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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #15 on: May 04, 2006, 07:34:33 PM »
I had no idea that this thread was here.

Thanks Lola!

My story......after years of turning to food to make me happy, or get me through something, I had found myself at the age of 35, 5'6", and almost 300 pounds.  295 to be exact and a 46'' waist.  I knew things had to change after a night of going dancing with my friends.  I love to dance, and in the past, could go on all night long.  That night, after one song, I was out of breath, and had to leave the floor.

This is me at my heaviest.




I started by modifying my diet.

No more fast food.  No more regular soda, no more cookies and potato chips.  No more snacking when I was bored.  Breakfast was a bowl of healthy cereal.  Lunch was grilled chicken, tuna salad, sandwich on wheat.  Dinner was whatever I wanted, as long as it was only one serving.  Limit my bread intake.  

Snacks were sugar free jello, or unsalted, dry roasted peanuts.  Tons of spring water.  Force myself to drink V-8 juice.

Exercise 3 times a day.  In the morning, do a workout video called "Walk Away The Pounds" with Leslie Sansone.  3 videos, 1 mile, 2 mile, and 3 mile walk, incorporating weights for armwork.  After work, I hit the park to speed walk around the track.  Right now, up to 3 times around, just over 4 miles.

After dinner, hit the Bowflex in the attic.  Used to have a gym membership, but cancelled it when I bought the Bowflex.  Try to spend 30 minutes working out on the machine.  Just recently got a 10 speed bike as well.

In 2 years, I've lost 70lbs, and gone from a size 46 to size 38-36 waist.  Currently about 230lbs (got sick for a while, and put some weight back on) but I'm determined to get down to between 180-170, which would be 105-115 pound loss.

Here is a pic of me at autumn of last year.

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #16 on: May 04, 2006, 07:49:26 PM »
Look at you, you sexy beast you!  :o

I have no doubt you will get back down again, you did it once,  you can do it again.  Summer is coming, all the night fruits and veggies are out.

Fast food is a killer, I know alot of places are now offering healthier choices, but for the most part I just try and avoid it all together.

If I want to eat out, I go in a sit down resturant and relax and eat and actually enjoy what I am having.


I would love to have a Bowflex, I know they have come down alot in price, they use to be very pricey when they first came out.

My husband is a "gym man" he has been going every day for about the last 20 years!  I have a membership, but I just can't get into going.  I would rather work out at home.

I had my Richard Simmons tapes out the other day, I LOVE Richard!  :-*
 
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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #17 on: May 04, 2006, 11:02:56 PM »
CellarDweller115

Wow!  I'm totally impressed with your results.  I'm at 224 today, down from 276.  Thanx! for giving us the before and after pix.  Lola's right, you sexy dog!

I'm interested in what changed in your thinking that helped you make the changes, and what went through your mind as you were doing it and when you had challenges.  I think people who read our posts need to hear those kinds of things.  If we have any listening skills at all, we've heard enough about how we should eat and exercise.  The challenge is making the mental change in our thinking that promotes healthy eating and exercise.

One thing that has helped me is that I have a good balance of protein and carbohydrates...the protein helps build lean muscles with exercise, and the carbohydrates provide the fuel for them.  So, in the morning, when I eat my Egg Starts (99% egg whites) with just a little bit of salt, it's not that it's this wonderful omelette that satisfies me...it's just Egg Starts, microwaved in a bowl...but what goes through my mind is that by doing this one thing I'm providing the protein my body needs to build muscle out of the exercise I did at 5:30 this morning.  It's the right thing to do.

Then I eat my oatmeal with blueberries flax seed (for my eyesight) and extra bran.  By the time I get it all mixed up it's not hot anymore.  I use water, not milk, so the taste isn't that grrrr8! but...I'm thinking...an oncologist who gave a noontime lecture last year said 'berries everyday.'  Since then I have tried to do that.  They are sweet and tart and add a little spice to the oatmeal, but by the time I put the flax seed in and the bran, my workmates call it 'gruel.'

But when I'm eating it I'm thinking...the bran is giving me regularity, the berries are protecting against cancer, and the oatmeal is heart healthy...and I don't worry that I make it all in water instead of milk.

This is my breakfast five days a week.  I didn't say us boys are too smart sometimes...but when we find something that works...we work it.

The payoff is now that I've lost 50+ lbs. I'm looking much better and people are commenting on it.  I have a supportive group at work and they like what they see.

I heard something behind me this afternoon at work and when I turned around it was two of my coworkers.  They had WW journals in their hands and said, "We want to do WW and we want you to help us."  I have all 12 weeks of WW booklets and menus, so I spread them all out, we weighed the gals in, I put their weight in my Excel spreadsheet so we can track it, gave them their pick of the books and gave them one thing to think about.  This:  They should have as their first goal a 10% weight loss.  WW and I know there is enough extra water weight and some easy to lose fat that comes off to create that 10% loss.  WW is making millions out of that...I'm just capitalizing on their strategy.  The second 10% is where the WW plan itself kicks in, education, discipline, etc.  However, it is my firm opinion that the reason only 5% of WW lose and keep it off is that something happens in their thinking to cross them over that bridge to do more than the 20%.

That's what Brokeback Mountain has done for me...changed my thinking...I'm coming out as a gay man to someone every week...working up to my family.  I'm kinder to others.  I'm doing all I can here to help the Forum prosper.  I'm making my physical body different as well as my mind.  I'll be forever indebted to this movie.

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #18 on: May 05, 2006, 07:25:53 AM »
I'm interested in what changed in your thinking that helped you make the changes, and what went through your mind as you were doing it and when you had challenges.  I think people who read our posts need to hear those kinds of things.  If we have any listening skills at all, we've heard enough about how we should eat and exercise.  The challenge is making the mental change in our thinking that promotes healthy eating and exercise.

Wow......when I had started the exercise, I just kept thinking that it was necessary, and I would keep a vision of myself in my head, of how I wanted to look.  On top of that, I have a great group of friends around me who would give compliments and support to me when I needed it.  I also kept in my that this wasn't a "diet" it was a lifestyle change, meaning I would have to keep this new behavior up, after reaching my goals, so I can maintain what I accomplished.

I also treated myself in other ways.  I used to treat myself with food when I needed a "pick me up".  Now, I do something for my appearance. 

New haircut.....BriteSmile for my teeth.....new clothes.....just something to keep me pysched and positive.

I also got two tattoos at important times in my life.


this first one, I got when I started the diet and exercise routine.  Two celtic knots, with a pink triangle in the middle.

The second one is three Asian symbols that stand for "Pride, Strength, & Endurance".  Got them when I hit my 70lbs mark.

Contemplating my 3rd tattoo, on my back this time.....a Brokeback themed one.

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #19 on: May 05, 2006, 07:38:18 AM »
Bobby if it is not too personal, can I ask, does your wife not know you are gay?  If not,  that is alot to keep bottled inside.  :'(

Interesting point about berries being good for the eyes, I didn't know that, they are great on oatmeal as you said.  And you know I don't think it would hurt to add some skim milk instead of the water, WW requires that we get those servings of milk each day, it is important.

I think we all know what to do, it is just doing it. I think as you mentioned, it is what goes on between the ears (the mind) that counts.  You have to have a certain mind set for it to work, and when you get in that zone, nothing can stop you.

People will know when they are ready. 

Rewarding yourself is a good idea also Chuck (and yea not with food).  I got a pedicure yesterday!  ;D

http://www.weightwatchers.com/index.aspx


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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #20 on: May 05, 2006, 10:35:14 AM »
Lola:

None of my family knows I am gay.  Hell, I didn't admit it to myself until after Brokeback Mountain.  It's still a relatively new idea in my mind.  I'm planning a trip tomorrow to see my sister and her daughters and come out to them.  I'm taking the DVD with me to show them.  I think it will be a powerful exclamation point to my message.  My sister is 75 and very ill with emphysema, macular degeneration and really bad hearing loss.  If you could hide and watch it will be a hoot! I'm sure.  I'll yell, "I'm gay!"  She'll say, "Wut?"  "Me...GAY!"  She, "I'll be damned, Bobby."  Haven't worked out exactly how it's going happen yet.  I have no trouble with her, but one of her daughters has been really down on my religion and critical.

I know it is controversial, but it happens, and about five years ago I recovered some repressed memories of having been molested very early in life.  If you've read my story it led to a phobia/syndrome called Shy Bladder Syndrome.  That's where you can't pee in front of anyone.  There are 3 million people or so in the U.S. with a form of this phobia.  I didn't know anything about it until I discovered a book that named it about a year and a half ago.

For example, in the four years I went to high school, I NEVER used the boy's bathroom at school.  I had a 20 mile morning and 20 mile evening bus ride that kept me away from home from 7 a.m. until 5 p.m.  My life was HELL!  All because some bastard took advantage of me when I was young...at least that's where I think it came from.

So, as far as this being gay is concerned, as I've said elsewhere in the Forum when I first came...how can you be with a man when you can't pee with a man?  I think it makes my brand of gayness different than many others.

Back to my sister.  She is the closest thing to my mom on earth, and so I expect her to react as my mother would, with complete acceptance and wonderment that I've made it this far.  It will be a shock, and it will give her something to think about when I'm gone...her life isn't that exciting now since she can't see or hear or breath...but won't quit smoking!

Also, I hope to find a way to ask her about what she might remember of me being around someone who could have molested me.

You know, I watched Vice President Cheney's daughter on TV last night, and she said she had no idea why someone is gay.   I don't think anyone really knows...but it wasn't the molestation that made me gay.  I just came that way.  That realization and change of thinking came with this Brokeaholic Phenomena and all I've learned here.  Boy! Just to relax and let gayness enter your life has been remarkable.  It feels so good and natural and right.  I will be forever grateful to Annie Proulx and those who made the movie.  Too bad the Syndrome came along, but now that I am making changes in my life, perhaps I can make that change, too.  Let's hope.

Golly! Being so personal on such a public forum is scary and yet I've had nothing but support here...so I'm goin' with it.  Thanx! for being a newfound Friend.  A "goddamn bitch of an unsatisfactory situation" is gradually being fed by a "Whiskey Spring" of love and acceptance.  I like the fact 'there ain't no reins on this one,' because so far the ride has been glorious.  I know there will be burrs under the saddle, and I'll get into thorny thickets and may even get bucked off and have my new song squashed at times (like Jacks harmonica!).  But overall, I'm agoin' in the right direction and it can't hurt as much as living in a 40-year Brokeback Marriage with all that has entailed.  I ramble....

Thanx! for asking.

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #21 on: May 05, 2006, 10:59:57 AM »
Lola:

  My sister is 75 and very ill with emphysema, macular degeneration and really bad hearing loss.  If you could hide and watch it will be a hoot! I'm sure.  I'll yell, "I'm gay!"  She'll say, "Wut?"  "Me...GAY!"  She, "I'll be damned, Bobby." 

LOL How I would love to be a fly on the wall!  I am sure your sister will be fine with it.   I am more worried about your wife, do you think she has any idea?  Have you been married 40 years?   And what about your own kids?  I guess you just have to take baby steps.

Maybe admitting it to yourself is half the battle.  And no I have never read your story, but I would love to.

I have never heard of that peeing thing.  But I do have a kid who would not use the bathroom at school, would dash in the door every day just bursting for the bathroom.   He still can't pee in the Doctors office, if they ask for a urine sample, I honestly thought it was just him! lol

And good luck on getting to the bottom of if you were molested or not, that is important to know and to get out and to deal with.

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #22 on: May 05, 2006, 01:00:46 PM »
Spent some time yesterday with my Y coach on lower body work.  She also wanted me to swim.  I hadn't been swimming in a decade at least...and it was HARD!  I think she was wisely giving me my comeupance by showing me that I use a ton of other muscles in swimming.  It is going to be a challenge, but I'm up to it.

Up early this morning and burned 300 calories by 6 a.m.  That's 'a good thing' as Martha would say.

Sent a message to about 15 of my old WW buddies to see if I can be of any use to them if they're still on the quest to lose weight.  Hoping more people here will drop in and share their thoughts and ideas.

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #23 on: May 05, 2006, 01:29:05 PM »
I hope more people drop in too Bobby (and it has been nice chatting with ya)  maybe you could PM everyone?   :)
 
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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #24 on: May 05, 2006, 01:41:33 PM »
How do you do that?
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« Reply #25 on: May 05, 2006, 02:22:00 PM »
I don't know, but people do it all the time, maybe PM the mod and ask!  :)
 
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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #26 on: May 05, 2006, 05:04:58 PM »
Wow CellarDweller congratulations on your weight loss also! You look great. It's not easy. I will stress eat also. Sit in front of the TV and snack. If I'm upset or someone has upset me, I eat to comfort myself and that is what I have really been working on avoiding.

Bobby, the mall idea is a really good one. I live about 35 to 40 minutes from a mall but I do go to that town every week to shop. Doing the mall walk once a week would be better than nothing. I will call the mall and inquire if they know any organized groups. As a last resort I may have to do the gym thing :(

I used to like and watch Oprah but in the last quite a few years I really do not get anything out of her show and I just don't like the way she is on the show. She just does not seem genuine. I don't think she would do anything related to Brokeback Mountain again. I would have watched that show, but didn't see it.

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #27 on: May 05, 2006, 11:15:30 PM »
Bobby and others-  I have a word of caution about the exercise issue.  I do agree that it is very important, even apart from the weight loss benefit.  However if your blood pressure is not well controlled it can lead to heart damage.  I was working at home about fifteen years ago and taking frequent hike breaks and some days these were quite strenuous.  I went in for a treadmill knowing that I had risk factors for heart disease (weight, diabetic, family history, blood pressure).  The cardiologist said I should take medications for blood pressure but he did not warn me that my electrocardiogram showed "electrical criteria for LVH".  It was my diabetes specialist that explained this to me!   Left Ventricular Hypertrophy (LVH) is a thickening of the walls of the left ventricle of the heart, the main pumping part of the heart and is the most frequent cause of heart failure in athletes.  High blood pressure is a main contributing factor in its development.  If high blood pressure is lowered there can be an improvement in this condition over time.  I believe non-strenuous exercise probably would not cause a problem but more than that and you should check with your doctor to be sure your blood pressure is well controlled.  Just a good idea to keep a closer look at your health when making deep changes.  BTW-  I have been diabetic for 35+ years now and basically have good health (and good lab test results) for 65-1/2 years old and I think my swimming for those 35 years has a lot to do with my survival  It seems to be a much better exercise than hiking/running/walking for me but not as easy to find a way to do it!

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #28 on: May 06, 2006, 03:21:13 AM »
I'm not a breakfast eater and I also eat a light lunch.  This reduction in food volume helps me keep my weight in tow.  :)

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Re: The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet
« Reply #29 on: May 06, 2006, 08:09:21 AM »
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I am seeing my cardiologist on Monday, so your caution is very timely.  I will discuss everything with him to make sure I'm not killing myself while I get buff!

Casper:

What's neat about life is that we can live it as we choose.  Whatever works for me, won't necessarily be your cup of tea.  I'm so glad you found a way to keep your weight under control.  Keep it up!

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