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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #855 on: April 14, 2011, 04:51:50 PM »
We are still thinking of you too, Sonja.
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #856 on: April 15, 2011, 10:18:15 AM »
Thank you Jess, it means more than you know.

The latest news are that my brother and I are frantically searching for somewhere my parents can live.

There are many problems, one is that their needs are different, another that there are extremely few places that we find suitable, and most of those have long (2-4 years) queues. A third problem is that my parents don't have real insight in what they actually need, and it's very hard to talk some sense into esp my dad.

So it's not looking very bright at the moment.

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #857 on: April 18, 2011, 11:05:24 AM »
(((Sonja)))

Wishing you all the best with this very difficult situation.
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #858 on: April 20, 2011, 02:16:28 PM »
Thanks Debbie!

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #859 on: October 22, 2011, 12:34:32 PM »
For family and friends, nothing new with Mother. (While I was down there earlier this month she was hospitalized for 5 days with pneumonia, and is growing progressively weaker) She's under care of the home hospice group (Hospice of the Upstate), and has some good days and some bad days. So nothing major to report, I just talked with my sister down there this morning.

This is an amazingly good organization. I just hope that something similar is around when my time comes.

http://hospicehouse.net/

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #860 on: October 22, 2011, 07:58:23 PM »
Thanks for the update, Fritz!
My prayers are with your Mom and you and your family.
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #861 on: October 22, 2011, 08:11:14 PM »
Thank you, Linda.

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #862 on: October 23, 2011, 07:27:38 PM »
For family and friends, nothing new with Mother. (While I was down there earlier this month she was hospitalized for 5 days with pneumonia, and is growing progressively weaker) She's under care of the home hospice group (Hospice of the Upstate), and has some good days and some bad days. So nothing major to report, I just talked with my sister down there this morning.

This is an amazingly good organization. I just hope that something similar is around when my time comes.

http://hospicehouse.net/

**Fritz:  I'm glad it seems to be an extremely good operation.  It's so sad she grows weaker.

I'm coping with mom's health problems too.  Isn't easy, is it?

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #863 on: October 23, 2011, 07:35:48 PM »
**Fritz:  I'm glad it seems to be an extremely good operation.  It's so sad she grows weaker.

I'm coping with mom's health problems too.  Isn't easy, is it?

kathy   

No it's not, Kathy, and most of the burden falls on my sister who lives down there.

Thinking about and praying for all our mothers.

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #864 on: October 23, 2011, 07:47:42 PM »
**I have 3 older brothers; only one helps us in different ways.  He does try, but he has his own health issues (in remission from cancer), and is married.  
It seems to me, fritz, that the "girl" has so much on her head...  The fact that you realize this says so much for you.      

I'll be thinking & praying for all our moms too.**  

kathy  
p.s.  I know it's hard, very hard.
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #865 on: October 24, 2011, 03:07:41 PM »
Well it seems like all this is dragging ....I wish we can just get to the bottom of everything and get it over with..

Wednesday I go with my dad to get his cat scans done...they took more blood...doing an EKG Thursday and we wait some more.

My dad says he will allow an operation but if it's spread to his liver and other organs, he wants NO CHEMO....we have to respect his wishes...I just don't want him to suffer  :'(
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #866 on: October 24, 2011, 03:32:59 PM »
Thinking and praying for your father too, Nellie.

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #867 on: October 25, 2011, 05:55:15 PM »
Fritz...Nell....Kathy ..... thinking of you and your moms and dads are in my prayers.
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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #868 on: October 25, 2011, 05:56:37 PM »
**Thanks so much, suely.**

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Re: Caring for others with chronic illnesses
« Reply #869 on: October 25, 2011, 06:39:04 PM »
Thank you, Suely.

Talked with my sister tonight, Mother's so afraid of falling that she doesn't want to get up out of bed at all, which makes things very difficult for my sister.

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