Mourning Someone Who Has Died

[desertrat]

rob, another proof of the yin and the yang. one door closes while another door opens. the world is in balance.

love to you. 

[Rob in Puyallup]

Thanks for the kind words and support, gang... it's appreciated more than you can know.

Hugs and love to you all,

Rob

[Rob in Puyallup]

Nick and me at SeaTac Airport a couple hours ago, just before he walked through security...

[killersmom]

Thanks so much for this wonderful pic Rob.
And thank you for your moving post about your Dad and all that has happened this past year.
It is so wonderous that you can take your life as it is today and credit something as sad as your Dad's death to the happiness ypu have now.
I know it is a hard day but it is toward the future not too distant that you have to look now.
And I know your Dad is looking down and smiling for the happines of his son.
Hugs,
Linda

[Rob in Puyallup]

Thanks, Lil Sis,

Much love your way, Linda, with hugs and a kiss or two,

Rob

[ChrisW]

Dear Rob and Nick
a big thank you to both of you for sharing this story, so brave - and yes, here in the UK, let's be very pleased that you can have the recognition your love deserves, I read yesterday it's even going to be illegal shortly in the UK to dscriminate against gays/lesbians, married or not, now that's progress, pity your dad didn't live to see you so happy Rob.
 (((((((Rob and Nick)))))

[annabel]

Rob, I'm not a cryer, but your story made my eyes dribble.  It was lovely.  Thank you.

[Rob in Puyallup]

Dear Rob and Nick
a big thank you to both of you for sharing this story, so brave - and yes, here in the UK, let's be very pleased that you can have the recognition your love deserves, I read yesterday it's even going to be illegal shortly in the UK to dscriminate against gays/lesbians, married or not, now that's progress, pity your dad didn't live to see you so happy Rob.
 (((((((Rob and Nick)))))

In many ways the UK is much more progressive than the US. Too much in the line of religious conservatism that prevents the real growth of our society here, I'm thinking. It's very sad...

[Rob in Puyallup]

Rob, I'm not a cryer, but your story made my eyes dribble.  It was lovely.  Thank you.

Thank you, Annabel...

[sugarcheryl]

Hi gang,

January 25th will be the first anniversary of my fathers death.

Someone has said that good comes from bad. Something like that... many of those posting here know that it was because of Dad's death that I met my Nicky here at the forum. He replied to a post I left concerning my fathers death on January 27, 2006. Almost a year ago.

Within a few hours Nick will be leaving my side after visiting for fifteen days. His leaving saddens both of us. We have no idea how long it will be before we are able to be back in each others arms. For those who don't know, Nick lives in England, northeast of London, and I live in Puyallup, Washington, about 30 miles south of Seattle.

My life has become so much better since Nick and I met, he'll tell you the same as well. It seems we were "made for each other", as is said, and one day we will prove that when we marry in England where ceremonies as that are legal, and allowed.

Thank you, Dad, for allowing your passing for Nick and me to meet. Though he and I are so many, many miles apart, and that we have immigration issues to deal with, our lives are so much richer than they were before we met, just two days after your death.

Your passing, Dad, has blessed my life in a way I never thought possible...

I love you... and I love you as well, Nicky, more than I can express. May we be back in each others arms again soon!

Kisses and hugs, lover,
Boo

I give my regards to you Rob on the loss of your father.

On a side note however....your story somehow totally reminds me of BB....not in the intense way....but of the parting way. I hope that the love that you and Nick share together will stand the distance that is between you. Take care.

[Rob in Puyallup]

I give my regards to you Rob on the loss of your father.

On a side note however....your story somehow totally reminds me of BB....not in the intense way....but of the parting way. I hope that the love that you and Nick share together will stand the distance that is between you. Take care.

Thank you Cheryl, the distance can be very painful but with AIM, Skype and cell phone we are in contact for several hours each day. The hard part is that we are unable to look directly into each others eyes, and we can't touch...

Rob

[Nax]

I've just come back from the second funeral of the week! The first was someone I have worked with for the last 16 years he was a year older than I, fit healthy, non smoker and developed cancer in his cheek/eyesocket last year he battled hard but lost.  The second was one of my colleagues in another rail IT group who I've worked with for 11 years who did suddenly in his sleep last week, again fit healthy, non smoker/drinker and was only 38.  Death is unfair, there are so many more people deserving of it! - sorry a bit bitter but I'm well weary.

[Boris]

I've just come back from the second funeral of the week! The first was someone I have worked with for the last 16 years he was a year older than I, fit healthy, non smoker and developed cancer in his cheek/eyesocket last year he battled hard but lost.  The second was one of my colleagues in another rail IT group who I've worked with for 11 years who did suddenly in his sleep last week, again fit healthy, non smoker/drinker and was only 38.  Death is unfair, there are so many more people deserving of it! - sorry a bit bitter but I'm well weary.

When my friend died in December someone said me that "life doesn't play fair". I assume he believed it to be a consolation. I have found it very hard to accept his death.  And I can recognize that weariness too. One of my closest associates for over ten years, a woman with whom I worked with a lot, who taught me almost everything I know, is losing her battle with cancer and losing fast. He turned 50 last year, wonderful, vivacious woman. She refuses to have vistors, only her partner is alllowed because she doen't want anyone to remember her like she is now.

And nothing of it makes any sense. At least now it doesn't.

[Nax]

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[Boris]

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Life is fragile and life is now.