But in the end, we do know there were some restrictions, however much we disagree over the details. I can't agree that 19 year olds wouldn't talk about sex - quite the opposite in my experience - they're usually obsessed with it! But whatever other 19 year olds do (and I'd suggest that 19 year olds who will have a sexual relationship without ever acknowledging it verbally are showing some sort of repression or restriction, like Ennis) we're still being told that these two didn't - that that restriction was there - that Brokeback did not give them free rein to do whatever they liked.
Yes, either CSI or MinAngel brought out the brilliant point that they talked about lots of things--but NOT girls. I think that almost from the get-go there was a sexual tension between them and they instinctively understood the subject was dangerous. Perhaps--who knows--they played along with other guys, swapping lies and talking dirty about girls they knew, but I think with each other, all alone, they steered clear of a natural subject.
It cannot be argued that story Ennis and Jack did not speak during sex or about sex. I think it's interesting to consider that
at the time, maybe Jack didn't want to either. We ASSUME he did--but why? Because of Jake's performance? Maybe given his druthers, he would have preferred to talk, but with "I ain't no queer," he knows for sure if he wants the sex to continue, he'd better leave it alone. But really, one of the other really important things we never know is how Jack felt about being gay. We don't KNOW that he was cool with it, we only KNOW that he didn't let it get in the way of having gay experiences other than Ennis, so we make that assumption, and I think that's a pretty safe one. But how did he feel at 19, having his first sexual experience with another man, certainly his first full-on sex? (Most agree, even if they believe he'd had some M/M experience, that he was a virgin.) I would say a combination of exhilarated and scared. Wouldn't he have had to be scared? He didn't have an Earl in his past, but he'd sure heard plenty of derogatory remarks about queers by that time, heard other boys call each other queer as an insult, maybe been called that because he was small, if for no other reason. He wanted to get it right, but here he was doing something else wrong. So maybe he was perfectly happy to go along with the silence thing as long as he hadn't sorted out his own feelings yet.
PS. All right, this is a little unlikely, I admit--but for the sake of discussion: this is Ennis' story, is it not? Except for the DE and the two revelations about Jack having sex w/other men, we agree that it can be read essentially as him remembering their lives. So is it just possible that the "not a goddamned word" is Ennis, and not Jack or AP? It is a striking phrase, so emotional amidst all the dry, spare writing. It's intrusive. Her descriptions of weather are lurid, but do not pass a judgement; that phrase does. So is it Ennis, regretting? I know--VERY unlikely. But the thought struck me just now, so I throw it out to you all. More likely that it's a little authorial self-indulgence.