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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3765 on: September 19, 2021, 05:39:17 PM »
I'm sorry your sister has died, Jonn.

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« Reply #3766 on: September 19, 2021, 08:14:07 PM »
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister, Jonn. My condolences to you and your whole family.
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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3767 on: September 20, 2021, 07:59:23 AM »
Thank you all for your kind words and warm thoughts.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3768 on: September 21, 2021, 10:18:04 PM »
Richard Buckley, husband of Tom Ford, director of A Single Man, has died at 72. They were together for 35 years.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3769 on: September 22, 2021, 05:33:47 AM »



RIP Richard, love and hugs to Tom.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3770 on: September 22, 2021, 05:35:24 AM »
So sad.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3771 on: September 22, 2021, 08:10:12 AM »
Eternal rest, perpetual light.

Werd ich zum Augenblicke sagen, "Verweile doch! Du bist so schön..."

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3772 on: September 22, 2021, 08:30:10 PM »
I am so sorry to hear this! True love!
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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3773 on: October 12, 2021, 04:16:41 PM »

(((Jonn)))

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3774 on: October 14, 2021, 04:50:09 AM »
Happy memories on Michael’s 80th birthday.❤️❤️❤️


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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3775 on: October 14, 2021, 04:51:24 AM »
((((Sara)))

Sending you love and hugs today.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3776 on: October 14, 2021, 08:25:43 AM »
Eternal rest, perpetual light. Always. Remembering.

Werd ich zum Augenblicke sagen, "Verweile doch! Du bist so schön..."

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3777 on: October 14, 2021, 09:41:39 AM »
Thank you, dear Chuck and Fritz.

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3778 on: October 14, 2021, 03:10:52 PM »
((((Sara))))

Lovely photo

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Re: Mourning Someone Who Has Died
« Reply #3779 on: November 18, 2021, 04:50:01 AM »

The day has come.

My wonderful, beloved and dear mother has passed away on Tuesday afternoon. (Nov 16th, 1.30 pm). I was in the train back home from Cologne when the hospital called me. 35 minutes later I was in her room.

She made it to the other side - finally she is painfree and can rest in peace.

We are unconsolable.


All afternoon on Tuesday and again yesterday morning we could say our goodbyes to her, myself, my sis (again here from Berlin) and Mr S.
Her room and bed were beautifully decorated with flowers, autumn decoration items, angels and candles. She looked serene, her facial expression was almost a smile, but she resembled also, it's hard to say but true, a skeleton or a mummy.

She didn't die directly from the horrible cancer that was tearing her apart. She literally starved herself to death - a deliberate, free decision. She refused any therapy or help/improvement. She wished to go. No regrets. She only accepted morphine treatments, nothing else. Not a bite nor a sip during 7 weeks.

It took only two months from her outbreak of the pain and sickness until her final moment, and yet it seemed an eternity. It's still a shock that she had to go so quickly, only 19 months after my dad, and also because she was such a vital, energetic woman, full of strength. And yet, any additional moment, hour or day would have been unbearable for us all.

We are grateful for the most inspiring, enthusiastic and encouraging mother one could hope for - we owe her everything.

Mr S and I did what we could for her during these past two years - dealing with her loss of her husband/my father, getting everything organized for her widowship, selling her apartment, moving here, getting through the difficult, empty and joyless COVID periods, finding a new home, spending time with her all year long, and also accompanying her day after day during the terrible cancer process. Eventually, iIt was heartbreaking to see her suffer so much (that was much better from the very moment on when the medical team took care of her).
Have our efforts been entirely in vain? We don't hope so.

And now we feel empty.

We've certainly said our goodbyes to her. Important, precious talks. Many afternoons, evenings were spent together. For the past 8-9 weeks, I've been constantly with her, several hours per day. I almost didn't "exist" anymore.
It's helpful and beautiful that my sis is here for the third time in four weeks.

Altogether, my mom spent 33 days in hospital. The doctors and nurses were extremely friendly and supportive, delicate and tender. It was a kind of paradise, and I don't exaggerate.
We brought presents, gifts and flowers for the staff today and handed them over to them.

The day I took her to hospital, Oct 14th, I would have never believed that she would never come home again. And still, somehow I "knew" already. I was devastated that day - and many days afterwards.

Today I'm exhausted. And I feel loved.

Y'all have been extremely helpful and supportive, dear friends. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
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