OK…. I will try to give my answer to what I understand as the main question.
First of all, I think that society is NOT really accepting as it claims.
I have talked to people who say “Noooo, I have no problem with gays, everything is fine, they are humans just like us, they must have the same rights…”.
But of course when child adoption comes up, ooooh, that’s different! Those same people change their open-minded-version. They say “OK, we are fine with gays, but we don’t accept gays adopting a child!”
HOW CRAZY IS THAT?
And when I ask “why”, the answer is : “Because the child will get the WRONG examples”. “The child will become gay!” !!!
As if being gay is wrong, or a disease!
As if people BECOME gay, because of what their parents show them!
As for Jake… I personally don’t like it when people see a person on TV, or on the street, and point at him and say: “He is gay”.
I never saw anybody doing this with someone straight.
”Hey! Did you see that singer on stage? He is straight!”
So for me, commenting on only a gay’s sexuality in this way, is discriminative.
People who do that in front of me, do it for some specific reason.
For example, if one has a “girly voice”, they will say he is gay.
But this is labeling, and categorizing. Not only gays have “girly voices”.
Not all gays have “girly voices”. It is not bad for a MAN (gay or straight) to have a “girly voice”.
If someone sees a man with a girly voice, and wants to comment on that, then he should say “Look, this man has a girly voice”, and NOT “Look, that man is gay”.So calling someone gay because of his voice, his clothes, the way he moves his hands, the way he speaks, the way he laughs, the way he stands, is like saying that all gays do those same things, no straights (should)do those things, and for a man to do those things is bad, therefore we use the word “gay” as a bad word.
I hope I make any sense.
I have no problem discussing someone’s sexuality just because of curiosity. This is fine. Exaple: “Do you know if Jake is straight or gay?”. “I think he is gay”. ”Oh no! Any chances that he might be a bi? I was planning to make a move…”