So, basically have I got your meaning correct? People invite gay bashings by their own conduct?
I would again remind you that you are picking out a selected incident where a gay person was beaten up while neglecting to mention the fact there were thousands of others being beaten up at the same time in other places for other reasons.
The fact that many people were being assaulted at the same time does not impact this in any way, whatsoever, in my opinion. If you lose a loved one in an assault the police would be rather insensitive to say "Look, a lot of people died today for all kinds of reasons."
You say I am "picking out a selected incident where a gay person was beaten up" as if it's unusual. It's like I picked a statistical blip. I picked out an incident that took place a short while ago, as relayed by Shelly. I am using it as an example, because I want to know if you believe that being beaten up was largely/partly his own fault, since you believe that people treat us the way we want to be treated. The issue of how many other people on the planet were also being attacked is, as far as I can see, utterly irrelevant to the question I was posing.
I think it must all be kept in perspective. Is it better to be beaten because you are Jewish than for being gay?
No. Being beaten up for what you do, or say, I can understand. Being beaten up for what you are? That's bigotry.
As for perspective, again, you think that people treat you the way you act like you want to be treated. So anti-Semites are, by your logic, just picking on Jews because the Jewish people are encouraging that behaviour through their actions.
I think that because we are gay that all we see are the gay bashings and we often fail to recognize that the problem is ignorance and bigotry period, and that we, as gay people, have no monopoly on being bashed.
Um, I'm not gay. I'm a white heterosexual male. I don't know why you have suddenly begun to talk about other groups who are persecuted, because as far as I am aware nobody has suggested that gay people are the only ones who get attacked. The point I was trying to make is that you stated, and have yet to refute, that gay people are attacked because of the way they act, thus bringing trouble onto themselves.
The larger issue, and the topic of this thread, is about society being accepting. If you are saying "Well, society persecutes and bashes ALL kinds of minorities, not just gay people!", then that kind of argues that society is *not* as accepting as it claims, doesn't it?
I mean, I wouldn't define that as "acceptance". Picture a big guy in his Klu Klux Klan outfit saying "Oh don't get me wrong, I hate Jews and Gays and Chinese folks as much as black guys. I'm a pretty accepting kind of person like that."
Doesn't really shore up the argument that society is accepting, does it?
It is a terrible thing when anyone is beaten for any reason, we all lose when that happens.
I kind of think the guy bleeding on the ground is losing the most here, in a very literal way. Wearing rose coloured glasses and saying "Well, I don't see it so it doesn't happen" is not helping to stamp out bigotry. Quite the opposite.
Think about it this way: if you had never heard of the Holocaust, would you have used the example of Jews as a persecuted minority?
If you say "Well, it doesn't happen so much now-a-days" and "We've come a long way", how does that benefit the people who are still,
right now, in the
real world, being killed for who they are?
We are moving forward and I am also grateful that I live in a place and time that I don't have to fear because of who I choose to love
Good for you, that's swell. I'm a white heterosexual male, so I never get any hassle about my skin or sexuality. And hey, I'm lucky enough not to be disabled either, so should I go right ahead and assume nobody is feeling excluded in the world? I hope one day Lyle lives in a happy trouble-free world too, but I somehow doubt the way to improve the world where Lyle lives it to simply go "Well, things are just peachy where
I live!"
Maybe I am looking at the world with "dark eyes", but guess what I see? People who need
help, people who
aren't fine and dandy. And then I realise that although I'm lucky, not everyone else is, and maybe I should be the one to help those less fortunate than me.