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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3570 on: September 19, 2017, 05:40:41 PM »
Dave's mom passed away yesterday, in her sleep, September, 18, 2017.

Joan M Cullen (nee Eustis), a resident of Elk Grove Village for 51 years, passed away September 18, 2017. Joan was the beloved wife of Matthew Cullen for 62 years; loving mother of Linda (William) Reinert, Kathleen (James) Pick, Joseph (Jae Cha), Dave, Marie (Daniel) McGrath, Patricia (Mark) Wiater, Daniel, Peggy, and Kelly; cherished grandmother of Christopher, Cari and Steven Pick, Michael and Caitlin McGrath, Matthew and Kaylee Wiater, Kennedy and Liam Cullen, Seamus and expected sister Cullen; daughter of Josephine and Clarence Eustis; and dear sister of Clarence Eustis, Dorothy Lerch, and Lorraine Kachurik.
A visitation will be held on Thursday, September 21, from 3 to 8PM at Grove Memorial Chapel, 1199 S. Arlington Heights Road, Elk Grove Village, 847-640-0566, grovememorialchapel.com. Funeral Mass on Friday, September 22, at 10AM at Queen of the Rosary Church.
In lieu of flowers, please donate to Mercy Home for Boys & Girls, 1140 W. Jackson Blvd, Chicago IL. 60607 or www.mercyhome.org.
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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3571 on: September 20, 2017, 02:31:43 PM »

These are very sad news.

My thoughts, sympathies and condolences go to Dave and his family.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3572 on: September 23, 2017, 08:48:05 PM »
Thanks Linda, and Ing.

It was a rough two weeks, but it really brought my family together. (I have 8 siblings, so it was quite a re-gathering.)

I hung out with my mom each of the last 5 days of her life, so that was a gift, to see it coming.

And my brother and I gave eulogies. I really needed to speak on her behalf. So glad I did.

That phase is over now.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3573 on: September 24, 2017, 05:19:28 AM »
Eternal rest grant unto her, and let perpetual light shine upon her.

May peace fill your heart, Dave.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3574 on: September 24, 2017, 08:40:56 AM »
There isn't much more I can say, other than what I put on your facebook page.   I'm sorry you have to feel this pain.

At this point, all you can do now is take things slow, be gentle with yourself, and let yourself  ease into the new "normal" your life will become.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3575 on: September 24, 2017, 02:29:00 PM »
Very sorry to hear this news, Dave.

My mom died in January, after being in ICU for a few days.  She never even made it to hospice care, which would have been the next step.

So I can sympathize with what you and your family are going through now.

By the way, you may not remember it, but at your New York City book signing some years ago, you autographed a copy of your book, Columbine, for my mom and wrote some kind words about me in it.  She kept it, and I found it in her bookcase after she died.

She admired you, and was a sweet and caring lady who would also be sad to hear about your mom, if she knew.

I'm glad you had the chance to give eulogies....that's hard, but it does help.  Best wishes to you and the rest of your family.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3576 on: September 25, 2017, 02:36:33 PM »
Very sorry to hear this news, Dave.

My mom died in January, after being in ICU for a few days.  She never even made it to hospice care, which would have been the next step.

So I can sympathize with what you and your family are going through now.

By the way, you may not remember it, but at your New York City book signing some years ago, you autographed a copy of your book, Columbine, for my mom and wrote some kind words about me in it.  She kept it, and I found it in her bookcase after she died.

She admired you, and was a sweet and caring lady who would also be sad to hear about your mom, if she knew.

I'm glad you had the chance to give eulogies....that's hard, but it does help.  Best wishes to you and the rest of your family.

Thanks. That was very cool to hear. I'm really sorry about your mom.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3577 on: September 25, 2017, 02:37:19 PM »
There isn't much more I can say, other than what I put on your facebook page.   I'm sorry you have to feel this pain.

At this point, all you can do now is take things slow, be gentle with yourself, and let yourself  ease into the new "normal" your life will become.

Thanks Chuck. It's going a bit more slowly than I planned! haha. But I guess it takes it's own pace.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3578 on: September 25, 2017, 09:22:25 PM »
. It's going a bit more slowly than I planned! haha. But I guess it takes it's own pace.

It does, Dave.

My sincere condolences for your loss.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3579 on: September 26, 2017, 08:16:07 AM »

My sincere condolences for your loss.

Thanks.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3580 on: September 26, 2017, 09:16:36 AM »
it really brought my family together. (I have 8 siblings, so it was quite a re-gathering.)

that is something quite precious

I'm glad for you

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3581 on: October 21, 2017, 12:20:24 PM »
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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3582 on: October 25, 2017, 01:40:43 PM »
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« Reply #3583 on: October 25, 2017, 03:11:28 PM »
Amen.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3584 on: January 27, 2018, 01:26:27 PM »
I'm glad the forum came back after being down for a few hours today, because I had been planning to post something in this thread.

This is the one-year anniversary of the day my mom died.  January 27.  I was in Colorado last year, and couldn't post about her then.

My brother and sister and I have all exchanged emails last night or this morning, remembering Mom.  It is tougher for some of us than for others.  My sister's email talked about how, a year ago, she was just going to bed at 1:45 AM, when I called her at 2:10 AM to say that the hospital had called me, and that we had better get to the hospital ASAP.  We spent a long middle-of-the-night and morning there, then I raced around trying to get some banking matters attended to (for which Mom had to be still living so that my financial power-of-attorney would still be legal) before she actually died, and my sister tried to take a nap before going back to the hospital.  So that day was not only sad, it was a madhouse.  But the three of us kids (my brother still being out of town) were close then, and it felt like we were close again this morning.

We all gave little eulogies at Mom's funeral, although we called them "speeches" or "talks," and they focused on the upbeat and humorous and loving moments from Mom's life.  My brother first appeared at the podium wearing a Broncos cap (which he then removed) and told how Mom had bought it for him "just because he wanted it" the previous fall, when he pushed her wheelchair at the store, just like she would say "Oh....okay" when he put candy into the shopping cart when he was a child, even when she couldn't really afford it.

I talked about how Mom always rooted for whatever sports teams I might like, despite being a Broncos fan herself.  I know she'd be thrilled for my sake that the Philadelphia Eagles are going to the Super Bowl, and that at the same time, Villanova (here in the Philadelphia area) is the number-one ranked men's college basketball team in the country.

At the beginning of her comments, my sister said, "Mom and I regarded baseball as far more than a bunch of sweaty, smelly athletes.  More than any other sport, baseball has a long literary history," and gave a few examples.  And then my sister read the poem "Game Called" by Grantland Rice, about how the Big Guy (Babe Ruth) was going home when he died.  "And so she has," added my sister, referring to Mom.

I told my siblings in an email today that I hoped we could continue to focus on these good memories of Mom, despite some tensions we've had during the settling of her affairs.  And I hope that anyone who has experienced a loss, no matter how long ago, can do the same.  Anniversaries like this can be painful, but they can be good, too.
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