Caring for others with chronic illnesses

[killersmom]

My mom shaved her head on Monday. We went shopping for a hat, found one too. She started her walking again. She is doing 1/2 a mile a day. Her goal is by next week 1 mile a day. She uses a walker with wheels for support. The only problem is that she is loosing weight and muscle mass. I told her to buy some 5lbs wights to exercise with.

later, Tom

Thanks for keeping us posted. Tom. I saw your lovely picture of your family on FB.
My prayers continue to be with your Mom, you and your family.

[Sara B]

Your mother is showing such strength and courage, Tom. Thoughts with you all.

[MaineGirl]

(((((Kathryn)))))

[MaineGirl]

(((((Tom)))))

[brokebacktom]

My younger brother is getting married on Friday Sept. 14th. One of my mother's last wishes. I might be starting a new job that week too. Working as a temp at Wells Fargo. Its not what I want, but it's something. Talk to my mother about this, she is very happy. She also thinks, shel'll make it  for the wedding. However, she indicated that she is going faster than she thought. Boy that was hard to deal with. I'm confused on what to do. Do I go or tell them I'll start after the wedding? I'm at the point of nervous breakdown.

[Tony_]

  Tom, my heart goes out to you.  I've been in the same place, too, as have others here, as well.  Try not to stress out, and, yes, I know that's not easy.  As for what to do, you are the only one who can make the choice, but am hoping you have more options (about the job, and income), and that you check with the prospective employer (carefully), and factor in just what you can handle and what you can't.
 We are always going to be here for you, and please be sure, it's not wrong to let us go along with you, week by week, or even day by day. I feel very strongly, myself, in wishing for the least possible hurt for you, and your loved ones.  Get as much rest as you can, when you can !

[janjo]

Tom

[Sason]

Hang in there (((Tom)))

There is only so much you can do, try not to strain yourself.

Easily said, I know. But you need to save some strength for yourself too.   

[brokebacktom]

About my mom. I knew she would go down hill after my brother's wedding 2 weeks ago. Words are in my step-father's voice.


There has been a big change here with Dee. This morning she is in a lot of pain so now I suppose we are going to have to go on some strong pain killers and see if that helps. It is so hard to see this wonderful woman go down like this. I just hope and pray the Lord takes her fast so she don't have to put up with this, and also myself. It is going to be hard after she passes I know that but she will not be in any pain and if that book (Heaven is for Real) is right she will be in a lot better place. We both believe in Heaven and have very big faith in God so that dose help a lot. Dee is ready to go at any minute and if she could have her way she would go this morning. Please pray she goes soon and fast. Going to get hold of Hospice and see what they are going to do.

[Sara B]

((((Tom)))

I'm so sorry.

[killersmom]

Dearest (((((Tom)))))

I am thinking so much of you and your Mom and family. Know that I am sending prayers for a peaceful final path for your Mom. I sent you an e-mail.

Much love to you, Tom and know that you have so many people here who love you.

[CellarDweller115]

Prayers for you and your family, Tom.

[fritzkep]

Prayers and thoughts for you and your family, Tom. Hospice care is wonderful, my mother is experiencing the home equivalent now. They don't prolong suffering but make the time that remains as comfortable as possible.

[Trigger Hippie]

Tom, I spent 7 years caring for my mother who had a continuously degenerating disease, while holding down a full-time job. There is nothing easy about it, particularly towards the end, but you know this. It is a very long grieving period.

There comes a time when they need to go, when they have had enough. It is not what those that remain behind want. Finding acceptance in that, doesn't make the loss any easier, however it does allow you to start thinking about yourself again.

It will be hard, all of it, but you must only do what you are able to do, try not to try for more than you can do. Remember yourself.

Your mother would want you to find a way forward, that is what you should do.

It does get better!

N.

[jack]

what nick said...