Thank you Jess, it means more than you know.
The latest news are that my brother and I are frantically searching for somewhere my parents can live.
There are many problems, one is that their needs are different, another that there are extremely few places that we find suitable, and most of those have long (2-4 years) queues. A third problem is that my parents don't have real insight in what they actually need, and it's very hard to talk some sense into esp my dad.
So it's not looking very bright at the moment.