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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #600 on: June 10, 2009, 01:10:19 PM »
Good to know you are home and safe.  It's always good to be home, isn't it?

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #601 on: June 12, 2009, 04:43:46 PM »
good and crazy busy!!!

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #602 on: June 13, 2009, 10:43:38 AM »
Good morning, Beth:

Just to let you know I ordered "The Black Swan."  Waiting anxiously for it to arrive.

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #603 on: June 15, 2009, 11:18:26 AM »
i hope it is helpful, even if only in bits and pieces.

i was talking to my sister earlier today about someone else we both know who has started counseling about 8 months ago.  my sister said this other person said, "the end is in sight" and i thought to myself, "well, good for you but not even close!"

but that's ok.  if that thought keeps the person going and makes them feel good about progress made so far, good for them.

how are you doing raffi?  have you figured out a way to get those annoying telephone messages from your brother to stop?

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #604 on: June 19, 2009, 11:48:10 AM »
Beth:

Did you get my reply?

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #605 on: June 21, 2009, 10:43:23 AM »
i don't think so?  was it a PM or the post above my post??
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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #606 on: June 22, 2009, 01:06:00 PM »
Beth:

I replied to your message, but I don't see it here.  Don't know where it went.

Anyway, I'm doing so so today.   Pain has come back  Had a bad morning.  Don't seem to be able  to get past the hurdle.  I take two steps forward and one back.   The book is helping, though.   

Thanks,

R
 

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #607 on: June 22, 2009, 03:04:40 PM »
just remember, it is two steps forward and one back which means you are making progress.  slow though it may feel at times.  have faith in yourself and on those days when that is not possible have faith in your therapist!!

stay in the fight.  you win every day you stay in it.



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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #608 on: June 24, 2009, 05:12:14 PM »
Thnks for the advice.  Interesting-- the therapist made the same remark about the two steps, etc. , that at least I was moving.  You guys are right on target.

R

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #609 on: June 24, 2009, 05:24:53 PM »
just remember, it is two steps forward and one back which means you are making progress.  slow though it may feel at times.  have faith in yourself and on those days when that is not possible have faith in your therapist!!

stay in the fight.  you win every day you stay in it.

Very much so... personally, I can't hear this enough.
"You got no fuckin idea how bad it gets"

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #610 on: June 24, 2009, 05:30:08 PM »
Keep fighting and winning, ((((((((((((((((((((Marc)))))))))))))))))))))))))

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #611 on: June 25, 2009, 09:41:46 AM »
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Marc))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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« Reply #612 on: June 26, 2009, 10:22:54 AM »
I wasn't fishing, but thanks (((guys))).
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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #613 on: June 04, 2010, 03:12:40 PM »
I am deeply upset.

Reading a series of articles in the morning paper about adult bullying. Partly about workplace bullying. I am paralyzed.

Finally someone that understand the depth of it all. That puts words to it.

I wish I could talk about this.

Maybe I could in a while, now that what happened to me is being acknowledged. This is the first time that happens. Through a series of articles.

How could I ever describe the fear? How could I describe how what happened to me changed my life? How it changed me?

Will I ever be healed? :'( :'( :'(



Has anyone read "The No Asshole Rule. Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn't" by Robert I Sutton?

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Re: Surviving Abuse - The Effects & Recovery
« Reply #614 on: June 04, 2010, 10:52:13 PM »
hi mia,
i haven't read the article.

i just wanted to say that you can talk about it.  here as a start and to other people.  by talking about it you take your power back.  you can use the article to start a conversation. 

a big hug to you.  you can talk to us.
beth