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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #60 on: October 16, 2011, 02:14:15 PM »
Ellen, thanks for sharing that story......so touching, and yes, I do see a Brokeback reference in the finding of the note.

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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #61 on: October 16, 2011, 02:19:13 PM »
Yes indeed. Thank you, Ellen.

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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #62 on: October 16, 2011, 02:37:38 PM »
Thanks so much for sharing, Ellen. Maybe he knew you would be there and the note would be found and mentioned, and would get the connection.

Thanks, Dal! :-*
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #63 on: October 16, 2011, 02:40:53 PM »
Thanks so much for sharing, Ellen. Maybe he knew you would be there and the note would be found and mentioned, and would get the connection.

Thanks, Dal! :-*

It's so comforting to think so.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #64 on: October 16, 2011, 03:05:11 PM »
What a wonderful thing to do.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #65 on: October 16, 2011, 03:07:31 PM »
Thank you for telling us about the memorial service, Ellen.  I'm glad you were there.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #66 on: October 16, 2011, 06:20:45 PM »
Thank you, Ellen.

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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #67 on: October 17, 2011, 03:10:53 AM »
Ellen, thank you so much for being there and for sharing.

I for one have no doubt that the note Dal left was a "Brokeback" reference.  

He was far too bright and subtle a man for it to have been anything else, IMO.  
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #68 on: October 17, 2011, 08:44:09 AM »
Thanks, Ellen. Thanks, Dal.

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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #69 on: October 17, 2011, 09:29:14 AM »
Ellen, thank you so much for being there and for sharing.

I for one have no doubt that the note Dal left was a "Brokeback" reference.  

He was far too bright and subtle a man for it to have been anything else, IMO.  


after thinking about this a bit more, I think it might have been like this--

Maybe, knowing that his loved ones would go through his clothing after he passed, and possibly thinking they might feel like Ennis -- looking for something of him in his shirt -- he decided to actually leave them something.

It's his way of doing a little bit better than Ennis and Jack could, because he knew their story, and he had a chance to prepare.

it is really lovely.

Thanks everyone for commenting.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #70 on: October 17, 2011, 10:05:21 AM »


Yes, Ellen, it was so Dal -- RIP Dal.
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Re: Saying goodbye to Dal, a Forum friend
« Reply #71 on: October 17, 2011, 11:02:08 AM »
thank you for coming through once again, Ellen.  A pleasure to know you Dal, even if it was only electronically...
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