to BBM - well ... first of all I wasn't really interested in this film. I work seven days a week, nearly 12 hours a day 'cause I run my own business together with my husband (I'm 32 years old and I have a cute little boy at the age of two and a half). So my days are really fullfilled with work and care for my son and all the daily stuff that everyone has to deal with. Since my son is born I don't have really much time for myself - and going to the cinema belongs to the category "no way - no time". But then I read the Oscar nomination in our newspaper and I became curious. A film about gay cowboys - well, this could be interesting. So I finally watched the movie and fell apart...

NEVER, never in my whole life a film touched me as deeply as BBM did. I have never felt such pain, never felt such sadness, never cried so worse.
I've had hard months after watching the movie BBM because it left me alone with this kind of feelings I never thought I could feel - and six months later the sadness (of a lost love, a lost life, of two men suffering) is still in my heart, terribly aching , most of the time covered by all-day work but now and then the feelings come back with such fierce - it's sometimes a little bit overwhelming and frightening ... And Jack and Ennis still live in my heart and I don't know if this will ever stop...

I'm not recovered from the film - I'm not recovered at all ... My husband (who has sadly never seen the movie ...) always tells me, that it's just a film. Just a film - yeah, easy to say and hard to accept, because for me it's so much more. The film turned my whole universe just the other way round.
And I wasn't prepared at all for the feelings that film caused. The feeling of an unsophisticated love, of true sadness, the feeling of an incredible painful loss and the powerful feeling of guilt and lost chances. Basic feelings, which everyone of us surly has in his life but I think a lot of us barely recognizes them in such profound way the film showed us because of our everyday business.

So, I'm really glad to find communities with people feeling maybe in a same way. I think it will take me months to read all your postings (our German community isn't as big and as busy as yours ;-)) but this is a task whitch I'm looking forward to do. ;-).
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 24, 2006, 12:17:47 PM
I'd like to say hello. Finally I found the courage to register here. I discovered this community months ago in march 2006. At this time I was terribly suffering from the film BBM I saw a few days ago. But I was too insecure about my English skills. But within the last two or three months I improved my English by reading lots of English written fan fictions - and now I think I can manage to deal with all the postings here. I surely won't understand every single
word, but I will try my very best to communicate as clear as I can. So I ask you for some understanding if some sentences may not be as clear
as you are used to ;-).

My history to BBM - well ... first of all I wasn't really interested in this film. I work seven days a week, nearly 12 hours a day 'cause I run my own business together with my husband (I'm 32 years old and I have a cute little boy at the age of two and a half). So my days are really fullfilled with work and care for my son and all the daily stuff that everyone has to deal with. Since my son is born I don't have really much time for myself - and going to the cinema belongs to the category "no way - no time". But then I read the Oscar nomination in our newspaper and I became curious. A film about gay cowboys - well, this could be interesting. So I finally watched the movie and fell apart...

NEVER, never in my whole life a film touched me as deeply as BBM did. I have never felt such pain, never felt such sadness, never cried so worse.
I've had hard months after watching the movie BBM because it left me alone with this kind of feelings I never thought I could feel - and six months later the sadness (of a lost love, a lost life, of two men suffering) is still in my heart, terribly aching , most of the time covered by all-day work but now and then the feelings come back with such fierce - it's sometimes a little bit overwhelming and frightening ... And Jack and Ennis still live in my heart and I don't know if this will ever stop...

I'm not recovered from the film - I'm not recovered at all ... My husband (who has sadly never seen the movie ...) always tells me, that it's just a film. Just a film - yeah, easy to say and hard to accept, because for me it's so much more. The film turned my whole universe just the other way round.
And I wasn't prepared at all for the feelings that film caused. The feeling of an unsophisticated love, of true sadness, the feeling of an incredible painful loss and the powerful feeling of guilt and lost chances. Basic feelings, which everyone of us surly has in his life but I think a lot of us barely recognizes them in such profound way the film showed us because of our everyday business.

So, I'm really glad to find communities with people feeling maybe in a same way. I think it will take me months to read all your postings (our German community isn't as big and as busy as yours ;-)) but this is a task whitch I'm looking forward to do. ;-).

Meine liebe Mel08!

Willkommen bei uns im Forum. Wir sind hier alle vom Film tief beeindruckt. Es gibt hier vieles zu lesen und die Atmosphšre ist ganz bequem. Der deutsche Thread ist leider im Moment nicht oft besucht, aber viele andere sind vorhanden. Der Thread Auntie's Diner ist leicht und macht SpaŖ, es flieŖt vorbei aber ziemlich schnell. Da ist auch tagsŁber eine Frau aus Wien, sie kann vieles erklšren im Notfall. Ich auch! Aber Ihr Englisch ist ausgezeichnet, und wir alle machen Fehler, auch wir Einheimischen! Also nochmal, ganz herzlich Willkommen bei uns!

Fritz Keppler

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mel08 on September 24, 2006, 02:48:58 PM
Ich fŁhle mich schon jetzt sehr willkommen - 1.000 Dank !  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on September 24, 2006, 03:38:08 PM
So, I'm really glad to find communities with people feeling maybe in a same way. I think it will take me months to read all your postings (our German community isn't as big and as busy as yours ;-)) but this is a task whitch I'm looking forward to do. ;-).

Welcome mel08 to this site and the 'home' of so many folks who feel the same way as you do about this film. One thing you may know or will yet figure out.....you are NOT alone in your feelings!!! We ALL have felt or are feeling the exact same way you do!!!  know that fritzkep has greeted you in your native tongue, but think it is wonderful you have worked to converse in English!!! Your words and sentences are just right and do not be worried that you will not be understood, you are doing very well!!!
I do hope that you find what it takes here to help you deal with yoru feelings...I know that you will because as I have said this is family here and I know that you will find it so!! I hope that as you read you will also post some of your impressions and feelings!! You write very well, so don't let that stop you!!!
Once again thank you for joining this great communty here and hope to see you in the threads!!!
killersmom
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mel08 on September 25, 2006, 05:12:47 AM
You write very well, so don't let that stop you!!!
Once again thank you for joining this great communty here and hope to see you in the threads!!!
killersmom

Thank you so much !!! You will definitely see me in the threads - I'm so glad to talk to others about the film. As I said our German Community is a small one and I'd like to hear more opinions about and experiences with BBM, so I will take this chance ...
I just need to go into the structure and the technical handling of this community which isn't so easy in German - and which causes me a Headache in a foreign language  ;).
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Cameron816 on September 26, 2006, 08:04:42 PM

Thank you so much !!! You will definitely see me in the threads - I'm so glad to talk to others about the film. As I said our German Community is a small one and I'd like to hear more opinions about and experiences with BBM, so I will take this chance ...
I just need to go into the structure and the technical handling of this community which isn't so easy in German - and which causes me a Headache in a foreign language† ;).

Mel08 -
Thanks so much for coming to us.† We crave people just like you, regardless of language, who speak from the heart.† Welcome home.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jeff hanna on September 27, 2006, 08:55:03 PM
mel08: Thank you for sharing your intense feelings about Brokeback.

  You describe well the issues that are heartbreakingly portrayed in the movie: lost opportunity, regret, guilt, "once-in-a-lifetime love" that is lost forever. When you use the term "unsophisticated love," I recall Annie Proulx referring to Ennis and Jack as limited young men "who find themselves in emotional waters of increasing depth."

  Larry McMurtry describes Brokeback as "a tragedy of emotional deprivation."

  I hope you will read the superb essays about the wrting of the short story and the making of the movie - written by Proulx, McMurtry, and the wondrous Diana Ossana. You will find a great kinship with them. The essays are in the Story-to-Screenplay book. Perhaps there is a German version?

  I wish I could read German - as I would be fascinated to know what German people have been saying about our beloved Brokeback. I do know that the film was very well-reviewed by German critics.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mel08 on September 28, 2006, 02:34:10 PM
mel08: Thank you for sharing your intense feelings about Brokeback.

  You describe well the issues that are heartbreakingly portrayed in the movie: lost opportunity, regret, guilt, "once-in-a-lifetime love" that is lost forever. When you use the term "unsophisticated love," I recall Annie Proulx referring to Ennis and Jack as limited young men "who find themselves in emotional waters of increasing depth."

  Larry McMurtry describes Brokeback as "a tragedy of emotional deprivation."

  I hope you will read the superb essays about the wrting of the short story and the making of the movie - written by Proulx, McMurtry, and the wondrous Diana Ossana. You will find a great kinship with them. The essays are in the Story-to-Screenplay book. Perhaps there is a German version?

  I wish I could read German - as I would be fascinated to know what German people have been saying about our beloved Brokeback. I do know that the film was very well-reviewed by German critics.

Hello Jeff hanna,

thank you for your comment. Yes, you are right. The film received ravel reviews in Germany. I can't remember any negative reviews. The German press reacted very open to the film - and of course they did right !
We have a very small community in Germany that talks about the film - but our community isn't comparable at all with the community here. We are 75 people, most of them are just readers, not writers - so it's a little bit lopsided ;).

But those people who are active in this community are deeply touched, they also feel this powerful pain, they have really problems to recover from this movie, they suffer, they long for a happy end, they quarrel with the sad ending and we all spent a lot of time discussing if a happy end would have been possible. Most of us think that yes, it would have been possible ...

So I think, this film touches people over contries borders. This film is so universal - people all over the world feel grabbed ...

mel

P.S. I read the short story in German, but the translation is SO bad, so I'm going to buy the English version. I haven't read the Story-to-Screenplay book. I don't know if there are German translations, but I will try to get one. Thanks for the tip !
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mel08 on September 28, 2006, 03:17:30 PM
well goddamn was i blown away. i felt like someone had poured liquid fire into my heart as i sat like a stone with tears dripping through my first viewing.

when i saw ennis holding on to and feeling jack in the second tent scene, i just lost it. it was like his whole life he never knew how to breathe, and then here it was jack ewas his air. he could finally let go ... and the way jack held him like he would save his ennis from his own damn self... i just lost it, damn i'm getting teary just typing this.

but there was and still is this huge part of me that is closed. no admittance cuz i can't afford to make another mistake.
when i saw ennis all alone in that shitty little trailer mourning the love of his life and deeply regretting how he let his fear destory their lives, i died inside a little.
you see, i looked at ennis and i saw me.
i meam i'm a girl and i'm strait, but that's just semantics because regret and lonliness knows no demographics.
i'm still heartbroken now. i can't let this go

i read madlori's human interest story and i swear i smiled for the first time in weeks.


Hi Melissa,

even though your posting is three months old, I hope you will look in this forum from time to time. Well, I'm here in this forum since yesterday and I just started to read some threads - and so I also read your post.
I'm so deeply touched by the way you are describing your feelings - I felt the same way. I saw Ennis - and I saw me, too. Part of my heart is closed, too. Slowly but surely I get the feeling why's so. But this film hurts so bad, I stopped breathing while watching the last scene with Ennis and Jack, I was shocked, extremely depressed for several weeks - and I was totally heartbroken and still I am.

Than I read Madloris Human Interest - and my soul started to recover. I'm not healed, I have such bad days when the film assails me once again so I hardly dare to watch it, 'cause this would be too much for me. I need the fan fictions to get a little bit peace, to calm down a little bit. They help me ... sometimes ...

Mel
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jeff hanna on September 28, 2006, 11:23:13 PM
Me108:Thanks for your interesting and informative reply about your "German Brokeback Community."

† Yes, we all wish desperately that Ennis and Jack had found happiness. I hope this doesn't make you feel worse, but Annie Proulx has made it clear that Ennis and Jack's love was "impossible," and that there could not have been a happy ending. Diana Ossana called it a "doomed love." Proulx said that it was clear to her from the beginning (of writing the story) that things could not work out, given the time, place, and circumstances.

† As you know, Ennis and Jack were unsophisticated, "high-school-droput country boys," steeped in the rigidly conservative, homophobic, rural culture of 1940's - 1960's Wyoming. What, of course, makes the story so fascinating - and so heartbreaking - is that you have these two young men - products of this culture - who find themselves in love with each other. Given the unremitting hostility to homosexuality that surrounds them, it wouldn't be realistic to think that they could've found a happy solution. One critic said that the real story of "Brokeback Mountain" is what these men had to do to sustain their love over twenty years - under impossible circumstances.

† †You may or may not be interested in reading Brokeback "slash fiction," which are stories about Ennis and Jack, and many of them have that happy ending. There are HUNDREDS of these stories; you can check many of them out here at the Dave Cullen Forum by going to the "Slash Links by Author" thread.
† To try Slash out fiction out, I recommend a story entitled "Somebody New" by Jennasts. Most lovers of slash seem to agree that this is "the gold standard." It is beautifully well-written, dramatic, heartbreaking, and very satisfying - and it has a wonderfully happy ending. In it, Jack end his relationship with Ennis - after that final confrontation - because he can't stand more years of longing and loneliness. Ennis is devastated, goes into a downward spiral and nearly dies, but finally decides to go down to Texas to try and win Jack back. It is a hell of a good story.

† Whatever you do, we'll all look forward to more posts by you - and give our love and good wishes to your German "Brokeback Buddies."

† Also - does your husband have any interest in seeing the film?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mel08 on September 29, 2006, 05:16:58 AM
  As you know, Ennis and Jack were unsophisticated, "high-school-droput country boys," steeped in the rigidly conservative, homophobic, rural culture of 1940's - 1960's Wyoming. What, of course, makes the story so fascinating - and so heartbreaking - is that you have these two young men - products of this culture - who find themselves in love with each other. Given the unremitting hostility to homosexuality that surrounds them, it wouldn't be realistic to think that they could've found a happy solution. One critic said that the real story of "Brokeback Mountain" is what these men had to do to sustain their love over twenty years - under impossible circumstances.

I recommend a story entitled "Somebody New" by Jennasts. Most lovers of slash seem to agree that this is "the gold standard." It is beautifully well-written, dramatic, heartbreaking, and very satisfying - and it has a wonderfully happy ending. In it, Jack end his relationship with Ennis - after that final confrontation - because he can't stand more years of longing and loneliness. Ennis is devastated, goes into a downward spiral and nearly dies, but finally decides to go down to Texas to try and win Jack back. It is a hell of a good story.

  Whatever you do, we'll all look forward to more posts by you - and give our love and good wishes to your German "Brokeback Buddies."

Hello Jeff hanna,

yes, I know, that the ending of the film would be the only "logical" ending concerning the time and circumstances Jack and Ennis were living in. But I think we look at the film through "German eyes". I think the situation in Germany would be less troubling in the sixties than in the rural Wyoming. Well, I think it's our history that taught us to be more open, to accept people from other countries, other religions and with other sexuality.
They certainly would have had problems, mainly in the rural regions - but I think they could have handled them. And nowadays homosexuality is kind of normal in our society. The Minister of Hamburg and the Minister of Berlin for example are homosexual - everyone knows, but it's not a big deal. No one talks about, it's no one's business.
In Berlin and Cologne are gay and lesbian festivals once a year, they are well known in Germany and ten thousands of people take part. No big deal.

So for us, it's just unbelievable to think that such a love would have had any chance because of the opinion of society. You will find people everywhere that are against other people, that's for sure. But the common sense is open and tolerate. So we understand the different situation Jack and Ennis had to deal with, but it makes it even worse for us ...

So this is why I read most of the fan fictions (with happy ending !!) and of course I have read "Somebody new", I'm reading the sequel, I have read "Human Interest" and the sequel, "Some silver lining" and the sequel, "A better Idea" and some other more. They are all fantastic and a real blessing for me !

Sadly my husband hasn't any interst seeing the movie ...

Mel
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on September 29, 2006, 07:12:04 PM
Hello...
My name is Saena, and I just joined this board after hearing the name of it mentioned in posts from lj friends about BBM fics. I first saw the movie in January (or maybe it was late December, but that's beside the point), and found it very moving and heartbreaking to watch. I had gone into it thinking I was going to cry through a good part of the film, but I didn't. Later I realized that it was because I was too heartbroken to cry.
Many Brokeback fans feel a strong connection to either Jack or Ennis (or both), and for me it's Ennis. I don't think I've ever identified with a fictional character as a kindred spirit quite so strongly.
I am the secretary of my college's GSA and an avid slash fanfiction reader.I don't actually read a lot of BBM fanfiction- only one or two so far- because I can't get over a feeling that the story is complete enough on its own. I think I might be coming around, though. Some of the work just looks so interesting that I might not be able to pass it up. (And I'm pretty much addicted to slash.)  :P
 I also frequent a couple of other message boards, and I'm looking forward to finding a new community to interact with. I can't wait to browse around and see what this place is all about.† †8)

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 29, 2006, 07:16:51 PM
Hello Saena and welcome to the Forum. As you may know, a lot of the people involved in Slash are now meeting in the Chicago area, but after this weekend they will be back in force. A "skeleton" crew is available there (you can tell them because they have replaced their avatars with skeletons, temporarily). Feel free to roam the threads, and post or not post as you prefer. Again, welcome here!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mel08 on September 30, 2006, 01:47:12 AM
I am the secretary of my college's GSA and an avid slash fanfiction reader.I don't actually read a lot of BBM fanfiction- only one or two so far- because I can't get over a feeling that the story is complete enough on its own. I think I might be coming around, though. Some of the work just looks so interesting that I might not be able to pass it up. (And I'm pretty much addicted to slash.)  :P
 I also frequent a couple of other message boards, and I'm looking forward to finding a new community to interact with. I can't wait to browse around and see what this place is all about.   8)

Saena

Hello Saena,

as for my part I can say: don't pass them fan fictions. Most of them are wounderful, heartbreaking but also very, very lovely. I only read the ones with happy ending. The sad ones are too much for me, they are so deeply touching, for me it's hard to deal with because the ending in the movie was really sad enough for me.
So there are many, many stories to read and if you feel ready enough - just do it ! Most of them are overwhelming.

mel
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on September 30, 2006, 09:23:11 AM
mel08 and saenna:

welcome here!

Mad Lori did a lot to salve many wounds.† I hope you find more peace in here.† Be sure to join the impact threads:

How Brokeback affected me (http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.0)
Brokeback changed my life, or it will (http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8579.0)
Are you a Jack or Ennis? (http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8911.0)

I hope you'll find some support and comfort in reading the stories and sharing how you feel with the rest of the forum

Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jeff hanna on September 30, 2006, 10:17:59 AM
Hi Saena: Why you little traitor...addicted to slash fiction but avoiding Brokeback slash...whaaa...! Just Kidding.

  I find that reading Jack and Ennis slash never intrudes at all  on the original short story and film - which I agree are perfect and complete as they are. I find that the BBM fanfiction universe to be totally separate from the short story and film...and the fics don't in ANY way lessen the story or film's power.

  I only read BBM slash, because it satisfies a craving to feel closer to Ennis and Jack. I can also appreciate the sad and heartbreaking stories. The fics answer questions, provide information, fill in empty spaces, like - "what happened to Ennis between the time Jack drove off, and  his marriage to Alma?' or "what really happened at the Motel Siesta?' (wink, wink). These kinds of topics are maybe best addressed on the slash threads (note to self).

  Whatever you do, welcome to the forum
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on September 30, 2006, 11:17:35 AM
*guilty face* I tried. Tried and am about to fail miserably. :) When I first saw the film, the idea that there could be a slash community developing barely occurred to me, and when I did discover it on ff.net I avoided it- didn't think I was interested. But then one day I took a chance and went there, and after only about five minutes of browsing found Madlori's story "Human Interest". I'mJackShe'sEnnis, you mentioned her in your post, and I'm a big fan of both her BBM fics. The way I saw it, if I had been looking for any specific kind of story in this fandom (even if I wasn't aware of my own expectations), I'd found it, and so I didn't need to look for any more. But then she started recommending stories. And I wavered. You're catching me at the beginning of my exploration of the greater BBM slash community!  :D
Thanks for the warm welcome, everybody. I'm looking forward to talking to you more on the other threads. I will definitely check out the impact threads at some point; they look interesting.

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: daniqueeninabox on October 01, 2006, 12:17:32 AM
Hi everyone, my name is Dani. I'm 18 and I'm from upstate NY, in a countrytown that's very small, republican (not meaning to offend if any of you are), and not very open to things that are..."different." I just started college downstate a month ago at SUNY College at Oneonta. Its a lot different from where I grew up and it seems to be a more accepting place. I myself am straight, but I find male/male much more attractive than male/female.
I saw BBM some time around the first two weeks it came out, actually for my Film Studies class in High School. We could choose a movie to watch from a list and I chose BBM along with this girl I barely knew. So I hung around with her at the mall for a day and then saw BBM with her. It was a little awkward, especially since there were so many older women in the theater. I wanted to show emotion where I felt I should, but everybody else was completely silent throughout the whole film. The girl I went with said she fell asleep, but I was so engrossed in the film I could barely blink my eyes. When it was over I was devastated. I talked about it a little with a friend of mine who had been wanting to see it, and we set up a time to go watch it together (although we attempted to go see it three times, but thats another story). I loved it even more the second time and my friend was enthralled with it too. We both still are, we're completely obsessed. I even RolePlay an older version of Bobby Twist on Livejournal, and I RolePlayed Ennis for awhile also.
Anyway, I don't have much else to say except hi! I hope I meet some great people here.  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on October 01, 2006, 11:12:09 AM
Hey Dani, it's good to meet you. We can be newbies together!  :P Your story about seeing "Brokeback" with a girl from your class who you barely knew seems really awkward. It's just not the kind of movie you normally see with someone you don't know very well; light, shiny, happy movies are easier.  ;)
Hope to see you around the forum...

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ngonzalez on October 01, 2006, 12:29:13 PM
Hi. I'm opinionista. I'm writing from Madrid, Spain. I opened an account here back in February when I saw Brokeback for the first time, but never post until today. I got caught up in other forums. I'm actually a bettermost regular. Sorry! I'm sure this is a nice place and I hope to discover it and get to know it better.  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on October 01, 2006, 03:16:25 PM
welcome dani, saena, and opinionista
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on October 01, 2006, 08:23:22 PM
*huggleglomps Dani*

ahem, that is all. So glad Max was able to drag you along.  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on October 02, 2006, 05:12:35 AM
Welcome to ALL the newcomers...so glad you're here....can't wait to chat with ya's

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on October 02, 2006, 03:37:58 PM
Hi Nellie!

Welcome, saena & opinionista!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on October 02, 2006, 07:15:51 PM
Hey Planetgal....*waves*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: daniqueeninabox on October 03, 2006, 03:16:46 PM
Hey Dani, it's good to meet you. We can be newbies together!  :P Your story about seeing "Brokeback" with a girl from your class who you barely knew seems really awkward. It's just not the kind of movie you normally see with someone you don't know very well; light, shiny, happy movies are easier.  ;)
Hope to see you around the forum...

Saena

Yay for the newbies! Yeah, seeing the movie with her was so strange, but I couldn't make her go see a different movie (she did choose one before it, but she changed her mind a few days before). It was all worth it, even if I had to write a small report on it.  :D
ttyl
Dani
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: daniqueeninabox on October 03, 2006, 03:18:23 PM
welcome dani, saena, and opinionista

Thanks  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: daniqueeninabox on October 03, 2006, 03:19:42 PM
*huggleglomps Dani*

ahem, that is all. So glad Max was able to drag you along.  ;D

LOL Great to see you here too! ty  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jackfingtwist on October 03, 2006, 05:34:15 PM
*huggleglomps Dani*

ahem, that is all. So glad Max was able to drag you along.† ;D

LOL Great to see you here too! ty† :D

ooh this post is the cherry popper
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on October 03, 2006, 06:58:51 PM
well goddamn was i blown away. i felt like someone had poured liquid fire into my heart as i sat like a stone with tears dripping through my first viewing.

when i saw ennis holding on to and feeling jack in the second tent scene, i just lost it. it was like his whole life he never knew how to breathe, and then here it was jack ewas his air. he could finally let go ... and the way jack held him like he would save his ennis from his own damn self... i just lost it, damn i'm getting teary just typing this.

but there was and still is this huge part of me that is closed. no admittance cuz i can't afford to make another mistake.
when i saw ennis all alone in that shitty little trailer mourning the love of his life and deeply regretting how he let his fear destory their lives, i died inside a little.
you see, i looked at ennis and i saw me.
i meam i'm a girl and i'm strait, but that's just semantics because regret and lonliness knows no demographics.
i'm still heartbroken now. i can't let this go

i read madlori's human interest story and i swear i smiled for the first time in weeks.


Hi Melissa,

even though your posting is three months old, I hope you will look in this forum from time to time. Well, I'm here in this forum since yesterday and I just started to read some threads - and so I also read your post.
I'm so deeply touched by the way you are describing your feelings - I felt the same way. I saw Ennis - and I saw me, too. Part of my heart is closed, too. Slowly but surely I get the feeling why's so. But this film hurts so bad, I stopped breathing while watching the last scene with Ennis and Jack, I was shocked, extremely depressed for several weeks - and I was totally heartbroken and still I am.

Than I read Madloris Human Interest - and my soul started to recover. I'm not healed, I have such bad days when the film assails me once again so I hardly dare to watch it, 'cause this would be too much for me. I need the fan fictions to get a little bit peace, to calm down a little bit. They help me ... sometimes ...

Mel


Mel, dear?
I am so so sorry that I am just responding to this now...Sept. 28 was the first day of the Midwest Slash bash for me, as it was held in my hometown...I'm only now starting to catch up on some of the threads.
Let me just say that you are an amazing person...and welcome to our family.
And hey? In the Juicy Bits section, there is a slash thread and Le Bar...that's where I hang alot, and sometimes in the diner...when you feel like you want to start checkin' some other places out here, come on and visit mee, we'd love yo have you.
For me, The fics were definately a lifesaver....but the friends I have made here are simply incredible.
Feel free to PM me or email me anytime...we'll talk.
Take care and know that you are truly among a group of friends who understand and love you already.
Your friend,
Melissa
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on October 03, 2006, 08:56:01 PM
Thanks to everybody for being so welcoming! I've been stopping by a few times a day this weekend, lurking and getting acclimated. It wasn't until after I introduced myself that I realized I was jumping into the board headfirst, without really getting a feel for it first. But sometimes that's best- it's an exercise in trust, at least. And from reading all the incredibly, astoundingly insightful and heartbreaking and wonderful posts, I know it'll take some getting used to. But I can get used to it.† ;D

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Melby on October 04, 2006, 02:07:43 PM
Greetings from a long-time lurker who finally wants to be a little more connected to this wonderful forum & community. You all have inspired and amazed and entertained me for awhile now, and I thank you.

This movie hit me like a ton of bricks last January, partly because of the beautiful portrayal of a strong love connection between two men. My beloved older brother is gay, and altho now in his 70s and doing very well professionally & personally, it wasn't always like that. Similarly to E & J, he grew up in a rural & small town setting (Okla.); dissimilarly, he is not as overtly masculine-looking. Life was difficult. Luckily he could escape to first Chicago, then NYC.

We lost a dear young friend to AIDS in the mid-80s, such a fun & compassionate person, such a waste. Thank God for all our activists & researchers. Quick funny story about said friend: once while helping me move some stuff, he carried my ironing board down the streets of NYC w/ no one batting an eye of course (NYers have truly seen it all, I guess)...but when we boarded a city bus and he dramatically bought a ticket for the ironing board, the whole bus erupted in laughter. Driver played along, even giving us three transfers. A very jovial & memorable busride! Vaya con Dios, dear BC.

Big decision last Jan. was whether to take the 13-yr.-old to a repeated viewing of BBM. Her older sis, 16, had already seen it and was deeply moved. Younger one is mature, loves her uncle & his longtime partner. Gave her a head's up about the most graphic scenes, and decided to take her. She too was deeply moved by the universal humanity of this story, and as we were driving home still all crying, she said, "I wish I had written that, I wish those were my characters." Pretty good for a young kid, imho. Attitudes are changing, tolerance is growing.

I'm glad to be here. Peace to all.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on October 04, 2006, 04:07:57 PM
Welcome, Melby. I'm glad to read your story about the younger girls. I agree that there is a lot a younger person can get out of this movie, and I certainly feel her desire to have written this piece of amazing. I wish I had known at her age some of the things this movie taught me, and I have to admit I'd have trouble keeping a mature young person away from something that I see being so much about unconditional love and hope. Welcome.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Melby on October 04, 2006, 08:08:19 PM
Thank you, planetgal, for your warm welcome.
Yes, kids are our future...but of course we all make a difference.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: youngdoe on October 04, 2006, 11:02:16 PM
Hello, I'm Young Doe, I introduced myself several weeks ago on Page 9 of this thread.  I never took the opportunity to say thank you for the warm welcome I received from GreyLocke5.  So, now I'd like to make up for it.  Thank you to Greylocke5, and all of the others on this thread.  I'm still lurking periodically, enjoying reading all of your wonderful posts. I have been very busy at my work at a local hospital, I am a respiratory therapist there.  My older son, Danny has recently gone away to college.  It is a big change for all of us.  Luckily, he is close enough to come home most weekends.   His younger brother, David, who is autistic, is very closed to Danny.  So he is very happy to see his big brother.   David goes to a very wonderful, special school for special needs children.   His teacher is amazing, she does incredible work teaching the non-verbal children alternative methods of communication.  This includes using picture cards, sign language, and assistive devices to help the kids express themselves.   We are fortunate to have such a good program for David.   As for Brokeback Mountain, the film is still having an effect its effect on me.   It has made me more appreciative of all of the good people in  my life.   I have an understanding husband who loves me, good kids and supportive parents.   I truly am lucky.   I feel that I carry the spirits of  Ennis and Jack with me where ever I go.   They are together in my heart.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ruby on October 05, 2006, 07:18:44 AM

Welcome Melby - Thanks for sharing your stories.   I noticed you have been on Eyelashes and Fanfair too.  I look forward to seeing you there again soon.  :) :)

Hello and welcome Young Doe too.  I also think BBM and J&E have made me appreciate my husband and others in my life more.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Melby on October 06, 2006, 02:35:13 PM
Hi Young Doe, I hope I can welcome you, too, even tho I'm new myself.
I enjoyed reading about your sons' connection to each other, and am so glad you have good resources there. My good friend has an autistic son who's almost grown. So many stories in the media now about this is becoming more & more common. I love how you carry E & J with you. They seem to have helped a lot of us.

Ruby, thx over here, too!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: purejoy on October 08, 2006, 12:11:43 AM
Hey all!  I'm just another newbie here wanting to show her love of BBM.  I can't tell you how happy I am to find a forum that's full of like-minded people!  I hate to admit it, but i only got to see BBM once, and it wasn't even in the theatre!  Anyhow, I'm not good at long introductions....but I love Jack and Ennis, and the type of innocence and playfulness their love seemed to hold for me.  I hope you guys are all doing well and hope to get to know you guys and share ideas! :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on October 08, 2006, 09:19:57 AM
Welcome, purejoy! You can never see BBM enough, I think as we're all discovering, so just splurge on the DVD! Nice to have you around. Feel free now that you're a member to pop on over to the Juicy Bits and enjoy some fanfic  ;) I know I do.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on October 09, 2006, 11:35:51 AM
Welcome to the forum purejoy!

If you're interested in a theatrical screening of the movie,
I may be planning an event in Bay City, MI in December or February.

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=1643.8175
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: littledarlin on October 09, 2006, 11:56:18 AM

NEVER, never in my whole life a film touched me as deeply as BBM did. I have never felt such pain, never felt such sadness, never cried so worse.
I've had hard months after watching the movie BBM because it left me alone with this kind of feelings I never thought I could feel - and six months later the sadness (of a lost love, a lost life, of two men suffering) is still in my heart, terribly aching , most of the time covered by all-day work but now and then the feelings come back with such fierce - it's sometimes a little bit overwhelming and frightening ... And Jack and Ennis still live in my heart and I don't know if this will ever stop...

I'm not recovered from the film - I'm not recovered at all ... My husband (who has sadly never seen the movie ...) always tells me, that it's just a film. Just a film - yeah, easy to say and hard to accept, because for me it's so much more. The film turned my whole universe just the other way round.
And I wasn't prepared at all for the feelings that film caused. The feeling of an unsophisticated love, of true sadness, the feeling of an incredible painful loss and the powerful feeling of guilt and lost chances. Basic feelings, which everyone of us surly has in his life but I think a lot of us barely recognizes them in such profound way the film showed us because of our everyday business.

So, I'm really glad to find communities with people feeling maybe in a same way. I think it will take me months to read all your postings (our German community isn't as big and as busy as yours ;-)) but this is a task whitch I'm looking forward to do. ;-).


Hello Mel08!  Welcome to paradise, a place where everyone understands your sorrow and we all know it's not "just a film".  BBM has changed many of our lives for the better, awoken in us feelings long ago buried, and made us alive.  It is so much to so many and it still affects me with the same overwhelming sadness.  I don't think that will ever change, but it goes through stages, and the pain is not always so bad.  We are here for you, anytime day or night, there is always someone to listen and understand.  We all love Jack and Ennis as if they are family, not actors or characters in a movie and it is devastating to accept their fate.  We have slash for that, lots of happy endings there, but not for everyone.  It is in The Juicy Bits section, poetry, canon, all sorts of wonderful fiction.  It has helped me immensely to read the alternate endings.

I'm so glad you found us.  I hope you plan on sticking around, you will love it here!!

Karla
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: littledarlin on October 09, 2006, 12:03:50 PM
Pretty good for a young kid, imho. Attitudes are changing, tolerance is growing.

I'm glad to be here. Peace to all.



Very good for your kids!!  Mine have had a similar reaction and have shown they are growing into very tolerant young women.  I asked what they would think if mom brought home a girlfriend, Ok no problem with them, then I asked if they would ever go out with a girl, they said, exasparated with my constant questions LOL!,  "mom it just doesn't matter if you love someone"  I am so proud of them!!! 


The is hope for this world after all.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: littledarlin on October 09, 2006, 12:07:32 PM
I forgot to say "WELCOME" to all the new members and former lurkers.  We are so glad you're here!!  Come share the love with us!!!!  It is the greatest place to be!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Melby on October 09, 2006, 07:58:56 PM
littledarling, thank you. Your girls sound great! Congrats on parenting them well.
purejoy and Mel08, welcome, this is a wonderful place to rest a heavy heart for awhile, imo.
Peace to all.


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: purejoy on October 10, 2006, 07:09:48 PM
Gosh, thanks for all the kind welcomes!  It's funny, because I was JUST thinking "hmm, I oughtta go rent BBM again..." the night before I found this forum.  As for fanfic, I may not be a complete seasoned veteran, but I *do* consider it one of my guilty (sometimes extremely guilty!) pleasures.  And actually, fanfic is one of the ways I found this forum in the first place!

And Mel08, you are not alone.  I don't want to bore you all with my person details, but I was in a very bad engagement with a guy, and then, well...I think I know why Brokeback hit my heart like a ton of bricks.  Unfortunately, you can't really undo your past, but you can at least treasure the memories and thoughts you've had of your special Jack or Ennis.

BayCityJohn, let me know when you plan on having the screening.  If I have actually found a way to afford another car by then, and can afford the trip, I'd be up for it!

Thanks again for all the kind words everyone!  You guys are great!! ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on October 11, 2006, 10:47:32 AM
I'm thrilled to see all these new faces in here...welcome guys....!!

your friend,

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on October 11, 2006, 11:05:58 AM
I'm thrilled to see all these new faces in here...welcome guys....!!

your friend,

Nellie

Nellie, I was just thinking the same thing. I guess for as long as our movie is available there will always be those who gravitate to this forum and what a relief that must be, as indeed it was for me. My sincerest greetings to you all and please go beyond lurking...there aint nothin' like it!! ;D
Andy
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mel08 on October 11, 2006, 03:40:59 PM
Hello Mel08!  Welcome to paradise, a place where everyone understands your sorrow and we all know it's not "just a film".  BBM has changed many of our lives for the better, awoken in us feelings long ago buried, and made us alive.  It is so much to so many and it still affects me with the same overwhelming sadness.  I don't think that will ever change, but it goes through stages, and the pain is not always so bad.  We are here for you, anytime day or night, there is always someone to listen and understand.  We all love Jack and Ennis as if they are family, not actors or characters in a movie and it is devastating to accept their fate.  We have slash for that, lots of happy endings there, but not for everyone.  It is in The Juicy Bits section, poetry, canon, all sorts of wonderful fiction.  It has helped me immensely to read the alternate endings.

I'm so glad you found us.  I hope you plan on sticking around, you will love it here!!

Karla

Hello Karla,

thank you so much for your reply ! It's overwhelming to read all the kind answers, the welcome to everybody who is new here. It really feels to be part of a big family. I enjoy this very much and I feel so sorry, I haven't been here for two weeks.
I was and I still am so busy, I sadly don't have much time to spend my time here - and I feel a little bit unsatisfied, because talking to you, reading the postings helps so much - and it's a real blessing to know that here are people feeling the same.

So I will try my very best to be here more often !

Greetings to all of you from Germany (who just won in the soccer qualification for the European Competition jeah !!!  ;D),
mel

P.S. Melissa, thank you too for your posting. I discovered one forum yesterday with a complete (?) listing of all fanfictions. I saved this link - and I hope to have the time to start reading the ones which I don't already know ... Where can I find the other forum, you mentioned ? I'd like to visit this one too.
Thanks for your help !!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: coffeecat33 on October 14, 2006, 10:45:37 AM
Well, of course I jumped little-cat-feet-first into the Juicy Bits before I introduced myself - better late than never. I have been mainly on BetterMost and have photos, info, etc. about me posted there. Then I started getting into the fan fiction and wrote some myself [blushes modestly] so am now on LiveJournal as well as BMost. While reading through fanfic everyone kept thanking the people on the DC boards for their wonderful support so I thought, well I could use some a that so here I am.

Briefly, I live in the midwestern United States by Minnehaha Creek and across the river from PlanetGal. I just got a new job at the University here, I have 3 cats, I love to be on these boards, and of course I love BBMountain, J&E, and Jake G. (Many of my postings are on the Jake Jake Jake thread on BetterMost.)

A lady can't have too many friends!

cc33 aka Leslie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on October 14, 2006, 11:00:52 AM
Hehe welcome again, Leslie, and nwo I can stalk you  ::)

The people here are really amazing. I think you'll find more support than you know what to do with.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: coffeecat33 on October 14, 2006, 11:09:10 AM
great !!  :)  I can use more support than I know what to do with, so that's good. Let's PM later, okay? I have to get outside & do yardwork while the sun shines which - as we both know - doesn't last long in Minnesota!!!  :D

........later gater
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on October 14, 2006, 12:12:21 PM
Well, of course I jumped little-cat-feet-first into the Juicy Bits before I introduced myself - better late than never. I have been mainly on BetterMost and have photos, info, etc. about me posted there. Then I started getting into the fan fiction and wrote some myself [blushes modestly] so am now on LiveJournal as well as BMost. While reading through fanfic everyone kept thanking the people on the DC boards for their wonderful support so I thought, well I could use some a that so here I am.

Briefly, I live in the midwestern United States by Minnehaha Creek and across the river from PlanetGal. I just got a new job at the University here, I have 3 cats, I love to be on these boards, and of course I love BBMountain, J&E, and Jake G. (Many of my postings are on the Jake Jake Jake thread on BetterMost.)

A lady can't have too many friends!

cc33 aka Leslie

Hey Leslie!

Welcome to the campsite!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: coffeecat33 on October 14, 2006, 07:57:22 PM
Thanks for the welcome!  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on October 14, 2006, 08:00:40 PM
Hiya CoffeeCat!!!

Welcome to the forum!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on October 15, 2006, 06:32:00 PM
Welcome Roco,
You don't seem to have any problem expressing yourself, so don't beat yourself up!  Thanks for joining in, I think you'll find if you play nicely, everyone will get along with you.  It's a great group of individuals here, and many with great compassion, intelligence and creativity.
Look around and find your groove...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marauder on October 16, 2006, 02:49:46 PM
Hi! I'm not new to BBM (I read the story the summer before the film came out and followed the fandom afterward), but I'm new to this board. My name is Marauder, and I'm a fan of gay fiction as well as a slash reader and writer. I haven't been keeping up with this fandom for a few months, but I missed it and when I Googled The Front Runner, just because I like the book, I saw that it was being discussed over here, so I stopped thinking, "You can't join now, you're months behind everyone else" and joined. :D

I've made a lot of BBM icons, which some of you may have seen around LiveJournal (created by marauderthesn), and I have a BBM fic I haven't updated forever because my Ennis muse isn't talking to me. (Big surprise! ;))

I'm looking forward to having fun with you guys. :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on October 17, 2006, 12:13:03 AM
Welcome Roco and welcome Marauder. Good to see you both here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on October 17, 2006, 04:55:55 AM
Welcome all you guys....so glad you jumped in....can't wait to be chatting with ya's

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on October 17, 2006, 07:24:44 AM
Thanks for the welcome!† :D

welcome leslie!

love the username :)  it's good to have you here in the "reast of the forum" (outside the juicy bits... that is)

stretch your legs and feel free to move about the forum...there are lots of really great peeps and places all over.  You might surprise yourself and find out that you have other havens in here besides the slashy stuff. lol.   ;) ;) ;)

Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on October 17, 2006, 07:26:27 AM
Welcome Roco and Marauder.  I have a feeling we'll see Marauder in the slashy threads.  ;)

Roco, you sound like you still have impact issues to deal with. 

There are threads here for that too.

Make yourselves comfortable here.  You are amongst friends and kindred spirits.  There is room here for everyone.

H.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mary on October 19, 2006, 11:18:08 PM
Before you all think my name has something to do with anal activity, let me explain:

Buteo is the genus name for Hawk.

My favorite bird is actually the Great Horned Owl, but I would rather not be known as a "Bubo Virginianus."

I like your site, I hope to have a good time (despite being late to the party).

Well welcome Buteo/Hawk!  Glad you are here and you've made my day complete as I have learned something new Thanks!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on October 20, 2006, 05:10:33 AM
Before you all think my name has something to do with anal activity, let me explain:

Buteo is the genus name for Hawk.

My favorite bird is actually the Great Horned Owl, but I would rather not be known as a "Bubo Virginianus."

I like your site, I hope to have a good time (despite being late to the party).

You're never too late for the party,just as long as you show up....glad to have you, welcome !!

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: DenverBuilder on October 20, 2006, 12:35:24 PM
Hi everyone....

I am Brett Robben, an old friend of Dave's. We had lunch yesterday to get caught up on each others "doings".

I am 41, gay, in a relationship of 10 years with my partner Kevin. I moved to Denver after 10 years in WDC working for Cong. Kanjorski and as a lobbyist for NWF and HIAA. 

I now own my own import distribution business representing smaller Australian and New Zealand manufacturers in N. Amer. While starting my business I volunteered and eventually worked for The GLBT Comm. Cntr of Co as their Fundraiser. That is where I met Dave C. We have spent numerous hours discussing politics, our own ambitions and love lives over the years.

Kevin is an architect and does marketing for an engineered wall panel company. He has always wanted to build a home and involve other GLBT homebuilding trades as a way to network, build common ground with mainstream trades and once again de-stereotype our community.  I wanted to tie in some charity giving as well..thus a project was born.     The project has been so inspirational.  So many stories by LGBT folks who have been driven off job sites by union laborers, homophobic electricians who literally electrocuted a lesbian electrician to drive her off and she eventually was killed, a single mom who started her own business 5 yrs and now works for all kinds of right wingers who love her and her work. A Republican designer who is working side by side a transgendered tile layer and having a great time!  This has been a big bridge builder in a time when the media accentuates our differences.   I could go on and one but have to get back to work..please visit out site at www.outandaboutshowhome.com and help spread the word..for us to meet our goal of raising$40k for charity we need lots of people exposure and people to attend.  Nice meet you!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on October 20, 2006, 03:29:18 PM
Welcome DenverBuilder,

I'm sure you got an earful from Dave.  Check out the site and pick what you like....


Gerry
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on October 20, 2006, 04:54:55 PM
Hello Brett nice to see you again... ;)

and thanks for sharing with us...welcome

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on October 20, 2006, 08:10:36 PM
Welcome Roco, Maurader, Buteo, and DenverBuilder!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Amiennis on October 21, 2006, 06:05:09 PM
Hi,

I have no idea how this works, am completely new to this forum thing, but still would like to join.
To cut a long story short: I think BBM might have a life-changing impact on me. Saw it twice in three days, am completely worn out from the emotional effects now.
Hope to contribute more later on.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on October 21, 2006, 06:17:35 PM
A very warm welcome, Amiennis! We're all friends here. If you haven't read many of the threads, please feel free to roam around as much as you'd like, and don't feel pressure to post anything until you're ready. A fun place is Auntie's Diner in this folder. It can move along very fast, but if you see a topic fly by that you'd like to participate in, just dive right in. Don't be surprised if a few posts fly by from various people before anyone responds to yours, because these posts were probably written before or just after you may have posted your message.

Again, welcome here, and I hope you enjoy yourself.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on October 21, 2006, 06:20:32 PM
And also, Amiennis, if you should so choose, a good place to write of how the movie affected you is in the topic of How Brokeback Affected Me, which you can get to by clicking the link right here.

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.0

You may enjoy reading of how others have been affected by this most wonderful movie of ours!

Again, welcome!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Amiennis on October 21, 2006, 06:24:01 PM
Thanx, German Louisiana Virginia Dude, for your warm welcome, and your advice.
Am actually Dutch myself, so we're almost like neighbours... ;)
Off to bed now, it's the middle of the night here (2:22).
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on October 21, 2006, 06:27:33 PM
Thanx, German Louisiana Virginia Dude, for your warm welcome, and your advice.
Am actually Dutch myself, so we're almost like neighbours... ;)
Off to bed now, it's the middle of the night here (2:22).

Zeer goed! Maar ik woon in de staaten, in VirginiŽ. Welkom noog eenmal! En mijn naam is Fritz. Wij hebben eenige persoonen uit Nederland hier.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Amiennis on October 21, 2006, 06:35:15 PM
Thanx, German Louisiana Virginia Dude, for your warm welcome, and your advice.
Am actually Dutch myself, so we're almost like neighbours... ;)
Off to bed now, it's the middle of the night here (2:22).

Zeer goed! Maar ik woon in de staaten, in VirginiŽ. Welkom noog eenmal! En mijn naam is Fritz. Wij hebben eenige persoonen uit Nederland hier.



I realised that† ;). Say hi from me to the eenige persoonen (your Dutch is great). Will actually be in Germany (MŁritz) this Christmas...† Gute Nacht en welterusten.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on October 21, 2006, 08:40:53 PM
welcome to the forum, amiennis!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on October 21, 2006, 09:43:47 PM
Welcome Brett to the forum and thanks so much for sharing your information about al that is happening.....
its the small steps that count!!

Glad to have you with us amiennis, and hope you continue to come here and share with us.

Hello to you as well Buteo, and as Nellie says, it is never too late, just good that you joined us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on October 21, 2006, 11:41:40 PM
Welcome to the forum, all!  ;D ;D

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Amiennis on October 22, 2006, 06:50:01 AM
welcome to the forum, amiennis!!

Thanx, CellarDwellar. Will try to be a faithful friend to the forum...† ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Amiennis on October 22, 2006, 06:53:21 AM
Thanx, everyone, for the warm welcomes. Feeling a bit overwhelmed...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Melby on October 22, 2006, 11:43:06 AM
A warm welcome to all!
I'm new also, and have really been enjoying it...as I hope you will!
Some people are here alot, some just a little...the good news is the forum is always here for us.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: shelber on October 25, 2006, 05:38:06 PM
i guess its time i should pop in. took me long enough, i am quite shy you see. HA

anyhoo real name is shelly, the second half to the well famed jeanine and shelly, i wanted to introduce myself so you all werent wondering who the crazy chica is thats flirting with jeanine.

hope to meet you all soon or if not soon sometime in the future.

shelly
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Melisande on October 25, 2006, 05:45:36 PM
Hi, Shelly, and welcome, and congratulations!  ;D

*waves*

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on October 25, 2006, 05:53:23 PM
Shelley!!!!!!!!

Many welcomes!!! So so thrilled your here, thrilled for you and Jeanine and thrilled to finally meet ya!
Stick around girl, this is the Happiest Place on Earth!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on October 25, 2006, 05:55:08 PM
Shelley!!!!!!!!

Many welcomes!!! So so thrilled your here, thrilled for you and Jeanine and thrilled to finally meet ya!
Stick around girl, this is the Happiest Place on Earth!

This is Walt Disney World?

Welcome Shelley!!!!!!!!!!


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on October 25, 2006, 05:58:32 PM
This is Walt Disney World?
Of course it is Fritz!!
And we're all on the ride of our lives!!
Didnt'cha know?  ::)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on October 25, 2006, 06:00:18 PM
This is Walt Disney World?
Of course it is Fritz!!
And we're all on the ride of our lives!!
Didnt'cha know?† ::)

That's for sure, Melissa!  :-*  :-*  :-*

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: shelber on October 25, 2006, 06:01:42 PM
This is Walt Disney World?
Of course it is Fritz!!
And we're all on the ride of our lives!!
Didnt'cha know?† ::)

well then didnt i stop lurking at the best time ever! woohoo. and thanks for the nice welcome everyone, jeanine has spoken highly of you all. cant wait to jump right in, i hear clothing is optional?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: melissasjack on October 25, 2006, 06:07:42 PM
well then didnt i stop lurking at the best time ever! woohoo. and thanks for the nice welcome everyone, jeanine has spoken highly of you all. cant wait to jump right in, i hear clothing is optional?
Girl, come join me in Le Bar...it's a fab , slightly naughty place, like the diner here, cept AFTER DARK.
Its a wicked sweet place to be...
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=10014.31815

Jump right in.... ;D *clothing IS optional in the bar*  ::) ::) lol!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: shelber on October 25, 2006, 06:17:35 PM
yeah i am definately going to like it here. lol i mentioned to jeanine that i may only just pop in from time to time, as this is her get away place, buuuuuuuuuut i may have to take that back
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on October 25, 2006, 07:17:54 PM
I am so excited to have Shelley here. Hiya! That's all  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: shelber on October 25, 2006, 07:24:43 PM
I am so excited to have Shelley here. Hiya! That's all† ;D

oh wow thanks! hiya right back
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on October 26, 2006, 02:33:26 PM
welcome to the forum, Shelber!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: wontingwitch on October 27, 2006, 08:24:21 AM
Hi.  I've had this account for a good while but never used it.  My girl Squallcloud has been recommending this place forever but I'm just making it over.  I hang in a lot of different places so you may have seen my screenname before.  There are no words for how much Brokeback Mountain means to me and it will forever hold a special place in my heart.  I get choked up when I even think about.  It's the most moving and beautiful movie I have ever seen.  Though I am attracted to some women, I have never slept with one so I'm pretty sure that makes me straight but sometimes I'm not sure.  I love Wentworth Miller, Jake Gyllenhaal and Monica Bellucci.  I can't think of anything else for now and I'm starting to ramble, So Hello everyone!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on October 27, 2006, 12:39:47 PM
Welcome to everyone on this board! I was mentioning in the Diner yesterday that I'll have been here for exactly a month as of this Monday, but it feels like much longer. I'm sure you'll find some great friends here (although it sounds like many of you already have at least one, judging by how you found us!).

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on October 29, 2006, 12:34:45 PM
Welcome, witch. Any friend of Squall's!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on October 29, 2006, 06:00:59 PM
Welcome, Witch!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on October 30, 2006, 03:39:31 AM
Welcome Shelly, I haven't met Jeanine yet, I'd love to invite you to Auntie's 24 hour diner for a cup of coffee, Same goes to all new members.

N.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: shelber on October 30, 2006, 04:19:23 AM
Welcome Shelly, I haven't met Jeanine yet, I'd love to invite you to Auntie's 24 hour diner for a cup of coffee, Same goes to all new members.

N.

i think i will take you up on that invite! but i believe i have already moved in
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: annabelg on November 02, 2006, 09:53:26 PM
Hi.  I've been lurking here since May, I think, EVERY DAY, yet I am too shy to post . . . and am not sure what to say anyway.  I mostly read the photo captioning thread and the daily sheet, though I occasionally dabble in the scenes thread.  BBM has affected me profoundly.  I saw it in a theater in February, bought the DVD in April, and I've watched it every week or every other week since then.  Sheesh.  I have the sheet music and am trying to learn to play some of the songs on my piano.  I listen to the CD often in my car.  I've bought the screen play and short story book and read them.  I even have the calendar by my bed!  I feel silly writing this because I have never gotten obsessed with a movie or anything like this before.  I'm a 46-year-old straight woman, mother of two small children, and have a lot of sadness and fears that have kept me like Ennis.  In the past week, when I took a few social risks, I told myself that Jack and Ennis would be rooting for me to take those risks.  I can't say my life has changed completely due to my mental immersion in the movie, but the beauty of the movie has suffused me, and the lesson it tells, to not let life pass one by and to not let fear curtail relationships and what one can be, has inspired me to take small risks often.  I think I've responded to the yearning in the movie for love.  I must also say that although I had an officemate for a number of years who is a lesbian and a friend of mine, I have not given that much thought to gay issues, except when I am with her.  Now, however, I am extremely conscious of gay issues and have even become vocal on several occasions in groups stating how strongly I feel that gays should have all the same rights as the rest of us do.  And that is quite a big step for a shy person like myself, but Ennis and Jack are living in the back of my mind all the time.  Anyway, I think I'm writing this now as a repercussion from a social risk I took today, while consciously girding myself to do it by thinking of Ennis and Jack.  Sheesh.  I'm pretty sure I'm in the right place to be revealing this because to an outsider this may seem a little weird!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Adrian on November 02, 2006, 10:01:31 PM
'annabelg', first and foremost, thanks for taking the time to share your personal experience with us.† You have found a 'place', and you should be completely comfortable in posting your thoughts and feelings with all of us on many of the amazing threads in the forum ;)† Your comments about the film, how it's made you think, and, in turn, respond to others is, simply, a beautiful thing!† Jake G., made a comment in one of his interviews about the film, that if, in some small way it (BBM) helped to change the perception or the understanding that society had, then he was fulfilled in taking the role of Jack.† You've proved him right ;)† Welcome to the forum!† Adrian.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: LSky94 on November 02, 2006, 10:08:13 PM
annabelg,

You are indeed in the right place :)  Welcome and thanks for sharing your experiences; what a touching post.  The personal experience you describe, not only of the film's impact on your outlook on life (the risk taking), but also in your newfound awareness of gay people's life experience, is truly significant and a testament to the power of this story, and how well it was interpreted on the screen.  Post away.  We talk about many things here.  I suggest reading more of the threads, you will find this is a diverse group of people and the site has grown into much more than just a fan site, IMO.   
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on November 03, 2006, 03:56:47 PM
It's nice to see all the newbies in here...welcome !! 

Nellie :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Melby on November 04, 2006, 02:32:30 PM
.....I have the sheet music and am trying to learn to play some of the songs on my piano.....In the past week, when I took a few social risks, I told myself that Jack and Ennis would be rooting for me to take those risks.† I can't say my life has changed completely due to my mental immersion in the movie, but the beauty of the movie has suffused me, and the lesson it tells, to not let life pass one by and to not let fear curtail relationships and what one can be, has inspired me to take small risks often.....Now, however, I am extremely conscious of gay issues and have even become vocal on several occasions in groups stating how strongly I feel that gays should have all the same rights as the rest of us do.† And that is quite a big step for a shy person like myself, but it's like Ennis and Jack are living in the back of my mind all the time.

Hi annabelg, and welcome! I loved every word of your poignant, thoughtful post, and esp. the parts above. Thanks for coming to share w/ us. I don't ususally obsess over movies either, but there is just something powerful about this story, it's sadness, it's beauty, that is so transforming for so many of us. You're right, I think, J & E do speak to us and root for us. I guess part of the power is that they speak to different people in different ways. I haven't been here very long myself....it's a very fun & helpful place. Enjoy!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on November 05, 2006, 06:18:36 AM
Hi annabelg and welcome from me too. Some people seem to take off on a new line through life as soon as this film hits them but for others - like me - the changes sneak up on us. I suspect we won't really have a clear idea of how we've all been affected, both as a group or as individuals, for a long time. But the journey is just fabulous!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lobezno on November 05, 2006, 01:15:36 PM
Hi. I'm Nan. I know I am a late comer, but I hope I'm still welcome. I've been lurking around here for a while and wow, some of you have been here almost a year. I saw Brokeback back in March and I have been posting mostly at IMDb. I've heard a lot from this forum so today I thought I give it a chance. Nice meeting you people!† ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on November 05, 2006, 01:17:18 PM
Hi, Lobezno! Never too late! There's always going to be newcomers, just as sometimes people drift away. Looking forward to gettng to know you.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on November 05, 2006, 01:18:39 PM
Welcome Nan!

I hope you make some new friends here. It's a great place.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on November 05, 2006, 04:51:17 PM
Hello Nan! No such thing as a latecomer. Whenever anyone finds Brokeback - and this forum - it's the perfect day.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: purejoy on November 05, 2006, 08:42:35 PM
Hi there all you peeps who decided to say hi after me!  This is such a great place!  Even though I can't log on very often, I've received a very warm welcome and enjoy reading what I can (especially the fanfiction!).

I think that Brokeback is just such a strong movie--it has such a strong message, and that's why it's managed to touch so many people and bring us all together.  For that, I am truly thankful.  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lobezno on November 06, 2006, 11:05:30 AM
Hi, Lobezno! Never too late! There's always going to be newcomers, just as sometimes people drift away. Looking forward to gettng to know you.

Thanks for the welcome. I cannot come in very often but I'm slowly getting to know this place. Like I said I lurked for a while but once I became a member I saw there were other forums for members only. I'm particlularly interested in all Brokeback fan-fiction, but I don't know what to read first! So many options!

Thanks again for the warm welcome

Nan
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: emkay on November 06, 2006, 12:49:29 PM
Hi, another newbie here. My name is Marjolein, I'm from the Netherlands.
I'm a big time lurker on livejournal, but I decided that I would like some more interaction with fellow brokeback addicts (without having to maintain a journal...). So that's what I hope to find here!
This already looks like a nice place. Interesting discussions, friendly people. I think I'll stay for a while  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on November 06, 2006, 01:03:31 PM
Hi, another newbie here. My name is Marjolein, I'm from the Netherlands.
I'm a big time lurker on livejournal, but I decided that I would like some more interaction with fellow brokeback addicts (without having to maintain a journal...). So that's what I hope to find here!
This already looks like a nice place. Interesting discussions, friendly people. I think I'll stay for a while† :D


Hi Marjolein, welcome. There's a lot to talk about in here, so make yourself at home, you can drop by the Diner and have chest hair coffee, the diner's specialty!!! ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: emkay on November 06, 2006, 01:23:16 PM

Hi Marjolein, welcome. There's a lot to talk about in here, so make yourself at home, you can drop by the Diner and have chest hair coffee, the diner's specialty!!! ;D

chest hair coffee  ???  sounds very intriguing...always like to try something new!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on November 06, 2006, 01:25:47 PM
Welcome to our family y'all. ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on November 06, 2006, 06:28:45 PM

Hi Marjolein, welcome. There's a lot to talk about in here, so make yourself at home, you can drop by the Diner and have chest hair coffee, the diner's specialty!!! ;D

chest hair coffee† ???† sounds very intriguing...always like to try something new!
yup, the cyber strong stuff..

and you will no doubt be told many times the netherlands is well represented for its size here.  we have a cople dutchies and several dutch speakers and speakers in training.  you will soon hear from them all.  welcome.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on November 06, 2006, 11:24:23 PM
Welcome to our family y'all. ;D ;D

Be prepared, this may be the biggest family you've ever joined.  ;) But also one of the greatest, of course!

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on November 07, 2006, 02:30:29 PM
Hello Ana, Nan, and Marjolein!


Welcome to the forum!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on November 07, 2006, 08:15:21 PM
Thanks for the welcome. I cannot come in very often but I'm slowly getting to know this place. Like I said I lurked for a while but once I became a member I saw there were other forums for members only. I'm particlularly interested in all Brokeback fan-fiction, but I don't know what to read first! So many options!

Thanks again for the warm welcome

Nan

Fanfic just happens to be my speciality! Head over to the slash threads and introduce yourself! We can give you all sorts of recommendations depending on your preferences. And believe me, they're good.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tizi on November 10, 2006, 06:29:15 AM
hello there
i am tizi, brokeback_1 brought me here - i hope i will find him somehwere, but the page is enormous...!

i have entered the world of BBM about 7 months ago by reading the novel and then seeing the film. i have been stuck to this for weeks now, looking the internet about everything i could get about this story - and most of all to see what made be become so completely weird and confused and sad and longing to see the film again, watch youtube scenes or read the novel..

i found many wonderful friends on another site . now i am here continuing my journey.

i am from austria, guess one or two brokies may be found here, too??

thanks for reading!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on November 10, 2006, 06:56:07 AM
hey tizi, welcome here or better: servas !† :D

i'm from austria, too, so finally there is a second austrian here on the board, jippiee !!!

hope you'll like it here - it may take a while til you find your way through the board, it is enormous !

here's a couple of signposts:

the threads of The Impact on Society & Ourselves (http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?board=3.0) are the heart of this place. there are many wonderful, sad, thoughtful stories there, especially on the How Brokeback affected me† thread.

in the international zone http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?board=55.0 (http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?board=55.0), you'll find a german speakers thread. not too much going on there right now, but a nice hangout if yoyu want to meet germans.

well, and if you want to meet me, you best stick your head into Auntie's 24 hour Diner http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8830.0. it's our chat thread, it moves an an insane speed because we're gabbing and chatting there all day, but it's lots of fun and a great way to get to know people.

well then, see you some place on the board  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on November 10, 2006, 06:59:15 AM
oh yes, there something else i forgot: what better way to introduce you to this board but providing the link to yesterday's Daily Sheet, our forum newspaper, which featured a nice little snippled from a thread discussion where you can easily see what important pieces of discussion we austrians can provide on the topic of brokeback mountain† :D :D

Thread of the Day: Should Jack and Ennis Have Learned How To Yodel?
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=17427.msg575874#msg575874
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tizi on November 11, 2006, 01:53:00 AM
oh yes, there something else i forgot: what better way to introduce you to this board but providing the link to yesterday's Daily Sheet, our forum newspaper, which featured a nice little snippled from a thread discussion where you can easily see what important pieces of discussion we austrians can provide on the topic of brokeback mountain† :D :D

Thread of the Day: Should Jack and Ennis Have Learned How To Yodel?
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=17427.msg575874#msg575874

oh my goodness, i guess i better leave this thread... ich muss meinen kopf einziehen damit niemand weiŖ dass ich from austria bin...

you seem to be here for quite some time - i have heard about you in other forums (YES!!), too! it's always important to have one prominent austrian on important places, isn't it?
 ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on November 11, 2006, 05:16:21 PM
oh yes, there something else i forgot: what better way to introduce you to this board but providing the link to yesterday's Daily Sheet, our forum newspaper, which featured a nice little snippled from a thread discussion where you can easily see what important pieces of discussion we austrians can provide on the topic of brokeback mountain† :D :D

Thread of the Day: Should Jack and Ennis Have Learned How To Yodel?
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=17427.msg575874#msg575874

oh my goodness, i guess i better leave this thread... ich muss meinen kopf einziehen damit niemand weiŖ dass ich from austria bin...

you seem to be here for quite some time - i have heard about you in other forums (YES!!), too! it's always important to have one prominent austrian on important places, isn't it?
 ;D

OMG - my reputation is travelling around the internet...now let's just hope you've only heard good things (not things like...oh, there's that annoying little desertrat on DC, babbling all day and doing LOTS of dirty talk... :o :o ::))...well, unfortunately i have ruined the reputation of all austrians in here forever...bwahahahaha ! you'll have to live with that, i'm afraid ;D ;D

now, where did you hear about me ? (i'm really interested...)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tizi on November 12, 2006, 06:12:36 AM
.. oh no, no worries - i only heard about a "wonderful woman from austria" - and since it seems to be rare to find austrians in these forums (i would like to know why - narrow minds? fear? now i can MIT VOLLEN HOSEN STINKEN - its my first experience with forums, too....), desertrat will probably not appear too often..
i am usually at ennisjack, people there have been simply wonderful to me...

and here i am sitting again today, after a night of BBM - still crying my heart out, trying to find comfort somewhere - because the time for me to ask for the WHY has finished - i do not have an answer, point. i'm just riding this one...

have a nice sunday... schnief... :'(

tizi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 12, 2006, 12:08:26 PM
Hi, I'm Colleen I live in Bonney Lake, Washington and I have been Rob of puyallup friend for 16 yrs.  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on November 12, 2006, 12:10:03 PM
Welcome, Colleen!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 12, 2006, 12:12:15 PM
Thank you
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on November 12, 2006, 12:25:12 PM
Hi, I'm Colleen I live in Bonney Lake, Washington and I have been Rob of puyallup friend for 16 yrs.† :)

welcome ! rob's friends are our friends ! (poetical, wasn't i ?  :D).
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on November 12, 2006, 01:31:01 PM
Welcome tizi and welcome sweetpea... warmest of hugs to both you
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on November 12, 2006, 02:22:53 PM
Willkommen Tizi! Welcome Colleen! I'm sure you can appreciate more than any of us here the wonderful changes that Rob has experienced over the past year.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 12, 2006, 04:34:00 PM
Willkommen Tizi! Welcome Colleen! I'm sure you can appreciate more than any of us here the wonderful changes that Rob has experienced over the past year.


Yes I couldn't be happier for Rob, to finally find someone to share his life. I haven't had the chance to meet Nick, but he seems to be a real sweetheart.† ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on November 12, 2006, 07:59:47 PM
Hi Tizi and Colleen:

Welcom to the Forum, I've made many good friendships here and I know you will too.  So jump in with both feet.

Gerry
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 12, 2006, 08:10:59 PM
Hi Tizi and Colleen:

Welcom to the Forum, I've made many good friendships here and I know you will too.† So jump in with both feet.

Gerry
Thanks Gerry
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on November 12, 2006, 08:27:57 PM
just don't pay attention to the scowl that is on nick's face most of the time.  the only time we EVER see him smile is when he is with rob, or thinking about him...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on November 12, 2006, 08:50:40 PM
Welcome to the Forum Colleen... took you long enough to find your way here! :)

(http://i45.photobucket.com/albums/f70/Robinpuyallup/avatarsepia.jpg)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 12, 2006, 08:56:09 PM
just don't pay attention to the scowl that is on nick's face most of the time.† the only time we EVER see him smile is when he is with rob, or thinking about him...
Yes at first in pictures, Nick never seemed to smile, but now when hes in pictures with Rob he's smiling more often.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on November 12, 2006, 09:00:31 PM
(http://i45.photobucket.com/albums/f70/Robinpuyallup/Englandtripmycamera.jpg)

In England... still smiling. :)

No more pics here, I promise!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 12, 2006, 09:09:20 PM
Welcome to the Forum Colleen... took you long enough to find your way here! :)

(http://i45.photobucket.com/albums/f70/Robinpuyallup/avatarsepia.jpg)
Thanks, this is so much better then talking in those chat rooms.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on November 12, 2006, 09:14:53 PM
Colleen... check out Auntie's Diner... a great place to meet a lot of wonderful people!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 12, 2006, 09:19:43 PM
okay
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 12, 2006, 09:25:51 PM
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Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on November 13, 2006, 08:12:35 PM
Hi, I'm Colleen I live in Bonney Lake, Washington and I have been Rob of puyallup friend for 16 yrs. :)

OOhhhh...so cool...great to have you here....any friend of Rob's is okay by me.......yeah!!!!

Welcome to our family

Nellie

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sweetpea on November 13, 2006, 11:05:15 PM
Hi, I'm Colleen I live in Bonney Lake, Washington and I have been Rob of puyallup friend for 16 yrs. :)

OOhhhh...so cool...great to have you here....any friend of Rob's is okay by me.......yeah!!!!

Welcome to our family

Nellie


Thanks Nellie, I really fell at home here. Colleen





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Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on November 25, 2006, 04:03:59 PM
Dave has an important announcement about the forum, which he asks all members to read:

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=18085.msg602098#msg602098

We have set up a thread to discuss the situation. That discussion thread is linked from the post directly below the message from Dave. Follow the above link and you'll get to both.

Thanks.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CharlotteV on November 26, 2006, 05:45:50 PM
Looks like I picked an *interesting* day to arrive, what with Dave's message. Anyhow, I'm Charlotte from the city of the same name in NC. My life was at a major crossroads last year when BBM was released, and seeing the film had a profound effect on me that I still have a hard time articulating. I thought the feeling would subside but it did not.

I'm new to posting here...but looking forward to *meeting* you guys and sharing some thoughts.
Charlotte
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on November 26, 2006, 06:06:53 PM
Buteo,
my favorite is the Great Grey Owl.  (I have a pair that hunt and hoot in my backyard.)

In my book, you are definitely most welcome!!

;)
H.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on November 26, 2006, 07:51:01 PM
Welcome to the forum Charlotte!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on November 26, 2006, 09:02:13 PM
Charlotte, you made the day doubly intersesting, welcome to the campsite.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on November 27, 2006, 05:24:36 AM
Looks like I picked an *interesting* day to arrive, what with Dave's message. Anyhow, I'm Charlotte from the city of the same name in NC. My life was at a major crossroads last year when BBM was released, and seeing the film had a profound effect on me that I still have a hard time articulating. I thought the feeling would subside but it did not.

I'm new to posting here...but looking forward to *meeting* you guys and sharing some thoughts.
Charlotte

Chatlotte,

So glad you joined hon...the feeling never goes away...just so you know...but you'll fit right in...welcome.

Can't wait to chat with ya  ;D

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: niims on November 28, 2006, 07:26:38 PM
*waves
I finally decided to get my act together and start checking out this message board, just to give me another distraction from laundry and any other household chores I want to avoid right now.

So "HI"

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Casper on November 28, 2006, 07:27:54 PM
Hi! Niims  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: niims on November 28, 2006, 07:29:54 PM
Hi! Niims  :)

HI  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on November 28, 2006, 07:30:57 PM
HI NIIMS! This is exciting, I know you from around :) You should head on over to the The Juicy Bits if you haven't already.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: niims on November 28, 2006, 07:35:02 PM
HI NIIMS! This is exciting, I know you from around :) You should head on over to the The Juicy Bits if you haven't already.

well, i've been meaning to join up here for a few months now, but i'm kinda lazy so ... i only got around to it now. I should really be writing my next chapter, but instead i'm on here with a glass of wine. lol
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on November 28, 2006, 07:36:06 PM
well, i've been meaning to join up here for a few months now, but i'm kinda lazy so ... i only got around to it now. I should really be writing my next chapter, but instead i'm on here with a glass of wine. lol

Join the club *eyes empty bottle of beer*

Over in the Juicy Bits we have Le Bar Slash where we just drink and procrastinate on reading and writing  :D Stop on by and share the bottle.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on November 28, 2006, 07:55:05 PM
Looks like I picked an *interesting* day to arrive, what with Dave's message. Anyhow, I'm Charlotte from the city of the same name in NC. My life was at a major crossroads last year when BBM was released, and seeing the film had a profound effect on me that I still have a hard time articulating. I thought the feeling would subside but it did not.

I'm new to posting here...but looking forward to *meeting* you guys and sharing some thoughts.
Charlotte

Hi Charlotte, and welcome.

You know you're stuck here for ever, I guess. We just can't quit. And we don't want to. And why should we when there's so many fabulous people to meet and things to discover. I've barely scratched the surface.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: thinkin_out_loud on November 29, 2006, 02:51:55 PM
Hi everyone! I've been lurking for a few weeks now and decided to join in. I first saw BBM on February 3. I didn't have anyone to go with me, so I went alone. When I got home I couldn't stop thinking about it. When my son and his girlfriend came over that evening, I was so distracted while visiting with them - I just couldn't concentrate. I finally just told them about the movie and that I couldn't stop thinking about it. (They have both seen it now, too, and agreed it was very good) So here it is, almost 10 months later, and I think the obsession has gotten worse.† :D It's OK, though. It's only the best film I ever saw, that's all.† :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on November 29, 2006, 03:11:28 PM
Welcome, thinking! You have found a place where no one will ever say, "geez, can't you talk about something else for once" :) Hope you love it here, as I have.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: thinkin_out_loud on November 29, 2006, 03:17:20 PM
Thanks, planetgal!† I love it here already.† :)† This whole forum is huge - it will take awhile to get my bearings. But I already made it through the entire "Scene by Scene" FNIT thread. [*pats herself on the back*]† †:)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on November 29, 2006, 03:38:32 PM
Thanks, planetgal!† I love it here already.† :)† This whole forum is huge - it will take awhile to get my bearings. But I already made it through the entire "Scene by Scene" FNIT thread. [*pats herself on the back*]† †:)

Hope you enjoy yourself Thinkin_out_loud, it's never too late to join in the passion.

Welcome to the campsite, beans aren't mandatory! ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: thinkin_out_loud on November 29, 2006, 09:22:11 PM
Thanks, john john! Yeah, I'll skip the beans, but I will have some of that elk, medium-well, and maybe a teeny bit of the whiskey.† ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on November 29, 2006, 10:07:07 PM
This whole forum is huge - it will take awhile to get my bearings. But I already made it through the entire "Scene by Scene" FNIT thread. [*pats herself on the back*]† †:)

When I got here in September, I thought I was going to spend all my time in the slash thread. As it turns out, I've never been there.  ;D But the few threads I do post in- "How Brokeback Affected Me", mostly, plus the Diner and a couple of other threads in the "Meet Your Neighbors" section- have been very fulfilling. Feel free to start with a few and work your way up from there. Welcome to the board- and all the insanity that it brings!  :)

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: thinkin_out_loud on November 29, 2006, 10:23:58 PM
Thanks, Saena. I'll be sure to check out the threads you mentioned. It's all so interesting - from the serious discussions to the silly fun - it's all good.† †:)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: rainydaye on November 30, 2006, 11:26:04 AM
Reckon I should introduce myself here... My name is Angela
I love forums!! you could say im pretty addicted to them. I also do web design and work on pcs from time to time.
I'm in arkansas and Im older than dirt!! 'grins'

"waves to everyone"

Ohhh and I'm going back to school in Jan . woohoo!

Nice meeting y'all !

Mmm  I did mention I'm a forum aholic yes??? ok thought so

Have a great one !  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on November 30, 2006, 12:33:30 PM
ummm... rainy,

if i may, can i ask why this forum.  you didn't mention a connection to the movie and story that brought us together, or another poster of your acquaintance.  we have become fairly all-purpose, but underneath it all beats the heart of a simple short story and a finely crafted film.

welcome in any case,

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on November 30, 2006, 12:43:40 PM
Ah, Angela, you are most welcome here!

If you are not yet familiar with the movie that brought us here, you are in for an amazing experience! If you do know it, then you will find an incredible number of like-minded souls seeking community and answers to the questions we all pose. Please do not hesitate to ask us about anything in particular you may be looking for, we'll be happy to point you in the direction you seek. Again, welcome to our Forum!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: rainydaye on November 30, 2006, 02:50:11 PM
ummm... rainy,

if i may, can i ask why this forum.† you didn't mention a connection to the movie and story that brought us together, or another poster of your acquaintance.† we have become fairly all-purpose, but underneath it all beats the heart of a simple short story and a finely crafted film.

welcome in any case,

jack
You right Jack I havent mentioned it. I saw some links to my pages from this forum, read a few post , seemed like a great bunch of folks.
But your right > I shall delete myself

have a great holiday everyone !
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chapeaugris on December 01, 2006, 05:12:39 AM
ummm... rainy,

if i may, can i ask why this forum.  you didn't mention a connection to the movie and story that brought us together, or another poster of your acquaintance.  we have become fairly all-purpose, but underneath it all beats the heart of a simple short story and a finely crafted film.

welcome in any case,

jack
You right Jack I havent mentioned it. I saw some links to my pages from this forum, read a few post , seemed like a great bunch of folks.
But your right > I shall delete myself

have a great holiday everyone !

Well, that was strange. I've never heard of addictions to forums in general.   ???
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on December 01, 2006, 06:03:22 AM
i don't think i was being unfriendly, just rather curious, myself.  :-\
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on December 01, 2006, 08:06:33 AM
i don't think i was being unfriendly, just rather curious, myself.  :-\

For sure, I didn't think anything you said was aimed at pushing them away. I think we were all thinking, "oh good, someone we can make watch Brokeback."  ;D But it was strange. Oh well.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CharlotteV on December 02, 2006, 06:50:28 PM
Hey, y'all,
I am still new here -- is there a page on the site where you have avatars? Or are you getting them from other sites? (Oh, and I also have a new computer I am still learning...at least I have my priorities in order by visiting here most often, right?)
Thanks,
Charlotte
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on December 03, 2006, 01:32:26 PM
Hey, y'all,
I am still new here -- is there a page on the site where you have avatars? Or are you getting them from other sites? (Oh, and I also have a new computer I am still learning...at least I have my priorities in order by visiting here most often, right?)
Thanks,
Charlotte
There is a small thread for people who make them, and you can take them from there:
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=13073.0
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: katiebbm on December 03, 2006, 09:18:22 PM
Hi,
First time to a forum and I feel a little weird.
Started seeing BBM about a month ago and am officially hooked. I have it on TIVO and am up to 13 viewings, including pausing, rewinding, and replaying my favorite scenes (FNIT, SNIT, DE, and reunion, specifically, the Kiss).
I have been lurking in this site for about a week and finally got up the courage to post. Look forward to talking with other's like myself, an eternal Jake fan.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on December 03, 2006, 09:19:54 PM
Welcome, Katie! I lurked for a month before I got the nerve to introduce myself, and now I have over 5000 posts! This was my first forum, and it takes a week or two (or a few months, in my case) to get the hang of everything, but I'm sure you'll come to love this place as much as the rest of us do!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Adrian on December 03, 2006, 09:24:02 PM
Hi,
I have been lurking in this site for about a week and finally got up the courage to post. Look forward to talking with other's like myself, an eternal Jake fan.

Hi Katie, welcome to the forum!† If you're an 'eternal Jake fan', you might want to check out the link to the thread that I'm posting here for you.† Everything you've ever wanted to experience about Jake, and more, you'll find here.† Great to have you here!

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=12865.8580
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: katiebbm on December 03, 2006, 09:29:13 PM
Thanks Adrian,
That's one of the sites I've been lurking on. Those are some of the greatest pix I've ever seen. I still haven't gotten through all of them.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Adrian on December 03, 2006, 09:39:18 PM
There's also Jake's Eyelashes 1, 2, 3, and 4 to work through, in the archived section.  If you want pictures, I'm probably the guy to ask, I have a bit of a reputation when it comes to my admiration of everything Jake Gyllenhaal  :D  If you have any questions or need any help, please feel free to PM me and I'll help you find your way around.  For General chat you might also want to check out "FanFair" in the Actor's threads.   ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bradINblue on December 03, 2006, 09:48:15 PM
why couldn't i live in canada and be looking for a new doctor....... ;)

b
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Adrian on December 03, 2006, 09:53:04 PM
why couldn't i live in canada and be looking for a new doctor....... ;)

b

haha, yea yea.  You don't live "that far" from here, from what I remember, Washington State right?  Not that far of a drive ;)  Besides, "once" I'm licensed, I'd be happy to do physical's on cute American guys   :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: bradINblue on December 03, 2006, 10:17:41 PM
why couldn't i live in canada and be looking for a new doctor....... ;)

b

haha, yea yea.† You don't live "that far" from here, from what I remember, Washington State right?† Not that far of a drive ;)† Besides, "once" I'm licensed, I'd be happy to do physical's on cute American guys† †:D

cough    ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Adrian on December 03, 2006, 10:39:15 PM

cough† † ;)

haha, ok, I think we're taking this convo somewhere where this thread don't wanna tread!  ;)

btw - cough?  not so much.  rubber glove - that's the way.  :D

next...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: TwistEnnis on December 04, 2006, 05:20:34 PM

cough† † ;)

haha, ok, I think we're taking this convo somewhere where this thread don't wanna tread!† ;)

btw - cough?† not so much.† rubber glove - that's the way.† :D

next...
Sign me up!  lol  I wanna be next!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CharlotteV on December 04, 2006, 07:18:15 PM
Hey, y'all,
I am still new here -- is there a page on the site where you have avatars? Or are you getting them from other sites? (Oh, and I also have a new computer I am still learning...at least I have my priorities in order by visiting here most often, right?)
Thanks,
Charlotte
There is a small thread for people who make them, and you can take them from there:
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=13073.0

Thanks! I would never have found them on my own -- this site is as big as the Wyoming sky! (LOL)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BrokenOkie on December 04, 2006, 07:26:25 PM
Hi CharlotteV and all our other new friends!† Welcome!!

This link might be useful to navigate around the forum.† The info is a bit out of date - there are some newer threads that haven't been added yet:

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8878.msg236697#msg236697

The link is included in the 'News Box', which is located at the top right of each forum page.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on December 04, 2006, 08:36:35 PM
There's also Jake's Eyelashes 1, 2, 3, and 4 to work through, in the archived section.† If you want pictures, I'm probably the guy to ask, I have a bit of a reputation when it comes to my admiration of everything Jake Gyllenhaal † :D† If you have any questions or need any help, please feel free to PM me and I'll help you find your way around.† For General chat you might also want to check out "FanFair" in the Actor's threads.† †;)
you can say THAT again !!† ;) ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fastorslow on December 08, 2006, 04:20:55 PM
Hi all,
Hope there's room for me in the tent! This is my first post, though I have been lurking on the site for about a week now. Despite my moniker I have to say I am slow rather than fast since it took me so friggin' long to find this forum! I have been twisting in the wind (so to speak) for months and months trying to figure out why this movie has got me roped and tied. The truth is, I almost didn't go see it in the theater; it barely registered with me when it came out and I never gave the trailer a second look whenever it came on tv. I had no idea who HL and JG were. I don't know why I changed my mind but I am so glad that I saw in on the big screen (8x) before it left the area. Everything--the cinematography, the music, the direction, the heartbreakingly beautiful performances--just took my breath away. I will never forget the first time I saw the flashback scene with the dozy embrace. I felt like I had been kicked in the gut, and then I completely lost it. And I am not a person who cries in movies. The last time I cried in a movie was when I went to see (don't laugh) Hair. Yes, I had a huge crush on Treat Williams (whose character dies in the movie), plus I was in love with an Italian boy who had similarly long hair. (okay, you can laugh). A few months ago I decided to go cold turkey (this was after countless fulllscreen and widescreen viewings on dvd) because I was getting next to nothing done in my real life. And I was starting to feel like I had ruined the experience for myself; I knew every piece of diaglog (disputed lines notwithstanding) and gesture by heart. I missed the intensity of seeing it on the big screen. But then HBO started airing it and I was hooked again. So, here I am. This place has given me so many more wonderful reasons for going back and watching again (FNIT and SNIT in slo-mo, how delicious!). Thanks to all for such wonderful, insightful, not to mention funny (loved City Girl's quiz in SNIT some months back) posts.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Chad81 on December 08, 2006, 04:32:34 PM
hi everybody, I was informed that I should introduce myself here.  my online name is chad and my real name as well because Im not creative enough to come up with tres kewl handles like most of you have.  I am 25 years old, I am from Montreal Canada but now live in amazing Vancouver BC.  I work for Air Canada and have been doing that for a little over 2 years now.  I love my job but I hate my union, lol!  Dont know if I should really say that but its the truth.  Im dating an amazing guy that is also on this forum who alot of you know.  He drives me crazy sometimes but hes addictive (kind of like the tv version of dr. mcdreamy except hes the real thing!), LOL.  I saw Brokeback Mountain for the first time last January and it was also the first time that I met my current boyfriend on a social level, so, the movie means alot to both of us.  I have no idea about most of the chat rooms on here, but lately Ive been chatting mostly in Fanfair and Queer as Folk.  oh and I really like Heath Ledger more than Jakey G but I still think Jakey G is cute!  I have to be real careful about that one, lol.  Anyways I dont really know what else to say but if you want to know more or have any suggestions of some other cool chat rooms on here, let me know.  ttys.   c.b. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on December 08, 2006, 04:40:05 PM
OMG..Chad...I finally get to see your face...you're a doll.....now you be nice to Adrian...ha ha ha

So glad to finally meet you hon,check out the Diner as well and all over really....none of us bite...but I think you can hold your own, putting up with mi amigo over there...lol..whew!!

Your friend

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: katiebbm on December 08, 2006, 04:40:51 PM
Welcome Fastorslow,
Thank you for your remarks. They mimicked the way I felt to a tee. For the longest time I thought I was the only one in the world that felt so twisted and knotted inside after seeing this movie. The force of it dominated every aspect of my life and I found myself returning to it over and over.
I hope that you find solace in this forum. I for one am still seeking relief from my obsession but until I do, I will have to learn to accept my fate as hopelessly infected with Gylle-itis and a devotee to BBM in all its wonderfulness.
Katie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on December 08, 2006, 04:45:47 PM
Hey there Fast one...ha ha ha...glad you finally found us...there's plenty of room in this big tent of ours....

So welcome friend

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fastorslow on December 08, 2006, 05:14:26 PM
Thank you Katie and Nellie,
I am not a forum person (or a computer person in general; I can barely open a Word document, hence no Gylly photo to accompany my profile  :( ) but I am glad that I joined this one. What a great place. Katie, even though I am happily married with 2 kids, I, too, am severely infected with Gylly-itis. I can't even think the boy's name without getting shivers. Guess I'll have to check out the Eyelashes thread...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on December 08, 2006, 06:20:59 PM
You most certainly will, fastorslow, and all the other goodies that await. We're all in the same tent here.

And hello Chad. A Heath fan. That's my boy.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Chad81 on December 08, 2006, 06:45:35 PM
hi everyone!  mcnell1120 (nellie?) you dont mind using your name? thats cool :) hi nellie, nice to meet you.  Im never nice to adrian, why you think he keeps coming back for more, lol.  what diner?  questions, questions, sorry.   :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on December 08, 2006, 09:45:08 PM
hi everyone!† mcnell1120 (nellie?) you dont mind using your name? thats cool :) hi nellie, nice to meet you.† Im never nice to adrian, why you think he keeps coming back for more, lol.† what diner?† questions, questions, sorry.† †:)

Welcome Chad!

It's Auntie's 24 hour Diner, a place where the coffee puts hair on your chest. It's where you can let it all out, no subjects, just yakking between friends. Here's the link
http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8830.164550
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on December 08, 2006, 09:47:50 PM
Welcome Chad! Just got online again after being cut off most of the day. By all means, come over to the Diner and pay us a visit, when you feel like it!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on December 09, 2006, 09:20:47 AM
hi everyone! mcnell1120 (nellie?) you dont mind using your name? thats cool :) hi nellie, nice to meet you. Im never nice to adrian, why you think he keeps coming back for more, lol. what diner? questions, questions, sorry. :)

Ha ha ha...yes, please call me Nellie...Nell...Nells...whatever...lol...

Ahemmm...never nice to him huh......**mind plays**
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on December 09, 2006, 04:06:01 PM
hey chad ! good to meet you here as well (though i LOVE the QaF thread  ;)). nellie is right, come to the diner, there's lots of fun there !  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Chad81 on December 09, 2006, 07:32:20 PM
hi desertrat!  mcnell1120 and desertrat, in case you dont hear it enough, just wanna tell you that your both stunning women! :)

well Im sometimes nice to him, but it depends on if hes being nice to me  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on December 10, 2006, 07:49:05 AM
*deep blush* thanks chad... :)

sounds like a good deal you have with adrian...just who defines "nice" ?  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on December 10, 2006, 10:08:15 AM
*deep blush* thanks chad... :)

sounds like a good deal you have with adrian...just who defines "nice" ?  ;D ;D ;D
more interesting still, who defines "naughty"?  santa wants to know...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on December 10, 2006, 12:54:59 PM
hi desertrat! mcnell1120 and desertrat, in case you dont hear it enough, just wanna tell you that your both stunning women! :)

well Im sometimes nice to him, but it depends on if hes being nice to me :)

Gracias chico....you two are F'ing hot yourselves...geez!!!...,,,this "nice" word has many meanings dude....ha ha...like Martina says(desertrat)..define NICE....uuhuhh..thought so....did you move to your new apartment yet?..I thought I heard something of that nature and Adrian was sooooooo nice to have you stay with him at his place....ahemmm
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Chad81 on December 11, 2006, 04:18:04 AM
yes nellie, I am moving into condo.  this condo was going to be ready at the end of november, but we had crazy weather for a few weeks so because of that they had delay.  now because of xmas they have delay again so now they say january 15 :-\  but yes, I stay here with adrian, and it is fine :)  long drive for me to go to work but thats ok.   :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on December 11, 2006, 05:08:19 AM
yes nellie, I am moving into condo. this condo was going to be ready at the end of november, but we had crazy weather for a few weeks so because of that they had delay. now because of xmas they have delay again so now they say january 15 :-\ but yes, I stay here with adrian, and it is fine :) long drive for me to go to work but thats ok. :)

Well good to hear then...I know he's taking good care of ya.... ;)....good luck on your condo  :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: karin on December 12, 2006, 08:28:09 AM
Hi folks,

I live in Austria, in the 2nd largest city after the capital Vienna. I work at the University of Technology as administrative employee (Faculty of Computer Science). I do everything regarding issues of study. So the students need to treat me nice if they want to receive their documents quickly.† ;)

First time I saw Brokeback Mountain on DVD after release in October. (Must have been even more impressive in the cinema on a big screen.) I watched in German first, then in English. Since then I can't get this movie out of my head. It is soo moving. Sad and beautiful at the same time. My heart started beating whenever I only thought of BBM, respectively of the "main" scenes. I didn't know about the disastrous ending and therefore I just went "Oh NO" when seeing the "deceased"-postcard Ennis received. I just couldn't believe it.

Of course I decided I had to get the DVD. My "BBM disease" is gradually getting better now. I have not watched it or parts of it for about 3 weeks.† ;) :)
But as Christmas is approaching there will surely be plenty of time for that.† :D

I found this forum while searching the internet for Jake, of course, but also BBM. I found the Jake's Eyelashes thread and since then kept reading some of the post and esp. looking at the Jake pics.† ;)

I just wanted to tell you I think it is great that obviously so many people from all over the world feel the same about BBM.

I can hopefully post something every now and then as I don't have internet at home but only in my office. Won't be able to work through hundreds of postings (let alone archives) though.† :(

Click to see a few sights in my hometown:
http://cms.graztourismus.at/cms/ziel/42425/EN/

Bye!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on December 12, 2006, 08:31:40 AM
Hi Karin and welcome the BBM forum, there are a few Austrians here, Pop into Auntie's 24Hour Diner, it's in the "Meet your Neighbors" section for a chat when you next have time.


Here is a direct link

http://davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8830.0

Nax  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on December 12, 2006, 09:03:49 AM
hey karin, a welcome from a viennese† :D good to see that more and more austrians find their way in here !

since neil already showed you the way to our little sanctuary - i can only repeat: come and visit the diner, that's where all the fun is !† ;)

if you have questions about the forum, where to look at or technical questions, you can always pm me, i've been around for quite a while and can help with (almost) everything.

hope to hear/ read more of you....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: karin on December 12, 2006, 09:06:54 AM
Hi Karin and welcome the BBM forum, there are a few Austrians here, Pop into Auntie's 24Hour Diner, it's in the "Meet your Neighbors" section for a chat when you next have time.

Nax† ;)

Thanks for the welcome Nax !!† †;D

I'm going home now, it's already evening here...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on December 12, 2006, 09:14:30 AM
Hi Karin! Welcome to the campsite. You live in a very beautiful city, I visited it many years ago and still have fond memories.
JJ
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on December 12, 2006, 09:16:05 AM
Hi Karin! Welcome to the campsite. You live in a very beautiful city, I visited it many years ago and still have fond memories.
JJ

guess we should think about a forum meeting in austria, jean....there's so many people who told me already how much they liked our little country.. ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: karin on December 12, 2006, 09:20:33 AM

if you have questions about the forum, where to look at or technical questions, you can always pm me, i've been around for quite a while and can help with (almost) everything.

Hey, thank you ! As soon as I "get acquainted" I'll be happy to PM you.
Doing my best to get rid of my virgin status...† ;D† ;D

P.S.: they're currently playing "Little Drummer Boy" by David Bowie and Bing Crosby on the radio. Christmas can come now. I love this song, compared to "Last Christmas"...† :(
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on December 12, 2006, 09:53:47 AM
Hi Karin! Welcome to the campsite. You live in a very beautiful city, I visited it many years ago and still have fond memories.
JJ

guess we should think about a forum meeting in austria, jean....there's so many people who told me already how much they liked our little country.. ;)

I'd love to!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on December 13, 2006, 05:49:30 AM

P.S.: they're currently playing "Little Drummer Boy" by David Bowie and Bing Crosby on the radio. Christmas can come now. I love this song, compared to "Last Christmas"...  :(

If you'd seen the extremely naughty version of Little Drummer Boy on the Photo Captioning thread you mightn't feel quite the same about it! I'll see if I can find the link.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: karin on December 13, 2006, 06:33:04 AM
If you'd seen the extremely naughty version of Little Drummer Boy on the Photo Captioning thread you mightn't feel quite the same about it! I'll see if I can find the link.

Oh yes, looking forward to it.† :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on December 19, 2006, 05:38:33 PM
The Truth About Christmas:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l9pn6V-o2Wg
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on December 19, 2006, 08:41:58 PM
The Truth About Christmas:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l9pn6V-o2Wg


That's beautiful! Thanks, and Merry Christmas to you :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marc on December 19, 2006, 10:19:45 PM
I've been posting since February, but realized I'd never introduced myself.† The next paragraph is a summary of what I've posted on Craig's list more than once, fruitlessly (pun intended) looking for dates.

I'm a 55-year-old gay male Republican, a minority group I have pretty much all to myself.† I work for San Francisco city govt, and almost live in San Francisco.† My job is analyst, thinking deep thoughts about how the Purchasing Dept does its job.† Not a sexy position, but I do my bit to make the place run better.† Whatever you think about how badly govt works, the truth is worse.† I play bridge pretty well, and someday will get back into C&W dancing.

I've always been a big fan of movies, and was knocked flat by BBM.† I think it's the best gay movie and the best romance ever made, and one of the 5-10 best movies ever made.† I don't expect to see a better movie the rest of my life.† Of the approx 70 times I've seen it, I've been dry-eyed 2-3 times.† From about 1970 to December 2005, my favorite movie was "The Wizard of Oz."

I'm a sucker for sad movies.† When I was 13, I cried at "Mary Poppins" during the "Feed the Birds" song.† Just in case there was any doubt I was gay (there wasn't).

I spend a lot of time at work reading the Forum and thinking about the movie.† I'm pleased with my posts today, one noting my theory why Jack is licking his lips in the post-divorce scene, the other wondering if Jack did or Ennis will sleep in the other's shirt.† My longest post, and the most fun, was the quiz.† I've added a couple of new questions at the end since the original was posted.

I haven't made a broad use of the site by any means, posting mostly on General Discussion, Favorite Quote and Scene-by-Scene threads.† There must be a bunch more going on here that would interest me.

I think JG is the sexiest man alive.† (Not to resort to stereotypes, but Jewish men drive me nuts.)† I heard once that Heaven is where all the men are 33 and all the women are 30.† That means that JG will look better and better for the next seven years, at which point the universe might end.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on December 20, 2006, 05:13:17 PM
IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT
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The administration has been working extremely hard to solve the slow down issue that has been plaguing the forum for some months now. It has been determined that to solve this we will have to change the host company of the forum. The new host server has now been contracted with by Dave as of today.

We are proceeding rapidly now and hope to have the conversion complete within a few weeks at the latest and hopefully much sooner. We will keep you (members) apprised. Please look for announcements in the Newsbox. Some changes will likely come up suddenly--that is the nature of computer conversions, so it is impossible to know before we test whether something will go flawlessly and take two hours, or uncover thorny issues that will take days. The testing process is being started. This will not affect the forum at this point.

So taking this into consideration, we don't want to give you timeframes that are unrealistic. As soon as we finish a stage, we'll proceed immediately to the next, and the exact changeover will likely come on very short notice to you (members). We will post this changeover time in the Newsbox as well as in the individual threads, and will give you as much lead time as we can manage. This will enable us to end the slowdown ASAP.

Thank you for your patience.


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on December 21, 2006, 03:00:22 PM
Hey Marc,

That would make you 33 also.  How about that!

and nice to meet you.

Gerry
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sugarcheryl on December 27, 2006, 01:55:49 PM
Hello all.....I am a new user to this forum and just noticed that there was a spot to introduce myself.....so....allow "myself to introduce....myself" :P LOL! I have just recently seen BBM after much fighting seeing it. What a mistake that was.....I think. I say I think because now after seeing it....it is imbedded in my brain and in my heart and it is a burning thought that will not go away. I think about this movie from the time I wake up til the time I go to bed. My heart is wrenching all the time. I want to scream at the screen sometimes for Ennis and Jack to just open up to each other.

Anyways....I am 36 years old and live in Sunny Southern California. I have 2 beautiful daughters, 15 and 2....yeah yeah yeah....I know...."wow!" "Such an age span" LOL! I came equiped with a built in babysitter :P I have been married and divorced once and am currently living with my boyfriend and our baby girl (my other daughter lives out of town to go to a better school) and.....get this.....my exhusband lol! It works for us....hes a good dad to our daughter so I keep him around....lol.....just couldnt be married to the man. Anyways.....I work for a small local ISP and have been doing so for almost 7 years.

Well thats about it....thats me in a nut shell. Thank GOD! For this forum. Thank you all for welcoming me with such open arms and for letting me vent and carry on about this movie. I am totally lost in it. I have felt both sides of what Ennis and Jack are feeling. This movie carries me into a "make believe" world that just takes my very breath away.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on December 27, 2006, 02:18:05 PM
Wecome to the campsite Sugarchyrel, your enthousiasm for our movie is pushing me toward my umpteenth viewing!
I've forbidden myself to watch it too often for fear of breaking down yet again...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on December 29, 2006, 05:21:09 AM
Hello again, sugarcheryl. Morning til night, hey? That should stop in about....umm....hang on, I'm still doing it after nearly a year and it isn't lessening at all. Enjoy what the forum has to offer.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on December 29, 2006, 06:02:09 AM
Welcome to you both Sugarcheryl and Marc, glad you've found us (I think that is a statment and a question at the same time  ;D). I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for in here. Pop into Aunties's 24 hour diner, in the meet your neighbours section, there's usuall one or more people chatting on-line, I warn you it gets a little mad in there, but everyone's welcome.

Nax
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sugarcheryl on December 29, 2006, 11:39:59 AM
Thank you for the warm welcome again. I feel quite at home here amongst fellow friends. As time passes the "kicked in the stomach" feeling lessens....but as I stated above....that movie is with me from morning til night.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on December 29, 2006, 04:32:15 PM
Be warned - that "kicked in the stomach" feeling can sneak up at the most unexpected moments.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Kirstie on December 31, 2006, 08:46:06 AM
As a looooong time lurker on this forum (er, since May *shame*), I figured I'd best start getting involved!† ;D

I guess I should start by introducing myself. My name's Kirstie, I'm 23 and from England.

I first saw BBM in Sydney (during my travels around Australia) and it was absolute torture waiting until I got home to see it again. I've lost count of how many times I've watched it since... although I still can't watch the end! It was a relief to find others that had been affected as much as I have by this film.

Ok, I'll leave it at that. I wish you all a very happy new year!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Wayne SF on December 31, 2006, 08:48:59 AM
Hey Kristy.  What was the audience reaction in Australia?  Happy for Heath (their native son)?  Or just really enjoying a really good movie?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Kirstie on December 31, 2006, 09:08:47 AM
Hi Wayne. From what I can remember (I think I was in a world of my own afterwards!) the reaction was pretty good. I think it was around the time Heath was having a few problems with photographers over there, so I hope it made people see him in a good light!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on December 31, 2006, 09:15:24 AM
hey kirstie, wow - you really ARE a long-time lurker ! great that you decided to join BEFORE your one-year-lurkdom-anniversary  :D welcome to the forum, don't be shy, you'll find a lot of like-minded people here. we're happy to see new faces !
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on January 01, 2007, 07:43:37 AM
Hey Kristy.  What was the audience reaction in Australia?  Happy for Heath (their native son)?  Or just really enjoying a really good movie?

Each time I saw it here the audience was almost reverent. Silent, respectful. No talking afterwards, just solemnly leaving. A few nervous giggles the first time, I think in the Twist Thanksgiving scene.

Australians are genuinely proud of our boy. (I'm an Australian when it suits me!) The film played for ages in Melbourne.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cybergmom on January 04, 2007, 07:57:11 AM
Hello, I am the new kid on the block.
Not news to any one here but I am BBM addicted.
Have been since just this past summer when I saw it for the first time.
Will be forever.
I've been reading here a bit,
Love the comments and discussion.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on January 04, 2007, 07:59:51 AM
Hiya Cybergmom welcome to the asylum† ;D,† I'm sure if you've looked around you find lots of topics that interest you.† Please feel free to drop into our VR coffe shop for a chat, there's usually some one in there creating mayhem you'd be most welcome.† It's Auntie's new and improved 24 Diner in the "Meet your Neighbours" section.† Look forward to seeing you around.

Nax
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on January 04, 2007, 08:00:35 AM
and it took you THAT long to finally find and join us ?  :D

welcome, cybergmom, you'll find a lot of like minded people in here. hope you'll have a good time !  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on January 04, 2007, 08:01:45 AM
Hello, I am the new kid on the block.
Not news to any one here but I am BBM addicted.
Have been since just this past summer when I saw it for the first time.
Will be forever.
I've been reading here a bit,
Love the comments and discussion.

You're more than welcome, happy to have you here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on January 04, 2007, 09:30:36 AM
Hello, I am the new kid on the block.
Not news to any one here but I am BBM addicted.
Have been since just this past summer when I saw it for the first time.
Will be forever.
I've been reading here a bit,
Love the comments and discussion.

Welcome to the forum!  Hope to see you posting all over soon!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cybergmom on January 04, 2007, 02:04:03 PM
Thank you all for the warm welcome.
I had to post and run before, to an appointment, but now I can tell you a bit more about how I got here.

I heard that a "Gay Cowboy Movie " was coming out. My first thought was contradiction in terms. Cowboys are not gay. Then, Duhh, you boob, there are gay people in every walk of life, so gay cowboy? Sure why not? When it came out no one would go with me. I do go to movies alone but I was embarrassed to go alone to this one. There was a lot of snickering and really bad jokes going around about it. I bought it when it came out on video. Watched it alone a few nights later and my life has not been the same since.

I felt like I had been kicked in the gut, run over by a truck, and left for dead by the side of the road. I read the story, that didn't help, the screen play, same, bought the soundtrack, nothing took the pain away. For weeks I carried this around thinking I must be nuts. WHY ME? No one else I know had this happen to them. I still can't explain it. And I really want to know. I had no one to talk to about it. I tried talking to a friend or two but I could tell they were not affected in the same way by BBM, and would think me crazy.

I went around for months like this till I figured out that I had to work on thinking about this as just a STORY, that Jack and Ennis are NOT REAL, they are fictional characters in a story, a really good story, but still a story. Maybe it was just the passage of time but this seemed to work to some extent. I felt better. I was able to function almost normally. Then I began to write. I can accept a sad ending but, leaving Ennis alone and without hope was unacceptable to me and for my own aching heart I would have to heal his somehow. In other words Ennis needed a finished life.

In working and writing my way out of this I have found that so much has changed about me. I am not the same person that I was before. I seem to have a different perspective about things. When you see things differently, you do things differently. People I know are coming up to me every day to tell me how different I am, they want to know what it is. No way I can tell them, they just wouldn't understand.

I could go on and on here but I think you know all this stuff. I can't believe there are this many people who were hit by this. It's like the people in Close Encounters who know something happened to them, there is something they know, something they have to do, and some where they have to go, not everyone is affected, but not a one of them knows why.  ???

Thanks for being here.  :-*




Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on January 04, 2007, 02:34:24 PM
Hi Cybergmom,
You pretty much summed it up for most of the people on here. It also totally blows me away that there are so many communities and boards with folks like us still trying to figure out why us, why this story, why doesn't it fade away. 

I'm sad you didn't get to experience it on the big screen, it totally transports you into the movie.  I felt like I wasn't in the theater, but was part of the story.  That was a first for me.
 
It's been over a year, and finally the fever is diminishing.  I still can't watch the film, or even listen to the music.  The last time I watched the movie was in April when the DVD came out. Tears didn't well up, and I remember smiling at some parts. I didn't watch it at Auntie's BBQ, as I knew it would affect me the rest of the weekend, and I was having too much of a good time to risk turning sad or morose.  I only saw it twice in the theater.  Since it wouldn't let me alone, I had to stop watching it.  It was like picking at a scab that was starting to heal.  I think I may be ready to watch it again in a couple of months.  Maybe I'll watch it on Academy Awards night, in the spirit of the screening in Michigan.  Oh, to be able to see it again on the big screen.  :-\ 

I read fan fic just about every night before I go to sleep.  There are a lot of excellent creations out there. I tend to stick to the stories where Jack and Ennis are cowboys, but they do get their sweet life together.   I'd love to read what you create sometime, if and when you feel it's something you care to share.  The fics have given me a peace about the characters and their destiny.  That's another reason I don't think I can watch the movie again, I can't see the point in going through that turmoil another time.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cybergmom on January 04, 2007, 02:59:55 PM
PatSinnott,
Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes I too am sorry I did not get to see BBM in the theater but I take it to my daughters, she has a big screen HDTV and it is so beautiful there. I can watch the movie, and I do a lot but I only watch till Cassie says "Girls don't fall in love with fun." When I feel really strong, which is not often I watch it to the end. I always cry my eyes out.

The story I am writing is called Full Circle. I have the outline done and four chapters written. I write every day. When I wrote the outline this past summer I did not know there were such things as Fan Fics. Are they a BBM phenomenon? I read one or two of them partially. None all the way through. I was afraid it would pollute my story to read them before I finish. I am not sure I will put my story out. It's very sexually explicit, not everyone would like it. I have toyed with cleaning it up a bit but as it is, the sex fits somehow. Hard to explain.

Nice meeting you.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on January 04, 2007, 10:43:24 PM
You need to write what your spirit tells you to, and I'm sure it will appeal to most, if not all.† Some stories do focus, in my opinion, too much on J&E's sex life; like when the story has them having sex three or four times a day, and taking up three out of every five pages, I lose interest.† I like the stories with characters, plot, angst, emotions, tenderness, light banter and ribbing, etc.† Don't get me wrong, I love a well done sex interlude, especially when it's "lovemaking" as opposed to raw sex, but that's not the reason I read the stories.† There has to be a story there to keep me reading.

I agree with you that reading other fics while composing yours would not be a good idea creatively.† BUT, when you decide your story is complete, please check out some of the amazing talents out there.†

From what I've been told by Jenna, who wrote one of the most praised and admired fics out there, there has been fic fandom for Kirk and Spock for over 12 years.† The forum member who updates the fan fic links by author thread on here is named Mobody (Michele).† She is the one to ask about the history and scope of fan ficdom (or is that fic fandom?)† †She and Amdaz (Dean) are, from what I read from the comments on the stories, pretty much our resident experts.† They are at the minimum a great place to start.

I wish you the best with your creative endeavor.† I too have an artistic talent which lay dormant until BBM resurrected my creative muse.

Here is one of my latest pieces, called "In Their Dreams".

(http://i94.photobucket.com/albums/l113/PatSinnott/InTheirDreams.jpg)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cybergmom on January 05, 2007, 04:28:17 AM
You need to write what your spirit tells you to
Here is one of my latest pieces, called "In Their Dreams".
(http://i94.photobucket.com/albums/l113/PatSinnott/InTheirDreams.jpg)

Thanks for your helpful hints. I was wondering how those stories got around.
Love your picture. Very nice work.

In my story Full Cicle the story continues Ennis' life with his girls and his friends, I write it with love for him, Jack and BBM. I believe that once you truely love someone they become a part of your soul and you carry that love with you the rest of your life. Even when they leave you the memory of true love never dies. The love between them would not be served if he lived out the rest of his life as a hollow shell. If "Love is a force of nature" then love, like nature, is enduring and renewing.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on January 05, 2007, 05:38:32 AM
cybergmom, lovely to read your personal story. I can't let this go and have no intention of doing so. I thrash out the original over on Scenes and Elements threads and write fanfics as well. Anything to understand what it's all about.
Fanfics have been around for eons, it seems, although the Net has really helped.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MTKpa on January 08, 2007, 03:07:07 AM
I first saw BBM for the first time a few weeks ago on HBO Ė missed it on the big screen, not quite sure why.† I just finished watching it again (after first seeing it, I had to get BBMís up with the DVD, soundtrack, book and even framed and hung the poster Ė Brokeback got me good too Ė I must have watched it like 15 or 20 times now.† I found myself the other night placing where in the movie the cuts from the soundtrack appeared.).† I figured, after stepping outside for a smoke and time to dry my eyes and compose myself, it was high time I said helloÖI have been poking around here for awhile Ė glad I found you guys because reading the posts has helped me work through a lot and itís good to know that there others out there who feel the same about this film as I do.† I canít seem to stop thinking about it.† Being a single gay man, itís especially heart-wrenching for me to watch Jack and Ennis, who managed to find each other and love each other deeply, not having the sweet life together that Jack wanted Ė the love was there.† I left the DVD playing when I stepped outside, and I just noticed the background scene for the bonus features that appears at the end of the movie Ė Ennis on horseback on the mountain, alone.† Time for more tissues† :'(
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on January 08, 2007, 03:46:17 AM
MTKpa, welcome. Sometimes this is a lonely road when there's no-one else around who knows how deeply the film and story cut. Fortunately, this forum is THE place - we've heard!

As for stepping outside to compose yourself, that still happens to me after eleven months. This thing sneaks up at very odd and awkward moments.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on January 08, 2007, 08:11:26 AM
Hi MTKpa, glad you've found us, pleanty to go at in The "How BrokeBack affected me" thread and many other places besides, welcome to our little community, hope to see you in Auntie's Diner sometime.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on January 09, 2007, 03:14:08 PM
Sugarcheryl, Kristy, Cyberg-mom, MTKpa:

Welcome all to this fine establishment.

I would like to relate something to you on how far and wide this films' impact has been felt.† I am in San Antonio, Tx.† During lunch today.† One of my co-workers told me that her sister, 44 watched BBM† on New Years Day and was deeply impacted.† My coworker is aware of my involvement with this forum and my personal relatinship with Brokeback Mountain.

She related how her sister was so moved that she started crying as she recounted the impact.† She wants to recommend the Forum and I advised her to please have her get on here as soon as possible.† Her sister saw the movie during the holidays and is still searching.

At the same time, another friend at lunch piped up and said her daughter saw it over this past weekend and was similarly impacted.† She is only 15.

Welcome, and it will get better.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sugarcheryl on January 10, 2007, 02:14:32 PM
Possibly a stupid question here.....but what do the stars mean that are under our names? I have noticed that mine is growing and was just wondering what they meant.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: sugarcheryl on January 10, 2007, 02:29:25 PM
Possibly a stupid question here.....but what do the stars mean that are under our names? I have noticed that mine is growing and was just wondering what they meant.

Nevermind....I found my answer in another thread :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on January 10, 2007, 02:30:56 PM
Possibly a stupid question here.....but what do the stars mean that are under our names? I have noticed that mine is growing and was just wondering what they meant.

Nevermind....I found my answer in another thread :D

LMAO
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jwm on January 12, 2007, 12:35:09 PM
Hi I was really hoping that there are still some people out there that I can talk to about this unpredicatable obsession that I have of this movie, I just watched it last week Jan 5 07 and it was really out of curiosity, plus nothing else on that I hadn't seen, late at night by myself, well I don't need to tell that I was totally shocked at how much I loved it, I couldn't believe it, I just sat there at the end and that's it, shit you can't leave me like this totally crying and heartbroken, so needless to say I watched it again and this time I cried even more because I picked more of the story, and I have no idea why it a affected that way I am a staright 50 somewhat married woman and yet it made me feel like a silly school girl, and I thought what the heck, so I wanted to talk about it really badly but everyone I know hasn't seen it, so here I am with all this obsession going on and no one to discuss with and I must say I am really glad that I am not the only one that it affected this, I was wondering if I was going nuts but I see not, so I would really appreciate it if I could join in with your discussion and I hope that I can get this damn thing out of my head, by the way I think I have seen it at least 5 times in a week, so again I hope to hear from someone out there,
I am real sorry that I didn't watch this beautiful. heartwrenching, and defiiantly heartbreaking movie long before now, but better late than never it truly would have been my loss if I hadn't.

jwm
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on January 12, 2007, 12:52:38 PM
Welcome jwm!!

We all know what you're going through.

You've only seen it 5 times in one week?? You need to catch up :D
I saw it 10 times at the theatre in one week last year.

Jump right in to any discussion on this forum, there are a lot of great people waiting to hear from you.

A great thread for discussing how you were affected by the movie can be foud here:
http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.0

If you just want to chit-chat, come on over to Auntie's Diner under 'Meet Your Neighbors'
http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=18979.0

AND If you're not too far away, a bunch of us are going to watch the movie on the big screen here in Michigan on Feb.25
http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=17560.0

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on January 12, 2007, 01:17:43 PM
Hi I was really hoping that there are still some people out there that I can talk to about this unpredicatable obsession


jwm:

Welcome to the forum and am really glad you found us.  You will be OK now.

Obsession, indeed.  You've only just begun.  Even though my 1 year anniversary joining this Forum was yesterday, I am currently at my most active here.  My life has changed because of Brokeback Mountain.  I have also come to realize that I was not alone and have developed many great friendships around the world.  John has directed you to some very good threads which you should check out.

I will let you search out on your own, but come back to any of us, at any of the threads or through personal messages with any questions.  I'm sure that within the next few days you will see many responses to your introduction.  It is always nice to see that the BBM effect rolls on.  One word of advise, I have come to know that not everyone reacts the way we have to this film.  For example, I have been in a gay relationship for 28 years, my partner thinks it's a great movie, but did not react at the emotional level that I did.

Oh, and BTW (by the way), it's OK to cry.  We've all done it.  :)

Hugs and  :-* :-* :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jwm on January 12, 2007, 02:06:06 PM


Hi I was really hoping that there are still some people out there that I can talk to about this unpredicatable obsession


jwm:

Welcome to the forum and am really glad you found us.† You will be OK now.

Obsession, indeed.† You've only just begun.† Even though my 1 year anniversary joining this Forum was yesterday, I am currently at my most active here.† My life has changed because of Brokeback Mountain.† I have also come to realize that I was not alone and have developed many great friendships around the world.† John has directed you to some very good threads which you should check out.

I will let you search out on your own, but come back to any of us, at any of the threads or through personal messages with any questions.† I'm sure that within the next few days you will see many responses to your introduction.† It is always nice to see that the BBM effect rolls on.† One word of advise, I have come to know that not everyone reacts the way we have to this film.† For example, I have been in a gay relationship for 28 years, my partner thinks it's a great movie, but did not react at the emotional level that I did.

Oh, and BTW (by the way), it's OK to cry.† We've all done it.† :)

Hugs and† :-* :-* :-*

hi I hope that i can become more knowledgeable about navigagating through this maze and finally know how to commuicate with all you good people hopfully soon because right about now I am contaplating just giving up, thanks jwm
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on January 12, 2007, 02:19:04 PM
You are doing great so far.† Might as well start quoting in your replies that way you get over the learning curve.† You can also delete part of the quoted material so as not to make the message as long.† Just watch out for the (quote) designations.

You can always ask one of us.

Gerry
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on January 12, 2007, 05:18:26 PM
You are so very welcome here jwm! You are doing very well, so please DON"T give up!!
We are all here to suppport you as we have all been thru the exact same thing. Just starting out like this, I know it  seems so overwhelming and questionable, but we have ALL been thru it.
I do hope that you just take the time to go here
http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php (just click on the link)
and look at the boards and threads and see which ones you think will help you the most!
Ask any of us questions here or in a pm and if I can be of anyassistance with any questions as to how to navigate do not hesitate to pm ( you can go to the little blue IM button under my name in my avatar and ask away)
Also ANYONE here will answer any questions as well.
Once again welcome to us here and I hope you look on it as "home" and as your friends and family!
killersmom/Linda
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Aile on January 15, 2007, 06:47:53 AM
Hi,

I just joined yesterday although I have been reading things like crazy here for the past week or so.  I first saw BBM a month ago and of course I haven't stopped thinking about it since.  I had meant to see it last year when it first opened, I read all about it but I didn't.  Maybe I knew it would affect so much so I just put it off, I don't know, but I am so sorry now that I didn't because I would have loved to have known about this board and joined in much sooner.

My stats, I am a 43 year old female in the NE, I actually wrote already in 'how BBM afftected my life' thread, I would love to hear your thoughts.

I would love be be active here, but I cannot deny that I am a bit intimidated...

Just wanted to say hello.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on January 15, 2007, 09:10:09 AM
Dear Aile, welcome to the Forum! Please make yourself comfortable here, and you can be as inactive or active as you feel, going back and forth as much as you want. You are under no pressure to post or not post at all! It's never too late to start here! Move around and inspect the threads. For a lighter form of banter, you might want to check out the Diner in this board, it's a lot of fun but can move very fast at times. If you post and an answer does not immediately follow, that does not mean you're being ignored, just someone answering a previous post, probably. You will be answered and welcomed quite soon after you post there, except in those rare occasions that no one is there at that particular moment! Again welcome, and we're glad to have you join us!

Sorry not to have welcomed you sooner, but this being a holiday, many of us took the opportunity to sleep in late!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on January 16, 2007, 05:53:36 AM
I would love be be active here, but I cannot deny that I am a bit intimidated...

Just wanted to say hello.

"Intimidated"?...oh lord...no way..don't feel like that at all......we're all a bunch of silly ,perverted,(well,not me  ::) ) sweet,lovable,caring people....lol.....be yourself...you'll fit right in... :D

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: marshall.pen on January 21, 2007, 05:01:43 AM
 :)Hello,everyone!
i am a guy from China.Of course,also a gay from China.I sm sorry my English is so limited.But I am still trying to say something about myself.
I saw this movie,Brokeback,last year.It totally changed me.It let me know that a moving story could be made in this way.It made me want to be a great director like Ang Lee.
Ok,however,I am studying letereture,not making movies.
i like movies,music,novels...everything a young man will like.I also like writing stories.And most of them are about boys' love.
er...
I am 19 years old.But them say i look like 15 as I am so thin.
Marshall Pen is my English name.My Chinese name is Peng Moxie(彭陌勰).
al...if you want to know more about me,or make friend with me, my E-mail address is here:pmx3r@163.com
ok,that's all.

marshall.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on January 21, 2007, 10:14:54 AM
歡迎光臨! 你好嗎?

Welcome to the Forum! I hope that you will enjoy yourself here with us. Feel free to roam around and read what you want, and if you find something that you would like to write something about, feel free to do that too. You may write as much or as little as you want, it's up to you. But know that you are very welcome here, and we are glad to have you among us. And thank you for posting your picture in the picture thread, it is always good to be able to see the person that we are chatting with. And thank you also for your kind PM.



Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Mule on January 21, 2007, 01:45:29 PM
Ok... I think it's about time I came out of hiding. I'm probably one of the most long-lasting lurkers around here... I first discovered this forum last October when I bought the DVD (yes... it wasn't released earlier in my country! Can you imagine to wait that long...?! You probably can't... :)) I saw the movie at the theatre in February (just twice... which might make me a bit of an outsider here :)) and had all the usual symptoms but was too stupid to find this place on the internet. After I finally got the DVD and had seen the movie some more times (a lot more times, actually! I guess I'm not that much of an outsider after all... :)) I found this forum and have been following a lot of these threads ever since. I never got round to posting myself, though... First of all because I was too busy reading what you had already written (which was quite a lot by October, mind you!) but also because English isn't my native language (as you will have noticed by now :)). That wouldn't have bothered me on any other forum but here most people are so eloquent and have such a great way with words.

And since I find it hard to put in words how BBM has affected me even in my own language, it's even more difficult in English. It's been almost a year since I first saw it and I've never before seen a movie that wouldn't let go of me for such long time. It made me so sad (well... for obvious reasons!) but also hopeful because it seems that true love does exist! There have been times in my 33 years on this planet where I have pretty much given up on that idea... So I need a reminder every now and then!  :( ven if it's just fictional and probably happens very rarely in real life. I found that to be a very small but important positive message of the movie despite all the depressing circumstances and the tragic ending (...don't even wanna think about it! I'm one of those people who haven't watched the end of the movie in a long time...)

Apart from that, I'm still trying to to find out why this movie has affected me the way it has... ?!?! I honestly don't know. It made me want to change something but I've no idea what. I'm not making much sense here, I know!

Anyway... this is just to introduce myself and to let you know that I enjoy reading what you write very much. I particularly like several of the scene-by-scene threads, Planet Heath (since he was the reason why I went to see the movie in the first place!) and of course all the heartbreaking stories that people share. I will continue to read as much as possible - unfortunately I've got a job which requires me to actually DO some work every now and then... :) - and I might even post again. Maybe it gets easier after the first post?  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on January 21, 2007, 02:44:41 PM
Hi Mule, welcome!
Finally, you came out of lurkdom. Good for us :D
I fully understand, as a French Canadian, how you feel about posting in another language. As best I can see your English is excellent.
I hope it won't keep you from posting.
Many of us here still don't know how to change things in our lives because of BBM, so don't worry, we're all in this together!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on January 22, 2007, 02:36:56 AM
Hi Mule, welcome as a full member, better thank lurking ;)† I hope to see you around sometime, and by the way your English is excellent so don't worry about it.

N.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on January 22, 2007, 09:32:28 AM
Hi Mule,

I am very happy that you've decided to join us here.  I too wondered aimlessly for a bit, although not as long as you.   :D

We share the same reasons why we are here.  To understand why we reacted as we did.  I have come to credit my stay here to many good things in my life and for that I am most grateful.  I know you will find the answers you are looking for.  Plus, unexpectedly, I have made many good friends from all over the world and for that I feel truly blessed.

Don't lurk, take part and you will be rewarded well.

Gerry (cabin)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tambourine on January 22, 2007, 02:21:25 PM
Hello! I'm very new here, just posted in a couple of threads so far, though I've been lurking on the forum for months ó mainly at work, so I didn't dare register in case I wasted even more time and found myself out on my ear. This place has been a great companion to and stoker of my Brokebackitis. Thank God I'm not alone!!!  :)

I first became aware of BBM on holiday in New York in 2005. We went to the cinema one night and saw a crappy film which I can't even remember the title of, but they played the BBM trailer beforehand. I was transfixed, and carefully remembered the title and Annie Proulx's connection so I could look it up later. I don't know why I felt like that ó I just somehow knew I'd be hooked by this film, even though, in hindsight, I don't think the trailer reflects it all that accurately.

Back home in the UK, I was browsing in a book shop one Satuday when I saw the short story, being sold as a single volume rather than in the Close Range collection. It was that fabulous looking edition with the black silhouette of two cowboys on horseback against an orange background. I bought it immediately, and read the story as soon as I got home. And then read it again. And again. It was like being hit by a train. After, I remember feeling so withdrawn and detached from the real world ó I just had the story playing through my head instead.

Then the film came out. I did my research, and found the first possible showing I could. I combined seeing it for the first time with a visit to stay with a friend ó I was dreadful company, and barely slept a wink at her house, I was so enraptured with what I had seen. And the next morning I went straight back to the cinema and caught the 10 a.m. showing.

After that I had a few weeks of sneaking into cinemas whenever I could ó I just couldn't get enough of it. I never told anyone else about my obsession; my flatmate knew I'd seen it a few times, but never learned just how many. Maybe I was worried people that would think my interest was purely prurient: that I just liked watching the love scenes. Perhaps this does play a part, but I think that part's very small. It just tapped into something inside me, probably something not very happy ó though that sounds horribly introspective.

This probably belongs on another thread, but I know that this film has influenced my life in the past year, beyond turning me into a compulsive liar sneaking off to watch it by myself. It's made me think about things, and change some things I wasn't happy about in my life. I suppose the destructive power of rural homophobia is the key to the story, but I see it also as a lesson in missed opportunities, lost chances ó an admonition not to let yourself end up with nothing but two old shirts.

It's introduced me to other pleasures too. Would I be going to see Rufus Wainwright next month? Or smile fondly at tins of beans? Or look on my pale jeans and brown boots as my Del Mar combo?

Anyway, that's how come me end up here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Mule on January 22, 2007, 02:22:25 PM
Cabin, Nax, John John, thank you all so much for welcoming me! I'm really glad I stopped being a lurker... I've only just looked up the word "to lurk"; I did know what it means in this context but now I know what it means literally. It is quite negative, isn't it? No wonder I even felt a bit guilty about lurking sometimes!   :-[

I'm really glad I've found this place. Not only because I don't have any friends to discuss the impact BBM has had on me with (well... I DO have friends luckily  :D but none of them would understand why I'm still obsessed with a movie a year after I've seen it!) but mostly because there's so many different people here - of different ages and nationalities, at different stages in their lives  - who despite all their differences have so much in common.

Plus, it's also a good way of practising my English!  :) Ok... I'm off to find some other threads to "practise" some more. Hope to "meet" you all again!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Mule on January 22, 2007, 03:24:27 PM

This probably belongs on another thread, but I know that this film has influenced my life in the past year, beyond turning me into a compulsive liar sneaking off to watch it by myself. It's made me think about things, and change some things I wasn't happy about in my life. I suppose the destructive power of rural homophobia is the key to the story, but I see it also as a lesson in missed opportunities, lost chances ó an admonition not to let yourself end up with nothing but two old shirts.

Hi Tambourine! I'm just about as new to this forum as you are so I don't really know if it's my place to welcome you... but why not: Welcome!   :)

Isn't it amazing how this film makes you think about your life and makes you want to change things? And it's not even about things directly related to the story of the film... It's a really powerful reminder not to miss any more opportunities. For me it has been like a wake-up call! I guess I'm having a bit of a mid-life crisis...  :) (even if, at 33, I haven't yet reached "mid-life", hopefully!)

Anyway... I'm in a similar timezone as you are so I need to get some sleep now. Hope to see you around!

Ps: I'm trying my first quote here... hope it works!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on January 22, 2007, 03:31:31 PM

. . . .edit

It's introduced me to other pleasures too. Would I be going to see Rufus Wainwright next month? Or smile fondly at tins of beans? Or look on my pale jeans and brown boots as my Del Mar combo?

Anyway, that's how come me end up here!

Welcome Tambourine, good to have you here.  I love your story and am glad you've finally decided to join everyone here.  You will soon make many friends and learn many things.

BTW (by the way), your "tins of beans" brought a smile to my face.  See without even thinking, you've already impacted my life.

Thank you,

Gerry (cabin)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on January 23, 2007, 02:04:52 AM
Welcome Tambourine, I understand where you are coming from, someone gave me the same single volume and said "I think you may enjoy reading that" - underestimation of the year† ;D, even though I'm in a long term stable relationship it was that sense of loss, missed opportunities that brought me here too. I'm fairly obsessed with the place, but the people I've met "speak-a-my-language".† I hope you and Mule (see earlier posts) find that too.† I'm in the UK and there is a real time chat area for all timezones in Auntie's Diner (at the moment it's on the beach - it can move around!) in the Meet your neighbours section - hope to see you there with the rest of the crowd.

Nax (Neil)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: marshall.pen on January 23, 2007, 05:40:14 AM
歡迎光臨! 你好嗎?

Welcome to the Forum! I hope that you will enjoy yourself here with us. Feel free to roam around and read what you want, and if you find something that you would like to write something about, feel free to do that too. You may write as much or as little as you want, it's up to you. But know that you are very welcome here, and we are glad to have you among us. And thank you for posting your picture in the picture thread, it is always good to be able to see the person that we are chatting with. And thank you also for your kind PM.




我很好!谢谢!
I am fine, thank you.
I really want to write stories here and share my ideas with everyone here.But writing in English is a problem for me.I never try it before.Maybe someday I will have a try.
There is a long vacation for me.I have more than 40 days to rest.And I will come here often.
I really likes talking to people here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tambourine on January 23, 2007, 03:40:00 PM
I'm enjoying talking to people too! Many thanks for the warm welcomes. It's very much appreciated. What a friendly place! I'll take the tip and head over to the UK section of the board too ó thanks for that!

Weird knowing that although none of my friends would get this, so many people I've never met personally do ó it's pretty amazing.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CharlotteV on January 23, 2007, 04:02:44 PM
Weird knowing that although none of my friends would get this, so many people I've never met personally do ó it's pretty amazing.

Isn't that the truth! I experienced the same thing and so do many, many people here. We're glad to have you among us.
Charlotte
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on January 23, 2007, 04:09:33 PM
Weird knowing that although none of my friends would get this, so many people I've never met personally do ó it's pretty amazing.

Isn't that the truth! I experienced the same thing and so do many, many people here. We're glad to have you among us.
Charlotte

Ditto.  Times ten....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on January 23, 2007, 07:35:07 PM
if you find the conversation and fellowship here amazing, you might enjoy a trip to our past sometime.  there are links available to dave cullen's old literary blog where a post of his triggered a conversation in september of 2005 that just wouldn't quit, and this was well before the movie was released, in fact, before the trailers were out.

the visualization provided for us by the movie, its directors, actors, screenwriters and crew only added to the power originally generated by the written word of annie proulx.

amazing...

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on January 24, 2007, 04:50:57 AM
Soyez les bienvenues, Mule & Tambourine!† ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Cookie on January 24, 2007, 11:12:42 AM
Hello! I'm very new here, just posted in a couple of threads so far, though I've been lurking on the forum for months ó mainly at work, so I didn't dare register in case I wasted even more time and found myself out on my ear. This place has been a great companion to and stoker of my Brokebackitis. Thank God I'm not alone!!!† :)
<snip>
Anyway, that's how come me end up here!

Hi Tambourine :)† Fellow Brit here! *waves*
Welcome, and don't worry about lurking, I lurked for about 9 months and have only recently started posting regularly.

See you around
 :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: inanna on January 30, 2007, 06:06:37 PM
hello everyone, i'm inanna from the netherlands and the reason i want to join this forum is that i'm also deeply touched by bbm. here in holland it is absolutely found normal if you're gay, but it has taken a long time to come this far. ( i hope my english isn't too bad, because it is difficult to express oneself in a different language, especially when one tries to explain ones true feelings). i don't understand why i'm so moved by these gaythemes since i myself am not gay at all - though i can admire some women -. i'm 48, married for over 25 years and have a son aged 22 and a daughter who's 15. but when at highschool i was so shocked when i read about the trial of oscar wilde being sacrified to victorian homophobia, that up untill this day i still read his stories and poems still feeling sad for him. i also read e.m.foster's "maurice" and the same sadness came over me. i think what hits me is the fact that so many people have to wear masks and not being able to be who they realy are. we see it happen again in holland with the muslim people. they have to fight this battle also and it doesn't help the openness we created here in my country.
i hope to here from you.....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on January 30, 2007, 06:13:32 PM
Goeden avond Inanna en welkom bij ons in deze forum!

There are many things to read here, many subjects. Feel free to read them and make comments about them as you see fit, and don't feel any pressure to say anything if you don't care to. We have several members here already from the Netherlands. You'll find that many threads here have particular themes, and if you care to, for more lighthearted moments, you're welcome to come over to the Diner and chat with people, or even have something (virtual and imaginary) to eat or drink, whatever you'd like. Just realize, if you do come over to the Diner, that it can move pretty fast (although not always), so if you post a greeting or make a comment, please don't feel that you're being ignored if several posts go by before someone responds to you, people are merely responding to previous posts.

Again, welcome here, make yourself "thuis"!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CharlotteV on January 30, 2007, 06:24:31 PM
hello everyone, i'm inanna from the netherlands and the reason i want to join this forum is that i'm also deeply touched by bbm. here in holland it is absolutely found normal if you're gay, but it has taken a long time to come this far. ( i hope my english isn't too bad, because it is difficult to express oneself in a different language, especially when one tries to explain ones true feelings). i don't understand why i'm so moved by these gaythemes since i myself am not gay at all - though i can admire some women -. i'm 48, married for over 25 years and have a son aged 22 and a daughter who's 15. but when at highschool i was so shocked when i read about the trial of oscar wilde being sacrified to victorian homophobia, that up untill this day i still read his stories and poems still feeling sad for him. i also read e.m.foster's "maurice" and the same sadness came over me. i think what hits me is the fact that so many people have to wear masks and not being able to be who they realy are. we see it happen again in holland with the muslim people. they have to fight this battle also and it doesn't help the openness we created here in my country.
i hope to here from you.....

Hello Inanna,
You post touched me. I am a woman of a similar "vintage" and share your feelings about BBM. Don't worry about your English -- you communicate beautifully -- and everyone here speaks the "language of the heart."
Best,
Charlotte
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on January 31, 2007, 01:37:04 AM
Welcome inanna...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: inanna on January 31, 2007, 02:41:34 AM
thank you all for welcoming me. and fritzkep, how come you know the dutch language? it seems to be a sort of chinese for most people,haha!! and for me visiting the diner, i think i can better not go over there since everything goes so fast on the pc. and i'm glad i just know how to type on the forum. i want to post pictures as well but for that i need my daughter! iam ashamed!
and charlotte, thank you for welcoming me too. but what do you mean by 'the same vintage"? is it like having the same ideas? i'm sorry, but i always have so many questions! as we say in holland( do we actually?): i am not curious but i do want to know everything! haha.
and boris, thank you as well.
love from inanna.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on January 31, 2007, 03:32:59 AM
hartelijk welkom, inanna ! er zijn een aantal personen in de forum die nederlands praten   :D er zijn ook enkele nederlanders - conny, AmIEnnis,....

and now back to english, so everybody will understand  :D welcome to the forum, i hope you'll feel safe here. it's a unique place where we share our thoughts and ideas. have fun !
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on January 31, 2007, 04:09:01 AM
Hi inanna

"Vintage" means age or time period. So Charlotte is roughly about the same age as you are (born on the same time period).

You'll find that surprisingly many can speak or understand Dutch. I understand written dutch to a certain degree, but wouldn't truts my understanding.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on January 31, 2007, 07:26:36 AM
Ianna,

Welcome and step into your new world.  You will find that everyone here eventually connects together through Brokeback Mountain.  You will find that you are not alone and many share your emotions and views.  Don't be shy, ask questions, and most of all enjoy yourself.  As for languages,  we have them all. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on January 31, 2007, 10:11:44 AM
Welcome as well Ianna. It is so good to have you here and joining us! As so many have said and as you have probably figured, we a re a really close community and family here.
Wherever you feel most comfortable posting, that is fine.
As you become more familiar with how the forum works, I hope that you will join in whichever threads interest you and help you the most, and above all are the most enjoyable for you!
Once again thanks for joining us and so glad that you are here!
Linda
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: inanna on January 31, 2007, 11:28:19 AM
thank you all, you really make me feel welcome! this evening i'm going to browse?? through al the forums and maybe i can talk there as well. i still feel a bit uncertain, but i do hope that will change soon! ( oh boy, my typing is so slow and i need my readingglasses, grrrr!) though my talking is always fast! again, thank you so very much, love from inanna.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: nickd on January 31, 2007, 07:52:04 PM
hey! i actually found this website last year when bbm first hit the newstands. I was in my dorm and i saw the video of heathe and jake kissing and just about died! anyway, i used to visit this site religiously but now only once so often. I had remembered that many people live in NY and i wanted to advertise some of my music! currently i attend NYU for music and i have some shows coming up in NY. My myspace is www.myspace.com/nickydeutsch
Brokeback inspired me so much that i wrote a song called, "the ballad of ennis and jack". A lot of my music sounds similiar to rufus wainwright! anyway, if you have time, please check it out and come see!!
i'll update as often as i can!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Phantom on January 31, 2007, 11:15:31 PM
I didn't see "the ballad of ennis and jack" listed on your myspace page, but welcome anyway!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: conny on February 02, 2007, 05:45:56 AM
inanna,welkom hier.i`m dutch too,so if i can help you with anything,please just ask† :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on February 02, 2007, 06:04:13 AM
Bienvenue, Inanna!  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: inanna on February 02, 2007, 02:03:20 PM
merci beaucoup marnice and conny, leuk hier zeg! i still have to find my way at this forum but when i need help i'll certainly ask you conny, thank you!
i'm going to fill in the questions "" to get to know each other", see what i can make of it.
love from inanna.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lost camel on February 05, 2007, 07:20:21 PM
Hi, I'm an active member on another forum (ennisjack.com) one of our member there started a petion concerning the Collectors Edition released last month.† Since I don't want to mess and strat a new thread that maybe areay exist, I prefer post it here and say hi Brokies.

I'll meet many of you in Bay City, by the way on ennosjack.com I'm chameau.† :)† So this is what was posted in the latest weekly Newsletter at ennisjack.com, please feel free to move this post to the place it should better fit.† Please join and sign the petition.

Quote
BBM Collectors Edition

Update

You all know now there are no deleted scenes and not much but post cards in the latest North American Collectors edition.† Some of us choose not to buy it, others bought it but so many Brokies are disapointed...† To say the least!† ::)†

(http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h137/chameau_7/misc/angels-raphael-cherubs-painting__ww.jpg)

You know what?† There is a petition!


Carbyville started a petition a little while ago to be sent to Universal Pictures, please join in and sign it here (http://www.petitiononline.com/je1963/petition.html), there are 352 signatures for now.


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on February 06, 2007, 08:42:20 AM
Hello Lost Camel!

Welcome to the forum!  I'll be meeting you in Bay City!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on February 06, 2007, 09:05:21 AM
Hello Lost Camel!

Welcome to the forum!  I'll be meeting you in Bay City!

Ditto! I'm excited about getting to meet new people, heck, even from our own forum, but from all the others, too! There's so many people I've heard about but never met. *is getting excited*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: b73_ on February 06, 2007, 05:11:23 PM
Hi, I'm an active member on another forum (ennisjack.com) one of our member there started a petion concerning the Collectors Edition released last month.† Since I don't want to mess and strat a new thread that maybe areay exist, I prefer post it here and say hi Brokies.

I'll meet many of you in Bay City, by the way on ennosjack.com I'm chameau.† :)† So this is what was posted in the latest weekly Newsletter at ennisjack.com, please feel free to move this post to the place it should better fit.† Please join and sign the petition.

Quote
BBM Collectors Edition

Update

You all know now there are no deleted scenes and not much but post cards in the latest North American Collectors edition.† Some of us choose not to buy it, others bought it but so many Brokies are disapointed...† To say the least!† ::)†

(http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h137/chameau_7/misc/angels-raphael-cherubs-painting__ww.jpg)

You know what?† There is a petition!


Carbyville started a petition a little while ago to be sent to Universal Pictures, please join in and sign it here (http://www.petitiononline.com/je1963/petition.html), there are 352 signatures for now.




Hi chameau/lost camel!  I know you over at EJ!  Welcome! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chapeaugris on February 09, 2007, 04:10:23 AM
Bonjour chameau/lost camel,

I know you speak French because I have lurked and posted a little bit in your French thread over there. So you be sure and come say Salut to our French speakers here. We love to have visitors.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: LauraGigs on February 10, 2007, 12:14:44 PM
Hey I'm lauragigs.  I've posted a lot on the Brokeback IMDB thread (yes, IMDB ó the shoot 'em zone) and Bettermost.  I'm part of the planning for the Colorado/Wyoming BBQ this May, and figured I should get acquainted here since many of yall are coming!  I'm excited to meet more Brokies and hear your stories.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on February 10, 2007, 12:17:35 PM
Hey I'm lauragigs.  I've posted a lot on the Brokeback IMDB thread (yes, IMDB ó the shoot 'em zone) and Bettermost.  I'm part of the planning for the Colorado/Wyoming BBQ this May, and figured I should get acquainted here since many of yall are coming!  I'm excited to meet more Brokies and hear your stories.

And so welcome you are. And I for one am looking forward to meet you in Colorado.
So good to see you.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on February 10, 2007, 07:17:53 PM
Hello Lauragigs!

Look forward to your posts here, and meeting you in Denver.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on February 11, 2007, 02:38:17 PM
Hi Lauragigs.  I remember your screen name from the hey days at imdb.  I spent WAAAAY too much time there last spring and summer  :D  I remember when there used to be over 100,000 threads there :o
Welcome.
Once you get familiar with the site and the people, I'm sure you'll feel at home.



Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tia on February 11, 2007, 04:04:33 PM
I'm actually not a brand new member. I found this board last spring but deleted my account a few months ago. I had not felt very welcome on this board. Even though I had about 200 posts, I found that my posts for the most part were ignorned. Or in one case I had received a rather nasty reply from a particular member. I have decided to reregister. I will just have to see how it goes.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: PatSinnott on February 11, 2007, 09:22:55 PM
Sorry to hear that Tia.  I've never experienced one iota of discord from anyone.  Something I can't say about the imbd site... :-\

Glad to have you back, hope things go better for you this time around.

Also, if you have trouble by getting irate or nasty messages, I've met many of the moderators, and they are truely caring compassionate people.  They should be your first call should you need help or feel threatened or abused.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Saena on February 11, 2007, 09:52:05 PM
Welcome to all the new members! It's a wild ride, but it's so worth it. :)

Saena
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on February 11, 2007, 11:50:30 PM
I'm actually not a brand new member. I found this board last spring but deleted my account a few months ago. I had not felt very welcome on this board. Even though I had about 200 posts, I found that my posts for the most part were ignorned. Or in one case I had received a rather nasty reply from a particular member. I have decided to reregister. I will just have to see how it goes.

Tia! That souds awful! I'm so sorry anyone would do that to you. I hope that you will find the people here nice. Welcome back!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on February 12, 2007, 01:25:56 AM
I'm actually not a brand new member. I found this board last spring but deleted my account a few months ago. I had not felt very welcome on this board. Even though I had about 200 posts, I found that my posts for the most part were ignorned. Or in one case I had received a rather nasty reply from a particular member. I have decided to reregister. I will just have to see how it goes.

welcome, tia ! i'm sorry you didn't feel welcome last time. i don't think that is the usual way for "newbies", so i hope this time you'll be able to enjoy the warm welcome that most people received !
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on February 12, 2007, 03:46:50 AM


Re-bienvenue, Tia!

My, what an experience...
Hope it'll work out better this time!  :)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on February 12, 2007, 08:11:48 AM
I'm actually not a brand new member. I found this board last spring but deleted my account a few months ago. I had not felt very welcome on this board. Even though I had about 200 posts, I found that my posts for the most part were ignorned. Or in one case I had received a rather nasty reply from a particular member. I have decided to reregister. I will just have to see how it goes.
Tia, I hope that you find a warmer welcome here than last time, it's usually it's a very freindly place, do pop into Aunties Diner in the meet you neighbours section and let me get you a coffee.† ;) (Oh and I'm another veggie)

Nax.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on February 12, 2007, 08:15:55 AM
I'm actually not a brand new member. I found this board last spring but deleted my account a few months ago. I had not felt very welcome on this board. Even though I had about 200 posts, I found that my posts for the most part were ignorned. Or in one case I had received a rather nasty reply from a particular member. I have decided to reregister. I will just have to see how it goes.

First of all....don't let someone like that steer you away...I'm very sorry there was a rotten apple amongst us,but we are here for you now. I had a member treat me like dirt before back in April....almost deleted my account twice...glad I stayed though thanks to the other kind folks in here...some days we are more vulnerable than others but let me just say this...so glad you decided to join us again....really am.

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: inanna on February 12, 2007, 11:03:22 AM
hallo tia, i'm new here as well and still trying to find my way here on the forum. it is always sad when somebody tries to "kick"you, but remember there are more nice than rotten people in the world. i hope this time things will turn out better for you!
love, inanna.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tia on February 12, 2007, 06:40:32 PM
Oh wow. A big THANK YOU to each of you for your nice replies. I didn't expect that as I know my first post was a little snippy. Thanks again and I am glad I reregistered.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on February 12, 2007, 07:39:40 PM
Tia, welcome back to the forum!

Inanna, if you have any questions about "finding your way", feel free to PM me.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cabin on February 12, 2007, 09:45:22 PM
Tia:

I'm glad you are back.† †Like the others I'm sorry that this happened to you, but as Nells says, we are here for you now.† Seek those that best suit your pleasure and leave those other ones on their own.† I too have experience some minor unpleasantness, but there are so many good people and have made good friends, that nothing or no one will make me leave this place.

So welcome back, and let's chat.

gerry
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Phantom on February 12, 2007, 10:56:44 PM
Welcome Welcome Welcome to Tia and Inanna!† :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on February 13, 2007, 05:00:40 AM
Tia - glad you are back. We all have the occasional bump in the road but the benefits of being here far outweigh any temporary problems.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lachlan on February 13, 2007, 05:32:29 AM
I am 58, live in the Scottish Highlands, but was in the US in the 60s. I worked in the mountains of the northwest and there I met a boy my age. Although we had girlfriends, we started a secret relationship beginning in a tent. It continued during four years of liaisons in the mountains. In order to keep a distance from the Draft Board, he went under the name of Innes (from the Gaelic "Aonghus" to go with my own Gaelic name). He was killed (in an avalanche) in January 1971 - I learned this from a delayed postcard - and I found his clothes and other belongings had been hidden in a cupboard among my own in my brother's basement. When I saw Brokeback Mountain I was struck by the parallels, of course, but more importantly I knew the narrative to be totally authentic. Neither of us thought ourselves "gay", but our feeling for one another as two "outsiders" led to an intense, powerful love which I can feel to this day. I still keep his belongings as a shrine to the deepest experience of my life. The release of Brokeback Mountain has enabled me to come out about this experience and know that it will be understood.   Lachlan
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on February 13, 2007, 05:47:38 AM
I am 58, live in the Scottish Highlands, but was in the US in the 60s. I worked in the mountains of the northwest and there I met a boy my age. Although we had girlfriends, we started a secret relationship beginning in a tent. It continued during four years of liaisons in the mountains. In order to keep a distance from the Draft Board, he went under the name of Innes (from the Gaelic "Aonghus" to go with my own Gaelic name). He was killed (in an avalanche) in January 1971 - I learned this from a delayed postcard - and I found his clothes and other belongings had been hidden in a cupboard among my own in my brother's basement. When I saw Brokeback Mountain I was struck by the parallels, of course, but more importantly I knew the narrative to be totally authentic. Neither of us thought ourselves "gay", but our feeling for one another as two "outsiders" led to an intense, powerful love which I can feel to this day. I still keep his belongings as a shrine to the deepest experience of my life. The release of Brokeback Mountain has enabled me to come out about this experience and know that it will be understood. Lachlan

Sweetheart,

Welcome to our family...my heart goes out to you. Please know that we care and are here for you....you can also post this in this other thread...as I know so many will respond to you and reach out.

((hugs))

Nellie

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.0
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on February 13, 2007, 05:49:01 AM
lachlan....

so many truths illuminated by one work of fiction.  thank you for sharing this.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lachlan on February 13, 2007, 10:44:40 AM
Thanks for the support! How do I "post to a new thread?" I don't have internet - where I live in the mountains there's no reception for TV, mobile phones or internet connections; I can only use the internet in a cafe when I'm in a town. And, honestly, I don't understand the jargon of internet.  Lachlan
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lachlan on February 13, 2007, 10:50:00 AM
I am 58, live in the Scottish Highlands, but was in the US in the 60s. I worked in the mountains of the northwest and there I met a boy my age. Although we had girlfriends, we started a secret relationship beginning in a tent. It continued during four years of liaisons in the mountains. In order to keep a distance from the Draft Board, he went under the name of Innes (from the Gaelic "Aonghus" to go with my own Gaelic name). He was killed (in an avalanche) in January 1971 - I learned this from a delayed postcard - and I found his clothes and other belongings had been hidden in a cupboard among my own in my brother's basement. When I saw Brokeback Mountain I was struck by the parallels, of course, but more importantly I knew the narrative to be totally authentic. Neither of us thought ourselves "gay", but our feeling for one another as two "outsiders" led to an intense, powerful love which I can feel to this day. I still keep his belongings as a shrine to the deepest experience of my life. The release of Brokeback Mountain has enabled me to come out about this experience and know that it will be understood.† †Lachlan
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Phantom on February 13, 2007, 04:35:59 PM
I am 58, live in the Scottish Highlands, but was in the US in the 60s. I worked in the mountains of the northwest and there I met a boy my age. Although we had girlfriends, we started a secret relationship beginning in a tent. It continued during four years of liaisons in the mountains. In order to keep a distance from the Draft Board, he went under the name of Innes (from the Gaelic "Aonghus" to go with my own Gaelic name). He was killed (in an avalanche) in January 1971 - I learned this from a delayed postcard - and I found his clothes and other belongings had been hidden in a cupboard among my own in my brother's basement. When I saw Brokeback Mountain I was struck by the parallels, of course, but more importantly I knew the narrative to be totally authentic. Neither of us thought ourselves "gay", but our feeling for one another as two "outsiders" led to an intense, powerful love which I can feel to this day. I still keep his belongings as a shrine to the deepest experience of my life. The release of Brokeback Mountain has enabled me to come out about this experience and know that it will be understood.† †Lachlan

I was very moved by your story Lachlan.  Love is a powerful thing.  Welcome.

-Jon
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: inanna on February 13, 2007, 06:15:49 PM
dear lachlan, your mail really moved me. you must be so glad that they made this bm-film and i guess it was a revelation for you: finally people who understand what you've been through! have you always lived in the mountains, or is it because you cannot let go your past? must be very lonely sometimes. you are not the only one that doesn't understand computers since i only know how to type and to send the messages,haha! but i think, although you live so remote; when you want to talk or you feel sad just send us a s.o.s and i bet there will be support!!!
love from inanna.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: inanna on February 13, 2007, 06:23:02 PM
THANK YOU PHANTOM....
love, inanna
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Phantom on February 13, 2007, 07:46:02 PM
^You're totally welcome!

-Jon  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on February 14, 2007, 02:07:50 AM
Thanks for the support! How do I "post to a new thread?" I don't have internet - where I live in the mountains there's no reception for TV, mobile phones or internet connections; I can only use the internet in a cafe when I'm in a town. And, honestly, I don't understand the jargon of internet.† Lachlan
Lachlan the board allows you as a member to post into any "public" thread.  To be able to start a new thread of your own the system required you to post a minimum of messages - I think it's 50 but I'll check.  After that you can go to the "Start your own thread" section and you will see a button to create a new thread is now visable.  What is it you want to discuss - maybe I can help your thread creation  ;)

I hope you enjoy being with us, there are a couple of threads where there are nearly always people on-line at anytime just chatting.  They are in my opinion, Auntie's diner in the "Meet your Neighbours section"  a virtual coffee bar and "Le Bar Slash" a hangout for fiction writers and more ;D

I'm in the UK and know Scotland mmmmmmmm well a bit.

Hope to see you around

Neil.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on February 14, 2007, 02:28:22 AM

Lachlan, what a moving story with so many incredible parallels to BBM!
It's almost mystic in a way.
I'm glad you're here, and I hope you'll stay around.

Bienvenue on our forum!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lachlan on February 14, 2007, 03:41:47 AM
Thanks for the replies! I've always lived in mountains and I'm accustomed to it. So I actually enjoy my social life and friendships. Lack of internet connection is not an issue, really, except that I don't have the time or patience to spend hours and hours trying to read through all of the gobbledygook about "threads" and "posts" (none of which makes any sense to me or any of my neighbours) when I'm in a busy internet cafe in town. Nevertheless, I believe that I might have some valuable insight into topics which were addressed in Brokeback Mountain. First; on account of my remarkably similar experience in much the same place and time as the story - which is more true-to-life than fiction - but also because I have lived in various other mountain cultures, spoken their language, loved and fought and observed. I have concluded that the current rigid Western concept of "Gay/Straight/Bi" is relatively recent and artificial. While these distinctions may suit some, they are by no means universal and many societies manage fine without equivalent terms or concepts. Jack and Ennis discovered that reality, as did I and Innes. Since I came to that conclusion 40 years ago I have researched and discussed the phenomenon of same-sex love with countless people in various societies and read others' research. I hope that there are others within this forum who can enlighten me further. Till next time - Lachlan
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: inanna on February 14, 2007, 04:05:54 AM
dear lachlan,what you say is very true but most of the people who juge are living according to holy books and they are not open to free thinking. but it's as old and normal as humanity.
love, inanna
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chapeaugris on February 14, 2007, 11:09:20 AM
Lachlan, I thought of this member's story when I read your's : http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.msg525456#msg525456

His, too, had amazing parallels with BBM and he is also Scottish.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: danncork1967 on February 19, 2007, 06:00:10 PM
Hi, my name is Daniel.  I've been looking at the forums for a long time now and finally decided to join up.  I have seen "Brokeback Mountain" probably about 50 times.  I regret that I only saw it 4 times in the theatre (2 times by myself).  I am currently making a music video for "The Wings" (Tony Moran Mix) using clips from the movie.  It will take awhile but I finished the first minute of it and it is turning out really cool.  I'm using a lot of special effects since it is a dance song and the video will be a little obnoxious but it does fit.  Thanks.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on February 19, 2007, 06:41:20 PM
Hello Daniel and welcome to the Forum! My name is Fritz, and I hope that you are feeling comfortable here. As you have been doing, feel free to just read posts, or, if you feel you have anything to comment on, please do so. As I'm sure you realize, some threads move along fast, others more slowly. On the faster threads, like the Diner, please do not feel that you're being slighted if no one answers your post right away, most people are catching up and responding to other posts. Someone will be along shortly to greet you. Again, welcome, and make yourself at home.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on February 19, 2007, 07:05:43 PM
Hi, my name is Daniel. I've been looking at the forums for a long time now and finally decided to join up. I have seen "Brokeback Mountain" probably about 50 times. I regret that I only saw it 4 times in the theatre (2 times by myself). I am currently making a music video for "The Wings" (Tony Moran Mix) using clips from the movie. It will take awhile but I finished the first minute of it and it is turning out really cool. I'm using a lot of special effects since it is a dance song and the video will be a little obnoxious but it does fit. Thanks.

Hi Daniel..

Welcome to our family hon...can't wait to chat with ya

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on February 20, 2007, 03:56:54 AM
Hello Daniel and welcome to our meeting place, I hope to see you around here and look forward to seeing your next posting.

Neil
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on February 20, 2007, 04:51:16 AM

Hi Daniel, bienvenue!

It would be great to see this video one of these days and to see you here more often.

Ingmar

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Yankee Hick on February 27, 2007, 08:03:37 PM
hi ya'll!  jeff here.  i work with BayCityJohn.  i work up at the front desk, so any of you that came to the Oscar screening prolly saw me.  i went to the showing at first just as a helper for transporting everyone there and back, but after seeing themovie, i am truely moved and changed forever.  i was so glad i went.  thank you, John for the invite!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Adrian on February 27, 2007, 08:14:25 PM
Hi Jeff, welcome to the forum.  I wasn't at the event this past weekend, but, I would like to say, thanx from the heart for taking such good care of the "precious cargo" you were transportin' around.   Good job on yea my man  ;)  Adrian.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on February 27, 2007, 08:19:36 PM
Hey Jeff!

Welcome to the Forum, and thanks again for all the work and driving you did over the weekend!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Yankee Hick on February 27, 2007, 08:26:16 PM
no problem, and thank you for popping my PM cherry!  lol

no mistake though, ALL the credit for this weekend goes to JOHN.  he did an awesome job!!!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: TwistEnnis on February 27, 2007, 08:28:13 PM
Hey Jeff!  Welcome to the forum, glad to see you made it in.  Again, thanks for the hospitality this weekend and staying to watch the movie with us. (oh, and for carting our asses back from the theatre).   You seem like a great guy!

Mitch
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Yankee Hick on February 27, 2007, 08:31:51 PM
<<takes a bow>>  thank you, thank you.  i do try.   ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on February 28, 2007, 02:29:08 AM

Bienvenue, Jeff!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on February 28, 2007, 02:59:30 AM
hi ya'll!† jeff here.† i work with BayCityJohn.† i work up at the front desk, so any of you that came to the Oscar screening prolly saw me.† i went to the showing at first just as a helper for transporting everyone there and back, but after seeing themovie, i am truely moved and changed forever.† i was so glad i went.† thank you, John for the invite!!!

Jeff I missed this when you came in and am so glad you joined up!!!!
It is wonderful to see you and I do hope that the time you spend here is the best and that you get out of it as much as you gave us over the weekend. Thank you so much for all your sharing!! And your wonderful welcome to all of us!!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on February 28, 2007, 05:24:52 AM
hi ya'll! jeff here. i work with BayCityJohn. i work up at the front desk, so any of you that came to the Oscar screening prolly saw me. i went to the showing at first just as a helper for transporting everyone there and back, but after seeing themovie, i am truely moved and changed forever. i was so glad i went. thank you, John for the invite!!!

Hey buddy...I was in the van with ya coming back from our viewing....you're a great guy and I'm so glad you joined our family !! 

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on February 28, 2007, 05:41:54 AM
no problem, and thank you for popping my PM cherry!  lol

no mistake though, ALL the credit for this weekend goes to JOHN.  he did an awesome job!!!!!

But Jeff, it was people like you and Maureen and the people at the planetarium and in the hotel restaurant ((RUTH!!!)) and so on that treated us extra nice b'c we are friends of John.  You didn't know us from a hole in the wall, and everyone we met went beyond the scope of professionalism and basically treated us like old friends and family.

I'm so glad you got to see the movie with a bunch of people who really "get" the story.  It's wonderful to have you here on the forum.  I'm only sorry that neither Carol nor I got to meet you.

Welcome to the Ultimate Brokeback forum.

:)
Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Yankee Hick on February 28, 2007, 02:09:23 PM
that's okay, heidi.  you'll get to meet me soon enough...... i'll be at the next big party!!!!!  you can count on it!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: HazelEyedRaven on March 01, 2007, 12:01:39 AM
Bear with me.  This is gonna be a long one but I just have to get it out now.  Iím at a place that Iím ready and I have to purge now or Iím likely to wonder away without ever revealing myself to all you very kind and gentle souls.  Here we go (also posted in How BBM Affected Me):

While Iíve been a member of the Forum for over a year and have participated in a number of threads, I thought I might come on over and introduce myself.  Better late than never, Iím told.

Where do I start?   Well, I first heard about BBM in December 2005 after it came out in limited theaters.  It was actually from seeing Entertainment Weekly sitting in my doctorís office.  You know the one with Jake and Heath on the cover together?  THEY are the reason why I found out about it.  Those two handsome men on the cover!  So I read the article and thought the storyline to be intriguing but didnít do much with it immediately after that.

As I heard more rave reviews about it as it spread to more theaters and seeing it crop up on the internet, be the joke of late night talk shows, I finally decided one rainy Sunday afternoon to avoid homework and work, which I was originally off to do, and sneak in a movie.  (BTW, those of you w/children might identify with being able to see a grown up movie so the sneaking part is really key here!)

I was late getting in because it was opening weekend of Nanny McPhee.  Loads of families trying to get it to the theater.  It was January 29, 2006. 

And I loved it from the beginning.  I was bowled over.  Something happened to me that rainy Sunday afternoon that I have just now figured out.  More on that later.

I went home later that night and fessed up to my husband that I basically played hooky on homework and work to go see BBM.  He of course was stand offish about it at first and asked me what it was about; that heíd probably never go see it anyway (the gay movie).  So I sort of told him but as I sat in the middle of our living room folding laundry, I burst into tears and all I could tell him was that it was sooooo sad and tragic.  I told him about the ending and how sad it was.  I couldnít articulate it any more or better than that.

Two days later, I skipped out on work AND school (I was in the process of working full-time and going to school full-time to finish my bachelorís) to go see it at the theater in the University district art house theater.  I got to see the WHOLE movie.  The first time I didnít get to my seat until they were heading up the mountain w/the sheep.  So I saw how they met in Signal.  At the end, I just sat there and wept.  I then left that theater and went to one on my way home to catch it AGAIN.  My BBM obsession snowballed from there.

I was skipping classes to go see it whenever I could.  On average, I was seeing it between 5-7 times a week.  I travel a lot for my job and would find it at the local theater in whatever city I was in: Seattle, Portland, Minneapolis, DC. 

At first, I was waking up in the middle of the night, plagued by it.  I thought of Jack and Ennis and would just weep.  I was on the verge of tears ALL the time, whether at work, school or home.  I kept going to see it, secretly, with no one knowing and always by myself.  Trying desperately to figure out why I was so drawn to it.

During all of this, I spun into a deep depression, which I have a pattern or tendency toward each winter.   Amazingly, tho, I could still function thru work, school (pulling a 3.4 GPA) and just kept on moving.  Part of what was driving me was just being able to go to the theater to see MY movie.  To escape.  Yet I was confounded by its effect on me.

Iím a 39 year old, Native American, heterosexual, married 13 years, working, professional, educated mother.  What was it about this movie that had such a profound effect on me?  I bought the book.  I bought the soundtrack.  I was obsessed.   So one weekend, I believe it was Presidentís Day last year, I told my husband I needed to just get away by myself for a few days.  He understood.  I went about 30 miles away to an urban area to stay at a hotel that was linked to a mall and theater.  I spent 3 days and 2 nights seeing BBM every time it played that weekend.  I sat down and just like how I would treat a college research paper, I started writing.  There were so many unanswered questions about BBM.  Did Jack really die the way Ennis feared?   Did Lureen really know?  Did Ennis go on?  Did Jack intend to come back that next Fall?  Did Jack understand how Ennis really felt?  Did Ennis for that matter?  Were they in love?  Were they gay?  On and on and on with these questions.  And it was over that weekend I found the Forum.

In a desperate search to find others like me, I googled the movie and found you all.  And Thank GOD for that !  I read words that were going thru my mind like a freight train every night.  That the movie devastated others as it had me.  That it was haunting others like me in the same way.  I stopped feeling like a freak.  I first read and read and read.  Then I jumped in and started posting.  I got to hear what others thought about some of the ambiguities of the movie.  But most importantly, I heard feeling being expressed that I could not articulate.  I got confirmation of my state of mind and heart.  I stopped feeling crazy.

But this viewing went on and on.  I was fortunate enough to have the movie play in our area until the beginning of May.  It played in what turned out to be my most frequented theater outside of the greater urban area, a newly built, 16 theater mainstream Loewís until April 6th.  Longer than anywhere else in WA.  But it then went onto the little-hole-in the-wall theaters around the greater urban area until May.  And I saw the last showing before it left town.

I have to interject here that while my husband was great enough to understand and to go see it with me the night before the Oscars (he gets the movie & gets why it affects me so), we have had our problems for a number of years and were in the middle of counseling when BBM came out and overturned my life.  At first, I thought that I longed for the kind of connection and love Jack and Ennis had and that my husband just didnít fit the bill.  And that interpretation stayed long after BBM left the theaters. 

So when it did, thankfully it was spring.  I had been in a deep, dark depression all winter long and in the NW, it was a particularly dark, overcast, wet long winter that I just really needed to get out of.  The last time I saw BBM in the theater, it was a SUNNY, bright, clear blue sky day.  It was quite a change to leave a theater after one of my own very personal, private viewings and see sunshine.  Something happened that day: I breathed in the fresh air, soaked in the sun and felt like I could move on.  And I thought I had.

During the Summer, as I think so many of those who had frequented the Forum so much, got busy doing those summer things we do that keep us outside, active and participating in life.  I remember watching it on DVD in July, after I had finished my degree and was in DC again.  I so LONGED for the days of seeing BBM in the theater; I grieved my loss of watching my movie in all its splender.  And mostly, I missed the feelings that I was so immersed in from Jan. 29-May 7.  It reminded me of longing for a lost love.  Those times you revisit in your memories and feel that pang of the loss when you know itís gone.  Much like Ennis felt, I imagine. 

But then I just kept moving on.  Until HBO started airing it this last December.  By then, I was done with school and was working WAY too much, avoiding problems that needed to be addressed.  And I sunk again into a depression.  Then I saw the screening being planned and decided that I would go. 

To be more revealing about myself other than the little bio above, Iíve been clean and sober for over 17 years.  I had a serious drug and alcohol problem when I was young, which took me years and many trips to treatment to finally get clean.  With that, the long road to self-examination, self-discovery and self-revealing began.  I met my husband in a 12 step group early on, which is just about a cardinal sin in recovery.  I hadnít really addressed all those things, the baggage that accelerates drug and alcohol abuse.  Things like your childhood, the emotional and behavioral patterns you develop as a child and bring with you the rest of your life.  So my husband and I, almost out of spite and to prove to the world that 2 recovery addicts could make it, have been hanging onto to each other and our marriage in an almost a hostage like fashion.  And without really looking at oneís self and stopping the finger-pointing, we just sort of muddled along until the wheels began to fall off in 2001.  By then, our daughter was 3 years old.  Just getting out wasnít an option, especially given that we both had come from very poor, broken, single mother families.  We were determined.

So, in the midst of attempting to sort out our marital problems, BBM hit me like shot in the heart.  And Iíve tried and tried, OBSESSIVELY tried to figure out what this movie is telling me.  Funny.  My husband just said that Iím a very intelligent person who can read others like a book.  This of course comes from a childhood where it paid to constantly read others in order to have some sense of your world.  And as Iíve learned after many, MANY years of therapy, that this Ďreadingí of others has not served me well insofar as my personal relationship go.  What Iíve ended up doing is trying to figure out what it is that the people in my life, especially the ones that I love the most (and consequently, I have the most invested in like fear of rejection, abandonment and withholding of love) so that I can bend, twist, shape, morph, align myself to what I believe they want me to be.  Iíve done this all of my life.  And as Iíve progressed in therapy, Iíve discovered that I donít know what I want.  What I like.  What I need.  Iíve subjugated myself to others in order to feel safe. 

So, this leads me to where I am of late.  I did make the pilgrimage all the way out to wintry, icy-cold, ďyouíll freeze your ass offĒ Bay City to see BBM on the big screen again.  I wanted to talk to others face to face.  But itís hard for me.  The unfortunate flip side to being able to read others so instinctively is that it makes you ultra sensitive.  Like you canít take too much outside stimuli or else you overload.  So I tend to distance myself in personal situations (in work situations, itís a breeze for me:  I can turn myself on and off).  Not to mention the whole TRUST issue.  Remind you of anyone? (Ennis)  Iíve always believe that he wasnít non-feeling, aloof or insensitive.  I think he was the exact opposite of that:  he was ULTRA sensitive.  He couldnít stand how sensitive he was, had to cover himself up, keep his hat down, hide his feelings, his heart.  Just hide, hide, hide. 

So anyway, I was devastated this weekend.  Again, trying desperately to figure out what the message is.  I can read others but myself?  Thatís a whole other ball of wax.  But part of what helped me was before I left, my husband asked me what exactly it was that I was watching for in BBM?  Where was my attention?  What did I think about most? 

Ennis.  Period.  While I lust after Jake and while his performance was phenomenal, while there was tragedy of societal constraints and of death, of regrets of lost love, pain, what I really finally figured out over this weekend was that I, like Ennis, have been hiding.  Trying to fold into myself, to collapse into my own being to try to be invisible or try to hide the Ďrealí me.  That I have forgone my own desires, needs, wants, dreams, aspirations and traded it all for what I thought other people expected of me.  And as a consequence, Iím in ďa bitch of an unsatisfactory situation.Ē  Because Iím constantly hiding, not showing my real self, not ever revealing myself wholly to anyone, Iím never really present.  And this lack of Ďrealnessí on my part manifests itself in unhappy and unsatisfying external situations like work, like relationships both intimate and familial.  And I suffer.  And all those who are a part of my life suffer.  Just like in the movie. 
THATíS WHAT IS HAUNTING ME!

I see myself in Ennis.  Iím not being who I really am.  Catering to those around me to make them happy or at least what I think will make them happy.  Iím not here.  Iím missing.  And I just figured it out this weekend.  I was jealous of Ennis for a long time during the time I believed that my husband was the culprit and that I missed out on a love of a lifetime because I stayed in a marriage that was silent.  I would think that at least Ennis had Jack.  I donít even have that.  Iím just going along to get along with no retreat like they had with each other 2-3 times a year. 

But like I said, itís not that Iím gay, itís not that I missed a love of a lifetime, that I was Alma or Lureen and can identify with infidelity or loving someone who doesnít love you, itís not the grieving the loss of a loved one, the pain and sting of societal constraints.  While all those issues do affect me in the movie, the clincher for me is ENNIS.  Iím Ennis.  Iím hiding.  Iím suppressing myself to get along.  And suffocating, just like he did. 

But as I limped away from the screening this weekend, much like a wounded dog does as it goes under a porch where you canít reach them, growling and snapping at anyone who tries to help them, I let my heart wrenching experience in Bay City sink in.  I let it saturate me and I didnít run away from it.  I got on-line with just a couple of folks that reached out to me and said a little bit but still, growling a little to protect myself. 

Unfortunately this week, I had to hit the ground running, back into work life but VERY cognizant not to repeat what happened last spring: avoidance.  I wanted to do something this time.  So rather than just jump right back into the grind, I visited the forum every night as Iíve returned to my hotel room and spoke with others on-line.  Read how others had similar experiences in Bay City.  I held on this time so that I could answer some of those questions that have plagued me this past year. 

So here I am in my room.  Finally getting enough time, energy and courage to write it all down and share it with all of us BBM forum kids; for all to see. 

Hereís my latest revelation.  Unlike Ennis, I CAN FIX IT.  I donít have to just stand it.  Itís time that I show up.  That I be present.  In every conceivable way.  At work.  In all my relations.  And to not just simply go along to get along.  But to participate.  To live the life I want.  To stop catering to everyone else.  Because if I donít, Iíll eventually disappear and have not really ever lived the life I wanted. 

Now Iím examining my life and making some changes.  Iíll start with the most apparent and that is to be truthful.  All the time.  With everyone.  And not plague myself with what others expect of me.  Also, to be positive and confident that I will achieve my destiny, whatever it might be.  But I have to start working towards it; searching for it truthfully.  Some of this is coming out first by changing jobs to do what I really want and to do meaningful work.  Surprisingly (or not), as Iíve come to this realization about work, all sorts of doors are swinging open. 

And for my husband, the truth works best.  Stop hiding and stop catering.  Stop trying to manage him by bending and twisting myself.  Let me be clear: he doesnít ask me to do any of this.  I just learned it early on.  I think he quite fancies the Ďrealí me.  And I think weíll just take it from there.

Sometime I diminish my own revelations by down playing their relevance or compare it to others (well, Iím not having to come out like others have and have that additional trying experience), I try to remember that itís all relative.  That our own pain and suffering, especially with regard to BBM, is our own personal, private Idaho, so to speak.  This is a big deal to ME.  As it is for every one of us. 

This movie was so exquisite, so versatile, so universal, that it could mean so much to so many, in so many different languages, in so many different cultures in so many places across the world and across time.  That was the reason for the ambiguities.  It is the human experience and condition in so many layers and complexities.  And this story Iíve told to you all today is my own human experience and condition. 

Iím a firm believer that the universe sends messages in various different forms to us in order for us to live our greater good, to enlighten and love ourselves and others.  These messages come thru so many forms:  other people, written word, a thought, a billboard, a song, a movie, a look, a glance, a friend, a foeÖ.

Our job is to listen with our hearts and our ears, to see with our eyes and our minds, to feel with all our emotions and our senses, interpreting the messages and learning the lessons.  This story I heard when I first was in recovery, those many years ago, comes to mind:

There was a man that believed he was a spiritual man; a true believer in the word of God and knew that God was his savior; that God guided all his decisions.  Well, one day a terrible storm hit with sheets of rain, clapping thunder and lightening, causing the rivers and streams to swell.  Warnings went out on the radio to evacuate.  The man just simply said, ďGod will save me.Ē  As his neighbors left, they offered him a ride out.  He simply said, ďGod will save me.Ē  As the waters began to rise and he had to move to the roof of his house, rescue workers came to him, pleading that he get into the boat, telling him to evacuate or his life would be in danger, he simply stated, ďGod will save me.Ē  On the eaves of his house, helicopters came and shouted down to take the rope, he again said, ďGod will save me.Ē 

The man drowned.  And as he entered Heaven thru the Pearly Gates, he met his maker and asked him why he didnít save him.  God simply said, ďI sent a warning on the radio, sent your neighbor, sent a boat and finally a helicopter.  I was trying to save you.Ē

Moral of the story is that God (or whatever you believe) speaks to us in so many different ways.  We simply have to listen. 

BBM spoke to so many of us and had a different message for all of us.  One common thread that I think we all can learn is compassion for our fellow man, in whatever shape or condition he or she may be in.  All us ďbrokiesĒ are doing just that.  Listening, offering our understanding, our compassion, our hearts.  Weíre the messengers, the teachers and students of the lessons sent specifically to each and every one of us.

Thank you all for being here.  I think Iíve made some breakthroughs by trekking out to Bay City, although I wasnít in a place to share it with you all.  But I am now. 

Thank you all sooooo much. 

Hazel
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nick_F on March 01, 2007, 06:05:50 AM
Wow, that's a heckuva post!

I have been hearing about you and your struggle second-hand from my other half Rob. Welcome to somewhere you can definitely share and heal; particularly the BBM bit, and maybe some other bits too.

So you went to Bay City and didn't interact? I guess you had reasons, but you should know that your healing would have taken on a different aspect. I am glad that you also posted this in the affected me thread.

Go find the strength to make yourself right! I never thought I had it, but i did. It is in there, inside you, somewhere.

Nick
xx

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lachlan on March 01, 2007, 06:36:27 AM
Thank you, lovely Hazel! I sent you a wee note to the Intro section but also want to greet you here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jeff hanna on March 03, 2007, 09:14:32 AM
† Very,very interesting, Hazel. Quite a story. And some of us others thought WE were obsessed...you are one of the all-timers! LOL.

† I'm also one of those for whom Ennis is central to all of the intense emotion this film brought up. Ennis is the very embodiment of emotional deprivation, self-disappointment, regret, inability to be one's authentic self (because of fear). For those of us who have come to see those as big issues in or own lives, Ennis is the one who particularly breaks your heart and makes the story of Brokeback especially haunting.

† You do come to see that those tears you shed over Jack and Ennis are also tears for yourself, and for all that has been sad and unsatisfying in your life.

† When Brokeback first came out, you read† many comments by people who said that they were so moved by the movie because they had lost a love in the past, and so identified with that theme. I would get a tad ticked because that seemed so simplistic; most of us have regrets over "lost love" or past relationships...but the haunting power of Brokeback to bring up buried emotion and cause such intense feeling seemed† † and is† -† so much deeper, complex, and more subtle than that...at least for me† †-† and you, and† scores of others here on the Forum.

† There still seem to be many who don't understand why Brokeback hit them so. It is a pleasure to read of your epiphany.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Poohsticks on March 04, 2007, 10:35:53 PM
Hello.  did i do this right?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: planetgal471 on March 04, 2007, 10:52:54 PM
Welcome, Hazel, welcome Poohsticks! Hazel, thanks for sharing so much! Pooh, welcome!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on March 05, 2007, 12:18:31 PM

Hazel, fascinating story... Wow!



Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Chriscd45 on March 06, 2007, 12:11:22 PM
Hazel that was amazing.

*Trying to figure out who you are from Bay City*

I Thought I hugged everyone!

Thanks for sharing so much, much love, incredible story.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jimspain on March 07, 2007, 11:17:00 AM
Dearest Hazel....just read your story...tears streaming down my face...what a beautiful post...You write with such clarity and power.

I recognised ME in virtually every line. Like you Iīve struggled with what the film was trying to tell me. Like you the lost-love paradigm didnīt really call to me.....Like you Ennis was the sticking point...and youīve nailed him/it for me.

Iīve often said to people I feel like a ghost in my own life. Not knowing what I was put here to do...fussing over everyone around me, trying to get THEIR lives in order (usually WITHOUT their asking me...so MY fault! ) giving sage advice, helping physically , emotionally etc....( Everyone sees me as one of the most helpful/capable people they know ). But thanks to Brokeback and posts like yours I see now that all this outward-bound benevolence is part of a personal campaign to avoid looking at my own problems ...Most of those I play Earth Mother/Big Brother to would be surprised if they even had a whiff of my true internal life. Iīve kept it hidden so expertly . Keeping my big emotional Ten Gallon Hat firmly pulled over my eyes...maybe Destiny wonīt recongnise me and Iīll be able to avoid grappling with hi tyre-iron!!!!!  Like Ennis ,micro-managing the day-to-day slippage of my own personality into oblivion.

I so hope you are successful in your personal evolution. As a result of Brokeback, this Forum ....and wonderful posts from other seekers like yourself, Iīm working on mine too.  But arenīt we lucky to have been blessed with this wonderful film as our..as youīd put it...message from the Universe ?

Once again good luck HazelX


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: averell on March 11, 2007, 05:47:46 PM
I've been visiting the various threads for a couple of months now and this is my first post. I don't have much to say for the time being, I still have to figure out how to create an avatar and for me the help section is quite overwhelming and not always... helpful.

I don't even know if this message will appear where it's supposed to go but I have to give it a first try, right? I really enjoy this place and would love to become a bona fide member.

I apologize if this all comes out wrong.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on March 11, 2007, 06:10:41 PM
averell...

you are doing just fine.  it took us all a while to get comfy here.  if you have a specific question you can always ask a moderator, or post the question in the newcomers ask or in here.  enjoy and give time time.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: averell on March 11, 2007, 07:15:39 PM
averell...

you are doing just fine.† it took us all a while to get comfy here.† if you have a specific question you can always ask a moderator, or post the question in the newcomers ask or in here.† enjoy and give time time.

jack

Thanks so much. I just found the threads you're mentioning and I'm going there right now.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on March 11, 2007, 07:23:07 PM
Averell, anything we can do to help, just let anyone know.
Get 3 more posts and then you can pm any specific questions or difficulties.
So glad to see you here.

Linda
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: averell on March 11, 2007, 07:38:07 PM
Thank you Jack and Linda.

If this one works I'm gonna feel like a pro!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: averell on March 11, 2007, 07:39:20 PM
IT WORKED! HURRAY!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: averell on March 11, 2007, 07:47:04 PM
I just realized my name might lead to some confusion. Averell is the name of a cherished little dog I lost 4 years ago. It's just sweet to be able to bring him back here - so to speak - with me. I will come back tomorrow. Many thanks again for your prompt and friendly help. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on March 12, 2007, 03:56:25 AM
IT WORKED! HURRAY!!!
for the record averell, i had to have others create my first avatar, and host any pictures i hoped to post for the first couple months i was here.† took me forever to get the hang of it.

hat tip: linda, alex and pgreg† †
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on March 12, 2007, 04:13:06 AM
welcome, averell !  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on March 12, 2007, 04:14:49 AM
IT WORKED! HURRAY!!!
for the record averell, i had to have others create my first avatar, and host any pictures i hoped to post for the first couple months i was here.† too me forever to get the hang of it.

hat tip: linda, alex and pgreg† †

...or me. i created quite a number of avatars in here. you can simply give me a photo and i can cut it the way you want it !
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: RochesterMommy on March 16, 2007, 06:54:22 PM
Didn't see the "sandbox"...just trying something out before I post it out somewhere and look like an a**.  Ok here goes.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: RochesterMommy on March 16, 2007, 06:55:03 PM
Didn't see the "sandbox"...just trying something out before I post it out somewhere and look like an a**.† Ok here goes.

Ummmm....didn't work.  Oh well. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jscbbm on April 14, 2007, 10:29:11 AM
Hi, Everyone:

Been lurking here for some time and finally got around to posting.† Watched BBM for the first time about 6 weeks ago, and it was life-altering.† I have NEVER reacted to a movie like I have to this one.† I watched it over and over, I started reading the boards, I started reading fanfic.† I saw someone post not long ago about "pod people" and I thought "Exactly! That's what I feel like has happened to me!"† Anyway, I'm happy that I have company in my obsession out here in Netland.

Glad to know you all...
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Post by: Rob in Puyallup on April 14, 2007, 11:14:01 AM
Hi, Everyone:

Been lurking here for some time and finally got around to posting.† Watched BBM for the first time about 6 weeks ago, and it was life-altering.† I have NEVER reacted to a movie like I have to this one.† I watched it over and over, I started reading the boards, I started reading fanfic.† I saw someone post not long ago about "pod people" and I thought "Exactly! That's what I feel like has happened to me!"† Anyway, I'm happy that I have company in my obsession out here in Netland.

Glad to know you all...
Welcome!

Hang around, get to know some folks.

The life changing that started with our movie will continue here in this forum if you allow it to!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on April 14, 2007, 12:16:05 PM
Welcome jscbbm. I am so glad you came out of lurkdome! It is wonderful that you have seen the movie and that it has affected you as it has. We are so glad you have joined in the discussion. Just keep it up and know that there are a lot of us out here who feel exactly the way you do and still do so many months later.

Welcome again and so glad you have joined the family.

Linda
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on April 14, 2007, 01:15:57 PM
Welcome to the forum, jscbbm!!!!  Good to have you!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chelseagirl10011 on April 14, 2007, 07:31:48 PM
Hi,

When I first saw this movie, I saw it alone, no one would see it with me.  When I left the theatre I had so many feelings, I wanted to discuss it with someone.  I was never a real forum user.  So this kind of new for me.  So if I ask stupid questions please forgive me.  But there are so many questions I have.  So here I am.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on April 14, 2007, 07:41:30 PM
Welcome CHelseagirl!  You aren't alone - many of us here came away with questions and feelings and all kinds of things.  This place is a great place to work through all those things with other like-minded individuals. 

Feel free to ask and post and question and search and so on.  We're here for you as well.

Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on April 14, 2007, 11:03:28 PM
Hi CHelseagir!! Hi Jscbbm!!

Nice to have you around. You're amongst friends.

So pull yourselves a log and have some beans...

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jscbbm on April 14, 2007, 11:55:36 PM
Hi again, everyone, and thank you so much for the warm welcome!

Welcome, Chelsea Girl, nice to meet a fellow newbie.

Here's a newbie question - is it possible to do a Search?  I read the help and it seems to indicate there would be search button up there with the Home, Help, Profile and Logout buttons, but I don't see one.  Any and all info will be appreciated.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on April 15, 2007, 04:50:17 AM
hi jscbbm ! welcome to this forum, i hope youll have agood time here - as we all do  ;)

technical info: the serach button has been removed for the moment, since every search causes a technical problem by significantly slowing the forum down. we'll see whether a solution can be found...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on April 15, 2007, 09:18:21 AM
Hello ChelseaGirl!  Welcome to the forum!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on April 15, 2007, 09:22:52 AM
welcome to jscbbm too!


You want a cup of coffee doncha?  Piece of cherry cake?

 ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on April 15, 2007, 09:26:37 AM
I love it here, and I thank you for creating this safe place for those of us who have found passion on the screen, in the characters of Jack Twist and Ennis Del Mar. I'm a bit out of the ordinary, I suppose...an African American lesbian from the south, in a committed relationship of 16 years. But seeing this movie changed my day to day living completely.

I connected with this beautifully crafted film almost immediately, and remained mesmerized until the end credits. As the last image began to fade to black on the screen, that of the closet door closing, the two shirts suspended from their crudely affixed nail, I found myself sobbing uncontrollably. (Both my wife and a friend attended with me...they had to stay with me in the theatre until I composed myself enough to leave.)

What followed were many, many days of thinking of Ennis and Jack constantly...abrupt outbreaks of tears while at work, as well as on the commute to and from... on my mind when I got up in the morning, wrapped around my brain when I went to bed at night, and haunting my dreams for weeks.

I had never, in my 40+ years, written a fan letter before...to anyone...but I wrote one to Heath Ledger. On the first Tuesday in April, I was at my local Walmart Supercenter at 12:30am to purchase BBM on DVD. I watched it as soon as I got home, even though I had to be up at 5:30am for work. Prior to the purchase, I saw the movie in the theatre 4 times. I bought the book on CD, dubbed it on cassette, and listened to it in my car constantly. I purchased the soundtrack and played it non-stop at work. Even now, I need only to hear the first guitar chord of the Opening to feel hot liquid well up in my eyes.

I could go on and on, but it would be the same as I've read from so many of those with which I share this mystical bond on this fabulous site. This movie changed my life. To help matters along, it coincided with another major life change that had just begun for me at the time (a substantial weight loss after bypass surgery). Because of both these factors, I was able to renew, not only the spirit in my weathered love relationship of many years, but also the love and knowledge of myself that I'd missplaced a long time ago. "My boys" (as I always refer to Jack and Ennis) taught me to appreciate this lovely, loving, luscious bond that my wife and I have, because we never know when these blessings will end...and to appreciate who I was, a living, breathing, fleshy woman, capable of experiencing the most wrenching torrent of love, and heartbreak, and raw delight imaginable.

I can actually go several hours, sometimes days now, without thinking of my boys or the film. But not much more than that. I mean, here I am, giving my words to you, because today BBM was solidly on my mind again. But being here is necessary. Being honest and letting others know how this film has affected me may help someone else that, like me, stumbles upon this forum, believing they're crazy or losing their grip on reality because they're unable to shake BBM loose from their gut or their heart. Coming here made me know that i wasn't alone...that I had a safe place to anchor when my boys would come around and "have a sit down". - KLJ

"There ain't no reigns on this one..." - E. Del Mar, BBM
Hi KLJ,

I just found your pic at the Members Pics thread and decided to read a bit about ya and found your first post, copied above...

Since we haven't shared posts before I'll let you know that I met my Nick here in this Forum, by going back to January 27, 2006 you'll see the beginnings of our relationship.

Sometime in the near future I will be moving from Puyallup, Washington to Colchester, England where Nick lives. We can marry there... will grow old together, something I never thought possible.

It's great to bump you into after all these months!!!

I'd give ya a giant hug if I could, how the movie affected you affected me, also!

A kiss too, if you'll have it!
Rob
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Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on April 15, 2007, 09:35:10 AM
KLJ - lean on Rob!  He's as strong as they come!  And his & Nick's story is amazing.  You'll take great inspiration from him!!

He is a good friend.

Welcome!
Heidi
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on April 15, 2007, 09:45:12 AM
KLJ - lean on Rob!† He's as strong as they come!† And his & Nick's story is amazing.† You'll take great inspiration from him!!

He is a good friend.

Welcome!
Heidi

Hi Ho!

Nick said you and he exchanged chat yesterday...

I hope to see you and Carol when you're out west!

Hug and kiss each other for me!!!

 :-* :-* :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ImEnnisShesJack on April 15, 2007, 09:51:12 AM

Hug and kiss each other for me!!!

 :-* :-* :-*

Nick and I did indeed chat.  Miss you both terribly!

And you never have to tell me twice to kiss my girl...  ;D

hugs and smoochies!  You will see us out west this spring!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jscbbm on April 15, 2007, 10:35:41 AM
welcome to jscbbm too!


You want a cup of coffee doncha?† Piece of cherry cake?

 ;)

In R/L I don't drink coffee or eat sweets, but HERE I will be delighted to!† (I've never had cherry cake...is it good?)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on April 20, 2007, 03:29:21 AM
They used to serve a wicked cherry cake in the Diner thread...
WE do and it's still VERY wicked  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on April 20, 2007, 03:44:45 AM
Well, there are cherry cakes and there are cherry cakes.

Hate those with glace cherries but with real juicy ones...mmmmmmm
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Adrian on April 20, 2007, 11:33:59 AM
They used to serve a wicked cherry cake in the Diner thread...

Yea, but Heidi, everybody in there lost their Cherry's a long long time ago (http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g5/adrian_v/emoticons/a10ec486.gif)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jabegy on May 01, 2007, 02:51:29 PM
Hi Everyone,
I first found this site over a year ago, after I'd been to see Brokeback Mountain and just couldn't get it out of my mind.
I'd gone with my son, who is gay and we both thought that it was the most beautiful film ever. In my (for want of a better word ) grief, I desperately searched around the internet and found this site, not realising there was a forum attached.
 I'd never been on a forum before and didn't know how to go about it. Nevertheless, I kept being directed over to IHJ, which is where I've been for over a year (as I'm absolutely besotted with Jake) and joined their forum, which is great!! but there are an awful lot of youngsters over there and they make me feel quite old. Don't get me wrong, they're very sweet kids, and it's a lovely friendly site, but I hope you don't mind if I hang with you guys as well.† :)

Sorry, I should have said,
My name is Dot
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chapeaugris on May 01, 2007, 03:06:44 PM
Welcome, Dot! This place definitely attracts people who have racked up some life experience. There is something for everyone, and if you need a Jake fix there is always the Jake's Eyelashes thread. There are actually two Jake threads -- in the other one people actually write multiple paragraphs and rarely post photos, if you can believe it.  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on May 01, 2007, 03:11:13 PM
Hi Everyone,
I first found this site over a year ago, after I'd been to see Brokeback Mountain and just couldn't get it out of my mind.
I'd gone with my son, who is gay and we both thought that it was the most beautiful film ever. In my (for want of a better word ) grief, I desperately searched around the internet and found this site, not realising there was a forum attached.
 I'd never been on a forum before and didn't know how to go about it. Nevertheless, I kept being directed over to IHJ, which is where I've been for over a year (as I'm absolutely besotted with Jake) and joined their forum, which is great!! but there are an awful lot of youngsters over there and they make me feel quite old. Don't get me wrong, they're very sweet kids, and it's a lovely friendly site, but I hope you don't mind if I hang with you guys as well.† :)

Sorry, I should have said,
My name is Dot
 

Hi Dot!!
Of course you can hang around here. There are a few Jake threads here if ever you need a fix!!! And a Heath one also.
Check out the Site Plan in the news box and see all the stuff you can do here.

One of my favorites is "How Brokeback Affected Me" were we can poor our hearts out...

There are no more beans, but the whiskey spring is still flowing ;D

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on May 01, 2007, 03:20:08 PM
Hi Dot!
Welcome aboard. As John and Kim stated above, we have all ages and all sorts here on the forum.
It is so good you decided to come try us on for size.
We've been around awhile, but seem to be staying pretty constant and a lot of us have been around for a good while, but it is always good to see new folks join in.

I hope you will look around and see what appeals to you the most!!
Thanks and so good to see you.

Linda
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on May 01, 2007, 08:52:39 PM
Hi Dot!
Welcome aboard. As John and Kim stated above, we have all ages and all sorts here on the forum.
It is so good you decided to come try us on for size.
We've been around awhile, but seem to be staying pretty constant and a lot of us have been around for a good while,  but it is always good to see new folks join in.

I hope you will look around and see what appeals to you the most!!
Thanks and so good to see you.

Linda

you can say THAT again. ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Kiska on May 11, 2007, 06:17:40 AM
Iím sad to say that I never got to see Brokeback Mountain in the theaters, unfortunately at that time, my life (or job and lack of life) kept me entirely too busy and stressed to pay much attention to the movies.  So, a long story short, I just finally watched the movie and was absolutely blown away by it.  I honestly can say that I cannot recall having ever watched a movie and felt so moved by it.  I immediately had to watch it a second time, then go the library and read the story from which it was based.  And now here I am on these forums.

Iíve been ďlurkingĒ for about a day now, and everyone here seems so nice and wonderful and passionate, I had to sign up.  Iím thrilled to see so many other people who were so moved as I was by this film.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on May 11, 2007, 06:19:01 AM

Hey Kiska, good to see you here! Welcome! This is a great place and we're glad you've found it!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on May 11, 2007, 06:48:44 AM
Hi Kiska, welcome, I'm so glad you finally saw it.

Pull yourself a log and make yourself comfortable, you're in good company.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on May 11, 2007, 06:50:16 AM
Welcome Kiska!  Glad you decided to join us here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on May 11, 2007, 07:07:31 AM
Hiya Kiska and welcome to the asylum  ;D  You've lurked so you know we don't bite  ;)  I hope you fine time to pop into the Diner (see the meet your neighbours section) for a coffee of whatever you'd like.  It's relaxed and there's nearly always someone there to chat to, you'll be very welcome.

Nax.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on May 11, 2007, 09:29:26 AM
Kiska,

So nice when we hear that there are new folks being affected by our movie as we were when we first experienced it...

It wasn't long ago that folks were discussing how our feelings have slowly changed in the nearly year and a half we've had Brokeback dwelling in our souls... how we both miss the anguish we felt at the beginning and yet are thankful for the personal growth acheived because of it.

Please check out the "How Brokeback Mountain Affected Me" thread. You'll see what I mean...

Welcome, Kiska, you're in great company!
Rob

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on May 11, 2007, 10:27:06 AM
The Affected Me thread, Kiska.

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.0
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on May 12, 2007, 08:49:03 AM
Iíve been ďlurkingĒ for about a day now, and everyone here seems so nice and wonderful and passionate, I had to sign up.† Iím thrilled to see so many other people who were so moved as I was by this film.

kiska...

what i think is stunning is not only the height of thepassion, but its duration.  its over two years for some of us, and with no end in sight.  many of us are now less enthralled by the story on screen than the ones we are all living out.  there are thousands of stories represented by the people who found their way here, many as moving as that of jack and ennis.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on May 12, 2007, 10:19:43 AM
Welcome, Heidi

 :-* :-* :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Bighorn Mts on May 14, 2007, 09:56:00 PM
Hi!  This here is my second post; thank you for steering me to this introduction forum (my first post was in the TV commentary post - oops).  I can be a bit unconventional...well, okay, I am very unconventional :)  LOL!

BBM was exceptional, both as a short story and brought to life in the movie by Jake, Heath, and the other fine actors/actresses, director, etc.  Many of you have already expressed, and described very well, the experiences similar to what I had when first viewing the film, reading the short story, hearing the soundtrack, etc.   And you have also described well what I continue to feel/think about the film, the characters, the story, the theme, etc.   Thank you!

Unique experiences that I've had since this story came into my life relate to the outdoors, photography and writing, camping and hiking, which are all big passions of mine.  BBM was supposed to have taken place in/near the Bighorn Mts of Wyoming, even though it was not filmed there.  I'd traveled through the southern end of these mountains once before, and appreciated their rugged beauty, but that was before BBM. 

Therefore, after seeing the movie, I was inspired and driven to take a solo road trip to the Bighorn Mountains again during the late autumn; I was at a point in my life where a significant change was immanent and I need some space and time away to retreat and think (I throughly enjoy my time alone).  Interestingly, my friends now refer to this trip as my vision quest.  So, I packed up the truck with dried fruit, jerky, water, pumpkin seeds, snow shovel & winter emergency gear, weather radio, a computer (for writing), camera equipment, and my best buddy for 10+ yrs, my dog.  I'd planned to camp, but a winter storm was forecast and it was quite cold, so I vetoed that idea and got a clean, cosy room in a nice little inn at an affordable off-season price instead.  If you have ever been or lived, such as I have, on the high plains of Wyoming, Montana, North or South Dakota, Nebraska, or eastern Colorado in the winter, you will certainly understand how cold, brutal and unforgiving it can be and why I made this choice. (Side note: check out The Children's Blizzard a book by David Laskin).

It is hard to articulate what happened in those mountains on my hikes, but I returned from the Bighorns deciding a change was definitely the best choice, even if it took me away from the high plains.  Then I sat down and emptied all that emotion into a 2 page short story that was very powerful (according to one of the writing groups that had taken me in, anyway) although they and I know it needs work, being in a rough form.  I also managed bring back a few decent photos I'd taken; for example, the photo under my name in these posting was taken on top of one of the mountains during this trip.

Because of my experience, I can understand why the short story, and movie, was set in these central/northern Wyoming mountains.  There is something very special and powerful there and I certainly found a lifelong experience and feelings there.  Interestingly, there is a medicine wheel in these mountains, which I'd planned to visit, but a storm the week before had closed the pass and entrance to it.  Another time I'll have to return.

Anyway, that's a brief introduction to me.  I appreciate the welcome I received from my first post and am happy to visit this site and its community again.   Best wishes for a great week and thanks for reading my post.  :)

P.S.  If you have not had a chance to visit the Bighorns, I would highly recommend it.
P.S.S. Yes, I had the BBM soundtrack with me on this trip  :)


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on May 15, 2007, 06:36:56 AM
Welcome to the forum, BigHorn!!!  Nice to have you!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on May 16, 2007, 06:03:48 PM
Hi Everyone!

51 year-old married woman, 2 kids out of college.  I am just getting around to joining this wonderful forum, spurred on by the arrival of the book this afternoon.  I was not prepared for my reaction.  My hands were shaking as I opened the package and tears fell as I pulled it out and took in the beautiful cover.  Not sure why it has taken me so long to join.  I first saw the film in January '06 and found this forum a few days later.  Not sure why it has taken me so long to join....  Maybe it is that I have spent so much time reading that I was afraid that if I joined in the discussion I would be totally consumed!  It is time..........

I first saw the film in January of '06, was completely devastated, and found this forum a few days later.  I needed to know that I was not alone in what I was feeling.  I have been reading/lurking here ever since.  I went back to the theater 3 more times, sitting through the credits each time, sobbing, until the ushers said it was time to go.  Even then I could barely drive home.  How is it that this film has affected me so????  Even now, 16 months later, I cannot get Jack and Ennis out of my head and heart (not that I'd want to)  I have no one to discuss this with since my husband refuses to see the film.  I wish he would.  He does not understand my obsession.  This is especially perplexing to me since our gay son who, after much angst, self-searching, and support from us, is now comfortable with himself and is in a committed relationship with his male partner who we adore.

There is much more to my story, but I don't have time to finish now.  I just want to thank the members of this amazing forum for sharing your personal stories and thoughts on the film.  You have kept me sane in the aftermath of this film.  You have touched me in ways I never thought possible by people whom I have never met, although I feel I know many of you through your insightful and thought provoking posts.  So it is with a grateful heart, shaking hands, and tears in my eyes that I write this.  I am not alone.....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on May 16, 2007, 06:06:13 PM
Just reviewed my post and am not sure how the  ??? got in there!  It should have been  :'(
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on May 16, 2007, 06:39:38 PM
Thank you for the warm welcome, Heidi.  And for the technical advice.  I need it! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on May 16, 2007, 07:33:51 PM
Hiya MaineGirl!

Glad you decided to start posting!  Glad to have you here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Bighorn Mts on May 16, 2007, 09:41:40 PM
Hi, MaineGirl:
Nice to see another "new-bie"" post.† †:)† I grew up in Maine - it's cool that you are there!

Another question for y'all:† I am curious as to how many of you have been to the Bighorn Mountains?

Best to you...

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on May 17, 2007, 03:58:40 AM
Thanks CellarDweller and BigHorn Mts!  As for being in Maine, I, too, grew up there, but have been living "away" for some years, though I get to spend a lot of time there because the family is still there.   I've never been to the Bighorn Mtns., but spent some time in SW Colorado a few years back and fell in love with those Mtns.  The film has made me want to go back out west. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on May 17, 2007, 07:45:58 PM
mainegirl...

let me add my welcome to the others.  that you found comfort here in troubling times is more than thanks enough.  that comfort was one of the maine reasons for starting the forum, and a driving force in maintaining it this long.  many of us stick around just to offer that comfort to late arrivals, just as you will no doubt comfort the next arrivals.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Bighorn Mts on May 17, 2007, 07:51:40 PM
MaineGirl and all others who are making me feel welcome  :)

I have not lived in Maine for over 20 yrs.  A good deal of that time has been spent "out west" and "southwest."  I love Maine, but don't like the humidity and the super high cost of living.  I like to return for visits, though.

DO check out the Bighorns, they are amazing.  I've posted a few of the photos I've taken of them in the "through your camera"  forun, which I believe is also in the "Meet your neighbors" discussion board.   

Thanks everyone! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on May 17, 2007, 08:30:57 PM
Thank you, Jack.  Just having so many of you make me feel welcome here has been a great comfort already.  I plan to be here for a good long while.

And Bighorn Mtns...  I will have to check out your photos. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on May 18, 2007, 07:15:35 AM
I am not alone.....

No you are not alone, so many here came for the same reasons, you are very welcome  ;) Lurk or join in as you feel appropriate.

Nax
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on May 18, 2007, 07:17:23 AM
Hi!† This here is my second post; thank you for steering me to this introduction forum (my first post was in the TV commentary post - oops).† I can be a bit unconventional...well, okay, I am very unconventional :)† LOL!


Then you'll fit in here perfectly  ;D  Welcome Bighorn Mts  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on May 18, 2007, 02:24:42 PM
Thank you, Nax, for the very kind welcome.† :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Bighorn Mts on May 18, 2007, 07:21:58 PM
Hi!  Thanks for posting the link to the photo discussion.  That is where my photos are posted, I just failed to articulate it well.
Thanks for the assistance.   :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Bighorn Mts on May 19, 2007, 09:21:05 PM
I just wanted to thank all of you for the great welcome  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: TwistEnnis on May 27, 2007, 06:49:39 AM
MaineGirl - just wanted to say welcome from another "Mainah", even though you're living elsewhere now.

Mitch
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on May 27, 2007, 08:19:39 AM
Thanks, Mitch.  It's always good to hear from another "Mainah"!   :)  My heart's still there, as is my family.  They always say, "You can take the girl outta Maine, but you can't take Maine outta the girl".  So true...   
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Jeff Wrangler on June 03, 2007, 07:11:13 PM
Evenin' folks,

Met a couple of you fine Cullen folks face-to-face for the first time at the barbecue. Figured signin' on here would be a good way to stay in touch. Thought I'd just mosey on over from Bettermost for a spell.

Jeff Wrangler
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BrokenOkie on June 03, 2007, 07:44:32 PM
Howdy Jeff - welcome aboard!

Glenn
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 03, 2007, 07:56:22 PM
Good to see ya, Jeff!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Jeff Wrangler on June 04, 2007, 07:25:15 AM
Good to see ya, Jeff!

Good to see ya, Jeff!

Friends, it's mighty nice to be here!† :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nax on June 04, 2007, 07:38:51 AM
Hya Jeff nice to see you over here from Bettermost (have you been blinded by the speed yet  ;D)

I look forward to chatting with you, pop over to the 24 hour Diner in the meet your neighbours section, it's bit like the The Studs 'n Spurs Bar & Grill  ;)

neil
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Jeff Wrangler on June 04, 2007, 07:55:13 PM
Hya Jeff nice to see you over here from Bettermost (have you been blinded by the speed yet† ;D)

I look forward to chatting with you, pop over to the 24 hour Diner in the meet your neighbours section, it's bit like the The Studs 'n Spurs Bar & Grill† ;)

neil

Thank you kindly, Neil (Jeff touches hat brim, winks).† ;)† :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: never enough on June 14, 2007, 08:50:40 AM
Hiya,

I'm not exactly a new member but my coffeepot is pretty small - mostly the slash threads.  Does anyone know if there is a place on the forum related to advocacy?

Thanks!
-Julia
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 14, 2007, 10:20:53 AM
Julia, can you be a little more specific?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: never enough on June 14, 2007, 11:18:38 AM
I was specifically looking for issues that affect the LGBT community - for example, civil rights, marriage equality.† However, my interests are pretty broad if nothing here fits that bill.†

Thanks!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Jeff Wrangler on June 14, 2007, 11:27:49 AM
I was specifically looking for issues that affect the LGBT community - for example, civil rights, marriage equality.† However, my interests are pretty broad if nothing here fits that bill.†

Thanks!

Did you check under "Gay, Bi, Whatever"? Maybe you could start a thread there.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 14, 2007, 11:57:54 AM
I was specifically looking for issues that affect the LGBT community - for example, civil rights, marriage equality.  However, my interests are pretty broad if nothing here fits that bill. 

Thanks!


Here are some links to various threads.....



 MTF? FTM? WTF? Everything you wanted to know about Transgender but were afraid

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=12710.0

Gay bashing

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=6854.0


Gay History -- How We Got Here

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=20158.0


Don't Ask, Don't Tell: Gays, friends, and the military

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=4767.0

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Jeff Wrangler on June 14, 2007, 12:08:22 PM


Here are some links to various threads.....



 MTF? FTM? WTF? Everything you wanted to know about Transgender but were afraid

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=12710.0

Gay bashing

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=6854.0


Gay History -- How We Got Here

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=20158.0


Don't Ask, Don't Tell: Gays, friends, and the military

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=4767.0



Such a conscientious and helpful Mod!†† :-*† :-*† :-*† ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: never enough on June 14, 2007, 01:19:22 PM
Did you check under "Gay, Bi, Whatever"? Maybe you could start a thread there.

Nope.† Thanks for the suggestion.† †:)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: never enough on June 14, 2007, 01:21:08 PM
Here are some links to various threads.....

snip

Thanks a bunch!† I'll check them out.† †:)



Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 14, 2007, 01:39:30 PM
Thanks a bunch!  I'll check them out.   :)


Here's one more I just found, since you specifically mentioned gay marriage.

Gay Marriage: Inciting a backlash, or dragging along too slowly?

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=31.0
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: hugsuzie on July 04, 2007, 07:22:01 PM
Hello to everyone in DC world! (And what a lot of you there are).I've been lurking for some time now. Mainly round the Lashes and Planet Heath thread... he he. I just can't get enough of those guys. Some may know me from JW or The Play Pen.  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: freetraveller on July 04, 2007, 10:15:17 PM
Welcome hugsuzie!  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on July 05, 2007, 07:09:49 AM
Hello HugSuzie!

Glad you decided to "de-lurk" and join us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on July 05, 2007, 07:10:54 AM
Hello HugSuzie!

Glad you decided to "de-lurk" and join us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: backinthesaddle on July 09, 2007, 07:53:37 PM
I sort of just posted my story elsewhere here as my first post.  Then I realized I probably should have introduced myself first and then brought out the vacation slides.  Anyway, I was welcomed in another thread here by a gentleman named \\\"Andy\\\" and he referred to my username as BitS.  I like that acronym and hadn\\\'t really thought of it until I\\\'d seen it there, but I believe I\\\'m going to have my future nephews and nieces call me \\\"Uncle Bitsy\\\".  **chuckle**

anyway, now I\\\'ve digressed from my original intent of introduction.  My partner would be chastising me horribly for my bluntness and rudeness.  We saw the film together when it first came out.  It\\\'s been over a year.  Actually, more than a year and a half.  Yes, the love story was great, blah blah blah.  But what hit me (and subsequently my partner) was that we were going to end up just like Jack and Ennis if we didn\\\'t pull our heads out of our @sses and make changes in our lives.  We were still indulging in unhealthy emotional behaviours and lifestyle behaviours and just being plain dumb!  We were not living as partners and working together on a relationship - we were roommates.  College roommates.  College fraternity roommates!  F*cking, drinking, blowing off work, disrespecting one another, disrespecting the relationship between us. (or just ignoring it completely!)

SO now we see a dead Jack and a broken Ennis.  Not together.  Not ever happy.  Not even having the chance to try to be happy!  And here we are living together, supposedly building this future together.  [supposed to be] planning our lives and future and retirement together - and we\\\'re squandering away the time and opportunities in our lives!  OMFG!  We were a couple of shiteheads!  I mean, we have (had?) something precious and invaluable between us and we were abusing and cheapening it.

Okay, so we cleaned up our acts and got into therapy first and foremost.  We started addressing all the reasons we weren\\\'t communicating and why we were avoiding each other and our responsibilities to one another and so on.  I quit my random f*cking about town, my partner quit using the drugs.  We stopped trying to escape one another and decided to FACE one another.  We had to address the good and the bad.  And the bad was REALLY bad.  Too many dysfunctions and avoidances between us.  Oh and antidepressants!  thank god for those!

Now we\\\'ve stopped [most of] the drinking (I like wine! so sue me!) and drugs.  We\\\'ve stopped (okay, *I* stopped) the random trysts and fuckdates.  We\\\'ve stopped playing mental games and we\\\'ve decided to re commit ourselves to our partnership.  Our marriage, if you will.  Respect and consideration have actually become the norm in our home. We\\\'re not perfect, but we realize that we really want to be together more than we wanted to self-destruct.  I can\\\'t explain it all - if I talk out loud about it, I choke up - but Jack and Ennis made us see what we were wasting in our own lives. 

FInally, because of them, we are working towards a healthier partnership and overall healthier emotional lives.

Hence, I am \\\'back in the saddle\\\'.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on July 09, 2007, 09:12:15 PM
Backinthesaddle, that is sooo cool! Congrats!

You now know how fortunate you are to have a mate to love and care for.

BBM will never cease to amaze me.

It's great to have you around :)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on July 10, 2007, 12:46:43 AM
Back in the saddle as long you can ride it.

Welcome, friend.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on July 10, 2007, 01:25:30 AM

Bienvenue, backinthesaddle!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: backinthesaddle on July 10, 2007, 07:49:51 AM
thanks for so many warm welcomes.

It is not "fortune" that finds me with a worthy partner, friend.

Let me tell you it is damned hard work.

And I'm still not sure we're going to make it.  I'm in here as part of my therapy homework to open up about myself and my wishes and dreams and so on - so I can learn to express them.  I should be expressing them to my Jack, but we both agreed that expressing them here is a good first step.  Jack read's much of what I journal and put here anyway, so I don't really have secrets.  I am just learning communication skills.

I bull-moosed my way in here all manic and upbeat.  Now I'm having an attack of self-doubt.  I'm really not sure I can pull this off.  Not to mention having one moderator post a nastigram that I thought was intended for me (it wasn't) and a second moderator definitely post [a more polite] nastigram that was.  So I've been here for less than a day and already feel persecuted for what I'm trying to do.  It's mostly perception on my part, but disconcerting just the same.

And to boot, this morning was a nightmare of trying to post to the forum (or even just log in!) and navigate my way around, so I feel that yet another stumbling block has been thrown in my path. 

I am not near as comfortable nor feeling as welcomed as you would imagine right now - even with your warm greetings, gentlemen.

BitS
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on July 10, 2007, 09:29:59 AM
BitS...

Welcome home.

Come as you are, you'll find ears that hear, and hearts that understand.

Arms more than willing to hug, if you need them.

Rob
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 30, 2007, 01:51:05 PM
Welcoming all the new comers....please continue to post around!! See ya around!

Nellie :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on August 31, 2007, 12:09:16 PM
Welcoming all the new comers....please continue to post around!! See ya around!

Nellie :D

Complete 'newbie' as you say here. 1st post too. I have been a 'lurker' for quite sometime, and finally got frustrated enough, because I just did not have the time to read everything in this forum. I have been very impressed with several of the moderators and contributors here. I am different from most posters in this way: the book is what brought me here, not the movie. And yes, I have seen the film a total of 3 times, still wasn't as moved by it as I am by the book. I like to read, when I get the time! Little info about me: I live in the Midwest USA, not far from twtplanner and I think BrokenOkie. I am an Ennis through and through, I cannot change what is, I know myself very well, am well-adjusted and content. There was a posted who lived in Iowa, I think his user name was Dave something,anyway out stories are pretty parallel. Enough about me, I enjoy TDS, the Diner, Fan Fair and the masculine threads. I am drawn to the male posters on here, my favorites are twtplanner, Cabin, Andy, Johnjohn, Marc, BradnBlue, WLguy,MountainBoy, BrokebackTom or is that Explosive Member, Dave Cullen, and for shear entertainment Adrian and Chad81! Love those two 'boys' and BTW, I guess congratulations are in order, you two 'warm my heart'...........thanks for listening and I'll try to post from time to time. Oh, the Ladies? Love you all..............
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on August 31, 2007, 12:29:37 PM
Hey Flyboy and welcome! Glad you decided to delurk and start posting. You seem to know your way around here, so I just want to mention that, since you are especially fond of the short story, if you haven't come across these yet, there are videos of RodneyFL reading parts of it in this posting and many others on the pages following. And after the BBQ videos, there are two more of him reading the short story in front of an abandoned ranch house in Lightning Flat, Wyoming, as well as in a cemetery in nearby Rockypoint.

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=10624.msg976803#msg976803

If you haven't seen these yet, I hope that you will enjoy them!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on August 31, 2007, 01:01:36 PM
WOW!! My 1st reply from a member! Thanks for the welcome Fritz, I saw the video postings but I can't hardly make enough time to get through all the threads in here. I will try to catch one of them soon. I'm just a person who would rather read than watch films, and the only reason I viewed BBM 3 times was to try and figure out what 'got to' most of the members here. It was the book that hit me so hard, not the film. Don't know why. You are one busy person, that's all I can say.......haha.....enjoy your time in the mountains! And thanks again for the response........
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Chad81 on August 31, 2007, 01:24:29 PM
hello flyboy, welcome to this place, the people are very nice here, you will like it   :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on August 31, 2007, 02:08:08 PM
Welcoming all the new comers....please continue to post around!! See ya around!

Nellie :D

Complete 'newbie' as you say here. 1st post too. I have been a 'lurker' for quite sometime, and finally got frustrated enough, because I just did not have the time to read everything in this forum. I have been very impressed with several of the moderators and contributors here. I am different from most posters in this way: the book is what brought me here, not the movie. And yes, I have seen the film a total of 3 times, still wasn't as moved by it as I am by the book. I like to read, when I get the time! Little info about me: I live in the Midwest USA, not far from twtplanner and I think BrokenOkie. I am an Ennis through and through, I cannot change what is, I know myself very well, am well-adjusted and content. There was a posted who lived in Iowa, I think his user name was Dave something,anyway out stories are pretty parallel. Enough about me, I enjoy TDS, the Diner, Fan Fair and the masculine threads. I am drawn to the male posters on here, my favorites are twtplanner, Cabin, Andy, Johnjohn, Marc, BradnBlue, WLguy,MountainBoy, BrokebackTom or is that Explosive Member, Dave Cullen, and for shear entertainment Adrian and Chad81! Love those two 'boys' and BTW, I guess congratulations are in order, you two 'warm my heart'...........thanks for listening and I'll try to post from time to time. Oh, the Ladies? Love you all..............

Oh my oh my...lookie here!!!

Welcome Flyboy  ;D

I have to tell ya some of your favorite posters are MY favorite too,darling ..they're a bunch of great guys. And there's tons of em just like them  ;)..and sure glad you love us ladies.... :-*...I'll be keeping an eye out for you then since you like the same threads I do it seems... 8)....and you're from around Okieville?!?!?!....lmao...excellent!! 

See ya around,

Nellie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on August 31, 2007, 02:47:46 PM
Thanks Nellie, you DO have a way of making people laugh and feel good. But sorry, no, I'm not an Okie, just far enough away not to lay claim to that 'title', but love those two guys anyway............hahaha..........I'll be in here from time to time.......just can't be consistent, tooo much working and, guess what? RL raises it's head continually...........later
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on August 31, 2007, 02:49:55 PM
Hi Flyboy! Welcome to the campsite!

I too fell in love with the story way before the film came out. Now I love them both on their own merits. One thing I regret is seeing the film while knowing about the shirts. I really wonder how much of a punch that was for an unexpecting viewer.

But.

Since I knew what was coming after the phone call to Lureen I started bawling all the way up to the scene in Jack's bedroom!!!!
It was as if I didn't want to see it, I barely did anyway what with the kleenex and all ;D

I really was a mess.

See ya later friend!

JJ


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on August 31, 2007, 03:08:21 PM
Thanks Johnjohn, I am way over my head here today, already PM'ing with a couple, I can't keep up. So much activity here. But I will try to be in from time to time..........so far, everyone has been SOOOOO welcoming, I'm starting to relax.........now, back to RL and work..........take care.....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on August 31, 2007, 03:15:28 PM
Welcome, Flyboy.  Nice to have a new poster.

Stop in at the Diner sometime if you want to talk to a few people (or more) at one time.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on August 31, 2007, 03:36:59 PM
Thanks Debbie, yes, I'm getting around better now, Adrian and Chad eased my mind a bit, so I'm starting to relax a little. I still cannot believe it took me since early 2006 to finally take the plunge and just join up! Life is sure crazy sometimes. I read where you are heading to NY soon. I get there about 6 or 7 times a year myself. Love that city and the people. So have fun! RL is calling, so I need to head out, get some work done. Take care now...........
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on August 31, 2007, 04:38:15 PM
and btw, a lot of us are heading out to san francisco to see the movie once again, on a BIG screen, and to gather in personwith friends we have come to love.  i am one of the unannounced (shhh) hoping to surprise a few friends.

jack
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: huntinbuddy on August 31, 2007, 07:42:03 PM
Well, not really a new member here, but while using a camera a great deal, am basically camera shy myself.  Earlier today, a German couple wanted me to take their photo in front of the Athabasca Glacier in the Columbia Icefield (the largest icefield in the Rockies at 325 square kilometers).  Afterwards, they insisted they take one of yours truly, huntinbuddy, with his camera.  While the focus and other things could be better, here you go folks....huntinbuddy in front of the Athabasca Glacier

(http://i165.photobucket.com/albums/u70/gertie_06/Grand%20Teton/08-28-22.jpg)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on August 31, 2007, 07:52:59 PM
good to see you, huntin' buddy!  Thanks for posting the pic!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on August 31, 2007, 08:07:25 PM
YAY!! HB!
So good to see your smiling face!!!
Thanks so much for posting your pic!!! :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on August 31, 2007, 08:21:23 PM
Thanks Debbie, yes, I'm getting around better now, Adrian and Chad eased my mind a bit, so I'm starting to relax a little. I still cannot believe it took me since early 2006 to finally take the plunge and just join up! Life is sure crazy sometimes. I read where you are heading to NY soon. I get there about 6 or 7 times a year myself. Love that city and the people. So have fun! RL is calling, so I need to head out, get some work done. Take care now...........
May I add my voice of welcome, Flyboy.  The book was my first love, as well, though I now rank it equally with the film. 

It's lovely to have you finally speaking up.  And, like Nellie, I certainly agree with your list of favorites.  I have been fortunate enough to meet most of the men you listed.  (Oh, and BrokebackTom is not now Explosive Member...that is Jack, formerly known as brokeback_1.   ;) )

Hugs, and again, welcome,
Jackie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on August 31, 2007, 08:22:23 PM
Well, not really a new member here, but while using a camera a great deal, am basically camera shy myself.  Earlier today, a German couple wanted me to take their photo in front of the Athabasca Glacier in the Columbia Icefield (the largest icefield in the Rockies at 325 square kilometers).  Afterwards, they insisted they take one of yours truly, huntinbuddy, with his camera.  While the focus and other things could be better, here you go folks....huntinbuddy in front of the Athabasca Glacier

(http://i165.photobucket.com/albums/u70/gertie_06/Grand%20Teton/08-28-22.jpg)
Charlie!  So wonderful to "see" you finally, honey.   :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on August 31, 2007, 08:59:00 PM
I still cannot believe it took me since early 2006 to finally take the plunge and just join up! Life is sure crazy sometimes.

Welcome, Flyboy!  I, too, lurked for about 16 months and finally ended up joining in May of this year.  I couldn't stop reading here, couldn't seem to find the courage to join, but finally felt compelled to join when my copy of "Beyond Brokeback" arrived in the mail.  

Many of your favorite posters are mine too.  So many amazing people here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on August 31, 2007, 10:10:43 PM
Charlie, good to see you! And the Athabasca Glacier is one of my favorite places. Did you go by vehicle onto the ice too?

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: huntinbuddy on September 01, 2007, 10:39:33 PM
Charlie, good to see you! And the Athabasca Glacier is one of my favorite places. Did you go by vehicle onto the ice too?


It was the second time I have been to the Athabasca Glacier.  When there in 1999, I did the snocoach  tour, and it was fun.  They have like a dozen of these vehicles and for lack of better words to describe them, they are like an all-terrain bus.  They don't go very fast, but can climb a 32 degree slope.  In ski terms, this is the equivalent of a double-black-diamond run.  I remember thinking that damn thing was going to turn over and we were all going to be killed!  The tour takes about 90 minutes round trip, and it does take you up to an area of the glacier that if you had to hike it, would take several hours. 

The snocoaches travel up the eastern lateral moraine of the glacier, and then descend deeply into and on the glacier itself, and then lets you out to look around in what I suppose the tour company considers a safe spot.  It is estimated that on the Athabasca alone, there are over 30,000 crevasses.  Not what I consider a safe place to stroll about, or any of those glaciers for that matter.  Better to remain safe, than to be adventurous and daring and dead.

Just got back to Missouri earlier this evening.  Will post a few more of my best scenics from Canada in the other thread in a couple days.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on September 04, 2007, 07:38:30 AM
Thanks Painted Shoes and Maine Girl! I am slowly finding my way here. The 'welcoming' was great, now to be brave enough and fast enough to keep up in a couple threads, I'll try. I'm heading to the Diner now, see what's happened over the long holiday weekend here. Take care
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Boris on September 04, 2007, 07:41:55 AM
Welcome flyboy, nice to see you here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on September 04, 2007, 09:06:37 AM
Thanks Boris, or what do i call you here? Jari? Always enjoy your posts and of course the pics too, who wouldn't? Being a newbie, I'm going cautious for now. Plus, RL and work are always calling, why is that? haha.............anyway, thanks for the note, people have been sooooo kind and welcoming here, not that I didn't expect as much, I smack dab in the middle of the continental USA, where are you located, Europe I know..............wait, now I recall, Finland right? It's going to take me a while to place who lives where and what time zones, but I'm getting there.................
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Jer009 on September 08, 2007, 12:02:30 AM
I'm not a new member, but I meant to formally introduce myself eventually...but I never did.

Although I post as Jer009, my given name is George. Jeremiah has been my nickname since I was a junior in high school. Some people only know me by that name, and I prefer it to George. I know that Jeremiah is a Biblical name, but honestly, I just picked it because it felt right. I consider myself an agnostic or a secular humanist.

So I post as Jer; the 009 part comes from a very wonderful next-desk-neighbor when I was working as a court clerk in the  Civil Division of the Circuit Court in Miami. She made a difficult job a little easier with her sense of humor and our mutual love of art, opera and classical music ( although I'm just a dabbler in those), and the James Bond movies...she was the clerk for the judge in charge of division 09.

In addition to reading all of Ian Fleming's original Bond books, my favorite authors are Peter Lefcourt, Armistead Maupin, Christopher Buckley, Tom Robbins, Issac Asimov, J.R.R Tolkien and Joe Keenan. Probably others I can't think of offhand.

In 2001, I had a stroke which left me disabled. I had to learn to write again--couldn't even sign my own name. (My mother framed my first ever, shaky signature!) I went to a string of speech therapists, until the last one said, in effect, I can do no more!  I still have difficulty speaking, and sometimes stutter. But the worst is what speech therapists call, "word finding difficulty", a mild term for an agonizing affliction. It's like having a word on the tip of your tongue, but being unable to nail it down....but it happens nearly every time I speak. It's truly maddening.

To my surprise, I found I could read, and did so at every opportunity, although it gave me a powerful headache at first, and my comprehension was questionable. Now I continue to read, but my pace is much slower. Maybe it'll pick up in time; I understand that's a part of what's called aphasia, difficulty speaking and and spelling, among other things.

Well, that's a long introduction, but BBM, and finding this website and posting on it has been a wonderful experience. That movie blew all my circuits, in a good way,and I've found people I consider friends that I couldn't have communicated with in any other way---I write far better than I speak!

Jeremiah
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on September 08, 2007, 12:10:10 AM
jeremiah, it is a pleasure to make your acquaintance.  i don't think we often inhabit the same sections of the forum, but i see you around from time to time.  its rather too late for a welcome, but despite a slightly different twist, we are all communicating at a hightened level in this forum format.

i find myself thinking of it as having back fence neighbors i really WANT to talk to, and who are generally up and around at whatever hour i wish to seek them.  and if they aren't around, i just pin up a note and they get back to me.

as i side benefit, we sometimes get to be friends in 3D as well, and as i have often noted, i am delighted to have a peer group of men with similar life experience to talk to and associate with.

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: freetraveller on September 08, 2007, 05:24:29 AM
Welcome to the forum, Flyboy!!
You'll love it here :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on September 08, 2007, 06:50:08 AM
Thanks for the welcome, freetraveler, it's been a wonderful unbelieveable experience so far! And I am still 'kickiing' myself for not joining sooner. I understand completely the addicitve nature of the forum, now for exercises in 'self-restraint'......I have the resident Doc (Adrian) assisting me with a scheduled physical and some anti-dependency meds...........haha.........sooooo true.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Jer009 on September 08, 2007, 01:35:21 PM
Thanks for the welcome Jack!

As you said, you and I usually post on different areas of the Forum, but I like your comparison to back fence neighbors. I love this Forum and BBM.  I don't post as often or in as much detail as I would like, but that doesn't diminish my love for  either.

See you around the back fence!

Jeremiah
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: stars go blue on September 14, 2007, 03:37:58 PM
Hello.  Can someone tell me how many posts it takes before I can send a PM??

thanks.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Zudos on September 14, 2007, 03:40:28 PM
Hello.  Can someone tell me how many posts it takes before I can send a PM??

thanks.

Hi stars go blue, welcome to the forum...

You need to post 5 times to be able to PM (I think)  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: stars go blue on September 14, 2007, 04:31:26 PM
OK.  Thank you. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: stars go blue on September 14, 2007, 04:32:09 PM
Now if only I could think of something scintillating to say...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on September 14, 2007, 05:06:01 PM
Now if only I could think of something scintillating to say...
Only have a couple to go!

Just send another greeting a couple times! :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: stars go blue on September 14, 2007, 05:49:30 PM
Well then, here's a question, Where or what is Puyallup.  I'm assuming it's a place but perhaps it's also a state of mind?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 14, 2007, 05:54:54 PM
Puyallup is a very real place, in Washington state south of Seattle and east of Tacoma.

Welcome, Stars Go Blue!

When Rob's partner Nick visits him, Puyallup is heavenly!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: stars go blue on September 14, 2007, 06:21:42 PM
Thanks for the welcome!

So Puyallup is here in the US of A.  It sounded a bit foreign. Hope Nick visits soon and turns it back into heaven. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 14, 2007, 06:23:00 PM
You can send PM's now!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on September 14, 2007, 08:27:40 PM
Puyallup is a very real place, in Washington state south of Seattle and east of Tacoma.

Welcome, Stars Go Blue!

When Rob's partner Nick visits him, Puyallup is heavenly!


You got that right, Fritz!

Not only that, but one of the country's largest fairs is going on right now here in little old Puyallup!

:)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on September 14, 2007, 08:32:57 PM
Thanks for the welcome!

So Puyallup is here in the US of A.  It sounded a bit foreign. Hope Nick visits soon and turns it back into heaven. :)

The name is of the Salish Indian language. A couple translations are published, but the one I like most is "shady place along the river".

Nick is returning from England in just over a month.  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 14, 2007, 08:34:46 PM
Hey Rob! Looking at our boys on the computer screen right now, and grinning myself silly because things are looking so different, now that I know what the locations look like!  :D

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on September 14, 2007, 08:40:13 PM
Hey Rob! Looking at our boys on the computer screen right now, and grinning myself silly because things are looking so different, now that I know what the locations look like!  :D



I'm sure you have a different perspective after being in so many of the locations!

Seeing those places in person, does it make the movie more or less real for you?

I listened to the short story in audio form while commuting (thanks for the one, Jack! :) ) to and from work last night. Brought back moments I'd forgotten.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 14, 2007, 08:45:28 PM
Definitely more real, more three-dimensional! For example, I had always pretty much overlooked the fight hill in the background, never noticing it until Ennis sat on it and moped. But it's in so many other scenes that I'm flabbergasted!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on September 14, 2007, 08:58:47 PM
Definitely more real, more three-dimensional! For example, I had always pretty much overlooked the fight hill in the background, never noticing it until Ennis sat on it and moped. But it's in so many other scenes that I'm flabbergasted!



Guess I need to watch for it!

Computer generated in other parts of the movie, I'm assuming...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 14, 2007, 09:00:12 PM
No, it's a real hill though not very high, just like in the movie. But it hides a small hydroelectric facility on the other side from the campsite!  :D

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on September 14, 2007, 09:33:56 PM
Now if only I could think of something scintillating to say...
Welcome to the Forum, stars go blue.  Scintillating is not necessary here.   :D

Had you lurked and just decided to join, or are we new to you? 

My name is Jackie...glad to have you here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on September 14, 2007, 09:54:29 PM
May I add my "Welcome" Stars Go Blue, you won't regret joining the Forum, some of the best people on earth reside here from time to time, or day to day, you have already been greeted by some of them. Stay with us.........
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on September 14, 2007, 11:10:20 PM
Now if only I could think of something scintillating to say...
Welcome to the Forum, stars go blue.  Scintillating is not necessary here.   :D

and a damn good thing, too, lol.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: stars go blue on September 14, 2007, 11:49:32 PM
Now if only I could think of something scintillating to say...
Welcome to the Forum, stars go blue.  Scintillating is not necessary here.   :D

Had you lurked and just decided to join, or are we new to you? 

My name is Jackie...glad to have you here.

I've been a member on and off but i mostly just lurk.  Hence the problem with scintillation :D  Thank you for the welcome.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: loneleeb3 on September 18, 2007, 06:40:09 PM
Hello!
I have been a member of Bettermost since April.
I met so many wonderful folks from this site i wanted to come and visit!
I guess I can hold dual citizenship! ;D
I just want to say thanks to everyone from here who was there!
I so enjoyed meeting you all!
Thanks ecspecially to everyone who helped make it happen!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 18, 2007, 06:44:55 PM
Welcome, Richard isn't it?

Many of us are also in Bettermost! Twice the fun!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: loneleeb3 on September 18, 2007, 07:07:16 PM
Welcome, Richard isn't it?

Many of us are also in Bettermost! Twice the fun!

Yes it is!
Thank you!
Yeah it is! I see lots of familiar faces and names!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on September 18, 2007, 08:40:26 PM
Hello!
I have been a member of Bettermost since April.
I met so many wonderful folks from this site i wanted to come and visit!
I guess I can hold dual citizenship! ;D
I just want to say thanks to everyone from here who was there!
I so enjoyed meeting you all!
Thanks ecspecially to everyone who helped make it happen!

Dual citizenship?  I LOVE that, Richard!  Welcome, friend!

-Jackie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on September 18, 2007, 08:57:26 PM
Welcome Loneleeb3, stay around, you'll love the fine folks in here........I  guarantee it!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ramona66 on September 21, 2007, 02:14:36 PM
Hi my name is Ramona and this is my first time here... I live in  Dubai ! Which is why it is so difficult to post anything  because of the timing .Anyway I enjoy being around you guys you are very funny so thanks a lot for making my days brighter. Can I keep lurking???
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 21, 2007, 02:18:47 PM
Hey Ramona! Of course you may lurk and read, or post, as much as you like. No pressure to do anything whatsoever. Feel free to roam around anywhere in here.

Dubai? Wow! Quite a place, as I have heard, though I've never been to that area of the world at all, Never in Asia except to cross the ferry at Istanbul (long before the bridge was built!) and go to eat dinner at a place on the eastern shore. :D

Welcome again!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 21, 2007, 02:19:43 PM
Also, just to let you know, if you would like to send a personal message (PM) to anyone, you will have to have at least five posts before you can.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on September 21, 2007, 03:15:22 PM
Hi Ramona!!!

Welcome to the campsite, I hope you enjoy yourself here.

I'm wondering, how did you end up here?

Did you see Brokeback Mountain recently?

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on September 21, 2007, 03:49:18 PM
Welcome loneleeb3 and Ramona!  You will love it here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on September 21, 2007, 04:51:27 PM
Hello!
I have been a member of Bettermost since April.
I met so many wonderful folks from this site i wanted to come and visit!
I guess I can hold dual citizenship! ;D
I just want to say thanks to everyone from here who was there!
I so enjoyed meeting you all!
Thanks ecspecially to everyone who helped make it happen!


Welcome, Richard.  You'll like it over here, nice to have you.

-- Debbie (we met on the van to the rodeo)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on September 21, 2007, 06:06:18 PM
Hi my name is Ramona and this is my first time here... I live in  Dubai ! Which is why it is so difficult to post anything  because of the timing .Anyway I enjoy being around you guys you are very funny so thanks a lot for making my days brighter. Can I keep lurking???
Welcome, Ramona, glad you found us, and yes, of course you can lurk...

-Jackie

oops, I see Fritz already told you that.  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ramona66 on September 22, 2007, 03:28:23 PM
Hi Ramona!!!

Welcome to the campsite, I hope you enjoy yourself here.

I'm wondering, how did you end up here?

Did you see Brokeback Mountain recently?


Hi Thanks everyone my heart is warm,,, I did see Brokeback Mountain it`s banned here, but I`ve downloaded it through the net,after that nothing could stop me..it is how I landed to this forum Thank God for the internet.

Edited to fix quote
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ramona66 on September 22, 2007, 03:33:08 PM
Hey Ramona! Of course you may lurk and read, or post, as much as you like. No pressure to do anything whatsoever. Feel free to roam around anywhere in here.

Dubai? Wow! Quite a place, as I have heard, though I've never been to that area of the world at all, Never in Asia except to cross the ferry at Istanbul (long before the bridge was built!) and go to eat dinner at a place on the eastern shore. :D

Welcome again!


Hi Dubai is wonderful you should come and visit specially in winter,,summer is very hot though,it is one a.m now I have to stay awake in order to post , but I like it.Thanks again
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Jer009 on September 22, 2007, 03:42:08 PM
Welcome to new members stars go blue, Ramona66 and lonleeb3!
There are great people here, all different kinds. I'm sure you'll find a spot that suits you, or maybe several. There are many interests represented here, something to everyone's taste. Welcome again!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on September 22, 2007, 10:39:52 PM
Hi Ramona! May I add my Welcome to the Forum. You won't regret, plenty of wonderful warm folks to go around here......stay with us
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on September 22, 2007, 10:53:30 PM
Hello Ramona!  Welcome to DaveCullenForum!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on September 23, 2007, 12:37:11 AM

Hi Thanks everyone my heart is warm,,, I did see Brokeback Mountain it`s banned here, but I`ve downloaded it through the net,after that nothing could stop me..it is how I landed to this forum Thank God for the internet.

Edited to fix quote
Ramona, if you can answer, where is "here" where Brokeback has been banned? 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on September 23, 2007, 01:55:17 AM
ramona is in dubai, i believe
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ramona66 on September 23, 2007, 06:42:58 PM

Hi Thanks everyone my heart is warm,,, I did see Brokeback Mountain it`s banned here, but I`ve downloaded it through the net,after that nothing could stop me..it is how I landed to this forum Thank God for the internet.

Edited to fix quote
Ramona, if you can answer, where is "here" where Brokeback has been banned? 

Hi everyone... sorry to say it is banned here in Dubai in the United Arab Emirates,but not in the net only in theatres.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: loneleeb3 on September 25, 2007, 12:17:59 PM
Hello!
I have been a member of Bettermost since April.
I met so many wonderful folks from this site i wanted to come and visit!
I guess I can hold dual citizenship! ;D
I just want to say thanks to everyone from here who was there!
I so enjoyed meeting you all!
Thanks ecspecially to everyone who helped make it happen!


Welcome, Richard.  You'll like it over here, nice to have you.

-- Debbie (we met on the van to the rodeo)

Hi Debbie!!
How are you!
I was so bummed I didn't get to say Goodbye when I left!
It was very nice meeting you and spending that time togther!
It's a memory I will forever cherish and you will always be a part of!
Thanks for the welcome! I'm loving it already!
Richard
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on September 25, 2007, 12:21:35 PM
Hi Debbie!!
How are you!
I was so bummed I didn't get to say Goodbye when I left!
It was very nice meeting you and spending that time togther!
It's a memory I will forever cherish and you will always be a part of!
Thanks for the welcome! I'm loving it already!
Richard

Hi, Richard!
Thanks for those nice words.
I guess some of us were already on the way to the Ferry and Sausalito when you left.
It was nice meeting you, too, and I hope to see you at a future event.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: huntinbuddy on September 25, 2007, 12:35:22 PM


Hi everyone... sorry to say it is banned here in Dubai in the United Arab Emirates,but not in the net only in theatres.

Well you just gotta love those countries in the middle east.  Only yesterday the Iranian president spoke to the students at Columbia University in New York  and told them there were no homosexuals in Iran.  ??? Amazing.  So if that's the case, that is why there is no need to show a movie like Brokeback Mountain.....it just wouldn't be understood.

But we are glad to have you here Romona, and you will find many new freinds here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ramona66 on September 25, 2007, 03:15:25 PM


Hi everyone... sorry to say it is banned here in Dubai in the United Arab Emirates,but not in the net only in theatres.

Well you just gotta love those countries in the middle east.  Only yesterday the Iranian president spoke to the students at Columbia University in New York  and told them there were no homosexuals in Iran.  ??? Amazing.  So if that's the case, that is why there is no need to show a movie like Brokeback Mountain.....it just wouldn't be understood.

But we are glad to have you here Romona, and you will find many new freinds here.

Hey thanks a lot huntinbuddy ...glad to be your friend,the happiest moment of the day is when I`m here with you all.Thanks again.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: kaboyz on October 06, 2007, 03:02:42 PM
Hey Guys...not sure if any of you ever heard of dlist.com a social network for gay men.  It is kind of fun.  http://www.dlist.com/kaboyz is my site. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on October 06, 2007, 09:46:07 PM
maybe fun for you kaboyz, but like shopping with pennies at neimann marcus for us older folks...

nice tattooed calf btw.  fierce ! :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: kaboyz on October 17, 2007, 04:39:35 PM
maybe fun for you kaboyz, but like shopping with pennies at neimann marcus for us older folks...

nice tattooed calf btw.  fierce ! :-*

lol....I am not that young...going to be 29!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on October 17, 2007, 05:01:41 PM
Wow, what a coincidence. I used to be 29 ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on October 18, 2007, 12:06:22 AM
maybe fun for you kaboyz, but like shopping with pennies at neimann marcus for us older folks...

nice tattooed calf btw.  fierce ! :-*

lol....I am not that young...going to be 29!!
sweetie, at my age, that is just past the legal limits for cradle robbing..
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on October 18, 2007, 05:10:08 AM
First of all I want to thank you for this site and for being so friendly and welcoming. It was overwhelming that so many of you welcomed me after my first post.

((((((((((you))))))))))

These days I've spent a lot of time in different threads reading - thinking, crying, laughing and recognizing my reactions to the movie, my story (stories) and emotions. I have laughed or sighed over pictures in different threads. And I like to spend time listening to old and new music in the ďwhat are you listening toĒ-pages. I've missed the music in my life for some time now.

Sometimes I wish this happened to me when I fist saw the movie, about a year ago. I think it would be easier to get acquainted, to become a part of this forum, at the same time as most of you did. I would like to say something like: ďFriends, maybe this post is longtime overdue

I hope not. I am 50 years old, live with my husband and children in a very small town in Sweden. Wintertime it's small anyway, we have lots of tourists in the summer. As I went through some mayor changes in my life I discovered the true meaning of ďa friend in need is a friend indeedĒ. There were no friends indeed around. So from being really busy and always surrounded by people it got quiet around here.

As all of you know BBM awakes so many emotions, thoughts, memories. For now I can't separate what the story represents within me from the outside (as in society). Some of the withins and things in my life I might never ever talk about. And the society have to change might be to difficult to express in English.

One of all the things I'm thinking about right now, and talk to myself about while taking long walks by the lake and in the forest, is my need of representations of positive (now it's really hard to find words in English, but I'll try) male, manlike, fatherly, brotherly principals connecting. And the terrible fact that Aguirre, the fathers of the story are so well represented (I hate them so much when they appear in the movie). Maybe within as well. I think that this is important to me as a woman. I hope this makes sense.

Thank you all for creating this place. I have no experiences of community's before. As I'm learning I hope I do things right. And if I miss things I hope for some help. I find the warmth and honesty here overwhelming. As the welcoming after my first post.

Miaisland
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on October 18, 2007, 05:56:14 PM
((((((((((Miaisland))))))))))

Welcome!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: freetraveller on October 30, 2007, 11:08:28 AM
A very warm welcome from me too  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on October 30, 2007, 11:14:29 AM
Hej Mia! Jag bor ocksŚ i Sverige - všlkommen!

Jag fŲrstŚr att det kan vara svŚrt att uttrycka sig pŚ engelska - jag kommer frŚn USA och har samma problem pŚ svenska.  Skriv gšrna till mig pŚ svenska om du vill prata om filmen osv.  Det skulle vara jšttekul!  Filmen blev en všndpunkt fŲr mig.

Sorry about the Swedish - but it's so fun to see Swedes here!  I'm a pseudo-Swede, as Andy dubbed it.  I live here, but I'm from NY.  It's so good to see you here.  I've seen you at the diner, but you're always gone before I arrive. 

Welcome!!!
Tammy
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cellomaniac on December 10, 2007, 03:15:32 AM
Hello everybody,
long-time lurker here (Iíve been lurking for about one and a half years now).
Iíve been lucky enough to find this board after I first watched bbm in the theatres and reading about all your thoughts and experiences on and with bbm has helped me greatly to deal with the sadness the movie caused then.
Iíve overcome the worst effects the movie had on me quite a while ago, but Iíve never been able to stay away from the forum. 
I recently delurked in the German Speakers thread (to answer a particular question), so I thought now might be a good time to finally introduce myself here.
There is not much interesting to say about me, though. As you might have guessed from the German Speakers thread, Iím from Germany (Berlin, to be precise). Iím sorry, if my English is a little strange or difficult to understand at times, but itís only my second language, after all.
I donít know what else to tell you about myself, so Iím gonna leave it at that and if youíve got any questions then just ask me (I think itís easier that way).  :)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on December 10, 2007, 03:19:18 AM
Hi cellomaniac and thanks for coming in from Lurkdom! It's never too late.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cellomaniac on December 10, 2007, 03:30:45 AM
Thank you for the friendly welcome, Ministering angel. I certainly hope you are right about it never being to late.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on December 10, 2007, 04:07:56 AM
Hello everybody,
long-time lurker here (Iíve been lurking for about one and a half years now).
Iíve been lucky enough to find this board after I first watched bbm in the theatres and reading about all your thoughts and experiences on and with bbm has helped me greatly to deal with the sadness the movie caused then.
Iíve overcome the worst effects the movie had on me quite a while ago, but Iíve never been able to stay away from the forum. 
I recently delurked in the German Speakers thread (to answer a particular question), so I thought now might be a good time to finally introduce myself here.
There is not much interesting to say about me, though. As you might have guessed from the German Speakers thread, Iím from Germany (Berlin, to be precise). Iím sorry, if my English is a little strange or difficult to understand at times, but itís only my second language, after all.
I donít know what else to tell you about myself, so Iím gonna leave it at that and if youíve got any questions then just ask me (I think itís easier that way).  :)



Welcome cellomaniac!  It took me a year and a half to de-lurk also........ it it never too late! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on December 10, 2007, 04:41:17 AM
Welcome cellomaniac!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on December 10, 2007, 06:57:03 AM
Hello, Cellomaniac and welcome.  So, questions...you said to ask.   ;)

Are you married, partnered, kids, job, leisure activities, how many times have you seen Brokeback? 

Enough questions to get you started?   ;) ;D  Please feel free to ignore and /all of these questions....we are all just happy to have you out of lurkdom.  ((((((((((((Cellomaniac))))))))))))))

-Jackie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on December 10, 2007, 06:59:02 AM

Cellomaniac, I'm an Ex-Berliner myself!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on December 10, 2007, 07:32:27 AM
Nice to see you here, Cellomaniac.

 :)

Mia
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cellomaniac on December 10, 2007, 02:18:37 PM
Thank you all so much for the nice welcomes, I feel all warm and fuzzy inside right now. :-*

MaineGirl, I'm very glad to hear I'm not the only one who to so long to delurk. ;)

Now, about your questions, Jackie:
I'm not married, not partnered and I have no kids. I'm only 21, you know. ;)
I'm a law student at university so I have no 'real' job, either. (Assuming a side job to increase a poor little university student's 'income' is not an actual job. ;))
The most important leisure activity for me would be anything related to music. I spend a lot of time (and money) listening to music (and buying new CDs), I play the cello (hence the name) and I used to sing in a choir at school. I really miss that, but I've not been able to find a suitable choir for me again yet.
Other than that, I absolutely love going to the cinema, taking pictures (on a very amateur level only) and reading, though I don't find nearly enough time for that.
I'm also very interested in languages and would love to learn another one, but there#s the time thingy again. :(
Oh, and I really love travelling (strange leisure activity, I know, but it's true, I travel as much as my purse will allow).
I've only seen bbm twice, both times in the cinema so it's been a while since I last watched the movie. To be honest, I do not really feel like watching it again, though. I find it way too painful.
I'm sorry this has become so long (I bet, you regret asking :-[).
Thanks for the hugs (((Jackie))) :)
(My name is Simone, btw.)

Ingmar, I'm going to pester you about being an Ex-Berliner in the German Speakers thread. ;)


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on December 10, 2007, 03:00:42 PM

Cellomaniac, yes please pester me. I'm a pianist, amongst other things, by the way.  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on December 10, 2007, 06:48:51 PM
Simone....

Thank you so much for answering all the questions!   :D

I never regret honesty, so who cares how long your answer is?  I don't. I love it!   :-*

I like movies, too, and taking photos.  We have a photo thread and a movie thread.  Please join us at either.  I'd love to see some of your pictures.  And hear your comments about films you like.

Hugs and welcome...
Jackie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on December 10, 2007, 07:44:53 PM
I'm late here; but wanted to Welcome you Simone! I too, lurked in here for 18 months before joining, and I regularly kick myself for waiting so long........... ::), stay with us, there are many warm, wonderful people in here, as you have found, I'm sure!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on December 11, 2007, 04:05:54 AM
Thank you for answering Jackie's questions Simone!  There is no such thing a answers/posts that are too long here.... 

I too love film, books, taking photos (amateur level only as well), and music - both as a listener and performer, I am a clarinettist.  I'd love to see some of your photos in the photo thread! 

I'm late here; but wanted to Welcome you Simone! I too, lurked in here for 18 months before joining, and I regularly kick myself for waiting so long........... ::), stay with us, there are many warm, wonderful people in here, as you have found, I'm sure!

Shyness was a factor in my waiting so long to join, but my need to talk to others similarly affected by the film finally won out and I found a community of warm, wonderful, caring people here who listen and support.  Welcome again!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on December 11, 2007, 11:21:10 AM
Thank you all so much for the nice welcomes, I feel all warm and fuzzy inside right now. :-*

MaineGirl, I'm very glad to hear I'm not the only one who to so long to delurk. ;)

Now, about your questions, Jackie:
I'm not married, not partnered and I have no kids. I'm only 21, you know. ;)
I'm a law student at university so I have no 'real' job, either. (Assuming a side job to increase a poor little university student's 'income' is not an actual job. ;))
The most important leisure activity for me would be anything related to music. I spend a lot of time (and money) listening to music (and buying new CDs), I play the cello (hence the name) and I used to sing in a choir at school. I really miss that, but I've not been able to find a suitable choir for me again yet.
Other than that, I absolutely love going to the cinema, taking pictures (on a very amateur level only) and reading, though I don't find nearly enough time for that.
I'm also very interested in languages and would love to learn another one, but there#s the time thingy again. :(
Oh, and I really love travelling (strange leisure activity, I know, but it's true, I travel as much as my purse will allow).
I've only seen bbm twice, both times in the cinema so it's been a while since I last watched the movie. To be honest, I do not really feel like watching it again, though. I find it way too painful.
I'm sorry this has become so long (I bet, you regret asking :-[).
Thanks for the hugs (((Jackie))) :)
(My name is Simone, btw.)

Ingmar, I'm going to pester you about being an Ex-Berliner in the German Speakers thread. ;)




Simone, you and I are going to get along SO WELL!  I share so many of the same interests as you!!  And I'm only twice your age - but like a 12 year-old in my brain.  LOL!!

Welcome - stop over att the Coffee Pot Cafť and chat with everyone.  It's way fun!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cellomaniac on December 11, 2007, 03:06:03 PM
Jackie, thanks for the thread recommendations. :) :-*
I've seen the photo thread before, but did not know about the movie thread. I'm definitely going to join in the movie thread pretty soon, I plan on going to the cinema tomorrow (and probably on Friday again). The photo thread will have to wait for a little longer though, because I'll have to get a photobucket account first and read about posting pictures here.

Thank you for welcoming me too, Flyboy. I find it quite reassuring to hear there are other people who lurked for such a long time and still seem to be doing fine here now. ;) (And I think I'm already beginning to feel like kicking myself for waiting so long as well.)

MaineGirl, the clarinet is such a great instrument. :) The cello aside, the clarinet and the flute are probably my favourite instruments to listen to. (I think I shouldn't continue talking about music in the "New Members"-thread, because I guess it doesn't belong here. Is there some kind of music or musicians thread where I could continue to talk to you?)
Shyness was exactly the reason why I didn't delurk before now, but as I just said to Flyboy I'm starting to think it was quite unnecessary to let it keep me from joining for so long. :-[

Thanks for your friendly welcome, Tammy, you sound like fun already. :D I'm really looking forward to getting to know you better. Ingmar told me about the Coffee Pot Cafť yesterday and I'm definitely gonna stop by on one of these days. I hope to see you there then. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on December 12, 2007, 01:55:09 PM
I Heart Cellomaniac!  :-*

You are such a warm person.  I understand about the shyness.  Please join us other places when you feel comfortable, sweetie.  HUGS!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on December 13, 2007, 01:45:28 PM
Simone, cello has always been my favorite string instrument!  I don't know that there is a general music discussion thread, only know the opera thread (obviously for opera) and the listening thread.  We could talk more by PM if you are comfortable with that.  I'm so glad you have joined us.......... keep posting! 

Hugs,

Sue

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on December 13, 2007, 02:03:54 PM
Sue, the cello is my favourite string instrument as well.  I love the french horn as well - favourite brass instrument.  Favourite wind instrument.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on December 13, 2007, 02:06:30 PM
Sue, the cello is my favourite string instrument as well.  I love the french horn as well - favourite brass instrument.  Favourite wind instrument.

If I hadn't been given a clarinet my first choice would have been french horn!  (how much more could we have in common?)  I still love it and try to play my father's (I inherited it when he died) whenever I can.  (never in public though...... too many partials  :D)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on December 13, 2007, 02:26:54 PM
ME TOO!  That's so weird....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on December 13, 2007, 02:30:24 PM
ME TOO!  That's so weird....

Isn't it??
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on December 19, 2007, 05:05:44 AM

WELCOME SHAQMEHTA !!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on December 19, 2007, 09:43:18 AM

WELCOME SHAQMEHTA !!



Um...

Who?

Whut?

Where?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on December 19, 2007, 09:43:49 AM

(Eyelashes.)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on December 19, 2007, 09:45:32 AM
(oh)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on December 19, 2007, 09:47:04 AM

( :D )

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on December 19, 2007, 09:54:34 AM
( :-* )
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on December 19, 2007, 10:10:31 AM

( :-[ )

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: AnthonyBam on December 31, 2007, 02:01:04 PM
Hi..
I'm Anthony, and I'm probably one of the younger people on this board.  I watched Brokeback randomly over Thanksgiving break and fell in love with it.  I made a post here ages ago and I still lurk around, but I think I'm gonna start posting more, now that I've started learning new things after every time I watch the movie.
=]
-Anthony
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on December 31, 2007, 02:06:50 PM
Hiya Anthony!   Welcome to DCF!   Nice to have you here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on December 31, 2007, 02:09:36 PM
Welcome Anthony!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: paintedshoes on December 31, 2007, 07:05:14 PM
Welcome, Anthony.  It is good to have you here. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on January 04, 2008, 06:03:26 AM
May I add my Welcome Anthony. Great to have you here. Post away, folks here are warm and encouraging and good listeners too, you'll see.......... :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on January 04, 2008, 02:00:34 PM

Bienvenue, Anthony! Be prepared to live in one of the best places on earth!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: UK_Phil on January 10, 2008, 02:48:19 PM
Hello all, and hello again to those I have already met in other postings.

I suppose a good place to start is to tell you all a little about myself!

Boy, where do I begin? I'm a pretty deep, sensitive 49 year old, interested in film, music and art. I live in Bristol, UK, (which is approx. 108 miles from our capital London). Bristol is famous for the BBC wildlife unit, which has produced some groundbreaking wildlife films and documentaries. Bristol is also famous for its musical talent, which I am an avid follower of. I now live a simple life on the outskirts of the city, although my real love lays in the country.

I have joined this forum because it seems like a good place to be. Brokeback Mountain has made such a big impact on me, both mentally and emotionally in the short time that it has been in my life, and I think it will remain with me until the day I die. I have read some posts already where people have admitted to crying their eyes out on their first viewing, and I will certainly admit to doing the same, as it brought home to me my own losses and memories. You could say I am still a little shell-shocked at how a film could touch me so deeply.

Over the past 7 days I have been finding it difficult to concentrate on anything other than Ennis and Jack. They are there when I go to sleep, and they're there when I wake up. I feel I know each of them personally, and how events affected them every step of the way - from Jacks sob on his way to Mexico after Ennis' divorce came through, to Ennis' utter dispair in Jacks boyhood bedroom after his death.

I suppose my real-life Brokeback affair was a mostly happy affair, and we did see a lot of each other. Steve was funny, intelligent and an absolute pleasure to be with, so when he was unfairly taken from me 23 years ago my life came to an end, and my affair with the bottle began. I'm over that period in my life now thankfully, but my feeling of loss still goes on.

I hope my words once again connect with someone out there.

All my love Ennis and Jack

Phil
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on January 10, 2008, 03:06:24 PM
Welcome again, Phil, and so good to meet you.

This is a wonderful place and I am so glad you found us and that you are sharing your life and your feelings about this movie. This truly is the right place. You will find as you stroll around the forum that your feelings are our feelings and everyone is here to help you through all of it.

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to ask.

Once again, welcome, so glad you joined us.

Linda
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: UK_Phil on January 10, 2008, 03:15:21 PM
Thanks Linda,

I aim to become an avid poster, as I am a long way away from being a virgin >:D

Thanks for the welcome.

Phil
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on January 10, 2008, 03:17:40 PM
But you will notice, you are no longer, after your fifth post.

You may also pm folks now as well.

So glad you are here!!  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: UK_Phil on January 10, 2008, 03:26:25 PM
Whoops, well that was the most short lived virginity in history ;D

Thanks again Linda
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on January 10, 2008, 03:28:40 PM

Welcome again, Phil!

I'm Ingmar, a German living for many years in France, and now in Nice at the Mediterranean, to be precise.
Thus my screenname.


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on January 10, 2008, 04:11:02 PM
actually its in reference to his nice bottom hehheh  ;D   >:D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on January 10, 2008, 04:13:16 PM
Welcome Phil...... 

You have come to the right place.

Sue
(living near New York City but always and forever from Maine)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on January 10, 2008, 04:15:01 PM
Phil:

We're having a forum event in the UK this year:

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=27839.0 (http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=27839.0)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on January 10, 2008, 04:15:21 PM
Welcome, Phil! I'm Fritz and I live outside Washington DC in Virginia.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on January 10, 2008, 04:15:45 PM
Whoops, well that was the most short lived virginity in history ;D

Thanks again Linda

Everyone who joins gets to be a virgin again, at least for a little bit!! ::) ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on January 10, 2008, 04:18:26 PM
"Once a virgin, always a virgin"
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on January 10, 2008, 04:22:17 PM
"Once a virgin, always a virgin"

Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.......................NO!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on January 10, 2008, 04:24:13 PM
"Once a virgin, always a virgin"

Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.......................NO!

 :D :D :D :D :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on January 10, 2008, 04:49:57 PM
actually its in reference to his nice bottom hehheh  ;D   >:D

I knew you couldn't resist, Jack...  ::) ::) ::)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on January 10, 2008, 04:50:28 PM

Never enough hasbeenvirginity, never enough!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on January 10, 2008, 07:54:18 PM
Welcome, UK_Phil!

My partner and future husband (who I met here in this forum), lives outside Colchester, Essex. I live in Puyallup, Washington, about 30 miles south of Seattle.

Anything is possible because of Brokeback Mountain, and this forum. Hang tight. Chances are, you'll be around for a long time!

Rob

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Zudos on January 11, 2008, 10:24:42 AM
Hey Phil... Londoner here saying hi and welcome to the forum...

Look forward to getting to know you better...

 ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: UK_Phil on January 11, 2008, 12:04:22 PM
Thanks again all for the massive welcome.

I have decided to attend the Oxford, UK event this year, so will hopefully meet some of you in person. I've decided to put the stetson on hold, but may well fork out for a couple of plaid shirts. Unfortunately my denim ones no longer fit around my expanding waistline, so looks like the new year will mean dieting as well as giving up smoking. Wish me luck!

I'm still ploughing my way through this great source of Brokeback material, and will try to leave comments from time to time, so please don't feel I'm being ignorant by not replying to you all personally. I'm sure I'll get to know you all a lot better over the coming months.

I've been having a great laugh at the photo captioning section, and may well be posting some of my own shortly.

Big ups to the Brokeback crowd.

Phil
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on January 11, 2008, 12:06:09 PM

Here's to Oxford, Phil!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on January 11, 2008, 12:20:32 PM
Thanks again all for the massive welcome.

I have decided to attend the Oxford, UK event this year, so will hopefully meet some of you in person. I've decided to put the stetson on hold, but may well fork out for a couple of plaid shirts. Unfortunately my denim ones no longer fit around my expanding waistline, so looks like the new year will mean dieting as well as giving up smoking. Wish me luck!

I'm still ploughing my way through this great source of Brokeback material, and will try to leave comments from time to time, so please don't feel I'm being ignorant by not replying to you all personally. I'm sure I'll get to know you all a lot better over the coming months.

I've been having a great laugh at the photo captioning section, and may well be posting some of my own shortly.

Big ups to the Brokeback crowd.

Phil

Hi Phil!

May I join the welcoming?

For me this was a new place only three months ago when I saw the movie. It feels good to know I am not the only one being new here....

Nice to know you. Hope to meet you soon in one of the threads...
 :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: boogabooga on February 05, 2008, 06:28:48 PM
Okay, so obviously, I'm really new here. I was sent here by Lola (lolitaray), because I'm going to go the BBM meetup in San Fran. I'm Lindsey, 23 years old, live in DC, like kittens, puppies..etcetc.

Nah, I've been writing slash for years, but not really in this fandom...mainly Harry Potter, and another RPS. My own BBM story was in the grand works..but my co author hasn't been able to bring herself to write as of late (Heath and all), so its on the back burner :(

Uhh..I don't know what else to say....
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on February 05, 2008, 06:40:14 PM
well, howdy neighbor is good for a start!

howdy...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on February 05, 2008, 06:44:01 PM
Welcome to the forum, BoogaBooga!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on February 05, 2008, 06:52:53 PM
I will join the chorus..... Welcome boogabooga!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: boogabooga on February 05, 2008, 06:53:51 PM
well, howdy neighbor is good for a start!

howdy...
Welcome to the forum, BoogaBooga!
I will join the chorus..... Welcome boogabooga!

Aww thanks you guys. I'm glad to feel welcome. I'm really excited about getting myself into this place..wish I had found it sooner!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on February 05, 2008, 06:56:15 PM
Welcome, BoogaBooga!  I saw you posted that you were going to the SF gathering.  You'll meet a lot of nice people there.

mod:  Let me call you Lindsey.   ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on February 05, 2008, 07:21:28 PM
Welcome, Lindsey in DC! I live in Arlington, right across the river!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: boogabooga on February 05, 2008, 07:41:45 PM
Welcome, Lindsey in DC! I live in Arlington, right across the river!



Awesome! so glad there are other brokies around!! :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on February 05, 2008, 07:50:46 PM
we are EVERYWHERE !  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on February 05, 2008, 10:01:49 PM
Welcome to the Forum, boogabooga..........stay awhile.........
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: freetraveller on February 06, 2008, 01:12:53 PM
Welcome here, boogabooga!

I'm sure you'll have fun at the BBM meet in SF!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tuna on February 10, 2008, 07:12:05 PM
Hi everyone,
I figured out how to introduce myself finally. I saw BBM a week ago Friday for the first time and have seen it 8 times since now.  I'm feeling a little crazy because a film has never affected my in this way before.  Finding this site has been so helpful in allowing me to process and move through the many changes I have and am going through since my first viewing of the movie. 
I'm a 40 year old straight woman.  I have four children.  I've been married for 9 years and live in southeastern MA.  I've lived here all my life.  Actually my kids are 4th generation on this same property of my grandparents.  My father and sister also have homes on the homestead.  I homeschool my boys.    We are liberals and there are many homeschoolers like us believe it or not.  I am a speech-language pathologist though I practice only a little right now.  My first love is farming.  We've got about 130 birds at this time (chickens, turkeys, ducks, quails) though horses are my final goal.  I had a horse in my younger years and always yearn for the day when I will again have one.  I'm sure I could say more, but I'm feeling a little like I'm talking too much  :)
Glad to be here.
Lori
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on February 10, 2008, 07:31:57 PM
Good to have you here, Lori!!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on February 10, 2008, 07:48:49 PM
Welcome, Lori!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on February 10, 2008, 07:50:17 PM
Welcome, Lori.

You've really plunged into Brokeback Mountain viewing full steam.  I'd glad you came here, because often people are able to get their confusing feelings sorted out by talking to others.

Your background is interesting, I hope we get to talk more.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tuna on February 10, 2008, 07:53:39 PM
Thank you.  I am already so moved by all I have experienced here. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on February 10, 2008, 10:06:03 PM
Welcome Lori, stay with us, browse around a bit, you won't be disappointed! Nice to have you........Jonn
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on February 11, 2008, 02:07:20 PM
hi everyone
ive finally found the right place to introduce myself im Marz and im obessed with BBM! i only saw it for the first time about a week ago! and i watched it again a few days ago! so i won't know as much as everyone else on here but i love the film loads!
Marz
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on February 11, 2008, 03:22:22 PM
hi everyone
ive finally found the right place to introduce myself im Marz and im obessed with BBM! i only saw it for the first time about a week ago! and i watched it again a few days ago! so i won't know as much as everyone else on here but i love the film loads!
Marz

Welcome Marz, you have a very good taste in movies!!

Isn't Brokeback incredible?

I forgot how many times I've seen it and I'm still loving it.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on February 11, 2008, 04:28:40 PM
Welcome Marz! nice to see you here.........you will find this place warm, inviting and full of wonderful folks........stay with us!  ;D ;D

Jonn
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on February 11, 2008, 04:57:55 PM
Welcome Marz!!!  You will find many others like yourself here. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on February 12, 2008, 03:14:41 AM
thanks everyone and thanks for the complament john john!
i can now spend loads of time talking about my fave film ever to people who feel the same!
very happy
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on February 12, 2008, 06:34:40 AM
Hello Marz, and welcome to the forum!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cazzyj on February 12, 2008, 10:58:44 AM
Been lurking for a few weeks, and have a (very) few posts under my belt, so I figure it's time to say "Hello!".

I live in Alberta Canada (a couple of hours east of where they filmed BBM actually) and I have a 16 y/o daughter.  I happened on this forum while doing a search for BB.  Since reading the many many MANY posts on Brokeback, I have learned so much wonderful insight to the story and the film.  I have read "countless" slash stories already and I am loving my new obsession!  It's just so nice to see how well everyone gets along, how very smart and eloquent everyone is concerning this magnificient movie and how helpful you all are. 

Looking forward to reading and discovering more! 

TY
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on February 12, 2008, 11:20:42 AM
Welcome, cazzyj.  Glad to have you here.

I wasn't sure if "TY" at the bottom meant Thank You, or if your name was Ty.  You didn't give any other first name, so I'll just call you cazzyj for now.

I hope you continue to read on the Forum, and post whenever you feel comfortable saying something.  There's so much good analysis here, and many ways to make friends with people who might share interests not even related to the movie (pets, diets, music, other books, etc) -- so I hope you enjoy it.

Debbie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cazzyj on February 12, 2008, 11:22:50 AM
Welcome, cazzyj.  Glad to have you here.

I wasn't sure if "TY" at the bottom meant Thank You, or if your name was Ty.  You didn't give any other first name, so I'll just call you cazzyj for now.

I hope you continue to read on the Forum, and post whenever you feel comfortable saying something.  There's so much good analysis here, and many ways to make friends with people who might share interests not even related to the movie (pets, diets, music, other books, etc) -- so I hope you enjoy it.

Debbie

OOPS!  Sorry, yes that was a thank you!    8)

My name is Carolynn and thanks for the warm welcome!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on February 12, 2008, 11:47:21 AM
Nice to meet you, Carolynn.   8)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on February 12, 2008, 03:21:48 PM
May I add my Welcome to the Forum, Carolynn. Stay with us, lots of warm wonderful folks in here............Canada, huh? Love those Canadians, we have many here, check out the International thread........again, Welcome, nice to have you!.. ;D ;D..Jonn
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cazzyj on February 12, 2008, 03:58:39 PM
May I add my Welcome to the Forum, Carolynn. Stay with us, lots of warm wonderful folks in here............Canada, huh? Love those Canadians, we have many here, check out the International thread........again, Welcome, nice to have you!.. ;D ;D..Jonn

Thanks you guys!  Nice to feel so welcome :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on February 12, 2008, 05:25:16 PM
Welcome Carolynn!  It's nice to see you here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MsMercury on February 19, 2008, 11:53:46 PM
Hi all, my name is Teri and I just registered although i've been reading this forum for about a month. I didn't watch Brokeback until a few months ago and of course, I loved it. I'm glad I finally found a positive forum to discuss the movie. There are so many aspects of the movie that is left up to interpritation that i'd love to discuss. Glad to be here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on February 20, 2008, 12:02:50 AM
Welcome to the Forum Teri!

We have a site map here to help you find your way around:

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8878.0 (http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=8878.0)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on February 20, 2008, 04:46:25 AM
Welcome Teri!  You will find many like-minded people here!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on February 20, 2008, 10:04:04 AM

Bienvenue Teri!  :)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MsMercury on February 20, 2008, 10:10:44 PM
Thanks for the welcome!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: boogabooga on February 21, 2008, 06:09:26 AM
Hi all, my name is Teri and I just registered although i've been reading this forum for about a month. I didn't watch Brokeback until a few months ago and of course, I loved it. I'm glad I finally found a positive forum to discuss the movie. There are so many aspects of the movie that is left up to interpritation that i'd love to discuss. Glad to be here.

Welcome!! I am new myself!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on February 21, 2008, 09:45:40 AM
Welcome to the Forum, Teri.  I'm sure you'll find a lot of interesting things to talk about here.

Debbie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on February 22, 2008, 11:23:59 AM
Hi Teri,
I think it is great that the film is still being discovered all the time, and will continue to for many years to come.
welcome.
Chucky V
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on February 26, 2008, 11:36:42 AM
Welcome to the Forum Teri...............stay with us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on February 27, 2008, 12:47:18 PM
Hi,
It is well over a month since I joined the forum,but havent  got around to any sort of official hello.So here goes........
 I am 37, currently returned to being a student,quite a shock to the system,after working for so long. I used to do home care work,looking after elderly or terminally ill people. It was a great learning experience, met all kinds of wonderful people, and made some good friends too.
I also had some book illustration & publishing experience,mostly school text books,which did not bring in a regular income. I am getting back into that ,cautiously.

I first saw Brokeback on 3rd November 2006. Amazing how that date is fixed in my head. When the film was released here (South Africa), at least in this area,it was released in one "arthouse" cinema,and if I remember correctly,was gone in two weeks. In the major cities it did last longer. I regret that I have never seen it on the big screen. Anyway,the film still hit me hard.What can I say that remains unsaid about this masterpiece of a movie ?

It was sadly poignant,as there remains so much hatred in SA ,for gay people. Around mid 2006, a lesbian couple were repeatedly raped "to cure them",and one died as a result of her injuries. Surely what matters most,is to be a good person,treat people with kindness,have integrity......, not who we sleep with ?There is a long way to go until we feel safe,anywhere. In the cities,such as Cape Town ,there is a far more accepting vibe. I think BBM should be screened in schools, colleges, churches, etc.The very people that so need to see this film,would run a mile. What I find almost amusing in it's repetition,is the people who say "I'm a Christian, but I hate gays...." In December 2006, the civil union bill came into being here.The religious groups had a real go at blocking the bill. Anyway,as it turned out,the world did not come to a fiery end on the morning that the first gay wedding took place. I guess God had other,more urgent things to deal with,such as war,child abuse, or drug smuggling.Hopefully in time,things will catch up with other countries. In the meantime,I do my bit,by suggesting to as many people as I can,to watch Brokeback Mountain. It will stand the test of time as a gorgeous movie,and as a bonus, change some minds too.

I have not yet found my Ennis, but have had some great guys in my life. This forum is a special place to listen to likeminded people.Thanks.
ChuckyV
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cazzyj on February 27, 2008, 12:53:06 PM
welcome to the Forum Chucky and Teri! :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: brokebacktom on February 27, 2008, 01:13:54 PM
My God more people finding us out. I can't believe it.

Welcome Chuck and Teri. Glad you found us.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on February 27, 2008, 02:16:11 PM
Welcome to the forum (((Chucky)))
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MsMercury on February 27, 2008, 09:34:16 PM
I wish I had watched BBM 2 years ago and found this forum.  Ah well, better late than never!
Teri
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on February 27, 2008, 09:46:19 PM
I wish I had watched BBM 2 years ago and found this forum.  Ah well, better late than never!
Teri

You bet!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on February 28, 2008, 10:58:55 AM
It's that rare kind of film that will mean something to people & will be important,even when people not yet born watch it in many years from now. Thanks for the welcome.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on February 29, 2008, 02:25:54 AM

Chucky and Teri: Bienvenue from me too!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tweetybird on February 29, 2008, 05:35:27 AM
I'm not technically a new member, but I have a technical question that wasn't answered on the other thread: I've installed a wireless network at home yesterday, but I can't seem to be able to logon the forum from the laptop, only the desktop (as before). I get an error message "Sorry tweetybird, you are banned from the forum". I tried deleting cookies, but it didn't help (though I'll try again). What am I doing wrong?

TIA, tweets.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on February 29, 2008, 05:43:35 AM
I'm not technically a new member, but I have a technical question that wasn't answered on the other thread: I've installed a wireless network at home yesterday, but I can't seem to be able to logon the forum from the laptop, only the desktop (as before). I get an error message "Sorry tweetybird, you are banned from the forum". I tried deleting cookies, but it didn't help (though I'll try again). What am I doing wrong?

TIA, tweets.

i have no clue, tweety. but i sent your post to the administration, they will pm you when they know what's the problem.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Lance on February 29, 2008, 10:30:09 AM
Just in case ''tweetybird'' can't log in and read the PMs, I'll answer here. We still don't know. The records indicate that ''tweetybird'' is not banned in any way. When I look at member profiles, if a member is banned, I see a notification to that effect, and am shown a link to any and all bans that may affect the user. If the member switches their access computer to one that uses a different IP or host than what they used in the past and if that new access is on a banned access point, then you might be affected, but that should show in your profile if for instance you switched to a banned IP number and tried to access the forums. Your record will always show the most recent IP that was used by you.

If your computers are on the same home network, using either one should show us the same IP number. So you should be able to access the forums from either your desktop or your laptop. If only one of the computers is on the wireless network, that could explain why only one of them can be used to log in.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tweetybird on February 29, 2008, 10:33:24 AM
So does that mean I cannot use the laptop to login the forum?

Actually, I can't even read the forum from the laptop, because I'm "banned". Is there no way to get around this?  ???
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Lance on February 29, 2008, 10:53:30 AM
Are both computers on the network?

Tracking indicates that your desktop is connected through an IP that belongs to Euronet, based in Petach Tikva, and there is clearly no problem in accessing through them.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on February 29, 2008, 11:23:32 AM
just out of curiosity, what is the precise wording of the message.  there is a universal message (i don't know what else to call it), a 403 error message that says you are FORBIDDEN, and that is an entirely different problem.  we all have sites or links that don't work with that message.  you might want to try coming in through a google link, in case there is a url anomaly.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Lance on February 29, 2008, 11:30:31 AM
Jack, that is a completely different thing. This is our forum's 'you are banned message'; it is not related to 403 or 404 server messages. This is being filtered through forum software.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on February 29, 2008, 11:52:35 AM
Jack, that is a completely different thing. This is our forum's 'you are banned message'; it is not related to 403 or 404 server messages. This is being filtered through forum software.
right bud, that was my point.  just wanted tweety to be sure something didn't get garbled in translation.  amazing what difference a synonym makes.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: tweetybird on February 29, 2008, 01:02:03 PM
Nah, it's definitely a "banned" message. I can't access any page on the forum, from the laptop. Even if I try entering through google, it still shows the "banned" message. How does it know it's me?

Late bulletin: I finally succeeded. I figured the Explorer version on the laptop has some sort of security settings (i.e. censorship), so I disabled it.

On second thoughts, hmmmmm.....  >:(
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on February 29, 2008, 02:24:18 PM
Welcome to the new posters!  Chucky, your post hit me hard.  I hope things improve there - I hope they improve everywhere. 

Glad to have you here Teri!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on March 03, 2008, 01:22:39 AM
Thanks Tammy,

Things will change,in time.We have come a long way,but there is still a long way ahead.
The tide cannot be held back,as much as some would like to try.
Chucky
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: riggo98 on March 04, 2008, 12:42:27 AM
Hey everyone! i m so DAM glad i found this place! most of my friends dint like this movie (they dint even bother to watch) so i felt empty and was hoping to express and share my feelings bout this film with someone. Thank god i found this place  :D

I'm 18 yr old gay-friendly closet :-X from Malaysia, my country banned BBM in thearters so i had only watched the film recently from DVD few weeks after Heath's heart-breaking passing.

I had quite a hard time to understand the film because i grow up in a very asian-cultured country with asian-influence english education, so i cant catch the american english slang and cowboy accents.(i watch without subtitle as my DVD subtitle has a lot of mistakes). I could never understand a lot of phrase in the movie even such as 'stem the rose'.

But then, thanks to this forum and rewatching it after that, i felt so heart broken! I never felt like this b4. Even by reading the post from the ppl here made me so touched and heart broken, to even think of the film, i m so moved n touched by BBM.

And this movie really show me what true love is. Now, i had learn to appriciate every1 in my life and I hope to meet someone so special, fun and so loving like the character of Jack Twist and spend the rest of my life with him and not go tru the terrible pain and emptiness Ennis & Jack felt in the movie.

(sorry for my poor english)  :P

Take care.

-elvin


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on March 04, 2008, 07:21:35 AM
Welcome to the Forum, Elvin/riggo98.  I'm glad you found us, and I hope you'll continue to get more understanding of the film here, as well as to talk with some great people.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on March 04, 2008, 03:27:20 PM
Hi Elvin!

Welcome to the campfire!

I'm glad you found us also :)

I'm French Canadian and I had never heard the expression "stemming the rose".
One of the times I saw the film in the theater and after the movie ended, the lady next to me didn't know either and she spoke English!
She asked me if I knew what it meant and we both agreed it had to be something very sexual!!!!!

I ask you all: Is this a frequently used or well known expression in the English language?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on March 04, 2008, 03:37:16 PM
Welcome (((((((Elvin)))))))) ! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on March 04, 2008, 03:58:24 PM
Well, Jean, I don't think it's a common expression.  It seems very sexual.  Someone in French literature referred to the anus as the rose, and I assume to stem it might be to put something in the shape of a stem into it ...... at least that's the general idea I got.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: john john on March 04, 2008, 04:28:37 PM
Well, Jean, I don't think it's a common expression.  It seems very sexual.  Someone in French literature referred to the anus as the rose, and I assume to stem it might be to put something in the shape of a stem into it ...... at least that's the general idea I got.

Thank you  Dejavu!!

So I guess it's quite uncommon.
We have to rely on our 'basic instincts' to work it out ;D 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on March 04, 2008, 04:32:00 PM
Welcome Elvin!

Jean, I had never heard the expression before it was used in the movie, either.

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on March 04, 2008, 04:33:02 PM

Bienvenue Elvin!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MsMercury on March 04, 2008, 08:54:44 PM
Welcome, Elvin! I'm relatively new here too. Don't worry, a lot of us had never heard the expression "stem the rose".  It was certainly a new one on me but I knew right away what Augerre meant by it. After all, we did see him watching Ennis and Jack through his binoculars and he knew what they were up to.
Teri
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: riggo98 on March 04, 2008, 10:17:33 PM
wow! thnx for the surprisingly warm welcome.

I just love that the members on this board are so warm, u guys make me feel like i m a part of it. I m really comfortable here.

I m enjoying this film very much, and everytime i watch it again, i fell deeper for it. As this film is quite an 'open' film, i m actually so wowed by the incrediblely artistic & creative ppl here of how they 'fill in' the movie with thier own point of view, fantasy & imagination. This is so great to me as i dont have much friends in real and virtual, basically, i m quite a loner & afraid of the society. I m just so glad i can meet great ppl like all of u from across the world. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: freetraveller on March 05, 2008, 08:16:18 AM
A very warm welcome from me too, Elvin.  :)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on March 05, 2008, 08:35:16 AM
Welcome Elvin, stay with us, you won't be sorry, I promise!  :) :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on March 06, 2008, 12:42:53 PM
Hi Elvin,
Welcome!
I knew that the film would continue to be discovered by people all around the world,and here I see it happening yet again.BBM is such a wonderful film,that it is not just a movie that people can watch and then forget about. It will continue to have an effect on lives.Glad that you have found the forum
Chucky V
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on March 12, 2008, 08:35:48 PM
Hello Everybody,
I'm not sure I should be writing this intro just now, as I'm crying again, but what the heck! At least it will be brief  ;).
I'm Andrzej, a Polish gay guy, based in London, UK; with my English partner for a long while now.
Started watching a pirate copy of BBM two years ago, but felt too fragile at the time and thought better to put it off for a while.
A while turned to 2 years, and then Heath died. It didn't register straight away, but slowly my subconsciousness started demanding: watch the movie, watch the movie.
And I watched. Watched it as I should have done two years back.
What can I say, you know, have been a bit of a wreck since then, dealing with my grief by listening to the music, reading what's been published and reading you guys.
Thank you very much for this place you've created.

Shit, early start tomorrow, time for bed, thinking of them,  still happy on the Mountain helps to float away into dreams.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MsMercury on March 12, 2008, 08:45:10 PM
Hi MountainMouse! Welcome to the board. I am somewhat of a newbie myself.  I didn't watch the movie until a few months ago either. It was one of those movies I wanted to see but never got around to it. I actually didn't expect it to be this good. I wish I would have watched it at the theater.
We're glad you found us!
Teri
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on March 12, 2008, 08:56:51 PM
Andrzej...

welcome, and rest assured you are surrounded in here by people, men and women, who understand, fully, the impact of this film.  may i suggest, as soon as you get the strength, that you go find a copy of the original work by annie proulx.  it shouldn't be too hard to find, and it is barely longer than a short story. 

few works have the personal impact that this story, and its brilliant child the film, on so many different people.

welcome,

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on March 13, 2008, 04:25:54 AM
Welcome (((Andrzej))) !

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on March 13, 2008, 04:31:31 AM
A very warm welcome from me too

(((((((((((( Andrzej ))))))))))

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on March 13, 2008, 08:02:17 AM
Welcome to the Forum, Andrzej.............many wonderful and warm people in here, stay with us!  :) :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: freetraveller on March 13, 2008, 11:30:16 AM
A very warm welcome to the forum from me too, Andrzej.  :)

I've also read what you said over in the Scenes by Scenes thread and I was very impressed with your insights.

All the best,
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Zudos on March 13, 2008, 03:01:57 PM
Hello Everybody,
I'm not sure I should be writing this intro just now, as I'm crying again, but what the heck! At least it will be brief  ;).
I'm Andrzej, a Polish gay guy, based in London, UK; with my English partner for a long while now.
Started watching a pirate copy of BBM two years ago, but felt too fragile at the time and thought better to put it off for a while.
A while turned to 2 years, and then Heath died. It didn't register straight away, but slowly my subconsciousness started demanding: watch the movie, watch the movie.
And I watched. Watched it as I should have done two years back.
What can I say, you know, have been a bit of a wreck since then, dealing with my grief by listening to the music, reading what's been published and reading you guys.
Thank you very much for this place you've created.

Shit, early start tomorrow, time for bed, thinking of them,  still happy on the Mountain helps to float away into dreams.


Hi Andrzej, - You are not the only one based in London either... Welcome :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on March 13, 2008, 04:37:33 PM
welcome to anyone thats new at the forum

Marz x
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on March 13, 2008, 07:45:15 PM
Thanks for all the kind words and hugs,  with you all here it is the right place to be.
I feel quite raw... Funny, I'd thought I managed to make myself into a cynical stoic to cope with how world can be. BBM pierced this bubble, it hurts but is for the better.
MM
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on March 13, 2008, 08:05:18 PM
(((((Andrzej)))))

I hope you stick around, it is the right place to be.  When it hurts, people here can help just by talking.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on March 16, 2008, 05:42:03 PM
Andrzej!

Welcome to the forum!  I hope to see you posting all over the various threads.

If you have any questions, feel free to PM me.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on March 16, 2008, 07:48:54 PM
You little darlins, you are!
See you around this place, I hope to learn a lot and post my penny's worth.
MM
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on March 16, 2008, 07:59:17 PM
Dzień dobry, Andrzej! Witać do Formu!


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: helsbells on March 16, 2008, 08:11:25 PM
Hey Mountainmouse.

You've come to the right place - little life saver it is.  Come and chat in The Diner one night, we're all there most nights.

Hugs, Helen x


 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on March 17, 2008, 06:14:06 PM
Dzień dobry, Andrzej! Witać do Formu!



dziekuje/danke, fritzkep!

helsbells and CellarDweller115: thanks for the invites! you bet!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on March 17, 2008, 06:22:20 PM
Thanks for all the kind words and hugs,  with you all here it is the right place to be.
I feel quite raw... Funny, I'd thought I managed to make myself into a cynical stoic to cope with how world can be. BBM pierced this bubble, it hurts but is for the better.
MM

Welcome here (((MM)))  It is amazing how this film can pierce our stoic selves, isn't it?  You have come to the right place.  I hope you will stay a while...... 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on March 26, 2008, 01:42:46 PM
Hey you guys....just wanted to introduce my new friend,Charlie...he gave me permission to post this here. He doesn't have much time to post or lurk like he wants to so I decided I help him along...ha ha ha...he's a sweet guy and just great to work with....just want to squeeze him and give him a big hug...:D :D :D ...I just love him... ;)

(http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f376/mcnell1120/chicago2007057.jpg)

Nellie  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on March 26, 2008, 02:11:15 PM
Tell him Hello and welcome, is he a forum member, or just lurks?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on March 26, 2008, 02:12:24 PM
Tell him Hello and welcome, is he a forum member, or just lurks?

he's a member ..."Chaz3885"  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on March 26, 2008, 02:44:40 PM
Thanks Nellie and a big hello to Charlie!
What a great picture and hope he is able to come in sometime!
Welcome Charlie.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on March 26, 2008, 06:25:05 PM
*waves to Charlie*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MsMercury on March 26, 2008, 06:27:46 PM
Yes, tell Charlie he must come hang out with us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on March 26, 2008, 08:58:26 PM
Tell him Hello and welcome, is he a forum member, or just lurks?

more importantly, is he single?  ;=
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on March 26, 2008, 10:16:40 PM
JACK!........ ::) ::)...........go easy on the newbie!..... ;D........hahaha...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on March 27, 2008, 01:58:30 PM
Tell him Hello and welcome, is he a forum member, or just lurks?

more importantly, is he single?  ;=

AHEM!! ...I'm sorry to break the news...but he and his hubby have been together for quit some years now...but I'm sure he;ll get a kick of all this...hahahahah...I did tell him he was cute and he just blushes...lol...:D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on March 28, 2008, 07:52:46 PM
Hi Charlie,
*handshake*
 :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chaz3885 on March 30, 2008, 02:30:13 PM
Thanks Nellie and a big hello to Charlie!
What a great picture and hope he is able to come in sometime!
Welcome Charlie.
Thanks to all of you for the big welcome!!!!!  Nellie is right, I barely have time to spend online to check normal email let alone trying to be on this forum. My long days at work and driving distance just don't allow it.  But now that I can spend a moment, thanks again. I am intrigued by the friendliness of all of you and hope to be able to spend a little more time each week on here. I still have to update my profile and will explain a little more about me as time progresses. For now just wanted to touch base and say Hello!!! back to all of you. Nellie has really become a good friend to have in the short time I have known her and hope to continue the friendship for a long time. For now all of you have a great week!! :) :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on March 30, 2008, 02:33:30 PM
A big Brokie welcome to you, Charlie!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on March 30, 2008, 02:40:51 PM
welcome to the forum charlie
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on March 30, 2008, 02:48:48 PM
Welcome, Charlie!  Stop by again when you get a chance.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on March 30, 2008, 03:08:20 PM
Welcome Charlie!  I look forward to seeing you here again! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on March 30, 2008, 06:55:21 PM
Thanks Nellie and a big hello to Charlie!
What a great picture and hope he is able to come in sometime!
Welcome Charlie.
Thanks to all of you for the big welcome!!!!!  Nellie is right, I barely have time to spend online to check normal email let alone trying to be on this forum. My long days at work and driving distance just don't allow it.  But now that I can spend a moment, thanks again. I am intrigued by the friendliness of all of you and hope to be able to spend a little more time each week on here. I still have to update my profile and will explain a little more about me as time progresses. For now just wanted to touch base and say Hello!!! back to all of you. Nellie has really become a good friend to have in the short time I have known her and hope to continue the friendship for a long time. For now all of you have a great week!! :) :)

 :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*........thanks Charlie  ;D

Ahem...btw....can I call in sick tomorrow?!?!.....still sickie-poo................ :D :D :D :D :D :D..................oh well,I tried ::)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on March 31, 2008, 07:27:17 AM
Welcome to the Forum, Charlie, nice to have you here. . :) :)...Jonn
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on April 09, 2008, 01:11:26 AM
Hi Charlie,
You don't have to be a daily forum user to get some benefit out of it, every once in a while it is great to be among like-minded people.Welcome!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: kylespencer on April 13, 2008, 05:31:35 PM
This is the thread for new members to introduce themselves.

Welcome to our wonderful community! We are glad you found us!
Glad to be here
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on April 13, 2008, 05:49:45 PM
This is the thread for new members to introduce themselves.

Welcome to our wonderful community! We are glad you found us!
Glad to be here

Hi, kylespencer

Warm welcome to you  :)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on April 13, 2008, 05:50:43 PM
Hello Kyle!

Welcome to the Dave Cullen Forum!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on April 13, 2008, 05:55:33 PM
Welcome Kyle! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on April 13, 2008, 06:50:53 PM
It's nice to have you with us, Kyle.  I hope you learn a lot and enjoy the people here.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on April 13, 2008, 07:01:08 PM
Welcome here, Kyle!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on April 14, 2008, 03:06:03 PM
a bit late but welcome to kyle ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on April 15, 2008, 03:41:50 PM
Oh oh....Kyle was deactivated!  :-\
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on April 15, 2008, 03:46:51 PM
I guess Kyle wasn't really all that glad to be here.

 :-\ :-\ :-\ :-\
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nefariouslash on April 23, 2008, 11:17:32 AM
Good day all!  Time for a little introducing I guess :)

I've just posted pics and introduction in the member's pics department but I think I repeat introduction in its right place  ;)

I am a relatively new Brokie at this forum though an old one when it comes to being a Brokie in general :]
More to that and far before being a Brokie have I been Gyllenholic and Heathen :]

I am not a very active writer but reader and hang out a bit everywhere but mostly of course in Heathens section=(
Enjoying BBM-slash, music videos and desperately wanting to go to some Brokeback gathering as soon as my economy allows me*)
Maybe Oxfords..

Yeh, just it) I live in Sweden, wonderfully beautiful country, but am of mixed origin. Mighty confused about what i am ^^ and have 2 gorgeous cornish-rex cats ;)  That'll be all for the moment.

Stay Brokeback!

Julia
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on April 23, 2008, 02:10:36 PM
hello julia welcome to the forum your certainly in the right place we are all brokeback,heath and jake mad,hope to see you round the forum soon
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on April 23, 2008, 02:27:29 PM
Všlkommen Nefariouslash!!!

So many Swedes!  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on April 23, 2008, 02:35:12 PM
we need some more people from england
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on April 23, 2008, 05:13:44 PM
 :)Hi, Nefariouslash, good to have you here
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nefariouslash on April 24, 2008, 12:58:46 AM
hello julia welcome to the forum your certainly in the right place we are all brokeback,heath and jake mad,

Ain't it amazing? ;D
This forum is a gold mine for me and I'll do my best to win it) Though it will take some time to catch up =)))

:( Hi, Nefariouslash, good to have you here


Thank you! See u in heathens)

Všlkommen Nefariouslash!!!

So many Swedes!  ;D

How many? saw just u'n me :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on April 24, 2008, 01:26:42 AM
Miss Lash, there are lots of us!  Except I'm a pseudo-Swede (American, but been here for over 10 years).

Check your pms.........  ;)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on April 24, 2008, 01:32:08 AM

Všlkommen Nefariouslash!!!

So many Swedes!  ;D

How many? saw just u'n me :)

Všlkommen Julia!

So nice to meet you!

(((((((((((( Hugs ))))))))))
Mia
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on April 24, 2008, 01:38:48 AM
Look there - a REAL Swede! 

 ;D :D :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: desertrat on April 24, 2008, 02:10:48 AM
another enthusiastic HELLO, Julia!  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nefariouslash on April 24, 2008, 03:56:09 AM
Miss Lash, there are lots of us!  Except I'm a pseudo-Swede (American, but been here for over 10 years).

Check your pms.........  ;)

Hehe, I am in this case a pseudo-...too ;) ukrainian/polish/german but've lived in Sthm for 7 years  >:D

the jobb is harsh on me, damn, still didn't check..'ll be after lunch fer sure 8)))

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Nefariouslash on April 24, 2008, 03:58:17 AM

Všlkommen Julia!

So nice to meet you!

(((((((((((( Hugs ))))))))))
Mia

Me too! Scouted yer yesterday and added to buddys right away :D
kram
Julia

desertrat

hugs, dear :]]]
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on April 28, 2008, 01:05:15 PM
Hi Julia,
WELCOME !!!!!!!!!!!   I hope you will spend happy hours here,
chucky v
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: summer63 on June 05, 2008, 04:26:00 PM
This is the thread for new members to introduce themselves.

Welcome to our wonderful community! We are glad you found us!

Hi.. this is my first posting here..
I'm so grateful to find this site. I enjoyed so much ( like the movie )...thread by thread.
The day I found this site...I rushed to order the book Beyond Brokeback.
Now I'm waiting for the poem book...sure I will be the first to order.

btw I live in salt Lake City...anyone here???
Any event with this forum in Salt lake??
Thanks
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on June 05, 2008, 04:36:22 PM
Hello, Summer! And welcome to the Forum!

I hope that you enjoy yourself here. There is one person here who lives in the eastern part of Utah, Osprey is his screen name, but I don't know of anyone who lives in Salt Lake.

Hope you have a chance to look around, and do post in any thread that you find interesting. If you should want to send a message to anyone personally, please realize that you have to have five posts under your belt before you can do this.

Again, welcome!

Fritz

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on June 05, 2008, 04:52:03 PM
Oh, and a good place to start, if you don't have any plans yet, is the original "How Brokeback Affected Me" thread.

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.0

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on June 05, 2008, 05:25:05 PM
welcome Summer63  :) nice name BTW.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on June 05, 2008, 08:51:45 PM
Welcome Summer!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: summer63 on June 06, 2008, 01:39:19 AM
Oh, and a good place to start, if you don't have any plans yet, is the original "How Brokeback Affected Me" thread.

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=101.0



Thanks.
I just posted at that continuing thread too.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: summer63 on June 06, 2008, 01:42:04 AM
welcome Summer63  :) nice name BTW.

Thanks.
about the name..just want to imagine that time just stop at that time..then our boys only have their good time on brokeback mountain.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on June 06, 2008, 01:53:38 AM

Bienvenue summer63!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Tammy on June 06, 2008, 03:48:28 AM
Welcome Summer63!!!  So nice to have you here.  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on June 06, 2008, 07:55:25 AM
Welcome Summer63!

cool name!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on June 06, 2008, 12:03:57 PM
Welcome Summer63, glad to have you here!  :) :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on June 06, 2008, 12:18:32 PM
welcome Summer63  :) nice name BTW.

Thanks.
about the name..just want to imagine that time just stop at that time..then our boys only have their good time on brokeback mountain.
I know what you mean... my name is a about that too.

(((Summer63))) look forward to seeing you around the forum
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: am on August 03, 2008, 03:17:47 PM
Howdy, I have just seen BBM 2 weeks ago and I am fully hooked!  And I love this forum!  Every time I am on I am discovering new threads!!  Jake's Eyelashes!!!  Man, this is unreal....I had to step away from the computer a few times and cool down!  You all have come together and developed something very special that I am thrilled that I have discovered... of course along with discovering the beauty of BBM which in itself has touched my soul......This forum really brings it all together.... :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ingmarnicebbmt on August 03, 2008, 04:19:19 PM

Hi & welcome am!  ;)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on August 03, 2008, 09:08:13 PM
I hafta ask, Am, did you see our movie from DVD or on Bravo?

Welcome home!!!

Rob
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: am on August 04, 2008, 05:46:22 AM
Well, I saw it first on Bravo...by accident, of course, must have been fate.  Just had turned on the tube to look at some pics on the camera and saw Heath and Jake talking around the fire, and haven't looked back since!  I loved every minute, then went out to buy the DVD later in the day and watched it feverishly that night!  I have seen the movie, or parts of it so many times in the past 2 weeks...it's nuts.  I listen to it in my car...and tear up just hearing that first note....I bought the book which have been reading almost daily along with spending lots of time on this forum!!

I have been so moved by this story, it's characters...it's beyond words.  I just know it feels good!  :D

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on August 04, 2008, 08:41:34 AM
You're sounding like so many here... "saw the movie once, had to go back to the theater to see it again... and again... and again." I'm thinking all of us here were where you are now at one time.

I saw the movie at the theater about 25 times when it first came out. Have seen it another 50 times or so on DVD.

It changed my life in so many ways!

It's so nice when newbie's drop in. Brings back such sweet, sometimes sad memories!

 :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on August 04, 2008, 09:47:43 AM
Welcome Summer63, and welcome again Am!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on August 04, 2008, 01:44:14 PM
Well, I saw it first on Bravo...by accident, of course, must have been fate.  Just had turned on the tube to look at some pics on the camera and saw Heath and Jake talking around the fire, and haven't looked back since!  I loved every minute, then went out to buy the DVD later in the day and watched it feverishly that night!  I have seen the movie, or parts of it so many times in the past 2 weeks...it's nuts.  I listen to it in my car...and tear up just hearing that first note....I bought the book which have been reading almost daily along with spending lots of time on this forum!!

I have been so moved by this story, it's characters...it's beyond words.  I just know it feels good!  :D



welcome Am
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on August 04, 2008, 03:36:53 PM
Welcome am!  You are among friends here.  We have all been where you are.  Looking forward to hearing more from you!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on August 04, 2008, 04:58:52 PM
hey am! good to have you here :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: RossInIlinois on September 05, 2008, 09:29:12 AM
Hi All, my name is Ross I live in the Chicago burbs and I worked on Broke Back Mountain in Canada and in the US in 2004.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Rob in Puyallup on September 05, 2008, 09:30:05 AM
Welcome, Ross!

How did you work with Brokeback?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on September 05, 2008, 09:34:00 AM
Hello Ross!

Welcome to Dave Cullen Forum!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on September 05, 2008, 09:40:07 AM
Welcome to the forum Ross!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on September 05, 2008, 10:00:40 AM
Welcome Ross!

Good to meet you here! :)

Mia (from Sweden)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: RossInIlinois on September 05, 2008, 10:26:00 AM
Welcome, Ross!

How did you work with Brokeback?

Medical/Safety advisor
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MountainMouse on September 05, 2008, 11:30:41 AM
Warm welcome, Ross!
Hope you like it here and stay awhile.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on September 05, 2008, 11:35:16 AM
Hi All, my name is Ross I live in the Chicago burbs and I worked on Broke Back Mountain in Canada and in the US in 2004.

Holy shit....where in Chicago?....I live in Niles ;D

and Welcome....by the way  :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: RossInIlinois on September 05, 2008, 11:46:09 AM
Hi All, my name is Ross I live in the Chicago burbs and I worked on Broke Back Mountain in Canada and in the US in 2004.

Holy shit....where in Chicago?....I live in Niles ;D

and Welcome....by the way  :D

Downers Grove
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: mcnell1120 on September 05, 2008, 12:20:35 PM
Hi All, my name is Ross I live in the Chicago burbs and I worked on Broke Back Mountain in Canada and in the US in 2004.

Holy shit....where in Chicago?....I live in Niles ;D

and Welcome....by the way  :D

Downers Grove

Oh wow,that's great...about 45 min away from me. It's nice to see someone from Illinois! ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on September 05, 2008, 12:28:01 PM
Welcome, Ross!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: RossInIlinois on September 05, 2008, 02:02:24 PM
Hi Everyone!  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on September 05, 2008, 02:14:22 PM
howdy ross !  any great on set stories?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on September 05, 2008, 03:20:38 PM
Hi Ross, and welcome to the forum! 

Sue
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on September 13, 2008, 04:06:57 PM
Hi Ross and welcome to the forum!

Great to have you here!

Would be interesting to hear it if you one day feel like sharing some stories from the filming of the movie......
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on October 07, 2008, 02:49:22 PM
Medical/Safety advisor

Welcome, Ross!

I can see how they might have needed that kind of advice for some of those scenes.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on October 08, 2008, 03:15:53 AM
hi ross did you help michelle when she hurt her ankle?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on October 09, 2008, 03:54:46 AM
Welcome to the forum Fatima!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Veum on October 30, 2008, 01:16:50 PM
Hello there-

My name is Ashlee and I didn't really stumble on this website by accident. A very good friend of my dad's who I guess you all know pretty well gave me a business card a few weeks back when my dad passed away. It's weird to type that out, but it's indeed what happened.

I'll freely admit that I was never a major BBM fan. I mean I think the movie is great, (I haven't read the short story) I can appreciate the material presented in it, and identify that it's a vital love story that needed to be told. I just mean I never would have even realized the impact it had. 

I've been reading these boards for a few days, absorbing stories, feelings, opinions - life.  In doing so I'm a bit sad that my dad never posted. I know that John told him about the forum, because I remember my dad mentioning it, but I assure you he would have had plenty to comment on :)  My dad loved BBM. He called me after he had seen it with John and told me I had to go watch it. We were going to watch it together. When I flew home for the funeral arrangements and things, I walked into his house and there above his bed was a BBM poster. It broke my heart a little, but I'm glad he had something up that reminded him of the movie. My dad didn't always make the best choices but he was always real. That's something I admire about him. And it's something that rings true with BBM - the depth of it's realness.


Being born to a gay father and bisexual mother (although she never had said that specifically) I grew up pretty comfortable with the idea of sexuality and attractions to many types of people/genders. And I think that's really important. My dad died without a warning, but at least I can know they we communicated. I think that is something a lot of children of gay parents miss out on - because the parents themselves aren't ready. If I could encourage anyone about something, it would be to let your loved ones know about you and what's in your heart.

I realize I'm rambling - a side effect of my raging emotions these last few weeks. Just wanted to say thanks to John publicly, for always being around when I was a kid, always being a friend to my dad, and for introducing me to a board of really nice people. When I found out you were flying in from CA, I felt like it was for me and I can't tell you what it meant to me.  LY.

Ashlee

P.S. Oh yeah, in case you wonder :) I'm 27 originally from Bay City, Michigan but now living in Florida - I live with my boyfriend Doug - and I am a self professed tree loving hippy LOL   GO GREEN =] (And again, sorry for the retardedly long first post - I'm a writer and it gets the best of me often.)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on October 30, 2008, 01:22:29 PM
Welcome to the Dave Cullen Forum, Ashley!


It's good to have you here.

I'm sorry for the loss of your father.  Sending thoughts and prayers out to you and your family.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Veum on October 30, 2008, 01:33:37 PM
Welcome to the Dave Cullen Forum, Ashley!


AshleE** (yes, the E is EXTREMELY important)  :P

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on October 30, 2008, 01:46:14 PM
Ooops!

Sorry! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on October 30, 2008, 01:59:31 PM
Welcome to the forum AshleE

I don't know if you heard about the similarities between the BBM and Titanic movie posters.

Quote
"When it came time to design the poster for the film, [co-president of Focus Features and frequent Lee collaborator James] Schamus didnít research posters of famous Westerns for ideas. He looked at the posters of the 50 most romantic movies ever made. 'If you look at our poster,' he says, 'you can see traces of our inspiration, 'Titanic'.'"


(http://i275.photobucket.com/albums/jj282/SanFranciscoJohn/titanicbrokebackmountain.jpg)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on October 30, 2008, 02:06:11 PM
Ashlee

I posted a pic of your dad from around 1978 here:

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=30261.msg1419308#msg1419308 (http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=30261.msg1419308#msg1419308)

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Veum on October 30, 2008, 02:18:58 PM
Did you ever end up beating me with views of Titanic/BBM?

Wow thanks for the picture, I've never seen that one. <3
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on October 30, 2008, 02:25:14 PM
Did you ever end up beating me with views of Titanic/BBM?

Wow thanks for the picture, I've never seen that one. <3

I've seen BBM 40 times in theaters, and several times on DVD.

The last time I saw it was August 4 in Los Angeles at the Samuel Goldwyn Theater in Beverly Hills. This is the Academy's (AMPAS) theater.

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=27940.0 (http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=27940.0)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on October 30, 2008, 02:32:32 PM
Ashlee (and all other new members)

You might want to watch this little video when you get the chance.

This is an a/v of a post made by Boris back in Feb 2006.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZfyMsGz6WLU (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZfyMsGz6WLU)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on October 30, 2008, 03:29:56 PM
Welcome to the Forum, Ashlee! I'm sure you'll find lots of people to chat with online here. I'm sorry to hear about your dad, I know that he and John were good friends. Please make yourself at home here, read what you want, and post whenever you feel like it, no pressure at all.

Again, welcome, and we're glad that you're here with us!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on October 30, 2008, 04:06:44 PM
Welcome Ashlee!

And I'm very sorry about the loss of your father.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on October 30, 2008, 04:40:47 PM
ashlee...

i never met your father, but anyone who was special to john would have been special to me, i am sure.  i also suspect we would have had a great deal in common.  i know i found here a community of men of many ages who had shared many of my life experiences, some of which appeared right up there on the silver screen in the characters of jack and ennis.  unlike them, and unlike your dad, i never had children to see grow up and grow strong, so i take comfort in the children of others like yourself, especially knowing they will, in their openmindedness, make this a better world for me, and for their own gay children and friends.

i think what is special about the movie and the short story is finally seeing one's truth up their on that screen, an experience that neither your father nor i had had until that moment.  when you go to a movie, at least some of the time you can see yourself, or your relationship, in the characters, and that is something most straight folk take for granted.  much the same can be said about race as portrayed in movies.  it has only been recently that ANY movies with persons of color SOMETIMES have a character that isn't a blatant racial stereotype.

i hope someday you WILL read that short story. it is far bleaker than the movie, and in some ways portrays another version, some would say a closer version, of a truth we know.  what they makers of the movie did, was, without softening the tragedy, open the door, just a crack, for hope for a better future.  it would be interesting to hear your take on it.

welcome to our community, and i hope you will spend some time here.  in many ways it will allow you to be spending more time with your dad, as you will find bits of him in all of us.

jack   
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lawgoddess on October 30, 2008, 04:48:25 PM
Ashlee, welcome!

I was born and raised in Bay City myself, on Cass Avenue in the South End. My parents and one of my brothers still live there.

I am so sorry about the loss of your dad, but it sounds like he knew how much  you loved him, and I hope that's a comfort to you.

I think everyone who arrives at this forum is here because of some sort of pain. I hope you will find some threads you enjoy.

If you ever want fanfiction recommendations, just PM me.

Again, welcome. :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on November 03, 2008, 11:53:13 AM
What a lovely welcome,Jack. You said it all.
Welcome,Ashlee.Enjoy.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on November 13, 2008, 07:54:53 AM
welcome to the forum ObeOro!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cate1970 on November 25, 2008, 01:44:18 PM
hi all,

cat here.  was tooling around the internet looking for a site where i could chat with folks (read: whine endlessly) about being housebound with a broken ankle.  i googled, dave cullen 'answered.' i posted on that thread, and am glad i found you.  a lot of very thoughtful, heartbreaking, and inspiring stuff going on here.  words sometimes do bleed.  i'm going to my first aa meeting tonight in some time (prompted in large part by the fallout from getting completely smashed and breaking said ankle) and, even though you don't know it, many of you, and the things you have written about are helping to maintain my courage.  i found you for a reason, and i know i won't spend the next few hours trolling for excuses about why i really don't need to go.

my heartfelt thanks,

catherine
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: BayCityJohn on November 25, 2008, 01:55:37 PM
Hi Catherine

Welcome to the forum!  :)

sorry about your ankle  :(
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on November 25, 2008, 02:54:15 PM
Welcome Catherine! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on November 25, 2008, 02:56:06 PM
Hey Catherine!

Very welcome to the forum. Keep the courage.

I think we all found each other for a reason.

((((( Hugs )))))
Mia
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cate1970 on November 25, 2008, 02:58:30 PM
hi ashlee,

i, too, am sorry to hear about your dad.  it's not for me to define other people's sexuality, but i think i can safely say my father is gay or bi.  over the years, when i was living at home, i walked in on some compromising situations.  i tried to talk to him about it, but he would have none of it.  he was not is not gay or bi, no way, no how.  i haven't spoken with him in ten years; largely because i didn't appreciate him being less than honest about this with my mom, and later, his second wife.  of course, it's not my place to say anything, and i never would.  but i am recalling my own reaction to BBM, or a part of it.  we are all human, and all flawed: how reasonable is it of me to expect a 75 year old man to admit he's gay or bi to himself, let alone anyone else?  the movie made me realize that it's far more complesx than i wished it was.  i also remember thinking i'd pick up the phone and give him a call.  he was not and is not well.  years on, and i still haven't called.  advice?
thanks,
cat
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: cate1970 on November 25, 2008, 03:03:31 PM
thanks for the warm greetings.  reading and posting on here is thoroughly fulfilling. 

hugs back,
cat
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on November 26, 2008, 06:58:46 PM
hi ashlee,

i, too, am sorry to hear about your dad.  it's not for me to define other people's sexuality, but i think i can safely say my father is gay or bi.  over the years, when i was living at home, i walked in on some compromising situations.  i tried to talk to him about it, but he would have none of it.  he was not is not gay or bi, no way, no how.  i haven't spoken with him in ten years; largely because i didn't appreciate him being less than honest about this with my mom, and later, his second wife.  of course, it's not my place to say anything, and i never would.  but i am recalling my own reaction to BBM, or a part of it.  we are all human, and all flawed: how reasonable is it of me to expect a 75 year old man to admit he's gay or bi to himself, let alone anyone else?  the movie made me realize that it's far more complesx than i wished it was.  i also remember thinking i'd pick up the phone and give him a call.  he was not and is not well.  years on, and i still haven't called.  advice?
thanks,
cat

Hi Cate, and welcome. He's 75. Pick up the phone. What have you got to lose? Nothing. What have you got to gain? You'll never know until you try. Good luck with everything in your life, and stay around.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on November 27, 2008, 01:00:52 AM
call cat, don't judge what you couldn't possibly understand.  if jack and ennis were real and alive, they would only be 65, can you imagine what kind of climate your father grew up in, and what kind of self loathing that might have installed?  i don't think so.  many of us do, and it is indeed tragic when it is too late for help to arrive.  at least your dad could know you accept him no matter how flawed.

jack 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: andy/Claude on November 27, 2008, 01:15:08 PM
Hello Cat,
This seems like as good a time as any, this thanksgiving w/e to make that call. I second Jack and Marian's words. Just don't expect to right too much in one go but do please make the call. Nothing ventured.... as they say. :)

Andy.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on November 27, 2008, 02:40:17 PM
Cat, call him.  Like Andy said, nothing ventured.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on November 28, 2008, 01:10:06 PM
Cat, call him.  Like Andy said, nothing ventured.

I agree.......... make the call.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on November 30, 2008, 09:28:51 AM
Hi Cat, and welcome to the forum.

If it's difficult for you to make that call, maybe because you don't know what to expect and are afraid of it, maybe you could write him a letter instead. It doesn't have to be long or elaborate, just letting him know you want contact with him and asking if that's ok.....

If he has any kind of feelings for his daughter, I'm sure he won't hesitate to answer you....

As others have said, you don't know what he's been through, and if you don't take the first step now, maybe none of you ever will.....

Good luck!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ObeOro on December 14, 2008, 06:13:40 AM
Whoops, I've been around for, like, one month and I just noticed that there was this place for new members to introduce themselves!  :D

Well, right now it seems to me that I could be broadly categorized as a Rather Conservative Younger Woman (at least that's what I thought of myself prior to seeing the movie). Studying medicine (and that's what I've been doing for the last 6 years and all these years I've been totally concentrated on other people rather than myself) may have been a factor that shaped my personality and made me, paradoxically, less emotional. And then in November I saw Brokeback Mountain to which I was totally unprepared, neither emotionally nor in any other way. That is, I never thought that a film or any work of art could really change my way of thinking the way BBM did. For about two weeks I didn't really want to talk to anybody or go to work partly because it all seemed so bleak and imperfect compared to the powerful experience I got from the film and partly because I started to realize that I wasn't the same. Especially, the movie helped me to find a meaning of an unhappy, but strong relationship I had had years ago and which I had been trying to erase from my memory. It's not that the memories became less painful to me, it's just that I had finally courage to accept it as a part of my life.

It's really nice to be here, thanks for listening ;)         
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on December 14, 2008, 06:25:45 AM
Whoops, I've been around for, like, one month and I just noticed that there was this place for new members to introduce themselves!  :D

Well, right now it seems to me that I could be broadly categorized as a Rather Conservative Younger Woman (at least that's what I thought of myself prior to seeing the movie). Studying medicine (and that's what I've been doing for the last 6 years and all these years I've been totally concentrated on other people rather than myself) may have been a factor that shaped my personality and made me, paradoxically, less emotional. And then in November I saw Brokeback Mountain to which I was totally unprepared, neither emotionally nor in any other way. That is, I never thought that a film or any work of art could really change my way of thinking the way BBM did. For about two weeks I didn't really want to talk to anybody or go to work partly because it all seemed so bleak and imperfect compared to the powerful experience I got from the film and partly because I started to realize that I wasn't the same. Especially, the movie helped me to find a meaning of an unhappy, but strong relationship I had had years ago and which I had been trying to erase from my memory. It's not that the memories became less painful to me, it's just that I had finally courage to accept it as a part of my life.

It's really nice to be here, thanks for listening ;)         

Nice to meet you here at the forum! And to get to know a little more about you.
Thanks for talking!   ;)

Hope to meet you many more times in threads.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ObeOro ))))))))))))))))))))))))

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on December 14, 2008, 07:45:36 AM
Welcome (((((((((((((((ObeOro)))))))))))))))))) !


It is nice to see you here! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: ObeOro on December 14, 2008, 07:56:00 AM
Thanks for welcomes  ;)

As to meeting me in other threads, I'm at the Lashes most often  ;D 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on December 14, 2008, 01:26:30 PM
Welcome (((((((((( ObeOro ))))))))))))

Thanks for sharing. I always find it fascinating to hear the multitude of different ways this wonderful film has affected us.

So many different ways, but we have in commong that we are somehow changed by this powerful experience, and I still don't

understand how "just" a film can bring that about! It's a mystery.....

I'm sure you'll find likeminded people here on the forum.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: brokeinpublic on December 24, 2008, 03:04:24 PM
This is my first post here. I love the movie and read Beyond Brokeback recently (wow!) and felt like I should start participating.

SoÖIím Eric. Iím 24, grew up in Ohio, and am currently a graduate student.

Iíve got a question:

I know that members have gotten together to hang out on various occasions, but Iím curious about whether or not what drew you to the forums initially had something to do with the anonymity offered by the internet and non-face-to-face discussion? Since some of the posts here are so personal, Iím wondering about the motivation behind sharing them here; why you all chose to share your moving stories here rather than somewhere else, or with someone else? (Did you not have anywhere else to go? Anyone to talk to?).
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on December 24, 2008, 03:17:11 PM
Hi Eric, and welcome. Good question. It's already Christmas Day where I am so this won't be a long reply.

I can't speak for others but my own experience is that the anonymity of a forum (and subsequent PMs and emails) can be very helpful. I think so much of this openness which is fostered here comes from knowing through experience that others can be trusted, that the sky does not fall in if I say something which I might have thought was a bit too revealing.

Plus, I think the inspiration for all this - BBM - is an example of two people who never get to say what they should. As Annie Proulx writes, "The years of things unsaid and now unsayable rose around them." We all have things that we should have said in the past. BBM has helped many of us to find a way of saying the important things right now.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Flyboy on December 24, 2008, 03:19:04 PM
Hi Eric, and welcome to DCF. I think your questions are valid and will probably illicit many different responses. I cannot speak for the others, but for me? I lurked here for 18 months (!) before I finally joined. I was fascinated by the stories, and connections people made through this forum. The Book had far, far more impact on me than the film. Which sorta put me in the minority here, I saw the film three times trying to get that emotional 'gut-punch' everyone seems to have felt. I never did. I admired all the performances in BBM, the actors did a great job, every one. But I am drawn to the written word, a film just cannot 'reach' me the way words can...............

anyway, I hope you generate some answers to your questions, I'm sure you will. It is the Holiday Season though, so some responses may be late in coming.............on that note, Happy Holidays to you and yours, and best wishes for the new Year!
Stay with us, you will find warm, caring, intelligent folks here.

take care now............Jonn
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on December 24, 2008, 03:28:51 PM
Another thought crossed my mind about your question, Eric. One of the benefits of not being face to face with people is that there are usually not so many preconceptions about the person/s we are addressing. The (seemingly) most unlikely alliances spring up around here because of that initial step into the unknown. It's a soul-to-soul thing. We can communicate before we are aware that the person whom we are addressing is a straight man/bisexual young woman/elderly gay man/whatever else. This isn't always the case, of course, but often it is. Or we are drawn to someone's story and find a connection there even though it in no obvious way reflects our own. It's a great learning experience, and one which most forum members have grabbed with both hands, I think.

Thanks for giving my brain cells a stir this morning  :)
Marian
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on December 24, 2008, 05:36:42 PM
I know that members have gotten together to hang out on various occasions, but Iím curious about whether or not what drew you to the forums initially had something to do with the anonymity offered by the internet and non-face-to-face discussion? Since some of the posts here are so personal, Iím wondering about the motivation behind sharing them here; why you all chose to share your moving stories here rather than somewhere else, or with someone else? (Did you not have anywhere else to go? Anyone to talk to?).


Welcome to the Forum, Eric!  What a great first post!

In my case, the original reason I joined was to better understand the film BBM.  I didn't post anything personal at first.  So I was just seeking information in a rather abstract way, and didn't really think about the advantage or disadvantage of anonymity.  It wasn't so much my story that I initially shared as my reactions to the film; but yes, I chose this location because I didn't have any other good place to go, or anyone in real life that I could talk to about why I felt so moved by BBM.  (And it was hard for me to tell a lot of people that I had even gone to see this "gay cowboy movie," as it was being called then in the jokes.)

Eventually, I did begin sharing more of my own feelings online, and talking about my personal experiences.  Gradually, I began to feel more comfortable with the people I interacted with on a daily basis -- more trusting.  But you do have to be a little on guard, just as in real life.  You don't really know who you're talking to until you have crossed that boundary and met someone in person, or exchanged a lot of one-on-one PMs or emails.   

In the beginning, I did feel somewhat protected by the anonymity of choosing a screen name that no one could associate with me.  My best friend had heard stories about people meeting strangers on the Internet and then having something bad happen to them if they connected in real life, so he warned me not to give many details about where I lived, my background, etc. -- anything that could be traced.  Even when I went to my first local get-together, this friend advised me not to reveal the city/county where I live, for example.  I think now that this was a little paranoid, and I've posted quite a few personal details online, as well as meeting a lot of people in person.  By the time you've spent time with people, it's just like any other set of relationships; you develop a gut feeling about whether or not what you're saying is too revealing.

A lot of people feel that they want to remain anonymous at first, and won't post their picture.  But eventually, many of them give in and do so, using their own picture in their avatar.  I think this is just another example of how they have come to trust the other people here on the Forum. 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on December 25, 2008, 08:50:28 AM
Welcome to the forum Eric!  Please keep on posting, I'm sure you'll find friends and likeminded people here.

My personal answers to your questions is that my initial reason to share my feelings on the forum was what you suggested: I had nowhere else to do it. Noone I knew in RL had experienced even a shadow of what I felt re BBM, and I didn't want to reveal myself to them, it was far too personal. Not only that, I very much needed to hear from other people that they had the same experience and feelings as I had. That the forum was anonymous I think helped me in this in the beginning, I knew that what I shared couldn't possibly be traced back to me. But the biggest help for me to open up about my feelings was seeing that everyone else here did just that, and their openness and honesty helped me in gaining trust to open up and share.

What Marian says, about communicating soul to soul, rings very true to me too. This film has touched our souls, our very core, and the communication on this forum doesn't need personal specifics to be honest and reach deep within us.

After attending a few gatherings and meeting with people in person, I no longer feel the need to be anonymous to fellow brokies. I can share openly to people on the forum, whether I met them in person or not, and I no longer hesitate to give out my phone number or adress if needed once I've established a relationship here on the forum. I trust people here.

The reason I don't have my picture as an avatar is no longer the need to be anonymous to people here, it's more for fear that someone I know in RL will for some reason find the forum and recognize me. Since I'm very personal here in some posts, I don't want that to happen. I don't want people in my RL to know things about me that I haven't chosen to share specifically with them. I also have a job in public health service and meet a lot of patients. I especially don't want them to know personal things about me.

Happy Holidays to you Eric, and I hope to see more of your posts here.

Sonja
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on January 09, 2009, 06:17:25 AM
This is my first post here. I love the movie and read Beyond Brokeback recently (wow!) and felt like I should start participating.

SoÖIím Eric. Iím 24, grew up in Ohio, and am currently a graduate student.

Iíve got a question:

I know that members have gotten together to hang out on various occasions, but Iím curious about whether or not what drew you to the forums initially had something to do with the anonymity offered by the internet and non-face-to-face discussion? Since some of the posts here are so personal, Iím wondering about the motivation behind sharing them here; why you all chose to share your moving stories here rather than somewhere else, or with someone else? (Did you not have anywhere else to go? Anyone to talk to?).


Welcome to the forum and thank you for posting, Eric.

For me the anonymity was very important initially. The impact was so strong and I just didn't know how to talk about it with family or friends when it was new to me. I even felt stupid about it.... But after some time here, when I got to know other Brokies, it got easier. Now I don't have any problems talking about Brokeback Mountain or about the forum to anyone.

 :) :) :)
Mia
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: euphoricair on January 25, 2009, 04:31:36 PM
Hello everyone! My name is Sara, I'm italian, I'm thirty. This is my first post here...i've lurked for MONTHS around without writing nothing because my english isn't very good and I was afraid of filling every line with silly mistakes!!
Now I try... a lot of interesting stuff in this forum, I've become seriously obsessed.
I love you, folks!!!javascript:void(0);
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on January 25, 2009, 04:37:37 PM
Benvenuto al Foro, Sara!

Spero che Lei sarŗ felice qui!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on January 25, 2009, 04:50:58 PM
Welcome, Sara!  I understand your English just fine.

And I understood what Fritz wrote, even if I can't write Italian.  I hope you will be happy here, too.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: euphoricair on January 25, 2009, 05:17:40 PM
Grazie mille Fritzkep!! Davvero cortese!!

Thank you Dejavu for welcome!! ''emoticon kiss''
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Ministering angel on January 25, 2009, 05:21:21 PM
Hello everyone! My name is Sara, I'm italian, I'm thirty. This is my first post here...i've lurked for MONTHS around without writing nothing because my english isn't very good and I was afraid of filling every line with silly mistakes!!
Now I try... a lot of interesting stuff in this forum, I've become seriously obsessed.
I love you, folks!!!javascript:void(0);

Hi Sara. I'm so glad you have joined us. I love your name, euphoricair. Lovely.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sara B on January 26, 2009, 02:36:12 AM
Quote
Hello everyone! My name is Sara, I'm italian, I'm thirty


Ciao, Sara, benvenuta.  Io sono anche Sara (pronunciato Sarah), ma inglese - e molto piu vecchia di te!   

emoticon bacio= :-*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on January 26, 2009, 03:10:06 AM
Welcome to the forum, Sara!

And thank you so much for posting.

((((( Hugs )))))
Mia from Sweden
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: euphoricair on January 26, 2009, 03:22:43 AM
thanks Ministering Angel - I love your name too!
'There were only the two of them on the mountain flying in the euphoric, bitter air', this is my favorite quote. I've been obsessed with the movie for a while and now I'm obsessed with the short story.



Hi Sarah, io penso che dopo una certa etŗ si ritorna giovani!! (= I think at a certain age you become again young!). Can you speak italian?

I'm unable to writing-in emoticons!! (Why? My PC? Isn't its fault..)


Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: euphoricair on January 26, 2009, 03:23:15 AM
Thank you, Mia!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sara B on January 26, 2009, 03:35:19 AM
thanks Ministering Angel - I love your name too!
'There were only the two of them on the mountain flying in the euphoric, bitter air', this is my favorite quote. I've been obsessed with the movie for a while and now I'm obsessed with the short story.



Hi Sarah, io penso che dopo una certa etŗ si ritorna giovani!! (= I think at a certain age you become again young!). Can you speak italian?

I'm unable to writing-in emoticons!! (Why? My PC? Isn't its fault..)

Yes, I speak Italian, but not well enough to have deep discussions about Symbolism and Imagery etc :D.

Emoticons:  When you're writing your reply you just click on an emoticon in the list above - or does that not work for you? (Look at the Preview - it only shows as text where you write it)

Ad ogni modo, non mi sento vecchia ;D.

Sara (no H)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on January 26, 2009, 03:40:10 AM
Welcome to the forum Sara!

We're very happy that you have joined us!

Hugs,

Sue
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on January 26, 2009, 04:26:38 AM
Welcome Sara!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on January 27, 2009, 02:53:43 PM
Welcome to the forum Sara!

Glad you found us, and glad you started posting instead of just lurking!

I'm sure you'll find lots of things to post about.

And nevermind your English, many of us here are not native English speakers, and we all make mistakes!

Sonja
from Sweden
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on February 24, 2009, 03:48:52 AM
welcome LAN!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Aussie Bloke on February 27, 2009, 12:18:25 AM
Hi there everyone,

I was looking for the right topic space to put this on and figured the Sports fans might just do. And one of the members there suggested I also post it here so I am.

I am on long service leave from my job in Australia ( school teacher)  until July so I  am finally heading to the mighty USA for 6 weeks. It would be great to meet some of you as i travel around so here's my plans so far.

Land in San Francisco March 15th - want to get to Yosemite and see the Sequoias as well as get to Big Sur and Monterey. Then I'm heading south to Santa Barbara to visit an old Uni teacher who lives there. Then I want to hike down the Grand Canyon. Then I'm going to get to Denver and hire a car and head north to the Black Hills and maybe across Wyoming to yellowstone and the tetons if there's not too much snow still. Then on to Chicago. After a few days there i'll be heading to Indianapolis to meet an old pen friend.  From there to Washington and NYC. I am aiming to be in NYC about April 7th. I want to have about 2 weeks there. One thing i want to do there is go upstate to the site of the 1969 Woodstock Festival at Bethel, New York. Then head to Boston and the north east. I want to get out to Cape Cod for a couple of days and hopefully up to Maine. I also plan to visit Robert Frost's grave in Bennington, Vermont. I fly out of Boston on April 30th for London. Then I have two months there. Lucky me eh ?

I will be travelling on Amtrak mostly and staying in hostels. I am travelling alone and although I know I will have the greatest time once I get going, I am a little "toey' ie. nervous about it. So if any forum members live somewhere on that trail, it would be great to meet some of you for a few beers as i pass through. 

I dont have daily internet access at the moment so If i dont get back to you for a number of days that is why.
Cheers,
Bernie ( Aussie Bloke)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: dejavu on February 27, 2009, 08:05:56 AM
Welcome, Bernie.

It's possible that some of us could meet you in NYC, and there is another group which is based in Denver.

I'll let some other people comment on this.  I don't live in NYC myself, but might be able to come up if there is a meeting.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on February 27, 2009, 01:37:31 PM
Hey Bernie! Thanks for the PM! Looking forward to  meeting you!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: jack on March 02, 2009, 09:00:32 AM
too bad you haven't the florida everglades on your itinerary, bernie.  maybe next time.

the UK is ripe territory for brokies as well.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on March 02, 2009, 12:49:18 PM
welcome bernie
im Marz from the UK
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on March 02, 2009, 03:59:10 PM
Hey Bernie,

If you're planning to extend your English visit to Scandinavia (two months is a long time....) feel free to contact me. I live in Southern Sweden, and would be more than happy to meet you here.

(there are cheap flights from London to Copenhagen in Denmark, very close to where I live in Sweden)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: chuckyv on March 10, 2009, 01:19:12 AM
Hi there everyone,

I was looking for the right topic space to put this on and figured the Sports fans might just do. And one of the members there suggested I also post it here so I am.

I am on long service leave from my job in Australia ( school teacher)  until July so I  am finally heading to the mighty USA for 6 weeks. It would be great to meet some of you as i travel around so here's my plans so far.

Land in San Francisco March 15th - want to get to Yosemite and see the Sequoias as well as get to Big Sur and Monterey. Then I'm heading south to Santa Barbara to visit an old Uni teacher who lives there. Then I want to hike down the Grand Canyon. Then I'm going to get to Denver and hire a car and head north to the Black Hills and maybe across Wyoming to yellowstone and the tetons if there's not too much snow still. Then on to Chicago. After a few days there i'll be heading to Indianapolis to meet an old pen friend.  From there to Washington and NYC. I am aiming to be in NYC about April 7th. I want to have about 2 weeks there. One thing i want to do there is go upstate to the site of the 1969 Woodstock Festival at Bethel, New York. Then head to Boston and the north east. I want to get out to Cape Cod for a couple of days and hopefully up to Maine. I also plan to visit Robert Frost's grave in Bennington, Vermont. I fly out of Boston on April 30th for London. Then I have two months there. Lucky me eh ?

I will be travelling on Amtrak mostly and staying in hostels. I am travelling alone and although I know I will have the greatest time once I get going, I am a little "toey' ie. nervous about it. So if any forum members live somewhere on that trail, it would be great to meet some of you for a few beers as i pass through. 

I dont have daily internet access at the moment so If i dont get back to you for a number of days that is why.
Cheers,
Bernie ( Aussie Bloke)

Hi Bernie,
I see that you are planning a visit to the site of the original (not the corporate-sponsored wannabe event) 1969 Woodstock festival.If you are using public transport, take a bus from the Port Authority bus station in NYC,to Monticello.Then a bus from Monticello to Liberty, and a taxi to the site which is in Bethel.I hope you will find the site in a pristine condition as we saw it in December 2004. I heard that buliding work was planned for the valley but protests were then trying to stop the work proceeding. Feel the vibe! It's a special place.
Cheeres from Charles.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here - hi from Ireland
Post by: irisheyes on March 31, 2009, 10:27:48 AM
Just wanted to take the opportunity to say "hi" to everyone in this community. I only found the site recently and I've been so impressed with what I've seen. I've been blown away by the honesty and thoughtfulness of what I've read so far (I've a feeling this is the beginning of a long and intersting journey ...). I first saw BBM when it was released, then bought the DVD. It was shown on the BBC in UK/Ireland last weekend, which I guess will have opened up a lot more interest in it generally andcould lead to a growth in membership from this side of the pond.

I'm still processing my reaction to the film and would welcome the chance to discuss it in detail with anyone who's interested.

Regards.

Coz.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on March 31, 2009, 03:40:00 PM
Welcome here, irisheyes!

This is truly an amazing place and I'm sure you'll find many who would be happy to discuss the film.  We are always eager for new perspectives!

Enjoy your time here!

Looking forward to seeing you around the threads.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: fritzkep on March 31, 2009, 05:25:10 PM
Cťad mŪle fŠilte romhat, Coz!

Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on April 03, 2009, 03:43:44 PM
Welcome Coz!

If you go on this interesting journey, you will find that you're a part of a community where you will always be able to find someone to talk to about almost everything. And a lot of people are interested in discussing the film and the short story in detail!

This place is awesome, if you stay with us here you'll find kindred spirits and friends. Look around in the threads, and just jump in the discussion when you feel like it.

We're exited to get new members!

Feel free to ask anything you like, there will always be somebody answering you.

Hope to meet you in the threads!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lovelysmidge on April 06, 2009, 12:34:09 AM
Hi, hi! Jules, here, a.k.a. LovelySmidge! I was directed to this site by freshrainprince. I do seem to dwell in his opinion these days... And I'm loving every minute of it (Good advice, mind you)! Any who... I have a good two and a half hours until I need to get up to go to my courses, fortunately only one today, so instead of sleeping (which, god knows, I should be doing) I am acquainting myself with the forum! Besides, who needs sleep, right? It's totally for squares! Yeah, no, I'll be out after "The Study of Linguistics through Cultural Anthropology"... Hmm, might be asleep during it, truth be told...

So, anyways, hi and feel free to ignore my ridiculous ranting!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lovelyamazing on April 06, 2009, 12:37:44 AM
Hi, hi! Jules, here, a.k.a. LovelySmidge! I was directed to this site by freshrainprince. I do seem to dwell in his opinion these days... And I'm loving every minute of it (Good advice, mind you)! Any who... I have a good two and a half hours until I need to get up to go to my courses, fortunately only one today, so instead of sleeping (which, god knows, I should be doing) I am acquainting myself with the forum! Besides, who needs sleep, right? It's totally for squares! Yeah, no, I'll be out after "The Study of Linguistics through Cultural Anthropology"... Hmm, might be asleep during it, truth be told...

So, anyways, hi and feel free to ignore my ridiculous ranting!

The first welcome to Lovely has to be from Lovely.
Glad to meet you :) :)
I like what you're studying! Where are you located?
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on April 06, 2009, 01:27:50 AM
Very welcome here, Jules!

Thank you for posting! Hope to meet you again in threads.

 :) :) :)
Mia
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lovelysmidge on April 06, 2009, 06:00:53 AM
The first welcome to Lovely has to be from Lovely.
Glad to meet you :) :)
I like what you're studying! Where are you located?
Glad to meet you too!
I'm in Tallahassee, Florida at the moment.
Dying to leave though, truth be told.
It's a decently hard class. Sometimes I just want to throw class into the wind and change my major to art.
Hah, I wish...
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on April 06, 2009, 07:43:53 AM
Hello Jules!

Glad you found us!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Marz on April 06, 2009, 08:10:15 AM
welcome jules!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on April 06, 2009, 02:41:53 PM
Welcome to the forum Jules!

I'm glad freshrainprince directed you towards us, it's a wonderful place!!

Have a look around, there is so much going on here!

This might interest you, it's the slash thread, you have been mentioned there more than once... ;)

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=32220.new#new
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lovelysmidge on April 07, 2009, 04:50:20 AM
Hello, everyone!
I'm glad I found this place too!
Fun and lots of people to talk to!

Welcome to the forum Jules!

I'm glad freshrainprince directed you towards us, it's a wonderful place!!

Have a look around, there is so much going on here!

This might interest you, it's the slash thread, you have been mentioned there more than once... ;)

http://www.davecullen.com/forum/index.php?topic=32220.new#new
I thank Prince too, lots of fun here!

Were they good things?

Or should I go look through the whole thread to find the bad things people said? ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Uli on April 07, 2009, 04:55:04 AM
Hey Jules!!  :)

Only good things as far as I remember!  ;)  So, you can go there, you should be safe!  :D (although that might depend a little bit on the dick sizes you are giving the characters in your stories...  ::) :D   you will understand when you go there...)


Argh, I haven't been at home much, so I am so behind with everything you wrote...  :-\  But I am looking forward to catching up!

And I saw you started your story now?? Cool!  :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lovelysmidge on April 07, 2009, 07:30:53 AM
Oh good!

I saw that! The dick sizes will be ample on both parts.

But I do believe Heath will be taking it first... So, Jake's penis size will admired before Heath's.  :D

There's plenty there to read up on!

And yes, I have. It'll be a rough read, but it will have a happy ending!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Uli on April 07, 2009, 07:36:38 AM
Phew, you are lucky that you start with Jake! That might save your life...  :D

Rough read?? Sounds great!!!  :)


Ahem, this is terribly off-topic for here and I will be thrown off the thread very soon for sure...  :"> :D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on April 07, 2009, 05:05:15 PM
I thank Prince too, lots of fun here!

Were they good things?

Or should I go look through the whole thread to find the bad things people said? ;D

Oh no, don't do that!

They were indeed good things!

People thought highly of your writing!

Sad to say I haven't had time yet to read any of yours myself, but I will!

If you ask in the thread, someone might be able to direct you to the posts where you were mentioned.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: lovelysmidge on April 07, 2009, 07:43:01 PM
Oh no, don't do that!

They were indeed good things!

People thought highly of your writing!

Sad to say I haven't had time yet to read any of yours myself, but I will!

If you ask in the thread, someone might be able to direct you to the posts where you were mentioned.
Lol, no. That's okay! You say they are good things, I'll believe you!

You might not want to start with my latest creation, though. I'm getting a "people don't like this subject matter" vibe from it... Maybe I'm just paranoid.  :-\
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on April 08, 2009, 04:48:51 PM
I know what you mean, but I can't help you there I'm afraid.

I never read RPS, and don't follow the discussions on it.

Maybe we should take this conversation to the slash thread instead, that's where it belongs.


*expects a pat on the head from mods*
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: killersmom on April 08, 2009, 09:50:58 PM
Thanks Sonja!

That sounds like a very good idea!!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: MaineGirl on April 13, 2009, 08:31:33 PM
Welcome to the forum, Jules! 
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: markprobst on April 22, 2009, 04:40:39 PM
Hello Brokeback lovers,
I was directed to this forum by Elena who found me during the AmazonFail brouhaha. She told me that this community would be a receptive place to tell people about my gay Western novel. Anyway, I too am a fan of Annie Proulx's short story and the wonderful movie that came out of it through the efforts of Larry McMurtry, Diana Ossana, and Ang Lee. Even though the short story was written way back in 1997, I had not heard of it when I started writing "The Filly." I was in the middle of writing it (in 2004) when I heard about the movie being fillmed, so I rushed out and picked up the story, worried that it was going to be too similar to my book, but then was relieved that while it was a beautiful story in its own right, it was completely different from mine, which is a tribute to the old Hollywood Western movies. If anybody here has read "The Filly," I would certainly love to hear your thoughts, good or bad.

Mark R. Probst
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Miaisland on April 22, 2009, 04:46:13 PM
Welcome Mark R. Probst

Good to see you here!!!!!

 :) :) :) :) :) :)
Mia
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on April 22, 2009, 05:14:09 PM
Welcome Mark!

I will be honest, I had not heard of your book before.  However, when I ordered Dave's "Columbine" book, I also ordered "Filly".

I'm expecting them both soon.
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: markprobst on April 22, 2009, 08:09:22 PM
Thanks for the welcome Mia and CellarDweller.  And thank you for ordering the book, CellarDweller. I hope you enjoy it and don't feel buyer's remorse after you have read it  :">
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Sason on April 23, 2009, 10:27:54 AM
Welcome to the forum Mark!

I too haven't read your book, but I've put it on my to-read list, wich is already longer than from Europe to America...... ::) :)
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on April 25, 2009, 01:02:49 PM
Hiya Mark,

My copy of "The Filly" has arrived today, I'll be starting it soon!
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: Bayou on June 26, 2009, 05:11:34 PM
Hey ya'll!

My name is Brian and I'm from Louisiana.

Just wanted to introduce myself  ;D
Title: Re: New Members--Introduce Yourselves Here
Post by: CellarDweller115 on June 26, 2009, 05:18:24 PM
Hiya Bayou!  Welcome to the forum!

I'm Chuck.
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