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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #420 on: October 26, 2007, 05:53:38 PM »
first round is an apt description... :o
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #421 on: October 26, 2007, 09:34:15 PM »
Yeah, I thought as much.  It takes a while for them to warm-up to an idea.

You just have to put on those boxing gloves and get back in there.

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #422 on: November 08, 2007, 07:27:46 AM »
Jack - how are you, and how is it going with your Mum?
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #423 on: November 10, 2007, 02:41:28 AM »
hey all...

i have been wanting to update y'all, but events on the ground are keeping me awfully busy...and dizzy.

mom is "accepting" that the move is happening, but is quite rightly dreading it, except the brunt of it will fall on my shoulders.   have secured the apartment for her (but not one for me yet) and a local mover.  not at all sure how to pull of TWO moves at the end of the month, but have come to the realization that i CAN'T afford to pay rent here and someplace else for the same month.  i am WAY too old for this kind of labor and drama.

finally got mom on some psychoactive meds for the dementia rages, and it helps some.  since med administration is a big issue, and a source of much angst, i have ordered a locked alarmed pill dispenser in the hopes she will accept that as a compromise, and actually take them as ready.  having a nurse come by or doing that myself seems unmanageable, financially and physically.

finances are looming large in my mind.  i keep reassuring mom that there is enough money to do this, but we are so close now that the timing of pensions and social security arrivals will determine if we have the right amount on time.  quite a little knothole to fit through.

the brightest note is that the housing market here has officially collapsed, so rental are dirt cheap.  i should be able to get a fairly nice one bedroom for around $500 a month.  unheard of for the past 30 years...

back to the grind...

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #424 on: November 10, 2007, 11:29:41 PM »
My fingers are crossed for you and your Mum Jack and I hope and pray everything falls into place for you!!

You ARE a tough old bird - you'll get through it!!

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #425 on: November 13, 2007, 10:20:59 PM »
you know, i would have bet against it, but i am starting to have that renewed and heightened appreciation for a care recipient that i have often heard of, trite though it may be. 

when my mother is at her best, or sometimes when she is the saddest, we have a tenderness between us i can't ever remember.  sometimes it is just feeling her reliance on me and her occasional appreciation of how far i have come on this journey, and sometimes i think it is just stockholm syndrome.  at any rate, it is one of the few pleasures alotted to me just now, along with perhaps the occasional awareness of how much i actually HAVE accomplished with the resources i have.

her fears however are part of her deepest emotions, and make her unbearably cruel at times.  moving time approaches, and whatever kind of a clusterf*ck it turns into, things WILL be changing.

::sucking it up::

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #426 on: November 14, 2007, 12:14:25 PM »
you know, i would have bet against it, but i am starting to have that renewed and heightened appreciation for a care recipient that i have often heard of, trite though it may be. 

when my mother is at her best, or sometimes when she is the saddest, we have a tenderness between us i can't ever remember.  sometimes it is just feeling her reliance on me and her occasional appreciation of how far i have come on this journey, and sometimes i think it is just stockholm syndrome.  at any rate, it is one of the few pleasures alotted to me just now, along with perhaps the occasional awareness of how much i actually HAVE accomplished with the resources i have.

her fears however are part of her deepest emotions, and make her unbearably cruel at times.  moving time approaches, and whatever kind of a clusterf*ck it turns into, things WILL be changing.

::sucking it up::

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #427 on: November 14, 2007, 04:56:18 PM »
((((((((((((Jack))))))))))))

Good luck with everything.
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #428 on: November 15, 2007, 02:49:48 PM »

her fears however are part of her deepest emotions, and make her unbearably cruel at times.  moving time approaches, and whatever kind of a clusterf*ck it turns into, things WILL be changing.

::sucking it up::

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You will make it work, jack!! We're all behind you. Good luck with the moves.

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #429 on: November 15, 2007, 07:43:45 PM »
Jack - Thinking about you and wishing you and your mom the best.  :-*
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #430 on: November 17, 2007, 01:26:35 AM »
thanks for the supportive wishes guys and gals.  this is ever so much better than journaling.  journals never hug and comfort, and i still get to vent pretty good.  i'm afraid my friends in place, loving though they be are really not up to being supportive day after day, week after week.  like... isn't that OVER yet??  or worse, aren't you over involving yourself in her issues ??  oy vey!

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #431 on: November 18, 2007, 09:40:39 AM »
jack -

this here's one more set of good thoughts for the move, the finances etc.  I don't quite understand how you're not a quivering mass of jelly already, dealing with this alone.  You go. 
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #432 on: November 18, 2007, 07:22:05 PM »
jack -

this here's one more set of good thoughts for the move, the finances etc.  I don't quite understand how you're not a quivering mass of jelly already, dealing with this alone.  You go. 
actually...

i had to chuckle at that one.  mighty darn close to the mark, as those who have fielded phone calls can attest.
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #433 on: November 26, 2007, 12:34:31 AM »
if i survive this, i will have made up for a couple decades worth of filial neglect... and probably shortened my own life by several years.
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #434 on: November 26, 2007, 02:12:39 AM »
At least you're THERE jack! And while a double edged sword, that is important.

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