hi ashlee,
i, too, am sorry to hear about your dad. it's not for me to define other people's sexuality, but i think i can safely say my father is gay or bi. over the years, when i was living at home, i walked in on some compromising situations. i tried to talk to him about it, but he would have none of it. he was not is not gay or bi, no way, no how. i haven't spoken with him in ten years; largely because i didn't appreciate him being less than honest about this with my mom, and later, his second wife. of course, it's not my place to say anything, and i never would. but i am recalling my own reaction to BBM, or a part of it. we are all human, and all flawed: how reasonable is it of me to expect a 75 year old man to admit he's gay or bi to himself, let alone anyone else? the movie made me realize that it's far more complesx than i wished it was. i also remember thinking i'd pick up the phone and give him a call. he was not and is not well. years on, and i still haven't called. advice?
thanks,
cat
