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Offline Ellen (tellyouwhat)

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Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« on: August 24, 2011, 08:37:56 PM »
Friends,

I am sad to make this post -- our member Dal, who participated in our book clubs and righteously moderated the awesome "Scenes" threads, including Symbolism and Imagery, has passed on.  

My first encounter with him was in 2006 when he sent me a caring PM because I posted about a loss of a family member.  Since then we have participated together in the book clubs, and discussed Annie Proulx's writing in the Close Range thread and Postcards.  

He lived in Philadelphia, where he worked as a medical doctor.  When he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer early this year, he moved to Dallas, his home town, to be near his mother.  Coincidentally,  I live here too.

When we first got together to talk, I finally realized that "DAL" is the symbol for the airport at Dallas Love Field.  Also, I learned that Dal graduated from Richardson High School, where my own son now is a sophomore.

Dal moved here to be close to his mother, but that meant he was separated from his friends in Philadelphia.  In person, he was the most easy- going and practical man you would ever want to meet.  Also, humorous, charming, and lovable.

Over the past few months I have had the privilege of sharing movies and museum exhibits with Dal.  I always let him choose, except for the Genghis Khan exhibit (see picture below) which I really wanted to see, and he enjoyed it immensely.

He loved Art, with a capital A. In his last weeks, he was creating art to try and express his feelings about what he was experiencing.

Back in June, he called me to tell me Charlotte (RoyandRonnie) was coming to visit, and the three of us got together during her few hours between planes to look at exciting pictures of her trip to the Grand Canyon.  Dal enjoyed this outing tremendously, as he did all of our outings.  

Dal (Steve) is a gentle soul and I miss him very much.





Dal found these ridiculous felt hats in the gift shop of the Genghis Khan exhibit absolutely hilarious.  I had to take his picture with them.  

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The family has asked that in lieu of flowers, donations may be sent to the Stephen Ross Gaspar MD Memorial Resident Educational and Research Fund, Dept. of Physical Medicine and Rehab, Temple University School of Medicine, 3400 N. Broad St., Philadelphia PA 19140
« Last Edit: August 25, 2011, 03:23:47 PM by Ellen (tellyouwhat) »
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #1 on: August 24, 2011, 09:20:33 PM »
I had never met Steve in person, but of course knew him through the forum and as a fellow moderator.
He was an intelligent and humorous poster and I so enjoyed reading his posts. Many gave me a lot of insight into the subject being discussed.
His work as a moderator contributed greatly to keeping the Forum what it is today.

Rest in Peace, Steve, and your BBM spirit will remain with us always.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #2 on: August 24, 2011, 09:27:02 PM »
damn, this is very sad.

he's one of the incredible people we all got to meet him. it was a privilege to work with him here his final years.

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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #3 on: August 24, 2011, 09:36:06 PM »
He lived in Philadelphia, where he worked as a medical doctor.  When he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer early this year, he moved to Dallas, his home town, to be near his mother.  Coincidentally,  I live here too.

This is spooky. Steve Jobs announced today that he is leaving Apple in part because of his struggle with pancreatic cancer. Just spooky.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #4 on: August 24, 2011, 10:21:10 PM »
Oh this is so sad.  I remember readling Dal's posts from when I was new here on the forum several years ago.   It always breaks my heart when I hear of forum members passing.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #5 on: August 25, 2011, 12:23:07 AM »
I read this with shock and sadness.  When I joined the forum 3 years ago Dal's was a name that soon caught my eye, in the BBM discussion threads in particular, and I started to look forward to his sharp comments and quirky and witty illustrations.  He once did something involving Queen Victoria, and then PM'd me hoping he hadn't offended my British royal sensibilities. (He hadn't :))

I miss him - and how much harder it must be for those who knew him in real life.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #6 on: August 25, 2011, 12:38:36 AM »
I'm so sorry.   I never met Steve in person, but he was one of my favourite people on this forum.   His PMs during serious discussions would sometimes have me laughing out loud.    He was so funny, but always polite and thoughtful.   I will remember him as highly intelligent, insightful, witty and kind, and definitely a one-off.   He will be greatly missed. 
Unless, I say otherwise, I'm probably talking about the short story, not the movie. :)

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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #7 on: August 25, 2011, 12:50:39 AM »
Shock and sadness, sums it up for me, too.

I didn't get to meet Dal, personally, but I thought he was so very aware and intelligent, and he knew how to laugh at himself, too, a quality I very much admired.

Rest In Peace, Steve.


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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #8 on: August 25, 2011, 02:13:42 AM »
What sad news! I immensely enjoyed Dal's witty and insightful posts, discussions with him always where enlightening and fun. What do they say? It's always the best who have to go first....  :'(
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #9 on: August 25, 2011, 03:18:11 AM »
I am so sad to hear this, Steve and I had many conversation in the past, he was a lovely man.

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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #10 on: August 25, 2011, 03:19:16 AM »
I didn't have many interactions with Steve on the forum, he posted in the more serious sections of the fourm, while I tend to be in the "lighter" areas of the forum.

I am grateful that I had the opportunity to meet him at three NYC Brokie gathering where we had time to talk face-to-face.

Steve was a very insightful and witty person, and I'm very glad that I had the opportunity to meet him at these gatherings.   I am sure you are at peace now, and I send thoughts of love and strength to your family.




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Back Row: Jeff Hanna, Desperadum, CellarDweller115, Carissa, Seeker

Front Row: RodneyFL, OttoBlom, Zadoc, TwistedBoy, DaveInPhilly, Bobbie, Jenny, TwistAndShout, DanaC, Dal, Bklyn, Still Learning.


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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #11 on: August 25, 2011, 03:19:42 AM »
October 5th, 2007 - NYC.




Dal (Steve), PTannen (Pete),  RnMina (Mina)


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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #12 on: August 25, 2011, 03:20:24 AM »



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PTannen (Pete), CellarDweller (Chuck), MaineGirl (Sue), DejaVu (Debbie), SmellyKellyJay (Kelly), RnMina (Mina)
(seated)  Dal (Steve), JCinNYC2006 (Juan)


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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #13 on: August 25, 2011, 03:21:45 AM »
October 6th, 2007 - NYC.





(L to R)  Meryl, Teresa, DejaVu (Debbie), CellarDweller (Chuck), MaineGirl (Sue), Dal (Steve), JMMGalagher (John).

The above pic was taken at a NYC book festival where Annie Proulx was doing a book signing.  Steve joined us for the event, and we all got our copies of "Brokeback" signed by Annie.

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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #14 on: August 25, 2011, 04:41:01 AM »
I am so shocked and sad to hear this heartbreaking news about Steve, (Dal). We spoke together frequently by PM, usually when he was moderating my postings when I had gone over the top.........again. :D
His replies were always witty and thoughtful and I will miss him very much.
His loss to the forum will be a very great one.
Enjoy your time on the mountain, Steve.
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