If you look in the upper left hand corner of my posts, you might notice that I don't use a little ♀ or ♂ identifier.
But it's not a secret.
If FTM had been one of the choices in the profile drop-down box, I would have picked it with pride.
Allow me to introduce myself with a quick timeline:
- August 1949 Born: "Congratulations, it's a beautiful little girl." "We'll name her Susan."
- February 1962 First period: "Mother, today I am a Woman!"
- September 1972 Married Richard
- September 1978 Came out (finally!), separated from Richard: "Call me Sid"
- January 1980 Started hormones
- September 1980 Moved to SF
- January 1983 Living full time as male
- some time in 1986? Divorced
- February 2006 Saw Brokeback Mountain
So what does transgender mean to me, personally? It's not anything I can say in just a few words. So I'll just write out a list of broad categories based on my personal experience with my own journey, and those I have met on the road.
There are people (surely the majority) who know who they are--male or female--and it matches the physical reality of their body, and they are entirely comfortable with it.
There are full-bore transsexuals: persons who have an innate, unshakable belief that they are truly a member of the sex that is opposite to the physical body that they were born with. This one is where I live.
There are transvestites: people who for any of numerous reasons spend part of their time dressed as the opposite sex. Even in my limited experience, this covers a lot of territory: gender, sex, self-expression, camp, theater, fetishism... Well, a lot of territory...
There are some whom I call gender-confused. There's a big difference between
wishing one was a member of the opposite sex, and
believing down to one's core that one really is a member of said sex. And it's all too easy for any of us to fall into the trap of thinking "Oh, if only I had/was
<fill in the blank>, my now-wretched life would be perfect!" Well, if only things were that simple!
There are androgynous people. They may have some of the physical characteristics of the opposite sex, such as a man with delicate features or a tall woman with broad shoulders. They may have some of the mannerisms of the opposite sex; a man might have a feminine speech pattern, or a woman might have a masculine stance. (Or vice-versa, of course.) They might dislike their androgyny, enjoy it, or be indifferent to it. Many--perhaps most--transsexuals are to some degree androgynous, due to hormonal influence during their childhood and puberty and/or early social conditioning that they still retain.
And there are the intersex. These people are born in a state of development that makes it difficult or impossible to make an immediate assessment of what sex this baby is. In the modern Western world, they are usually assigned to whichever sex seems most appropriate (or convenient), and treated with hormones, surgery, etc. to bring them closer to the "norm." As adults, some of them are pleased that this was done--others are not.
I intend to be a regular poster on this thread. I can't wait to see who else will be posting and what questions or comments or life experiences they will share.