Thank you, Michael,Huntin, dejavu, cellar, and all the rest of you.
This has been a rough week-end. Living by myself is not good sometimes when you have these terrible thots. Yes, anger is my big problem, and I am trying to deal with it, because I have seen what it does to people. I am far away from the abuser, so the only way I hear his voice is on the telephone. The abuse happened when I was 9 or 10, and all these yrs I have been waiting for acknowledgement on his part that what he did was wrong. Ever since it happened I've had sort of a split personality where sometimes I don't know who or what I am sexually. Having heard him make fun of me in the presence of others didn't help, especially when you are a child and you have no defensive mechanisms. You go with what they say about you, that's it. And to hear my own dad make fun of me several times during my childhood and teen yrs was devastating. I found myself trying to prove them both wrong. I married when I shouldn't have, and I have done things that I shouldn't have done, just to prove to the world that I was not what they were saying about me. I am trying to come to terms with my split personality issues, and one side tells me I am gay, and the other tells me I am str8. I don't know who or what I am. This has also led to an addictive relationship, and I have become that person, rather than being me. I know all this sounds so complicated, but bear with me, plz. This is not easy to talk about. So, not being able to be with the person I love b/c society has said no, and I followed what was "expected" of me, has landed me into this state of wanting to end it all, b/c I have no hope in getting anywhere. I sleep a lot, and it feels good for a few hrs. I often think, wouldn't it be wonderful to go to sleep and never wake up again?
Yes, I am very angry at me, the world, the decisions I made to satisfy eerybody else but me, and now I have nothing, nothing, nothing. I see other people moving on, but I am sutck and have been stuck in this situation, and don't seem to find an answer other than going to sleep for a very long time. I anger I broke several dishes last Sat. I smashed them on the sink. I kept saying, I AM ANGRY! And then I realized how stupid of me, b/c there was no one else here to pick up the broken dishes! How stupid, right? Anyway, I made it through Sat. and Sunday. Let's see if I make it through today.
Thanks for listening, guys!
R